so how would i discuss getting back together? i mean if we are flirting and it feels natural. how should i bring something like that up?
we normally just talk texting wise and idk if we could on the phone but im sure if i do have a discussion like this it should be on the phone.
and how could i flirt that would be a way of getting back together? like just bring up things i miss about him.
Maybe you could ask him if he wants to hang out? You could just go for a coffee/to the mall/to his/your house etc and that would give you a better opportunity to talk.
You could try and bring the subject round to your relationship, ask him how he feels about it etc. Mention things you used to do together - a specific date you had for example. If you've been flirting, you could just brave it and straight out ask him what his feelings are towards you. Once you've both got your cards on the table, you'll both be able to see where you stand and work out where to go from there - whether it be getting back together, just being friends or not speaking anymore.
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okay that sounds like what i would do. and then after we talk for awhile and its comfortable then how do i push in the direction of getting back together? just start flirting and if he does the same then i know he could be feeling that too?
sorry i keep asking things. my friends dont help much
Stop apologising, it's what I'm here for :)
After you've talked for a while, you might naturally begin to see things happening. If you don't, then a small amount of flirting could work. However, you need to be really careful - to him it could just be harmless flirting rather than a step to getting back together. That's why it's important that at some stage you do talk about this with him. I know you don't want to do that right now and that's fine but if you start to talk alot, it needs to be discussed. You don't want to end up getting hurt after a break-up which was probably upsetting enough for you as it is.
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so when we do start talking. do i just talk casually? and if so what is that. just like normal stuff without flirting.
Just casual chat, the way you would talk to a friend.
Good starting points are to ask him how he is, what he's up to etc. If he's in a particular sports team or has any specific interests then perhaps ask him how those are going. Assuming the Summer is coming to an end by the time you speak to him you could ask him how it went, if he went on holiday etc. It may be awkward at first but conversation should flow naturally after a while. You'll probably find you have plenty to catch up on.
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Uh, I want to try smoking weed. Just once, it's just something everybody wants to try, ya know? Maybe I'm alone in that but idk what to expect when I do try it. I know most people don't get high on their first time or they aren't as bad. Please tell me about you're first time? Thanks!
Don't say to not do it because I'm not going to try it once and become a huge pot head, I value things in my life and watching what has been happening to my brother's friends (which is whom I will probably try it with) I just want to do it once. once. once.
Thanks!
Speaking as someone who has tried different drugs in the past, it's not always as easy as 'just doing it once'.
I don't care if you don't want to be told not to do it. Maybe you will try it once and never do it again but there's a big chance that you'll want to do it again. And again. And again. How do you think your brother's friends became 'huge pot heads'? Do you think they deliberately set out to be like that? Unlikely. What's more probable is that just like you they thought it'd be cool to try it once or twice.
The first time, you're unlikely to get high, which is why you'll probably want to try it again. You might feel sick, you'll probably cough if you're not used to smoking and you'll probably feel a little spaced out.
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i've heard it's normal to be obsessed with something as a teenager (14 girl).
i am sort of obsessed with ashley greene, not weirdly because im not a lesbian or anything lol. but i just think she is pretty and i absolutely love her acting! i look her up on the internet often and look at interviews, facts, questions etc. about her. i look up where she buys her clothes and even what she eats and stuff. then i want to buy that stuff. im not like gonna stalk her or anything phsycho like that but is this normal or am i weird?!
You're normal. Most people get obsessed with a celebrity or two at some point. It's likely that eventually you'll become less interested in Ashley Greene but for now you have nothing to worry about. Like another user said, as long your obsession doesn't become so bad that it takes over your life (or you end up stalking her or something) then it's fine.
