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My name is Ryan. And I will answer most everything you want to ask to the best of my God given ability.But I will not sugar coat any answer and I will give MY advice. I don't care about my ratings, so don't think giving me a 1 for an answer you don't want to hear will scare me. And if you already know what you should do about a sitaution, don't come to us here at advicenators asking for a second opinion. And here below is a list of questions you should NOT ask on advicenators. Granted some of them may vary and be acceptable, but overall don't ask the below questions on Advicenators.
**Don't ask questions like "OMG i heard this song on the radio with "insert pointless pop lyrics here" and i wanna know what it is so what is it! Thanks!! I rate 5sssss! hearts". This question can be simply googled with the lyrics, or you need only ask a friend
**Don't ask "ok so there is the hott guy/gal in my class and he/she like got me a *insert gift or simple trinket here* do you think he/she likes me?" This is the most common question here on this website sadly. Unless it is vitally important and actually pertains to a feeling of true feelings, don't ask it. This is most asked by teens. And what teens need to learn is "love" is not thinking a guy/girl is sweet and hott and nice. I know love, and it is so far from all those things. Remember Cicero when he said "Out of all the emotions, love is the most violent. Love is madness."
**"Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and we like used no protection omg he came in me do you think i am pregnant?" Ugh. Stupid teens and their hormones. IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU ALWAYS RUN THE RISK OF PREGNANCY, UNLESS YOUR STERILE. And if you don't know anything about sex, you shouldn't be doing it. Even if you "love" your partner, half the time this is a disallusion and you will end up hurt. Sex is for marriage.
**Or asking what's "in" for fashion, or what they should wear out tonight. Or what is "cute" and what looks good. Pick and choose for yourself what you like, think for yourself instead of trying to let other people do it for you. Stand up and be yourself.
These are the most common questions I have seen on Advicenators. Now there are a few questions that are very good questions and deserve the 3 rating and the best answer possible. But they are usually blocked out with the kinds of questions listed above. If you want to ask something, check the following off that I am listing.
1.Does the question pertain to anything important or trivial?
2.Is proper grammar used?
3.Is the question long and in one paragraph?
4.Is it a question that you yourself can answer?
5.Is there enough detail?
Following those 5 guidelines, you can write a good 3 point answer. That about wraps it up.
I spend alot of time online and here on advicenators, so if you ever need anything then just send something in my inbox or IM me. I'm not opposed to helping people at all, in fact I love doing it. I just want some people to wake up from asking a stupid question.
Thank you all for your time.
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okay so everyone at school calls me a slut n even my friends. like i no there jsut kidding and all but it really bugs me and i want it to stop. ive had sex with 4 people.. is it THAT slutty? im 15. i dont no wat to do i just wish it never happend. i just want to earn respect from my friends and clear my bad reputation. ]
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That kind of rep is very hard to break, seriously, 15 and 4 guys? To be quite honest (and not meaning anything out of spite) but that is a bit "much"
Only way you can get any respect back and ruin that bad rep is tojust not do anything like you have done anymore. Sure some words might linger about it, but if you just stay away from things that will give you that bad rep, then you should get a better one in a matter or time. That is really all you can do about it.
I hope I helped.
-Ryan
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Ok to put it straightfoward.. my boyfriend won't make out with me. We've talked about. And I mean we've been going out for a few months so I think we should.
How can I just like getting it stated with him. I'm used to the guys starting it with me.
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How about you leave it be? He doesn't want to do it, so don't pressure him into it. Simple as that.
What you think you should do, and what he thinks you should do, are gonna be 2 different things, so you should realize that and just give it time.
-Ryan
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Am I justified in being angry when my mom calls me an ignorant slut because she wasn't understanding something I was trying to explain to her? I don't mean to sound whiney, but I'm really sick of these degrading comments she directs at me when she messes something up, makes a mistake, or doesn't understand something. I don't know what to do about this. Any advice?
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Yes, you have a right to be angry.
I would put more ignorance on your mother, since she couldn't even let you finish something you were trying to explain.
