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I need some great up-beat summer songs for a party, and just for driving around in your car. (link)
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Well, it wasn't really specified what you listen to already. Whether it be indie artists vs mainstream vs country etc. but look up the artist Ratatat
Especially their album called LP3.
It's so upbeat
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sooo here are the basic questions ..
- how much does it hurt? i mean, it's a little piece of skin, little flesh, it can't be that bad, right?
- how much does it cost?
- how long does it take to heal or till you can change the jewelry? (link)
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Piercings hurt differently for different people.
Personally, I've had my ears and other things pierced several times, and the pain barely bothers me anymore.
If you've had your ears pierced, which I'm guessing you have, but I don't know. The pain level is about the same, I think. It's just in a different area and feels a little different. When it actually happens, it only lasts for a few seconds at most. But afterwards the spot may become sore.
Of course, they will have to use a rod/pin thing. You can't get a good piercing out of a gun. Guns should only be used on lobe/top of the ear piercings. Look up youtube videos to see how it's usually done.
I would recommend just cleaning how they tell you. For me, I was given a bag of sea salt, and a cup that looked like a shotglass. I mixed it with water, used a Q-tip and cleaned the place. Just follow instructions :)
*Get it done by a professional, not your friend or mom*
Costs vary depending on where you go, it shouldn't be too expensive. But if it seems like 'a lot' to you, remember this is a change to your body and appearance :) It's worth it.
The person who does it will tell you how long it should take to heal. You should move it around, etc. The best thing you could do is wait until it's not sore anymore, where you can move it around/twist it without ANY pain.
So basically, follow their directions, and hope for the best.
Take a tylenol before you go to do it. :)
Clean it, change it out when you're ready, and love it.
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To begin, I have never had sex. I have fooled around with my boyfriend but he's the only one I've ever been with. However, and I don't know if fooling around is the cause, I've had a yellowish creamy discharge problem. From what I can remember, it's been like this for maybe a year but I always thought it was normal so I never found a need to say anything. But from what I've been reading, it sounds like a problem. I don't go to the gynocologist so I really don't know what to do. Are there any medicines that I can buy at a store that would fix this? Any help is appreciated, thanks. 17/f (link)
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It sucks for a few reasons, but you should go to a gyno sometime, even if you're not sexually active. There are a lot of ups, and better safe than sorry.
If it's an infection, and it's been happening for a year, something is up. And if it worsens I would seriously consider it.. Plus, they'll check for other things like cervical cancer, etc.
Take care of yourself :)
I doubt anything at the store could fix such a long term thing. But as weird as it sounds, google it and maybe you'll get a few more answers.
Good luck :)
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Okay so my 16 year old boyfriend dumped me in a text message four days after he guilted me into giving him head. (I'm fourteen). Yeah I know it was stupid and trust me, I regret it, and I'm not going to try and explain how I felt because no one can really understand it...
But anyway. So now we're broken up and I'm hearing some really awful things he's said about me (while we were dating and presently). And I really don't understand why he's doing this... Because I've done nothing to hurt him. I haven't screamed or yelled or made a scene or tried to get people to hate him or turn his friends against him (even though his best friend, we'll call him Pete, took my side after the break up, I never asked Pete to and my ex had been treating him like shit before that anyway). Well my ex and Pete are kiiind of still friends and he's been telling me all the horrible thing my ex has said. Like while we were dating my ex told his baseball team about how far we'd been and that he "had me so whipped" and that you gotta "keep your girl on a leash" and what not. The second part doesn't bother me so much as the first because my ex always promised me that stuff would stay between us... See, our schools baseball team is horrible. They act like girls exist to do what they want and they constantly pressure each other to try and get head or get sex and its disgusting, it really is. Well my ex told them all about me giving him head and the baseball team told the football team and the football team tells everyone else and now goodness... everyones talking about it because my reputation before this was "innocent good girl" and thats trashed now...
I talked to my ex and he's like "no one is judging you, we dated for six months" yet I'm having guys come up to me and ask if I will "put out for them too" or "if I knew you were down for this stuff I would of gone after you a long time ago" and its disgusting and I hate it!!! I know it's true but those kind of things are supposed to stay between you and your boyfriend and he promised me they would. I talked to him. He said he'd tell people he was lying but we know that's not gonna happen. And guess what else I found out??