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I’ve been working at this place for a long time now and there’s this guy on another shift that has given me really vicious, hateful looks almost everyday since he’s started there, which has been only a couple years. Now, I have absolutely no idea at all who this guy is, I’ve never worked with him, and have never even spoken a word to him. I didn’t even know his name, at first. Sometimes he’ll pass by me and if I happen to look at him I’ll politely nod my head in a friendly gesture at him, but still receive a hateful glance in return. Also, there have been a few moments on some days when I’ll pass by him and he’s standing around with some other coworkers and I happen to notice he is staring at me and talking about me to the other folks, and I know this because they will all stare back at me and all them are wearing sly grins on their faces. Plus, almost every time he comes into work he seems like he tries to avoid me while giving me those hateful glares. Naturally I blow it off, not that big a deal. But recently, I have just discovered the source of his hatred toward me: he has been telling people that I am gay and that he would love to beat me up. I had finally asked someone from the next shift (the one he’s on) if they knew what his problem was with me (which is how I found out his name) and this person told me this. Now, I’m not offended as I have a few gay friends, but it’s simply not true. Like I said, it’s no big deal, I have no idea who this guy is, never spoken to him or anything, therefore he doesn’t know me, and as far as I know I’ve never given him or anyone else a reason to think I’m gay, not that that matters as I don’t care what other people think anyway. Most people I work with know me well enough anyway, so that doesn’t bother me, it’s a pretty grade school thing happening here. So, I can blow off a rumor, yet because it’s something that has been started and a vague threat has been made, I would hate for this to escalate to something worse, such as me ending up being a victim of some misguided hate crime or something outside of work, let alone one or both of us losing our jobs over something so pointless and immature. I know that may sound extreme but it could be a possibility and if there’s a chance I can prevent any further complications from this, how should I deal with it? Continue to blow it off and let it run its course, or should I confront this guy about it?
Go straight to your boss.
Spreading rumours counts as bullying, and that's what this guy is, a bully. Well done for rising above it but you're right, if this did escalate it could cause unecessary trouble for you.
You will not get into trouble for speaking to your boss and any conversation you have with him/her should be in confidence.
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okay, so yes leaving him alone for now is what i have to do. im getting that part. cause i know we both need the space but what if he doesnt text me in a month or something?
is it alright that i contact him or still wait?
cause i dont want to screw up the future. if i text him will that just set me up for failure. like i said i know we may or may not get back together but i would at least like to maybe try to talk like how we did last year. like i met him and we talked casual for about three weeks and were friends and then flirting began.
my friend said it is possible but then like you said i need to make sure thats what he wants but i will know in time by the way we talk im sure.
Sure, give it a month and then text him to say hi and ask him how he's getting on.
If he's happy to hear from you then that's great, if he doesn't seem interested in talking then that's a pretty sure sign where things are headed. I don't think you'd lose anything by contacting him in a month's time but don't get your hopes too high. Contact him with the aim of being friends, not getting back together.
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One more question about Wendy said to Stacy tall and thin but how would you have interpreted "We are like my friend average" This got Stacy upset the average part, because every one always tells her she is thin.
Stacy: "Wendy you always tell me I am tall and thin."
Wendy: You are tall and thin. But what I mean by average is that we don't need a specialty store that we can go into any store and buy off the rack. Whether it is 95 dollars or 95 cents."
THIS IS THE FIRST PART: PART ONE
READ this and tell me how you interpret everything Wendy said
So can Stacy accept Wendy's answer that she thinks Stacy is tall and thin and between sizes 2 and 8
Tonight Stacy telephoned Wendy.
Stacy: "My sister is a snob and will not shop in stores unless she can spend a lot of money."
Wendy" I have a friend like that as well, she will only buy things that are expensive. Today I bumped into her and she showed me a blouse she purchased for $95, but it was ok looking"
Stacy: "Again my sister is like that she has to spend a lot"
Wendy "Is your sister thin, heavy"
Stacy "Heavy."
Wendy "Maybe that is why your sister spends a lot because she is heavy she has to get clothes that fit. We are like my friend average"
This got Stacy upset the average part, because every one always tells Stacy she is thin.
Stacy: "Wendy you always tell me I am tall and thin."
Wendy: You are tall and thin. But what I mean by average is that we don't need a specialty store that we can go into any store and buy off the rack. Whether it is 95 dollars or 95 cents.
Stacy: "But I still do not understand average"\
Wendy "We are not anorexic or heavy, we can go into any store and buy off the rack, your sister cannot, average can be anywhere from a size 2 to 14" I
Stacy: "But you said to me that I am tall and thin
Wendy: "You are tall and thin, you are far from being heavy, have you looked in the mirror. We are not super skinny or overly fat. You are tall and thin"
Stacy: "You once said to me that you think I am any where from a size 2 to 8"
Wendy: "I am not good at sizes but if I have to make an educated guess I would say between 2 and 8"
So when they were about to hang up
Stacy "Just confirming tall and thin and between size 2 and 8"
Wendy: "Exactly"
PART TWO: UPDATE: THIS MORNING Stacy had to telephone Wendy to tell Wendy she printed out the definitions for the computer.
