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Wendy and Stacy
One more question about Wendy said to Stacy tall and thin but how would you have interpreted "We are like my friend average" This got Stacy upset the average part, because every one always tells her she is thin.
Stacy: "Wendy you always tell me I am tall and thin."
Wendy: You are tall and thin. But what I mean by average is that we don't need a specialty store that we can go into any store and buy off the rack. Whether it is 95 dollars or 95 cents."
THIS IS THE FIRST PART: PART ONE
READ this and tell me how you interpret everything Wendy said
So can Stacy accept Wendy's answer that she thinks Stacy is tall and thin and between sizes 2 and 8
Tonight Stacy telephoned Wendy.
Stacy: "My sister is a snob and will not shop in stores unless she can spend a lot of money."
Wendy" I have a friend like that as well, she will only buy things that are expensive. Today I bumped into her and she showed me a blouse she purchased for $95, but it was ok looking"
Stacy: "Again my sister is like that she has to spend a lot"
Wendy "Is your sister thin, heavy"
Stacy "Heavy."
Wendy "Maybe that is why your sister spends a lot because she is heavy she has to get clothes that fit. We are like my friend average"
This got Stacy upset the average part, because every one always tells Stacy she is thin.
Stacy: "Wendy you always tell me I am tall and thin."
Wendy: You are tall and thin. But what I mean by average is that we don't need a specialty store that we can go into any store and buy off the rack. Whether it is 95 dollars or 95 cents.
Stacy: "But I still do not understand average"\
Wendy "We are not anorexic or heavy, we can go into any store and buy off the rack, your sister cannot, average can be anywhere from a size 2 to 14" I
Stacy: "But you said to me that I am tall and thin
Wendy: "You are tall and thin, you are far from being heavy, have you looked in the mirror. We are not super skinny or overly fat. You are tall and thin"
Stacy: "You once said to me that you think I am any where from a size 2 to 8"
Wendy: "I am not good at sizes but if I have to make an educated guess I would say between 2 and 8"
So when they were about to hang up
Stacy "Just confirming tall and thin and between size 2 and 8"
Wendy: "Exactly"
PART TWO: UPDATE: THIS MORNING Stacy had to telephone Wendy to tell Wendy she printed out the definitions for the computer.
Then
Stacy: "Don't get mad at me, but you said you think I am tall and thin and between size 2 and 8"
Wendy:" Yes, I have something to ask you but you wont get insulted"
Stacy: "I don't think so"
Wendy: "My friend asked me if I wanted a few pairs of pants of hers
Stacy: "No thanks, but you think I am tall and thin and between size 2 and 8"
Wendy:" Yes and that is what the pants are"
Stacy: "Why what size are the pants"
Wendy: "No I am not telling you you said no for the pants so I will donate them. My friend told me she gained a few pounds and she wanted to know if I wanted the pants, but they are too long on me and a little big and you are in the middle"
Stacy: "But you think I am tall and thin and between size 2 and 8"
Wendy: For the 16 thousand time yes"
SO HOW WOULD YOU INTERPRET "THE PANTS ARE BIG ON ME. AND "but they are too long on me and a little big and you are in the middle" KEEP IN MIND WENDY IS SHORT
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Stacy has very low self-esteem and should probably seek counseling.
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I've got to agree with NinjaNeer, 'Stacy' seriously needs to calm down.
All 'Wendy' did was offer 'Stacy' some clothes that didn't fit her. As NinjaNeer said, taller people often have to go for bigger sizes without it being any reflection on their actual shape. 'Wendy' has made it quite clear that she thinks that 'Stacy' is tall and thin, she has also made it clear that asking her the same question repeatedly is a little worrying.
'Stacy' obviously has some body issues that she needs to work on but she should bear in mind that if she isn't over or under weight and her friends tell her that she is a good shape, she probably doesn't have much to worry about.
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It sounds to me like 'Stacy' is reading way to much into all of this.
'Wendy' thinks 'Stacy' is average sized, meaning she doesn't need to shop at specialty stores. She also thinks that 'Stacy' is between a size 2 and 8... reasonable for someone who's tall and thin, because tall people are often a bigger size just because of length and proportions.
If 'Stacy' has a reasonable idea of self-image, then she won't have to worry about exactly what her friends mean when they're talking casually, and she won't see little things like this as veiled insults.
My suggestion? 'Stacy' should take a good hard look in the mirror. If she likes what she sees, then she'll be just fine. If not, she can work on it from there.
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