He's been telling people we've had sex too. Now, that, is NOT true. And he's saying the most disgusting things like "yeah I was on top and I was scared I was gonna break her cause she's so tiny. But she was great, she let me do whatever I want. I could of put it up the ass if I'd wanted to" and I just don't even know what to do... I hate having everyone talk about me like this... I regret giving him a blow job SO MUCH. He just... at the time he made me feel so horrible for not giving him one. And i knew it was wrong but the things he said made sense to me at the time... I just, I don't know... I can't explain it. I know it's not an excuse. But he would say things like "it's been six months, don't you trust me enough to do this?" or, "you don't even want to try to make me happy" and I started believing all of this stuff... I just let him walk all over me and I started thinking it was okay. I just want my reputation back. I don't want to be known for this...
I know I don't deserve it. And I especially don't deserve the sex rumor. I just don't know what to do... My ex denies saying anything to anyone when I try to talk about it with him but I know he's lying. He says he'll tell people that the rumors aren't true but I can't trust him to do that. I just don't know what to do... :( Help.
Please, I'm begging you, don't judge me for doing what I did... If you knew how I felt at the time... Just so low and useless... I don't know. Please just tell me how I can handle this.
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Oh dear god. I have so much respect for you right now.. I'm 15/F.
I could go on and on about this.. Wow.
I'm so, so sorry that he was such a lowlife asshole to you. It doesn't matter what you did anymore. He GUILTED you into that, and never think that is okay. If you don't want to do anything, you don't have to. That's his problem, and he should be hit in the face for trying to convince you into that. That's despicable. He was using you, just as the rest of the baseball team does to their girls. Keep them on a leash? Who has brainwashed them into this state of mind.. They need to be dumped sometime..
Anyway, I get that 6 months is a very long time for a relationship, and no one is judging you on here. I'm not, and I doubt anyone else is, don't worry.
He had a way of making you feel low and useless, because he's around other people who do the same thing. Girlfriends are not servants. I wish I could talk to you more about this.. :\
He denies it, because he expects you to be 'innocent and sweet' and be okay with it. To accept being called a whore, basically. And that's a total no. It's not right in ANY books, don't let anyone tell you to forget about it, and move on.
Reputations are so fragile sometimes, and people will believe what is interesting, not what is most likely true.
Just because it was 6 months, doesn't mean a thing, as I said.
The sex rumor makes HIM look good, and makes him look like a stud who can get younger girls to put out. It's stupid and twisted, I know.
Only reason I get so emotional about this, is because I literally had the same situation, but the sex rumor was only around a small group of people. And, I promise promise promise, it will die down.
All you can do is explain the situation to people. Don't make it seem like they have to take sides (they SHOULD side with you, but whatever :) ), be honest and talk about it.
Talk about it with your friends, and maybe some mutual friends you and the dude have?
This Pete guy seems like he goes between you both. Just don't shit talk your ex to Pete, because he's likely to say something to your ex, since they were close before. He may seem honest and okay (but we all know people like to gossip.)
If anyone else comes up to you, tell them that they don't understand. Because they don't.
Other guys will believe what they want.
If you're lucky (I wasn't -->), you'll have maybe a bestfriend or other semiclose friends who know you, and know that you didn't have sex with him. All you can do, is embrace the ones who know the real deal, and wait it out.
People will think what they want, and forgetting your reputation is NOT easy by any means. You can just regain it, so from now on, remember you're trying to get people to respect you, and forget the past.
About the additional info:
ABUSE OF ANY KIND IS SSSOO NOT OKAY :(
Power crazy guys can be kind of dangerous, and from what you said, it seems like he enjoys bossing you around and manipulating you into doing things for him. Like giving him head.
Don't forget what I said though, you can't feel guilty over it. It happened, and if you tell people how it is, they will understand why you feel the way you do. :)
It is so important, and I hope you got to read what I said. I don't know if I helped that much, but I know this will pass.
Sounds corny, but hang in there.
Be true to yourself. I mean, be honest, and know what has actually happened. Be the strong one, and be confident that all things will pass. He deserves the bad reputation, not you.
Please, pleeeease don't put up with someone like that again. It's not fair to you, and I hate to see you get hurt and backstabbed like that again.
I hope you've read this.