Then
Stacy: "Don't get mad at me, but you said you think I am tall and thin and between size 2 and 8"
Wendy:" Yes, I have something to ask you but you wont get insulted"
Stacy: "I don't think so"
Wendy: "My friend asked me if I wanted a few pairs of pants of hers
Stacy: "No thanks, but you think I am tall and thin and between size 2 and 8"
Wendy:" Yes and that is what the pants are"
Stacy: "Why what size are the pants"
Wendy: "No I am not telling you you said no for the pants so I will donate them. My friend told me she gained a few pounds and she wanted to know if I wanted the pants, but they are too long on me and a little big and you are in the middle"
Stacy: "But you think I am tall and thin and between size 2 and 8"
Wendy: For the 16 thousand time yes"
SO HOW WOULD YOU INTERPRET "THE PANTS ARE BIG ON ME. AND "but they are too long on me and a little big and you are in the middle" KEEP IN MIND WENDY IS SHORT
I've got to agree with NinjaNeer, 'Stacy' seriously needs to calm down.
All 'Wendy' did was offer 'Stacy' some clothes that didn't fit her. As NinjaNeer said, taller people often have to go for bigger sizes without it being any reflection on their actual shape. 'Wendy' has made it quite clear that she thinks that 'Stacy' is tall and thin, she has also made it clear that asking her the same question repeatedly is a little worrying.
'Stacy' obviously has some body issues that she needs to work on but she should bear in mind that if she isn't over or under weight and her friends tell her that she is a good shape, she probably doesn't have much to worry about.
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how long does breast milk last in your brest?
It depends.
If you breast feed, your breasts will keep producing milk as long as you are still feeding.
If you don't breast feed, then the milk is reabsorbed and dries up pretty quickly. My sister had a baby a month ago and didn't breast feed and she's now stopped producing milk.
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http://i49.tinypic.com/2ps21ww.jpg
Look at the picture and guess her bra size. I am trying to get breast implants about that size. Not quite sure what size she wears but it would be weird to ask so can someone tell me what size you think she is? Thanks
I'd say she was a 32DD wearing a good push-up bra.
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well i know i keep going here and you are giving great advice. i dont want to get hurt either or bring it up all of a sudden cause i think it is too quick to get back together.
i just think that if we are friends and things are like how they use to be and if we start flirting and stuff, that it could possibly happen. i know it may and it may not.
but he told me over and over that there was no one else nor was he looking and he even told me he couldnt tell the future and neither can i.
so just leaving him alone for now is key?
That's what this website is for :) You can ask me for advice on this as long as you need it.
This is where you need to be careful. Maybe he does still have feelings for you and mybe he isn't seeing anyone else or whatever but that doesn't mean he wants to get back together.
I think for now, leaving him alone is the best idea. That way both of you can get some perspective and space so that whe you do eventually start talking again, you'll both have a better idea of the situation and what you want out of any potential friendship.
I know break-ups are tough and it's difficult to go from seeing and talking to someone all the time to nothing but sometimes it's for the best to have some distance.
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I just started dating my boyfriend 2 months ago. He's a pretty good guy but he bought up sex nearly a week ago and about how he's horny a lot of times. I know he's trying to signal me to see if I'm ready to do it with him but I'm not.
The truth is, I don't want to have sex while I'm young. I'd rather wait until I'm married and ready for the responsibility. I probably sound absolutely retarded saying that in this day and age but god we're only 16 and I just couldn't handle if something went wrong and I got pregnant or...just something, you know?
Anyway, does he really care about me or do you think he's just after sex? Will he care if I tell him I don't ever plan to have sex with him unless get get married or something? Should I tell him that? I'm really confused and I'm afraid that dating him is a bad decision if he's already talking about this stuff 2 months into it, y'know? Gosh, I just need some advice on this...please help...
Well done you for being clear on your values and what you do and don't want to do.
I think you need to make it really clear to your boyfriend where he stands. Don't wait until he next brings it up, just explain to him that you aren't ready for sex and probably won't be until you're much older. If he genuinely cares about you, he should respect that and drop the subject.
