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I'm 23 and just got hired as a server for a new restaurant. I have always wanted to do it to push myself to meet people and be more outgoing and to make a good amount of money in a short time. I have social anxiety and get overwhelmed sometimes with simple conversation.
I have a job coach that applied a bunch of applications for me and the only one that gave me a chance is this restaurant. The manager is really nice. They want outgoing and friendly people. I don't want to mess this job up. How do I be a good server and not be so anxious/shy?
First unless you have been diagnosed by a mental health special such as a psychiatrist or psychologist you probably do not have social anxiety. You are just basically shy and retire ring. we tend to put labels on things today that do not belong simply to explain what we cannot explain or to make excuses for something or someone. If you have been properly diagnosed by a doctor then there is medication that will help you.
At your anyone could have labeled me with social anxiety disorder. In reality I was jut very shy and retiring. You'll never guess how I made a living and supported my family for over 49 years. I was a manufacturers representative, selling their products to wholesale distributors. Wow what a job for a person like you and me; yet I was extremely successful.
Perseverance, product knowledge and a sincere desire to be helpful along with this motto. "The only person I have to be better than tomorrow is the person I am today." "Meaning if I could learn something new tomorrow then I would be a better person than I am today."
You employer will train you in how they want you to serve. You need to learn the menu items so when people ask what is this item like you can tell them. Many restaurants encourage there servers to try different menu items.. Do so this way you can tell someone when they as what this item is like. IF in all honesty you can say I have tried this item and it is okay but I really like this item better. You might just move then to a higher priced item but you have to be sincere you can't bluff them.
I had this happen to me recently/ I was going to have something else when my wife ordered a Prime Rib Dip sandwich. Our server was very excited about the smoked Turkey Dip. long story short I ordered the Smoked Turkey and my wife the Prime Rib. We split the sandwiches between us. They were excellent and we were impressed. Our server was tipped 25% instead of my normal 20%
Remember that tips are based on what they purchase. Smile when you talk to customers. Practice in front of a mirror. Practice your menu knowledge with friends and family. The more familiar you are with the menu and what items can be substituted the less anxiety you will have.
Last there are mean people in this world. They will say and do things that are not true because they want to get something for nothing. If they complain about the food or the service they hope the manager will not charge them. Just picture them sitting there naked smile and laugh to yourself. Apologize for what ever they complain about and ask what you can do to make things right for them. when they bid them a good night.
I am 26 years old and recently got offered a job for 45k. Not a bad starting salary for someone without a degree. I know this sounds ridiculous but I love November and December time of year, and I would be starting this position on November 27th (Cyber Monday). There is no other training on any other dates. I'm so used to having this time to go christmas shopping/black friday etc.) I know sounds childish but it is important to me. I do have savings to get me by until March. My heart is not set with this career path but it is the highest salary I have been offered. I do not like working in a cubicle, and feel I shine best in a retail environment and the stigma for working there at my age is terrible and the pay is low. However, I love fast paced env.
The last 7 years I have been living with my partner who pays for my car, my insurance, and I have no rent payment. Seeing that I have no bills of my own to pay for I can always fall back on him. I do however pay my own food and gas though. I had 20+ jobs in the last 6 years. I do have a part time job but only working 5 hours a week there.
I suffer a great deal from anxiety/depression and I do seek therapy once a week for the last 5 yrs and I'm on meds but may be holding me back not sure.
I really would try this job if it was not for the holiday season, ,which I understand is only 1 day. But I feel so anxious I will not enjoy it as much because if I take this job my life will be a complete 360 with no time for anything and the holiday wont even be enjoyable.
It is time you stand up and put on your adult pants and be an adult. This is what life as an adult is like. Sometimes you need to accept that when opportunity knocks you have to accept the innovation no matter how inconvenient it may be.
Jobs are still hard to find in career choices that pay living wages. You are being offered a position at what I assume may be entry level with a salary usually reserved for someone with a great deal of experience. You would be extremely foolish to walk away from this for the reasons you give. actually they are excuses and not reasons. Reasons have sound meaning yours do not making them excuses.
Your manner of celebrating the holidays change when you become and adult. You shop in the evenings or during the day, when your not working and your days off. You will still have the holiday itself of to spend with your partner and family.
Stop making excuses. Time to become an adult and leave childhood behind you where it belongs. Take the job and work at it with full potential so as to retain it.
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This question is inappropriate for this sight. We are not a chat room. we answer serious questions that people have.