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so me and my boyfriend have been together on n off for 4 yrs he had a baby and is not with his bm no more so now that were together again we been happy for like 2 days then he starts acting different kinda distant and we had sex he kinda came 2 in like 10 min i feel as if doesnt want to be with me please help (link)
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There are a lot of flaws in this situation, girl.
Look at what you wrote. Read it over and over.
First of all, is this good for your life?
And second, are you honestly happy with how everything has played out? Is this good for you?
It could be one of two things.. He could be having an off day. Talk about it. Easy as that.
Or, he could be realizing what has happened. He HAS HAD A BABY WITH A WOMAN HE'S NO LONGER WITH. That's another child in this world, who will probably end up with a missing father. 'Babymamas' are not a GOOD thing. And probably not an OKAY thing, either.
Does he have any interest in the child? At all? Do you have any?
If you're going to be serious with him, the child is going to be a part of it.. I've gone without my father for years, and it sucks. Just encourage him to be in the kids' life if the bm is okay with it.
This doesn't sound good to you, of course. But think about it, for the baby's well-being..
2 days isn't enough time to see if you're completely happy together again.
If you have questions about how he feels, it's as easy as talking about it.
Not fighting or arguing. Talking.
Communication can solve most anything, or better the circumstances. Most of us are either nervous or oblivious to it though.
Just bring it up.
If you become steady and serious again.. Please, for god's sake, talk about the kid.
Babies aren't a simple little thing you can just shrug off, and treat like a piece of furniture.
It takes a lot to raise them in a healthy, functional environment. Make it happen, or you could possibly be a negative part of that kid's future.
Please do something about this.
It's more serious than you treat it.
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Me-16/f
Him-17/m
Neither of us has had a job before and since it's the summer, we've been constantly talking and hanging out and it's been great. I really love talking to him even if we're just texting...like, I don't even know what to do if I'm not talking to him...The thing is, he wants to get a summer job to make some money and stuff but I'm not sure...I mean it's only part time so we'll still get to hang out and stuff but...idk I guess I'm just really selfish and just want to talk to him all the time like we do right now >.< I want to be really supportive but how am I supposed to support something if I feel this way about it? :( Please help me be more supportive...maybe just tell me if your significant other getting a job affected the relationship too drastically? I really want to be a good girlfriend and be supportive because I know I would want that if I was looking for a job...thanks for any advice!
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I'm not the type to just tell people what they want to hear. Don't take offense to this, but you seem to be looking for that type of answer.
My boyfriend is older, and I'm in the same type of situation you are. It's okay to feel a little jealous about it, but life goes on.. He has to make a living sooner than you do, and that's the way it is. He's doing what is good for him, and you should, by every means support that. Even if you don't want to, you should atleast try.
It sucks. Royally. I know, girl.
Jobs are a few hours you have away from him, and I bet you'll be just fine.
People have to go away for you to miss them, and maybe that's a good thing.
I'm not sure if he likes it or not, but wanting to see him every day can come off overbearing and demanding.
I think it would be in your, and your relationship's best interest to support him no matter what.. Look at the big picture, and see that he's living his life, and doing what he has to do.
It's not like he's leaving for war or anything drastic.
Cheer up. You're in a good relationship, and your boyfriend is man enough to get a job.
You love him, so support his decisions to LIVE.
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17 f (just graduated0
I like this guy and have for a year and he is really sweet. all around package, but he didn't date in high school for purity reasons, neither did i. last night at a get together we were outside and he randomly asked if i had a boyfriend and what kind of guys i was into. i told him band guys and he began asking me if i liked skinny jeans, white v-necks and blonde streaks in their hair. i said sure? and he ended up describing himself to me. i laughed because i didn't know what else to do.....
what does this mean? does he like me? did he just hit on me? am i reading to much into it!> (link)
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It seems to me, you still have a little thing for him. That's totally normal and okay.
But with guys, if they pick up on that, they usually act on it. If you know him from before, and see that he's the type with good intentions, and isn't out to hit it and quit it, I would try.
Laughing is so a coping mechanism, everyone does it, and just be glad you didn't make it too awkward :)
It seems as if he did hit on you, if you talk again, and if you like him a little and are interested, I'd return the favor.
By what he says, it's saying (well to me atleast) that he wants to be the kind of guy you're into and maaaay be into you.
