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What do I do??
I don't know how I feel about my boyfriend anymore.
We used to be so happy together. I still love him, but I don't know how he feels about me. Now I just feel like he only wants me around when there's nothing better to do (or if he needs me for something). We see each other at school and everything's fine. But that's just it. After school, we just go home and that's that.
I don't know if I sound extremely needy saying this, but nowadays he just hangs out with his friends ALL the time and never even bothers making plans with me. We haven't done anything together on the weekend in over a month. We hang out after school sometimes, but that's extremely rare now. We usually just end up going to his house or a fast food place, and half the time I have to suggest it. If I ask him to hang out on the weekend, he always says he already has plans. We don't even communicate on the weekends anymore; if I don't IM him, I won't hear from him until the next Monday at school.
It didn't use to be like this. When we first got together, we'd spend every Friday together. And this went on for months.
I'm finding myself really jealous of my friends' relationships.
To some extent, I feel like he's a kid and I'm like the kid's shiny new toy. When you first get the toy, it's exciting and you just want to play with it all the time. But after a while, it gets old and you seek other toys to play with.
I've considered breaking it off with him, but I care about him SO much and don't know if it's the right decision. I also don't know if I'm overreacting or not.
I haven't talked to him about it, either. I feel that if I do, he'll just start making plans with me not because he wants to, but because I bitched about it.
What should I do?
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I get you. I've seen this happen to people before, and although you feel so stuck between decisions.. What do you feel will make you happiest?
Are you honestly happy waiting on him, and being the only thing keeping your relationship together?
Dating is a 2 person job.. One person can't keep it together, and be happy at the same time. It seems like the shiny toy effect is happening. And I know you care about him, and it's really hard to face, but he's being a shitty boyfriend it seems.. Talk about your relationship in general.. Not just the hanging out part. Watch his mannerisms and see if he actually cares. Or call him. That works too. Girls are usually the caring ones of the relationship, and we care about the other so so so much, and that's why it's so hard to make a decision. But girl, really. Listen. Does he seem honestly interested? It's not that you're not good enough, it's that he doesn't know how to MAN UP and make a decision to break it off, or try to keep things together.
Do what makes you happy, because I KNOW you're not stuck. There's always a way out.
If you do break up, it'll hurt. Because you care of course, but in the long run you'll know you got out of this endless mess of avoiding and stupid crap.
You can do it. :) Talk to himmmmm
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walk away and if it's real he'll be there for you..
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You've got to talk to him about it otherwise he won't know keeping what your feeling to yourself
isn't going to get you anywhere you've got to get it all out in the open so he hears everything even though you probably would rather not talk to him about it i wouldn't break up with him seeing as you care so much about him there's other ways to resolve the situation it doesn't have to lead to you ending it with him i don't think that'd be the right decision i also don't feel like your overreacting you have every right to feel the way you do seeing as he's not treating you nicely like he should be doing tell him you'd like it if the two of you spent more time together seeing as you haven't been doing so he's got to somehow balance you and his friends equally so nobody feels left out don't focus on your friends relationships just focus on your's that's the main one that truely matters(:
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The fact that you are not communicating on the weekends and only see each other at school is very telling. It sounds to me like your relationship is more of a platonic nature. There is actually nothing wrong with that as you can never have too many friends.
Have a nice, casual conversation with your boyfriend and see how he feels. Who knows, maybe he feels the same way and doesn't know how to verbalize it. (Guys can be like that! LOL)
You seem very insightful and I don't think you're overreacting at all.
Lastly, don't worry about your friends' relationships. You will find love when the time is right. In the mean time, take the time to celebrate and cherish the most important person in your life - YOU!
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