You must be 14 to be on this sight .
i was studying engineering for about an year and then i slowly started to loose interest in the subject so i started to bunk classes and eventually didn't attend the second semester exams and i quit the college because i had no interest at all .
i always wanted to become a pilot but , as you know the course is very expensive so i had to settle for studying Aircraft Maintenance Engineering basically it's job is an Airplane Mechanic with an engineering title and it's not even an engineering course . and this i found out after joining this course (yeah i was kinda sweet talked into it and i didn't have any other choice )
i didn't even wanna do this in the first place but i had to do it as my mom was putting a lot of pressure on me as she always does
i never wanted to study Engineering but because of my family i had to do it but as you know i ended up quitting that.
and now that i've joined this course just because i had to study something , i didn't and don't have any other choice .
Most of my Family members got to know that i had stopped going to my Engineering college and idk how the word got around but many of my far relatives got to know this and they all seemed to talk about me and ask my mom about me whenever they met during a function and they were kinda bad mouthing so my mom got angry at me and now i'm trying to study this Aircraft Maintenance course as i mentioned earlier.
TBH this college where i'm studying my AME , it's not good at all . They don't care much about their students . All they care about is money ( well that's another topic).
And now i don't feel like going to this college too . i want to study this but i just can't .
i just don't have much interest in studies anymore. but i've paid a lot of money so i have no other choice but lately i haven't attended my college like from 8 days !
my mother is just FORCING me a lot to go there every morning . and she doesn't understand this and she just wants me to go there and study...get good grades because she paid a lot of fees ( i get it from her point of view )
but i just don't want to do it.
i'm really not happy with myself .
i'm not interested in one thing for a long time
i get boored very quickly .and i've calculated the time and it's 3 months
i get boored after 3 months in anyting i'm interested .
and i'm tired of living like this . i think i'm trying to blame others for my mistakes like my mom for example . i think i'm just looking for excuses for all the shitty decisions that i take in my life
Honestly i'm just not happy with myself and i don't have the will power to live anymore and i have lost hope in life itself.
and i can't talk to anyone about this as i don't have much people to talk about these kind of stuff.
And idk what to do . Any Advice is Much Appreciated and Thankyou for taking your time in reading this !
I'm not a doctor but it sounds to me as if you suffer from some form of attention deficit disorder. It is not uncommon for someone at your age to suffer with this and it is treatable.
What I would like you to do is see your family doctor and explain just how you feel and ask for a complete physical to rule out any organic problem that might be causing how your feel. Once you have been cleared medically ask your doctor to recommend a Boar Certified Psychiatrist (BCD) to evaluate you for ADHD or any other disorder that could be causing your to feel this way.
Why a psychiatrist? Because most of these type problems are due to the lack of certain hormones secreted into the brain. A BCD is a medical doctor who has done a fellowship in psychiatry and is better qualified to treat you medically then one who has not done a fellowship[ and is not BCD.
The medications prescribed are to replace the hormones missing. Then the doctor will mot likely suggest talk therapy to get you out of the funk (depression) you have gotten yourself into over this situation.
If it is any consultation my son went through exactly what your going through at about your age. He did as I am asking you to do. He took a semester off got his head straight as to what he really wanted and went back to school and got his degree. He now has the job he always wanted and will be married in the spring. The only difference between you two is I did not pressure him to take a specific course. Once you are in talk therapy the therapist can help you get mom off your back so you can sort things out and find a direction you truly want to take.
Good luck and let me know how things work out for you.
express 35x^2 +2x-1 over 15x+3 times 6+42x over 2-98x^2 in simplest form.
Someone told me the answer was negative 1 but I got positive 1.Please help.
Most of us will answer almost any question you have other than a homework questions.
There are two reasons most of us will not answer a homework question.
1. It is not fair to the other students if we do your homework for you.
2. What do you learn if we do your homework for you.
Suggestion; Now that you have walked away from the problem for a while. Take a clean sheet of paper and rework the question again. If you arrive at the same answer then you may have the correct answer and your friends are wrong or you have made a mistake somewhere because you do not understand trigonometry properly. If this turns out to be so then so then ask your teacher for extra help.
Remember the teacher is there to help you be successful. Should the teacher refuse you extra help then talk with your parents if in high school and have them call the principal. If your in college you go to the department head.
It has been a few decades since I was in college though I seem to remember that at the student Union there were tutors available in the afternoon. again if you are in college this is a resource that may be available to you.