No one has the right to pressure you into having sex. If he can't respect your decision and continues to push the subject, or breaks up with you for not doing it, then he is NOT worth it. A relationship with someone who refuses to respect your values is not a good relationship.
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so i know a month is a short time and i understand. but what youre saying is that we should be totally over the relationship before we become friends and then see where it goes from there?
i dont wanna have the conversation about getting back together yet because i just want to get back to where we started which was being friends and talking casually but my friend said that i should let him text me so it shows where i stand. like if he texts me then i know he is thinking about me. i get that in a way but what if he doesnt text me in a month or something and i decide to text him to talk just for fun. is that alright?
sorry i have a lot of questions
My concern is that if he isn't in the same place as you, you may end up getting hurt.
The reason I suggested having a conversation about it with him was to make sure that both of you had similar feelings. Let's say he had absolutely no interest in getting back together but you were still open to the possibility, it could end in a misunderstanding and further hurt and frustration.
For now, I would give it some space and follow your friend's advice of letting him come to you. If he doesn't after a month then sure, give him a quick text just to ask him how he is etc. If you get talking about then that's great, just please bear in mind that his motives may differ from yours.
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17/f
So me and the guy im talking to (*codey*)were in his room fooling around. His dad and me are good friends when we make small talk and i can tell he approves of me. I'm just scared his dad thinks im a whore now because everytime i go over there codey always wants to go to his room and hang out so i do. Well yesterday, we were fooling around and my boobs were hanging out and his dad walks in right at that moment. I was so freaked out. Now im scared to go over there again because im so ebarrased. I dont want his dad not to like me but he probably thinks im a slut or something. What do i do?
It is an awkward situation but like the others have said, his dad isn't stupid, he was a teenager once himself and he knows what they get up to.
Find out from 'the guy you're talking to' what the situation is - whether or not his dad mentioned it to him and if he's angry about it. If he hasn't mentioned it to his son or isn't angry, it's unlikely he'd be angry with you.
Yes it's awkward but once you get over the initial embarassment it'll be fine.
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helppp!!! okay my dad is the most strict parent in te world and won't let me even talk to guys as friends. well he took my phone for no reason while I was sitting in my room and started reading my messages. I really dint think he liked them and he isn't giving it back to me until I go back to my moms in a week. but I'm sure that some of my guy friends are going to text my phone. and my dad WILL take thins the wrong way. I have no idea what to do I'm so scared. and my mom and dad are divorced so my mom can't do anything. help me please please please I'm freaking out!!! oh I'm 14 an I'm a girl. and it's not like I'm saying or doing anything bad he just is very overprotective and he's not one of the nicer parents you'll meet.
If your dad is that strict, then for now there isn't much you can do.
Wait until the end of the week and get your phone back. Make sure he hasn't sent any texts to your friends from your phone and if he has, make your friends aware of the situation. When you get back to your mum's, tell her about what has happened and see if she can speak to your dad.
If he still doesn't ease up, either don't take your phone to your dad's in future or keep it on you at all times when you're there.
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so i havent talked to my ex in about a week and its been a month since we broke up. we dated for eight months and it meant a lot to me.
i was just wondering, how do you become friends with an ex?
people say that if you like him just a little you cant but i dont think thats true because we can become friends and see what happens from there, if there is a possibility of getting back together. im not saying thats why i want to be friends with him. i wanna be friends with him because i miss talking to him and he was a great guy. it was just the wrong timing of when things bad were happening with us.
In my opinion, it's too complicated to become friends with an ex until you are both completely over the relationship and have no ulterior motives. A month is a very short time to get over a relationship.
You said it yourself, if you become friends, you'd want to see if there is a possibility of getting back together.
This is a conversation you need to have with him. You need to work out with him whether either of you are ready to be friends, especially if one or both of you wants to get back together.