And by the way! Purity sometimes fades away with people, don't see it as a downfall for him though, he may just choose to lead his life down a different path than he originally planned. :)
Drop hints and take it from there.
You got this :)
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I worry all the time. About everything. For a period of time, I went without sleep because i worried about
all these bad things happening. What should I do? How can I stop worryig all the time? (link)
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There's many solutions to your problem, and this could be more than worry, if it gets serious, I would see a doctor immediately. You could become paranoid, and I've seen cases of this happening.
You seem to focus all your thoughts on negative things.. But say to yourself, when was the last time anything SERIOUSLY TERRIBLE actually happened? And was it out of your control? Was it something you, as an individual, could have prevented?
Relaxation and peace of mind is what you're looking for, I'm guessing.
I'm not a religious person, first of all, but meditation is not necessarily a 'spiritual' activity. If you are religious, meditation in your church would work also. Prayer also. But if you're like me, find a quiet, simple place in your home, or around town (park maybe?), and think your live over as a whole. Think about what is happening at that moment, the good and the bad. See that the good will aaalways outdo the bad. Realize events as they come, and as they say.. live in THE MOMENT. Don't think of the future or of the past. Think of the now. The present time.
This may seem stupid or dorky, but when you get that self-analyzation and view on your life, you'll see that worrying about the bad will ruin what's happening now.
This is blunt, but you can worry your life away, and you'll never get a thing done, and when something good DOES happen, you won't be aware of it. You'll be tooooo busy thinking of what will happen next. Wasting your time visualizing the future doesn't get you anywhere.
Come to see that no matter how much you worry over things, they'll liable to happen, just because you thought of the same thing (COINCIDENCE), doesn't mean you could've done something to stop it. If you learn to stop worrying, it'll help you in the future.
Have you ever worried about something happening, and then you were right.. So you kick yourself for not doing something earlier?
If the initial worries don't exist, the future guilt and the eventual regret won't exist either.
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My best friend handed me her yearbook today to sign. We're seniors and so this will be our last school year together. She's been a great friend for the past few years and I love her to death. What do I write in her yearbook though? I want something really good but I'm not coming up with any decent ideas that aren't commonly used or complete BS. I told her I needed time to write out something good and that I'd bring it by her house this weekend. Please, give me some help. (link)
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Instead of writing in her yearbook, write a letter type thing on notebook paper, and tape it simply into a section of her book. Tell her how much you appreciate her friendship, and tell her how much you care. You could add in a few memories you have with her, and how great it meeting her and becoming close. Make it sweet.
Compliment her, and write good things about her. It's all about making the other feel good about themselves, and since you're close, this will be eaaassy to do. :)
Using quotes, no offense to the other poster, and almost too..cold. Quotes are cute sometimes, but when it comes to best friends, just tell her how you feel! Wish her luck in her life after school, and be positive! Don't write like it's the last time you'll ever talk to her. Write to her as her best friend that she'll never lose. :)
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So I've had a lot happen in my life, and I have a big issue with trust. I've been cheated on and a lot of other things. I have a new boyfriend, and I've known him for a long time, he was cheated on too. He says he really likes me and is happy with me, and he tells me everything that goes on with him and tells me he doesn't lie and cheat because someone did that to him and it made him extremely sad. He's a really nice guy, and I like him a ton, except I still find myself doubting him. I can't trust anyone anymore even if I want to! I really want to trust him because I feel like he is honest, but I just can't. What should I do? (link)
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Trust is an important factor in any relationship. It's foundation.
It's easy to lose, and difficult to regain, but it will happen in time.
If you honestly like this guy, *believe* he has good intentions. '
Of course, this is putting yourself at risk, but that's what life is. A load of risk taking and uncertainty. Put yourself out there, and as hard as it may be now, open up to him when you can. Keeeep telling yourself he's a good guy, and you want this to work. If not, you'll be stuck in this endless hole of doubt and worry.
You've both been cheated on, and it wouldn't surprise me if he felt the same way. Since he knows how it feels to be hurt that way, try to talk it out with him. This is easier said than done, but it's what you need to do, and it will be your first, slow step into gaining trust with him.