I'm female and I only have a white button down shirt, black pants and flats. I don't have a suit, skirt or heels and can't buy any of that right now.
The interviewer said dress business attire, but that's all I have right now.
If that's all you have then that is what you wear to the interview. Make sure they are clean and well pressed and the shoes are shined. You might explain to the interviewer that you do not own what they may consider appropriate business attire.
If you can borrow a coordinated jacket from mom or a girlfriend that would be appropriate and would also pass for business attire in some workplace settings. For men appropriate business attire is always a suit and tie. For women the rules are generally somewhat different. Some business owners want women in skirts blouses and jackets or women's business suits. Others will accept what you have to wear and maybe a coordinated jacket.
When you interview you might ask; what does this company find as acceptable business attire for women. This is all I have ever needed for work and I apologize if it is not appropriate. WHEN YOU HIRE ME I will purchase what is acceptable.
Try to always use positives when being interviewed. Example not if you hire me, when you hire me.
Good luck
I have an essay due in two days for school about the beneficiaries by Sarah penny. the topic is " discuss the title of the novel, the beneficiaries, and how it is ironic" I haven't read the book yet but I do know some key points. I won't have time to read it before the essay is due. I need some quotes from the novel about lallys eating disorder, about pim after going to war, and any other quotes relating to the topic of the essay. I also need some things that can go in the essay about the topic.
Dragonflymagic is right we do not answer homework questions. We will answer almost any question you have other than a homework question.
There are two reasons most of us will not answer a homework question.
1. It is not fair to the other students if we do your homework for you. Most teachers give you plenty of time to read the book before asking for you to write about it. Is it fair to the other students who took the time and gave up doing something else to read the book and do the essay while all you did was ask for the answers.
2. What do you learn if someone else does you homework for you. I looked up the book and read some reviews. This is a fairly adult book something a high school student would be asked to read. The topic of the book takes lace in South Africa and covers a wide range of views about the old south Africa its views an political system.
Besides being something to read it is a learning experience in a subject no longer taught in our schools. My suggestion is you sit down and read as much as you can today and write a report on what you have read. It is better to turn in something then nothing at all.
Hello. I'm a 26 year old female. I am currently in graduate school and nearing my last semester. This may be a bit long, as I have to explain my circumstances regarding employment and that may take a paragraph or two. First and foremost, I live in Miami. For those who don't know, Miami has the biggest gap in the country between earned wages and housing cost. Jobs that REQUIRE a master's degree typically pay $40,000-$60,000, while the average home cost is near $350,000. The typical/average rent is near $2000. Now, you can rent in an efficiency for much cheaper and there are apartments in certain areas that rent for $1200. This is for a one bedroom apartment and does not include electric or cable. Consider that someone making $40,000 as a starting professional, after taxes, makes roughly $2500 a month. If you rent the cheapest apartment, most of your check goes to housing and to your vehicle. Many people my age live with their parents, who purchased their homes during a time when housing cost was very minimal. I have been fortunate in some regards, and not so fortunate in others. As a child, I was extremely over-protected. I was not allowed to sleep in my own room or my own bed. I had to sleep with my mother. I grew up in my grandparents home. This meant that staying at the library late to study was considered scandalous. So, at 24, I moved into a graduate housing at my previous institution. But, I transferred because that institution was extremely expensive. I now have 1 more semester to complete of graduate school. I currently live in my mom's house (not in my grandparents house), but in the efficiency. So, I technically have my own place. It has a living room, kitchen, bathroom, and bedroom. I have two dogs and it's great because they have a backyard. My mom has borderline personality disorder. She is absolutely unstable. There have been times that she has kicked me out of the house because she disliked the way I brushed my hair. She has violently knocked on my door and grabbed me by the throat. She encouraged me to commit suicide. She closed a door on my hand violently, nearly fracturing my wrist. It is not uncommon that she displays her teeth at me, like a dog. Having lived with her, on our own, has made me eternally grateful for being raised with my grandparents. Even if I didn't have my own room, at least I was safe. As an adult, I've been able to find refuge in my car, in a hotel, or at a friend's house temporarily. But, I don't feel completely safe in this efficiency. There is always a chance that she will become violent. Last month, I accepted a full time job that had nothing to do with my career, in higher education administration (academic affairs within a university). I decided to take this position in hopes that I would be able to rent an apartment and flee the unsafe place. But, it did not work out with this job. It started out with sexual jokes and the office manager then started giving detailed descriptions as to how he would rape a woman. So, I left. I will not succumb to that. I am not going to trade one unsafe situation for another one. There were several incidents that occurred that led up to me resigning. This