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Boyfriend wants to get a job...
Me-16/f
Him-17/m
Neither of us has had a job before and since it's the summer, we've been constantly talking and hanging out and it's been great. I really love talking to him even if we're just texting...like, I don't even know what to do if I'm not talking to him...The thing is, he wants to get a summer job to make some money and stuff but I'm not sure...I mean it's only part time so we'll still get to hang out and stuff but...idk I guess I'm just really selfish and just want to talk to him all the time like we do right now >.< I want to be really supportive but how am I supposed to support something if I feel this way about it? :( Please help me be more supportive...maybe just tell me if your significant other getting a job affected the relationship too drastically? I really want to be a good girlfriend and be supportive because I know I would want that if I was looking for a job...thanks for any advice!
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I'm not the type to just tell people what they want to hear. Don't take offense to this, but you seem to be looking for that type of answer.
My boyfriend is older, and I'm in the same type of situation you are. It's okay to feel a little jealous about it, but life goes on.. He has to make a living sooner than you do, and that's the way it is. He's doing what is good for him, and you should, by every means support that. Even if you don't want to, you should atleast try.
It sucks. Royally. I know, girl.
Jobs are a few hours you have away from him, and I bet you'll be just fine.
People have to go away for you to miss them, and maybe that's a good thing.
I'm not sure if he likes it or not, but wanting to see him every day can come off overbearing and demanding.
I think it would be in your, and your relationship's best interest to support him no matter what.. Look at the big picture, and see that he's living his life, and doing what he has to do.
It's not like he's leaving for war or anything drastic.
Cheer up. You're in a good relationship, and your boyfriend is man enough to get a job.
You love him, so support his decisions to LIVE.
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My boyfriend is 18 now and im 17 he has a job part time just like you i wanted to spend every minute with him and I still do but you have to know when to let go sort of, constantly being with him could result in alot of fights. Maybe you being away from while hes ar work will give you time to yourself and to appreciate him more. Fortunatley my boyfriend can use his phone when hes not busy but try and be more supportive and things will work out in the end.
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I don't see what advice anyone can give you- you really just have to deal with it. Almost all relationships have a point like this, where you want to see each other tons and are always talking, etc.- but no matter how good it is, if you see each other every day, you will get sick of each other and bored. So, really, it's better for your relationship if he gets a job.
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Just suck it up :)
I've had it even worse; my fiance and I have had to move to opposite ends of the country for the summer so we could earn enough money to go to school in the fall. We could talk to each other for about a half hour a day, because the time difference was 4 hours. Now, we're at least living together, but he's been working full time plus the occasional weekend day.
Sure, it sucks, but what happens when you guys graduate? Are you both going to go on welfare to sit around and talk to each other? It's a part of a relationship, being away from each other from time to time. Plus, it'll make the time you have together even better!
How do you support it? Be proud of him for having work ethic, and tell him so! Ask him how his day at work was, sympathize if he's had a bad day. Rub his feet if he's been on them all day. Just keep being nice to him, and whatever you do, don't complain about all the time he spends away from you.
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