I hate doing this, but for you I think it's kind of necessary. All my life, I've been called coldhearted and shut off. Since my early early teens/pre-teens, I would keep my feelings and thoughts to myself. It took a lot to find someone that I could confide in, and just talk to. I'm hoping, for you, this guy you're dating could be YOUR confidante. Everyone needs that, and it would seriously help your relationship. It'll 1, bring you closer. and 2, help your journey towards regaining trust in people.
I hope that this will work for you, because having trust is important in life as a whole, not just in romantic relationships. You will doubt him for a while, but just remember, he has the same position to doubt you also. Take your past and see it as a growing experience, you know that there are cheaters and liars out there, and all you can do is hope you come across someone who is the opposite. Someone trustworthy, and someone you will like to have around.
Keep telling yourself you're strong enough, and that you can do this, even if you feel like you can't.
If you need any support, just let me know. I'd be happy to help.
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We were talking about our rights as Americans in my class today. Now, we have the right to freedom of speech so that means we have the right to say whatever we want then, right? I'm a little confused on it because somebody got into slander and other things that you can get in trouble for saying.
I don't want to raise my hand tomorrow and tell the teacher I don't quite get it. Can somebody explain if we have the right to say what we want to say or not? And is that the same as freedom of speech? (link)
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Simply, you can say whatever you like, but it doesn't mean you'll go without consequence. Some feel as if we are punished for saying what we believe, it's infringing on our rights as Americans.. but this is a misunderstand. Parents, teachers, etc may punish us, but that doesn't mean we can plead our rights to get out of it.
As the other person said, what we say may not be considered 'right' or 'acceptable', but there is no person that can stop you from saying it.
Don't be afraid to ask, he/she is a teacher, and has probably experienced worse. :)
To answer your Q though, we can say what we want, but it may not have a good outcome. Others may not accept it, or like you for it, but you may say it.
Freedom of Speech also applies to large group speaking. Martin Luther King Jr
:)
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I want a tattoo. I want it to mean something. I've been through a lot of things in life and all my friends think I'm a very emotionally strong person. I dnt want any stars, hearts, or flowers. I don't want it to be that visible because of work. I'm a female by the way. Thanks in advance :) (link)
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Honestly.. you can find tons of people with sayings and bible verses and names etc.
Have your tattoo mean something, have it represent something important in your life, but make it unusual. Make it something unique.
Visibility was answered in other questions.
Ask friends or family, because they're the ones who know you best. If you need inspiration, google tattoo pictures. Get ideas, but please, MAKE IT YOUR OWN. :)
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15/f
so you answered back to my question and i was wondering if you could send my links to pics of girls wearing 20s style clothing or just vintage. thanks (link)
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Haha, of courseeee.
Okay, so instead of searching around google for random photos, I found a few off the clothing site. You can use these for inspiration if you want.
Link 1: http://www.modcloth.com/lookbooks/road-trip-052410?=5_24_homepage
okay, in these pictures you'll see a lot of highwaisted pants, floral, and plaid. skirts are really in now. just put a simple floral skirt with a solid top and cute wedges/gladiator sandals.
i'll link you to a few things that are neccessities if you're going for the look.
http://www.modcloth.com/store/ModCloth/Womens/Flowers+Keepers+Skirt
this is the floral i was talking about. it's easy to match up, just stay with the classic soft girly colors. :)
BEFORE YOU LOOK AT THIS LINK! READ!
these are Coco Chanel dresses/outfits based off of formal 20's styles. if you look, a few of the models are working the lacey/patterned legging. these are really in, too. of course, i don't think you would want to go out and buy a full dressy outfit like this, but basing your style off of good designers and using the old trends to your advantage will help a LOT. look again at the picture, SHOES! if you look, they're working close top heeled shoes. these are also in.
just take bits and pieces from designers work (like the leggings and shoes) and use it for your own wardrobe.