was just the final one. I was then offered a part-time job within my career at a local community college. The job pays very well. So, it's not such a burden to be working only part-time. In reality, it is probably best to be working part-time as I am nearing the end of school. I have to complete an internship this semester, where I was behind in hours because I had to work full time. So, this opportunity fell into my lap at the best time possible. The thing is that it is very difficult to get a job within my career without a master's degree. Everywhere you search for jobs, it says "master's required," which I totally understand. If the master's wasn't required, I wouldn't be working so hard to finish mine! :). So, to be able to get this opportunity before even getting my masters puts me in a really good position. It means I'll likely be the first interviewed because I have experience that others may not. I feel extremely blessed and I'm incredibly excited. I spoke with my advisor and mentor, and she really convinced me that this was the best opportunity. Everything about this is good and positive. There is only one thing. My mom pays for absolutely nothing. She works and her entire check goes to her car and shopping. She doesn't not pay energy, cable, nothing. And when she contributes even one dollar, she will remind you that she did so for months! Even though this job pays well for a part-time position, I don't feel that I can sustain the entire house on my own. She is using the majority of the energy, as I live in a furnished garage and she lives in the house. She refuses to be on a cheaper cable plan. I have dreamt of moving out for several reasons. Alongside her being unsafe, the family does not condemn her behaviors. They are always making excuses for her. My aunt... her sister... even told me that I was "not a child, but not a grown up either!" But, they sure see me as a grown-up when they need money or someone to babysit her grandchildren. They see me as an adult when the cable bill and energy bill are due. They see me as an adult when they ask me to pay HER bills and other money that she owes to various people. To the family in general, I'm nothing more than an ATM. I am under appreciated and expected to deliver at every twist and turn. I'm tired of being used. And this is why I want to leave. But, at the same time, what would really secure my future away from this toxic life is my career. Sure, here I won't be making much money, but I can do much better in another state. It's that degree that will grant me access to better jobs and more opportunities. So, the priority is to finish the degree and get the experience needed in order to get hired at a descent salary. At the same time, I want to feel safe in my own home. I don't want to be dragged out by my hair simply because it's not as blonde as she would like it or because I'm not wearing high heels. I don't want to feel like I'm stuck here against my will and mistreated. But, on that same note, I need to finish my degree and get this experience, which is an opportunity not afforded to everyone. Please provide me with your wisdom.
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First things first; you must get out of that toxic environment. You have a couple of choices as to how to do this.
OPTION ONE:
The best choice is to find someone that is renting a room near school and your part time job or someone who has an apartment that wants to share expenses.
You school housing office may be able to help you find someone that is looking to rent a room to someone. These people are generally vetted by the school as a safe place for students. There are also real estate companies that specialize in placing roommates in apartments together. You will most likely find these in the personal section of the local papers. Since you only have one semester left I believe the best solution is to find a room to rent.
Once you find a place to live do not say anything just pack your clothes and any thing you actually must have and move out. DO NOT TELL ANYINE WHERE YOU ARE MOVING TO. If you name is on any of the Utility bills or cable call them and tell them you are no longer residing at that address and no longer responsible for them. I would go so far as to change banks as well. Make it hard for anyone to find you. If you have credit cards or recurring bills call them with your new address do not leave a forwarding address with the post office.
OPTION TWO
You still move out and do as above. The difference her is you find you need more money than your part time job provides. Okay not a problem. You take a full time job and switch to night courses or extension courses on-line. Switching to a night course will only extend your schooling by one semester. switching to on-line course schooling may take a bit longer.
My daughter in-law recently decided to get her masters degree. She can't afford to stop working as they amassed debt based on a two incomes. The solution on-line courses. This is her second year she is taking one course a year. It will take her a while but she is determined and she is very goal orientated. she is also a straight A student. It goes without saying we are all very proud of her.
I tell you this because if you want something bad enough you can find away. You need your masters degree for your chosen career. I understand that and I understand given your circumstances how hard that is for you.
The biggest problem to correct is your living situation. Once you fix that you will think more clearly and can decide which option to complete you degree is best. It may not be the fastest option but it will get you your degree while you are financially stable.
One other thing once you move out of your mothers home call adult protective services. I'm no doctor but your mother by your description may be bi-polar or suffering from other mental illness. By calling adult protective services or services for the aging as they may be called. They will come visit with you mom and step in if the think it is needed.
