Member Since: June 20, 2010
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Last Update: June 23, 2010
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Since april, my best friend has been grounded for his grades. He's not allowed out, he's not allowed on the phone, or to use the computer. He became my boyfriend in June, while he's still grounded. It's been tough going out every weekend with my friends watching them hook up with guys, but never have I considered cheating or breaking up w/ him.
he's my best friend and i really don't want that, i just need to get through this. school's ending, which means that i won't see him every day anymore. He's still grounded (he was even grounded on his 16th birthday) and i don't think things are gonna get better this summer. (He was grounded cause he wasn't 'doing as well as he could' in school, grade-wise.)
He was on a computer today and we talked for less than an hour. I felt as if important conversation had to be forced, like there was no time to joke around, we had to talk about something interesting otherwise the time wouldve been wasted. He began tellnig me something personal about his past involving the cops, but it didnt hit me the way it SHOULD hit a best friend/girlfriend. I was thinking.. "okay, it feels like a kid i barely talk to is telling me his life story and i don't care."
I hate feeling this way. his parents don't care about his social life, obviously. I hate the distance, and i hate what they're doing. They're ruining us and i don't know how to cope much longer without going insane, without losing him as my best friend.. we're not as close anymore.. we barely just TALK.. it's just really depressing. and he's the first person i've felt so intensely about since i broke up with my boyfriend of a year, so i know he's important. i can't let him leave, but we're being fucking torn apart. how do i cope?
(oh & he just turned 16 and i'm about to turn 16.) (link)
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If you care and like him alot like you say then you'll stay by his side no matter what. Yes its going to be hard but if you really do like him then your just going to have to deal with it, but in the end things will work out but in the mean time try to find a way to express to him how you feel. Try telling him you really like him and you dont want to lose him as a bestfriend or boyfriend and tell him how you feel as if yall are being torn apart.
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Ok so I lost my virginity to my boyfriend last week, he knew I was a virgin so we took it slow. I was not drunk but we had both had a couple of drinks, I was not as nervous about having sex then. It did hurt a bit but because it was slow it felt good. Yes he wore a condom and yes I am on birth control. The problem is we tried to have sex again yesterday and he couldn't get it in, I think it's because i'm more nervous??? what do you think and what can I do? do you think it could be because I was not as turned on as the time before? Thanks! (link)
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Maybe try doing differnet things before having sex to try and get turned on. Also you said you had couple of drinks maybe that was the reason you werent as nervoous im not saying to drink. But you have to also know it's barley your second time having sex of course your going to be nervous.
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15/f
My boyfriend and I are going to have sex and when I told him I had just gotten on the pill, the first thing he says is how excited he is because he won't have to use a condom. When he said this, I had no idea how to respond because I've always been under the impression that with sex, a condom is ALWAYS a must for protection. My first time was last winter break when I was raped. Since then, I've been tested (clean) and only had safe-sex once with my current boyfriend. I know the fact that I'm having sex with my boyfriend at such a young age may seem "slutty" after such a short period of time but being raped, I never thought I'd have any desire to have sex again. Plus, now that I've done it, I'm much more open to it. But, I'm not sure how open I am to sex without a condom. He's 18 and I'm his first and we're currently not seeing anyone else....I just don't know what to think about sex without a condom. I want this to be special but I'm just not sure. Because I'm his first and we're both clean, sex without a condom shouldnt have any risk.....right? (link)
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Even if your on the pill, the pill can prevent pregnancy but there's still a slim chance you can get pregnant without a condom. If you want to be completley safe I would still use a condom, you are younger then him, and having a baby is alot of responsibility.
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17/f
So, me and this guy have been talking for quite awhile now. We hang out and act just like couples do. The problem is, he never texts me. Sometimes we go all day without texting and it urks me so bad! I text him and he will write back maybe once or twice and thats it, unless he askes me to hang out.I just hate how he dosent text me that much. I know we don't have to talk 24/7 but i dont wanna go all day without talking to him. Ive mentioned it to him 3 times and all he says is "im sorry." I really really like him but i dont know what to do. :/ Help! Should i text him first, not text until he texts me or what? (link)
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If texting him first hasnt made a difference maybe you should just wait until he texts you. If you text him all the time and he knows, and you suddenly stop he'll wonder why and text you. Have you tried calling him when he doesnt text back?
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Me-16/f
Him-17/m
Neither of us has had a job before and since it's the summer, we've been constantly talking and hanging out and it's been great. I really love talking to him even if we're just texting...like, I don't even know what to do if I'm not talking to him...The thing is, he wants to get a summer job to make some money and stuff but I'm not sure...I mean it's only part time so we'll still get to hang out and stuff but...idk I guess I'm just really selfish and just want to talk to him all the time like we do right now >.< I want to be really supportive but how am I supposed to support something if I feel this way about it? :( Please help me be more supportive...maybe just tell me if your significant other getting a job affected the relationship too drastically? I really want to be a good girlfriend and be supportive because I know I would want that if I was looking for a job...thanks for any advice!
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My boyfriend is 18 now and im 17 he has a job part time just like you i wanted to spend every minute with him and I still do but you have to know when to let go sort of, constantly being with him could result in alot of fights. Maybe you being away from while hes ar work will give you time to yourself and to appreciate him more. Fortunatley my boyfriend can use his phone when hes not busy but try and be more supportive and things will work out in the end.
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helppp!!! okay my dad is the most strict parent in te world and won't let me even talk to guys as friends. well he took my phone for no reason while I was sitting in my room and started reading my messages. I really dint think he liked them and he isn't giving it back to me until I go back to my moms in a week. but I'm sure that some of my guy friends are going to text my phone. and my dad WILL take thins the wrong way. I have no idea what to do I'm so scared. and my mom and dad are divorced so my mom can't do anything. help me please please please I'm freaking out!!! oh I'm 14 an I'm a girl. and it's not like I'm saying or doing anything bad he just is very overprotective and he's not one of the nicer parents you'll meet. (link)
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try explaining to your dad that your getting older and your going to have guys that are friends, but also let him know your not doing anything wrong. The more your dad does this the more your gonna rebel and start doing things. Parents are gonna be strict even when your older, im 17 about to be 18 and my parents still go through my stuff.
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