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dad is reading my texts! emergency!
helppp!!! okay my dad is the most strict parent in te world and won't let me even talk to guys as friends. well he took my phone for no reason while I was sitting in my room and started reading my messages. I really dint think he liked them and he isn't giving it back to me until I go back to my moms in a week. but I'm sure that some of my guy friends are going to text my phone. and my dad WILL take thins the wrong way. I have no idea what to do I'm so scared. and my mom and dad are divorced so my mom can't do anything. help me please please please I'm freaking out!!! oh I'm 14 an I'm a girl. and it's not like I'm saying or doing anything bad he just is very overprotective and he's not one of the nicer parents you'll meet.
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Don't think of it as a bad way. Think of it instead as good. He cares about you, so much he wants to protect you from the world there's nothing he wouldn't do for his baby girl (you).
So maybe he feels like your leaving him out a bit and feeling that he's a bit unwanted. Stupid, but true, dads do feel like that.
So instead of saying it all on here, talk to him. Or if you can't do that, write him a letter about how you feel. And ask for his side of the story.
Things may not be as they seem.
Good luck x
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Here's a parent view....your 14 and all he wants to do is protect you from everything. I know it comes across as being being mean and very strict and it very well maybe. Talk to your dad about your phone and the messages. Open up to him about what your doing and what your NOT doing. In a world of tech gadgets and all the stories out there I think that parents tend to jump to conclusions about what their teen is doing. While you may not think that he's a nice parent, it is a lot harder when you have to be the bad guy. He loved you enough to want to know what you are doing.
talk to your dad and you may find out that he really is on your side and there for you.
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If your dad is that strict, then for now there isn't much you can do.
Wait until the end of the week and get your phone back. Make sure he hasn't sent any texts to your friends from your phone and if he has, make your friends aware of the situation. When you get back to your mum's, tell her about what has happened and see if she can speak to your dad.
If he still doesn't ease up, either don't take your phone to your dad's in future or keep it on you at all times when you're there.
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At 14, anything you say will be dismissed. Save yourself the fight and just get your phone back when you leave. If he refuses to give it back, cancel the phone and get a new one.
And from now on, don't take your phone to his house when you visit.
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try explaining to your dad that your getting older and your going to have guys that are friends, but also let him know your not doing anything wrong. The more your dad does this the more your gonna rebel and start doing things. Parents are gonna be strict even when your older, im 17 about to be 18 and my parents still go through my stuff.
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I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL. this is what you need to do: either hide your phone OR tell him that in a couple of years he wont have control over you anymore and he needs to start letting you do things on your own and you need your own space. he will feel so bad that he wont bother you anymore
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