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I've always wanted to have a baby, but I never actually learned how to be the best parent. I'm a 20 year old female and I want to study on being the best mother I can possibly be for a few years before my partner and I conceive.
I have an invisible disability, so I'll be a housewife, so I'd be able to stay with my baby for all my time. Even though I have a disability, I'm super motivated to clean, cook and I'm super hard-working around the household. (please don't judge me.)
Plus, my partner and I want to make COMPLETELY CERTAIN that we're financially stable before too.
I just want to know from parents what books are the best to study on. That include things like the basic knowledge on having an infant and books on toddlers like potty training, helping them talk, etc.
I just want to make sure I know as much as possible. So please, may you tell me the best books I can buy from Amazon or some online bookstore that are inexpensive? Thank you!
There are probably hundreds of books on child raising and they are not worth their cost. Why because there is a reason children don't come with a handbook like a new car which is because every child is an individual.
When a child comes into your life a wonderful things happens you go from being carefree adults to PARENTS. We learn on the job and we respond to the individual need of our child.
Don't waste you money on books. When your child comes into the world you will know what to do. IF you have questions about something, if you mom is still alive, ask you mom or mother in-law that's is what grandparents are for.
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I am a new teacher at this school/district. I am a third grade teacher.I am known to be a nice teacher. Students know me, they think I'm kind, they think I look young, etc. I can be mean if I need to be, just not to the extent some teachers are.
I try to run a positive atmosphere in my classroom. I am all about respect and anti-bullying. The good thing is, that it's working. Even though I have a chatty class, I have students who get along with EVERYONE. If anyone bullies anyone or says something that is disrespectful to someone else, they apologize to that particular person or write an apology letter.
I have a student who actually hates me. Here's the thing, academically, he's great. He's one of my top students in the class. Behaviorally, he's not the best.
I have told him MANY times to get in line, walk in line quietly, to stop talking over my lesson, etc. It got to the point where his behavior had regressed. I had to contact his father about his behaviors. His father ended up getting involved for a short period of time and then disappeared. Meanwhile, his behaviors started regressing again after 1-2 weeks.
This student has spoken about race, saying "for Black History Month, students should go to KFC and only black people should get free fried chicken." When he found out my first language was Chinese, he continued to say "ni hao" in the middle of my lessons. Today, he was talking to my other students about gangs. I have spoken to his father again, and yet, I have not received a response.
The disciplinary actions at this school and district are pretty much non-existent. So, I'm relying on the parents for support.
This student has made it clear SEVERAL times that he does not want to be at school, he does not want to learn. This is a student who told me he wants a new mom because he makes him take out the trash.
I hate lecturing, but someone who values respect and tries to get students to be thankful for what they have, it infuriates me. So, yes. I have made points there are other countries who can't afford to go to school, they should be happy to get free education. He does not care.
He told me the reason why he is rude because "his parents are rude." I am running out of ideas for him. He has been passing around notes to other students telling others that he hates me.
I'm confused. Why does he hate me? Should I even care about how he feels? Should I let an 8 year old make me feel validated?
Having a student that doesn't want to be at school, can throw off the entire class. All of my students want to learn and want to be there. He doesn't, for some reason. He asks politely for help, he doesn't say anything to my face, but my question is WHY does he hate me? Am I supposed to do something about that?
Third Grade that would make him eight or nine years old. This is a tough age for some kids. It is very possible he is rebelling against the discipline he is receiving in your classroom that maybe non-existent at home. He probably hates you for the same reason.
Some things you can try to do with. Ask for a parent teacher conference with both parents, the principal and a representative from the special education department.
Another thing you can do is ask Child Protective service(CPS) to do a home visit. CPS even though over worked still in most instances they are pretty savvy if they suspect the parents are not parenting that child properly they will step in.
One last thing is to have the school psychologist evaluate the child for Attention Deficit Disorder and a form of Autism.
These are the best things I can think of based on what you have written.
I would like toe kwon how toe get a golf sponer from eany sponser if been playing a long time and white oute a sponser i cant go pro so any advice ore help
I don't know if English is your first language or not. The first step in getting a sponsor is writing a professional letter. Your question is atrocious both in spelling and grammar.
Here is your question: I would like toe kwon how toe get a golf sponer from eany sponser if been playing a long time and white oute a sponser i cant go pro so any advice ore help
Same question with proper spelling and grammar: I would like to know how I find a Golf sponsor. I have been playing golf for a long time and not able to go pro without a sponsor. Any advice would be helpful.