http://www.1tshirtsworld.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/coco-chanel-clothing.jpg
high waisted jean short:
http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/urban/catalog/productdetail.jsp?itemdescription=true&itemCount=80&startValue=1&selectedProductColor=
&sortby=&id=17369828&parentid=W_APP_RENEWAL&sortProperties=
+subCategoryPosition,&navCount=14&navAction=jump&color=&pushId=
W_APP_RENEWAL&popId=WOMENS&prepushId=&selectedProductSize=
*sorry for the long link*
look at the buttonup top the model is wearing in the picture. you could either put on simple heels like in the photo, or work with a unique flat like this. (it looks like a mix between an old fashioned men's shoe, and a gladiator sandal):
http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/urban/catalog/productdetail.jsp?itemdescription=true&itemCount=
80&startValue=1&selectedProductColor=&sortby=
&id=18180000&parentid=WOMENS_SHOES&sortProperties=
+subCategoryPosition,+product.marketingPriority&navCount=
826&navAction=push&color=&pushId=WOMENS_SHOES&popId=WOMENS&prepushI
d=&selectedProductSize=
an example of a summery dress that again, brings back classic patterns:
http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/urban/catalog/productdetail.jsp?itemdescription=true&itemCount=80&startValue=1&selectedProductColor=
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W_APP_RENEWAL&sortProperties=+subCategoryPosition,&navCount=14&navAction=jump&color=
&pushId=W_APP_RENEWAL&popId=WOMENS&prepushId=&selectedProductSize=
pullover sweatshirt, easily goes with jeans and sandals/wedge heels:
http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/urban/catalog/productdetail.jsp?id=18646372&navAction=
jump&isProduct=true&parentid=MORE%20IDEAS&isProduct=true&cross-sell=true&guide-bn=true
SKINNY JEANS..
okay, i know you may be a little skeptical, but if you really want to go for a vintage style, flares won't work.. bootcut are okay in small moderation, but skinnies usually work best if you have cute shoes and an interesting top.
PacSun has a sale every now and then, but they can get expensive, try discount places for cheap skinny jeans. Macy's is a good place to look.
its always good to have a basic button-up. (you can get these almost anywhere.
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im moving 530 miles away from where i live now. since i am going to a new school soon i would like to find new clothes. my favorite store is forever 21 but i want more of a selection as well. i love the 20's and 30's looking fashion, not 70's and 80's. so does anyone know websites where i can find cheaper vintage clothing? thanks. (link)
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Try modcloth.com
or urbanoutfitters.com
I wear a lot of vintage stuff myself, but find things at thrift stores actually, then cut stuff up, pick up jewelry at Forever 21, get shoes from payless or online. Put it together and rolll.
If you want some inspiration, you can find lookbooks online with vintage styles.
Experiment, and the art of vintage things is that you can wear whatever you want, with just one thing from the '20's' and it works.
Try stuff on. And seriously, check thrift stores or goodwill. Wash it up, and wear. ;)
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we just got our yearbooks and i dont know how to ask the guy i like to sign mine...i REALLY want himtosign it..but im a little nervous and scared...and he sits right next tome in science (link)
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Ohhh darlin. Yearbooks aren't a big deal, and most of the time people will sign if you ask.. It makes them feel good about themselves. As the person below said, the worst he can say is no. It's not the end of the world as you know it.
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i wanna have sex with my bf but im scared it will hurt like when the dick goes in meh (link)
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Having sex is an important decision. Make sure you're emotionally ready.. Because you may regret it in the long run.
Be prepared. The pain isn't bad, and it goes by fast.
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Around 5 to 4 years ago, when I was 12 I let my dog lick my penis twice. I havent done it since then and have deeply regretted it since then. It's recently been plagueing my head because I have this close friend who I care for a lot and whenever she says that I'm amazing and unique I feel bad because what if she knew I did that? Should I feel bad for having her think I'm such a great person even though I did that? Or since it happened years ago it shouldnt matter? I'm a completely different and more mature and wiser person, so should I care about who I am now or what I did? Is she close friends with a freak? Should I be arrested for having done it? She's told me before that she doesnt care about anything I've done and that its not important to her, but everytime she compliments me, I feel guilty. Please help and please answer each question if you can.
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First of all,
12 year olds have an urge to experiment.
It's totally okay, and you can read anywhere that we do things in our maturing ages that we may regret, but think would feel good at the time. It doesn't make you 'unholy' or a 'freak'. It makes you as normal as joe shmoe down the street. Good friends could care less what you did in the past. Don't worry about her, don't feel guilty. Reassurance is all you need here.
She'll think you're a good person, and our faults just give us CHARACTER. Don't worry about being judged. If you keep it to yourself, it's not a big deal.