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I use to have a bestfriend we got really close cause of soccer and we have been unseperable since. Well My senior year i met this guy (which is my boyfriend now) he was already in a relationship with someone while we started talking, we both liked each other but he couldnt breakup with his girlfriend. My Best friend thought it was a bad idea and on soccer tournaments her and one of my other good friends would say rude things while i was on the phone with him, and they would constantly talk about him rude to me. We eventually got together and of course we went to lunch everyday together and my best friend didnt like that. As our relationship grew i would hardly talk to my friends about him or be around them as much, well during these 4 and a 1/2 months we've broken up 4 or 5xs and the 4th time i went to my friends for comfort but they hardly said or did anything to make me feel better.. I cried alot well he asked me for another chance and of course i said yes because i really do love him. I didnt tell my friends we got back together, the next day at school we were together and my best friend saw us and she yelled that i was stupid we got into a huggee argument and she said i only talk to them when we break up and he treats me like crap and he cheats on me etc, i was tired of hearing it so we both decided to not be friends anymore, later on i found out my "bestfriend" was talking to my boyfriends ex-which i dont like cause we fought. I havent tlked to my"bestfriend" since its been a few months if that. I neeedd adviceeee! Was she even really a friend? Did i just over react??
I can see both sides of the story.
When someone gets a boyfriend/girlfriend and starts spending alot of their time with them, it can be really hard on their friends because it feels like they have no time for them anymore. However, your friends seemed pretty set against this from the start. Whether that be because she didn't like the idea of you talking to someone already in a relationship or not is irrelevant, it's in the past now.
What you need to consider now is whether you value this friendship enough to give it another try. From the sounds of things, you did distance yourself from your friends and I can understand them being angry that you only went to them because you and your boyfriend had 'broken up'. Maybe your best friend wasn't a real friend afterall, or maybe she was just hurt. If you want this friendship to work, you need to make an effort to spend time with them and not ignore them because you're busy with your boyfriend all the time.
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I'm white, he's black. Is it wrong? My mom does NOT approve at all. She actually doesn't know I am dating him because of her beliefs. I don't tell many people because I'm scared of what they will say or do. I'm scared that they will disown me. There are so many racists out there, including most of the teachers in my school. When I'm with him in school, there is always fuss. Black teachers yell at us, as well as white teachers. That's just when we are holding hands. It gets really discouraging for me, and it makes me sad. I don't see him for his color, I see him for his personality. And yes, I do love him. There are some bad things about him that not many people would approve of, but he treats me good. He doesn't beat me (like a lot of white people think black people do to their girlfriends) he doesn't force sex on me or any kind of sexual act, he is just as good as any regular guy. What I am scared of, though, is that he is in a gang. He gets arrested a lot and tells me he's always fighting. He knows how I feel about his fighting and jail time. He said he wishes he didn't join the gang because he can't get out now. If I tell my mom that, she will send me off to some kind of all white boarding school. He says he loves me, too. Sometimes I want to break up with him because he is bad, but he is a really sweet, caring guy and that's what keeps me hanging on. I really don't want to break up with him. Its like, the people around me are PRESSURING me to end the relationship. Advice?
There are two issues to address here.
Firstly, speaking as someone who has been in an interracial relationship, you shouldn't give up yours because of other people's prejudices. There is no place for racism in modern day society and you are doing nothing wrong. If you love and value this person, race should be irrelevant.
However, clearly it's a tough situation. People are always going to be against you and it doesn't help that your own mother is one of those people. You need to make it clear to her that her racist attitude is wrong. If you can't be in this relationship without hiding and keeping it a secret, then there's no point. If you love this guy you should be proud to be with him. Be prepared for the fall-out though.
The second issue is the fact that he is in a gang. This is a serious thing to get mixed up in and regardless of race, you need to assess whether or not it's safe for you. If YOU want to break up with him because of his involvement with gangs then that's your decision. You shouldn't break up with him because other people want you to.
Your relationship isn't illegal and it's disgusting that in 2010 people can't accept a loving relationship just because of the colour of someone's skin.
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what is all the reasons to skip your peoride
There are plenty.
- Stress
- Change in diet
- Too much excercise
- Rapid weight loss
- Medication
- Being a teenager (lots of teenagers find that their periods are irregular and it's normal to skip it sometimes)
- Approaching the menopause
- Pregnancy
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Hey 18/F
Me and my boyfriend have been dating a while and lately have been talking bout exploring things more sexually. We have been taking it slow but think it's time. My question is if he fingers me or something will he be freaked out about how wet I am? He turns me on a lot and I really can't help it but I get really really wet and want to know if that will freak him out or be a turn off since we are both very inexperienced and it would be our first time with anything like this. Thanks!!
Getting wet means he's getting it right. If he's turned off that you're wet, then he's not going to get very far with sex.
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