See the difference between what you wrote and what I have written. First impressions are very important. You are trying to find a sponsor. The first step is to write to companies who might sponsor you. Your letter is to them is a how the make their first impression of you. What you wrote does not speak well of you and you could be the next golf champion with a good sponsor given the chance. You won't get that chance without a good first impression.
My advice to you is; If English is not your first language or should English be your first language then you need to get someone, a professional writer to write your letters for you.
You letter should start by introducing yourself. How long you have been playing golf and what your career goals are in golfing. Then you say in order to obtain my career goals I need a sponsor. Then explain how you believe you would be an excellent role model and spokes person for their product or service.
You close by thanking them for their time and that you look forward to meeting them in person in the near future.
Give them two weeks to respond to you then call the person you wrote to and ask if he received you letter. HE will ask what letter was that. You say the one about golfing and looking for a sponsor.
Ok, so I'm friends with this girl and this boy who have been dating for a few years now. Let's call the boy V and the girl J. J is bipolar, but somewhat high functioning, from an abusive family, and is recovering from a drug addiction. V, even before they started dating, has helped her with everything. He paid for her to get into rehab, for her mental health, helped her press charges against her abusive parents, and has overall been extremely emotionally supportive. I know V really well and he loves her to death.
For some reason J decided to cheat on him. I noticed her hanging with some other guy. At first I brushed it off, thinking that perhaps they were working on something for school or something. But then I figured out she was sleeping with him. I asked her about it, and apparently she isn't as in love with V as he is with her. But she warned me not to tell him, and claims that if I do nothing good will come out of it because his heart will be broken.
I agree that V will be so depressed because he really does love and respect her. He always talks so highly of her and even when he's had a god awful day she makes him happier. I'm honestly so angry that J would do something like this and to make matters worse I've figured out she's been sleeping with this other guy for two and a half years! So while V has been comforting her, helping her through hard times, and saving her from abuse, she's been going behind his back.
Should I tell him what she's doing or should I keep it a secret?
J is right V will be heartbroken if you tell him so she should be the one to tell him and for now that is my advice. You should be convincing her how wrong she is to accept his love and good will, both monetary and emotional, while sleeping with someone else. Being bipolar is no excuse for this behavior.
Facts are that V will eventually find out it always happens. He is bound to see J and the other guy is some intimate setting somewhere. When he does he will be heartbroken and hurt. He will feel he is being taken advantaged of and he is.
Give her a dead line to tell him by or you will. A break up of this type should be between the two of them. But you are right he does need to know so he is not blindside at some point and hurt more than necessary. As a good friend to both you need to be there and supportive to both regardless of whether she tells him or you do.
To make a long story short I decided to join a club at college and was given the position of treasurer on the exec-board. I joined because the organization was aligned with my career goals and I wanted to be part of something in my community.
Well now I'm a couple months into it and not really feeling it like I was before. Only about 8 people showed up to our first meeting and nobody really seemed too enthused about it. I also didn't realize that we needed to raise money and it's a lot of money ($1700) per person. I don't think that's realistic at all for college students. We just started our first fundraising activity and it's like people couldn't care less about it. I've been going out of my way to help and to get other exec members to participate and everybody just magically vanishes when I ask them to help...
I'm thinking about resigning. It just seems like a giant waste of my time. I do want the title on my resume, but I'm not feeling like it's worth it if we can't even raise the money to go on the trip that our group is built around going on. I would sound like a failure if anybody ever asked me about it "Well yeah I did have an exec position for the group, but no we never went on the trip".
This is not a question I find easy to answer based on the information you gave. I would like to know more about the club and why this trip and the club are so intertwined.
That information aside would it not luck better on your resume if you could write you joined the club and their were only a few members who's interest in the club was marginal at best. with your efforts and leadership you were able to build the club into a functioning organization with enthusiastic membership.
when I had to look at resumes for a position I would look at latterly hundreds something had to make a resume make me stand up and take notice. something like what I wrote above would catch my attention and most definitely get you a first interview.
Think about that and send me more information on the club and I will see if I can offer you any suggestions on how to start building interest and members.
My boy friend fuck me on my back side and releas in my back hole....the problem is many days to go periods not come....what the solution??
Anal Sex has nothing to do with your period. Your anus is all about the bodies waste system and nothing to do with your reproductive system.
