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Dating a younger person
So I am 16 and my bf is 14. I usually date people 19 and older basically graduated. Now when I met him He told me he was 16 I was like I dont usually date people my age but you seem cool so ohhK so we started dating for abt a month and he confessed to me that he was actually 14 I wasn't hard on him because I know it was compicated for him to tell me that but I do have feelings but he doesn't want me to bring up the situation ever and it doesn't help that not I call him adorable instead of the usual sexy hahhaha. And now it's ok with me because I'm in love with him and everytime I think of breaking up with him it literally gives me nightmares. But that doesn't change the fact that he lied. He says he lied because he really liked me and really wanted to be with me and he knew I wouldn't want the same thing if I knew he was two years younger than me. Which was true but you didn't give me a chance to decide for myself, so my question is is age honestly just a number or what? should this honestly matter to ne if I love him? HELP
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Don't date unless you sincerely care about the guy..
Age is just a number. My boyfriend is 3 years older than I, but we were close before, and became close. We both put up with harassment from friends, etc. We've been going strong for 6 months.
Don't break up because it's socially unacceptable.
Talk to him, and see if he's happy dating you.
If you're in LOVE with him.. Why would this question even come up? Because he's not the norm?
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It scares you that you don't really care that he lied. It scares you that you're into a guy who's not generally acceptable.
No predictions on how this works out. You're teenagers, teenagers self destruct and rebuild on a daily basis. But if you want to date him, why not?
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Well you actually answered your own question. If you even think about breaking up with him, you'll have nightmares. You could break up with him because he lied. But then you'll immediately feel terrible about it. Or, you could just accept the fact that he is 2 years younger than you, and he has swag and got you to fall in love with him and go about your happy lives.
And yes you did have a chance to decide for yourself. You could've either agreed to go out with him, or not. You do that with any guy you go out with. He just increased his chances of him going out with you buy lying about his age. The thing is, you trained him to lie. YOU wouldn't have given him a fair chance if he had told you the truth.
Just be glad you both are together. Or you could take the dangerous rout and break up with him and see how you feel later (I wouldn't suggest the latter option).
Good luck.
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Personally, I think age is just a number. My mom is a year older than my dad, my uncle is like 10 years older than my aunt. If you really love him it would be stupid to let him go because he is younger than you.
The age difference might seem big now, but two years is really nothing
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