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So I am 16 and my bf is 14. I usually date people 19 and older basically graduated. Now when I met him He told me he was 16 I was like I dont usually date people my age but you seem cool so ohhK so we started dating for abt a month and he confessed to me that he was actually 14 I wasn't hard on him because I know it was compicated for him to tell me that but I do have feelings but he doesn't want me to bring up the situation ever and it doesn't help that not I call him adorable instead of the usual sexy hahhaha. And now it's ok with me because I'm in love with him and everytime I think of breaking up with him it literally gives me nightmares. But that doesn't change the fact that he lied. He says he lied because he really liked me and really wanted to be with me and he knew I wouldn't want the same thing if I knew he was two years younger than me. Which was true but you didn't give me a chance to decide for myself, so my question is is age honestly just a number or what? should this honestly matter to ne if I love him? HELP (link)
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Don't date unless you sincerely care about the guy..
Age is just a number. My boyfriend is 3 years older than I, but we were close before, and became close. We both put up with harassment from friends, etc. We've been going strong for 6 months.
Don't break up because it's socially unacceptable.
Talk to him, and see if he's happy dating you.
If you're in LOVE with him.. Why would this question even come up? Because he's not the norm?
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I don't know how I feel about my boyfriend anymore.
We used to be so happy together. I still love him, but I don't know how he feels about me. Now I just feel like he only wants me around when there's nothing better to do (or if he needs me for something). We see each other at school and everything's fine. But that's just it. After school, we just go home and that's that.
I don't know if I sound extremely needy saying this, but nowadays he just hangs out with his friends ALL the time and never even bothers making plans with me. We haven't done anything together on the weekend in over a month. We hang out after school sometimes, but that's extremely rare now. We usually just end up going to his house or a fast food place, and half the time I have to suggest it. If I ask him to hang out on the weekend, he always says he already has plans. We don't even communicate on the weekends anymore; if I don't IM him, I won't hear from him until the next Monday at school.
It didn't use to be like this. When we first got together, we'd spend every Friday together. And this went on for months.
I'm finding myself really jealous of my friends' relationships.
To some extent, I feel like he's a kid and I'm like the kid's shiny new toy. When you first get the toy, it's exciting and you just want to play with it all the time. But after a while, it gets old and you seek other toys to play with.
I've considered breaking it off with him, but I care about him SO much and don't know if it's the right decision. I also don't know if I'm overreacting or not.
I haven't talked to him about it, either. I feel that if I do, he'll just start making plans with me not because he wants to, but because I bitched about it.
What should I do? (link)
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I get you. I've seen this happen to people before, and although you feel so stuck between decisions.. What do you feel will make you happiest?
Are you honestly happy waiting on him, and being the only thing keeping your relationship together?
Dating is a 2 person job.. One person can't keep it together, and be happy at the same time. It seems like the shiny toy effect is happening. And I know you care about him, and it's really hard to face, but he's being a shitty boyfriend it seems.. Talk about your relationship in general.. Not just the hanging out part. Watch his mannerisms and see if he actually cares. Or call him. That works too. Girls are usually the caring ones of the relationship, and we care about the other so so so much, and that's why it's so hard to make a decision. But girl, really. Listen. Does he seem honestly interested? It's not that you're not good enough, it's that he doesn't know how to MAN UP and make a decision to break it off, or try to keep things together.
Do what makes you happy, because I KNOW you're not stuck. There's always a way out.
If you do break up, it'll hurt. Because you care of course, but in the long run you'll know you got out of this endless mess of avoiding and stupid crap.
You can do it. :) Talk to himmmmm
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Okay so about 6 months agon me and my best friend were on the run together. Then when we got caught we werent allowed to talk while we were in rehab because our parents think were too co dependant! Well now that we are both out our parents say we have to take things slow and im still not able to see her yet! it sucks because all our friends either have to hang out with only one of us because of it, And our friend summer which is our other bestfriends birthday is soon and only one of us can go! If you knew how close the 3 of us were you would understand how hard this is. Me leighanne and summer are like the three amigas! lol. But this sucks so bad I just want my bes friend back in my life now. She is everything to me :( (link)
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Give it time, because after something like that, people will want to not trust you together. Best friends, if that's what you are, will last through the hardest of situations. Things will ease with time. It's just a birthday party, and asking to be all together so soon is asking a lot of your all's parents. Gain their trust, and slowly talk to them about how you want your bestfriend back. How you miss her, etc.
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