If your period is late it is most likely do to stress over worry that you may be pregnant. Let me say it again YOU CAN NOT GET PREGNANT FROM ANAL SEX IT IS NOT POSSIBLE AT ALL.
Your period could be late or even missed if you have been sick or taken certain types of medication. so Stop stressing an relax your not pregnant and your period will come when your body is ready
First off he's only been a Vegan for about a month. To me this isn't really a Vegan, just somebody going through a phase. He's in that stage where he gets really defensive if you ask him why or ask him to explain some of his reasons.
We've only been out three times, so we're not too serious.
My problem is I grew up with two parents who loved to cook and in turn, I love to cook. I can't imagine living without seafood or meat. I love all kinds of proteins and especially cooking with them.
To me, him being a vegan is kind of a deal breaker. I want to be with somebody who will eat the food I cook and who I can take to family dinners and go out to eat with. I also love trying new restaurants and foods, where as he's obviously a very picky eater. When I told some of my friends they disapproved and I kind of agree with their reasons. Usually vegans are very arrogant and I could see him possibly being that way since he gets defensive about it very quickly for somebody who hasn't been a vegan for very long. They also of course know my love of food and think that while it's something I can probably handle early on, that as things progress I will become more and more unhappy not being able to cook for him all the foods I love or having to be careful about where we go out to eat.
I already had to take my best friend instead of him to a restaurant I'd been dying to try for a long time because they didn't have any real vegan options.
It is easier to date and live with a vegetarian then a Vegan but it is possible. Remember one thing about any relationship. Relationships are a 50/50 proposition. Whether it is cooking, where to go for diner, movies to see or what happens in the bedroom to some extent the best relationships and marriages are the ones that are full 50/50 partnership.
This means neither one of you need to give up what you enjoy. You like trying new restaurants, so do I. My wife does not like new things it is outside her comfort zone. So On date night's one month my restaurant choice the next month her choice. we are retired and the budget allows for only on date night.
Most restaurants have a vegetarian option. When it is your turn to pick an a Restaurant he can chose the vegetarian option without seriously violating his vegan standards. When it is his turn to pick a restaurant I'm sure you can find something you can enjoy and many Vegan and vegetarian restaurants do offer alternative menus for non vegans.
At home you cook for yourselves and on occasion for each other especially if he makes something you enjoy.
To go from carnivore to Vegan is quite a jump. Most people go to vegetarian first. You might want to sit down with him and find out why he made the jump. I know a young lady who made the jump to vegetarian because of who she was dating.
One afternoon we were all on duty together at the fire station. With the exception of her we all ordered Hamburgers from her favorite hamburger place. We surrounded her and made this big deal about how good the burgers were. Be fore we finished she grabbed the extra burger. she had decided she would be a vegetarian when she was with him but not when she was not with him.
It was a smart move on her part for when we, her 30 big brother met him we disapproved. Shortly there after she met the man she married which of course the 30 of us approved of.
I have a huge research task. I need to come up with a research topic idea. It can be about anything so not a specific subject. I'd like to do something on the physiology side something like "a serial killers mind" or "the pressures of being a twin" or something to that extent.
I'm not sure if this will fit your project but it is in line with a psychology question.
There are just a few professions were one is asked why you chose to do this. One of them is fire fighting. While I was never a career fire fighter I have over 30 years experience as a volunteer with several different departments from small one station departments to the last one I retired from with over 50 stations with 50%^ of them all or partial volunteer stations.
If you ask any of us why we do this you will get a host of different answers. For the most part we are adrenalin junkies but adrenalin alone does not make you run towards something everyone else is running away from.
There are some that do it for the money as the money is good especially for the career firefighter. In most departments you work 2/24 hour shifts a week which allows you to have a second job or run your own business on the side.
Most of us cannot tell you exactly why we do this job we just do it because we are able to do it. My son is also a firefighter/paramedic. He saves lives on both sides of his career title. If you ask him why how won't say its because he wants to save lives. That is not the reason he joined as a volunteer when he turned 18.
As far as I know no one has attempt to research why some people pick dangerous careers.
I have a guy who I see as my friend but unfortunately for me he start having feelings for me and I love him too but the issue is that I can't express my feelings for him cos he is older than me am 21 and he is 32 so I need your help to solve the issue
An eleven year difference in age is not really that big of an issue now that you are and adult. If you were say 16 and he was 27 then that would be a problem. Now 21 and 32 are just numbers that mark ones time on this earth and it is very possible for you to love someone that much different in age if you will allow yourself to.
The issue is why is the age difference such a bother to you. IF you can love some one 5 years younger or 5 years older then yourself you should be able to express your feeling to some one 20 years older, IF you have actual feelings for him.
I believe you really have to sit down and figure out how you love him. Is your love for him that of a man and women or that of sister and older brother.
I want to be a pilot,but I don't know the course to study in the university before going to school of aviation. I need suggestions on the course to study to be able to get to the school of aviation.
I know of only one University that is dedicated to Aeronautics and that is Embry-Riddle University Daytona Beach Florida Campus. They offer the entire gamut of flight from the ground to space. You can learn to fly while taking college level course.
The courses offered in college do not lend themselves to what you need to become a pilot. Now if you want a degree in aeronautical engineering to go along with your pilots license many colleges will offer the basic courses for that and then on to Grad school to finish.
I read a while back that JetBlue Airline was willing to train there own pilots. It may not be to late to apply to them. In return for them training you to fly you will owe then a number of years of service. The training is free and I believe you earn a small salary while training.
You can always finish your college degree on line after you are a line pilot fro them. I would not try to Take college level course and learn to fly at the same time unless you are at Embry-Riddle where it is a thought out process. Learning to fly is a full time job with someone with JetBlue. Classroom work and flying during the day and hours of homework at night.. But the hard work is worth it when they pin those First Officers wings on you.
If you can't get in to JetBlue try Easy Jet Luton Airport England they have been training their own pilots for years.
I'm really scared to tell my mom I'm on my period cause cause I feel like she will be weird about it and I'm 11
Sweetheart there is nothing to be scared of. This is a natural function of your body and something every young lady goes through. while you may think you're to young for this to be happening you are not. You are at the right age for when puberty begins for many young people. It starts for different kids at different ages. I hit puberty at 12, my sister at 15.
Your mother is expecting you to have a period and she is waiting for you to come to her. She may be a bit startled that you are among the younger ages as she will be guessing when you might start a period based on her own experience.
Once she is over this she will show you what you need and how best to care for yourself so go talk to mom.
So im going to be 19 soon and everytime i go out with my friends my parents get so angry. They say "how come whenever your friends ask you to go out you always go cant you say no?" even though my parents would make me cancel on them all the time but the one time i do go they get mad. Then when i do go out, none of my friends have a curfew they just go home when they feel its late which is around 2am, but for me when the clock reaches 11pm my parents start calling me like crazy to come home then when its midnight they get mad till i get home. My one friend said anytime you hangout with maise (my name) her parents call her constantly which is true. What kind i do to get my parents to loosen up? Im an 18 year old female, when i go out i make sure im not alone cause i know the dangers but anyways i know i probably wont be able to do anything till i move out but any tips?
Your between a rock and a hard palace. Legally you are an adult free to do as you please. On the other hand you do live at home, assumedly, rent and board free. This brinks in to play and old saying every parent has and you will have too when you become a parent. "You live under my roof, you live by my rules."
You may not like what I'm about to say; both and your parents are wrong. Your parents are wrong for not respecting the fact that you are 18 soon to be 19 and that legally they no longer can control you. You need to understand that legally they also no longer need to feed, cloth or house you or take car of any health costs. Your parent s no longer have access to your medical records either nor can the speak for you in any legal proceeding.
That at paly here is parent being overprotective and maybe being unable to cut the apron strings. For your part you need to respect the fact that your parents are still caring for you as they always have.
Now you need to help your parents loosen the apron strings. As a daughter I can tell you that in your dads eyes you will always be his little girls. Even when you are all grown up and have children of your own. That's just the way things are with fathers and daughters.
I don't think your parents want you moving out unless its in to a college dormitory so don't threaten that with them. What I suggest is to calmly sit down with them and tell them just what you wrote to us. Mom, dad;"Im an 18 year old female, when i go out i make sure im not alone cause i know the dangers, I don't take chances. Then add be home at 11 is unrealistic and demeaning to me in the eyes of my friends. I think Friday and Saturday nights a more realistic time to be home would be 1am.
Then make sure your home by then., If for some reason your delayed; say a traffic tie up Call them. I'm sure you have a cell phone and I'm sure even if they are asleep a phone call from you saying your delayed and why is better than waking up and finding out your not home and calling you and maybe not reaching you because your now moving again. Another words be respectful of their worry you are and always will be their child.
I went through this with my son when he was your age and it worked for him. I'm sure it will work for you.