-Ryan
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ok i think getting high would be worse than getting drunk, but my friend doesnt belive me. do any of you know which one is worse for you?
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Why even have the argument? Both are bad, end of discussion. Doing either of them are just stupid and shows lack of poor judgement.
-Ryan
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well, I like this kid in my chorus class. He found out I like him because he could "tell" but I have to play juliet and he's romeo and I dont know how to act around him anymore he's acting like nothing happened which relieved me but I still dont know what to say or do.
Ill rate high (link)
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Be yourself.
It's not hard at all, all you have to do is relax and be who you normally are.
It is just that simple of an answer.
I hope this helps and good luck!
-Ryan
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okay... I have this friend (lets say her name is Kelley) and shes really cool and stuff. I have another friend, (lets say her name is Jen) who I used to be really good friends with. Now Jen is a lot more "popular" than me and kelley, but she was pretty nice to us up until a few months ago. First, we had always sat at the same table together, and now she is sitting with the kids who are really mean. She didnt say anything to us or anything, and she just sort of ditched us. I was okay with that, maybe she just wanted to meet new people or something. So anyways, Now we have to do a community project for school. Kelley and I are making blankets for children in a homeless shelter and jen wants to deliver bears to the hospital. Shes all mad cuz we wanna do something else so she just switches groups. Shes seemed really selfish to me because she was saying "what kids would want some stupid blankets" and was sayin that "oh this will take too long." She calls us her "little friends" all the time because she thinks her popular friends are more important or something.
So I really dont know what to do. She doesnt know that me and Kelley are mad at her, and I have just kind of avoided her. On the other hand, I dont want to be mean either.
Should I give Jen another chance? Or should I just stay away and be friends with Kelley? (link)
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Dump her like a bad habit.
She isn't worth your time if she is going to insult you and your ideas. And from what I gathered, her time with the "popular" people has left her rude, mean, and downright unkind.
Sadly, that is basically a description for your average "popular" girl in the world today. Granted, alot aren't, but from everything I have seen around me, I avoid popular people as much as I can because I just don't like how they act.
If I were you, I would most definately confront her about this. Don't just stay away though, confront here about it and calmly asked whats happened and whats happened to your friendship and why she is being so unkind to the both of you (if she denies this, bring up her ditching you and critisizing your giving homemade blankets to HOMELESS CHILDREN *for crying out loud, she has to be far gone to not realize a blanket for a homeless child in winter is like a Godsent*) and atleast end the friendship on somewhat good terms, because as of now, I don't believe she deserves another chance for her behavior.
Your in a bad situation and I hope I helped with what I said just now. Good luck with Jen and if you need anything else, send me something to my inbox.
-Ryan
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i am 15 and i have never had a boyfriend or even been kissed. is this unusual? i think that i just intimatate guys too much and it makes them not what to ask me out. i dont know. so is this unusual..? and tips to get guys to ask me out would be greatly appreciated... (link)
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So?
Different times come for different people. If guys are intimidated by that, then they are probably some form of scum anyhow, so not really worth your time. So no, it isn't unusual for any person to not get their first kiss or boyfriend/girlfriend by then (My first girlfriend and kiss wasn't until I was almost 15 and a half, so I can be an example). Just bid your time, it will come, and until then, don't fret about it all, because in the long run, it isn't that important at all.
I hope I helped and you find some patience
-Ryan
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I don't attract guys at all. It's been said that I'm a lesbian (which I'm not), and I have an extremely brutal (but with purpose...I don't just say "Fuck the world" for no reason and think it's funny) sense of humor and wear all black. Are these turn-offs? But I'm a nice person. Though I can be a little morbid, I'm generally pretty friendly, I consider others' feelings, and I try to make friends, but nobody at my school wants to be around me. It's inevitable someone will say "Marian, I REALLY wanna sit next to Joe Shmoe. Can you move over?" at least twice a day. I just hate that. Whenever we have to choose partners/teams in gym, I'm always the last person. I feel so lonely, I cry sometimes in the locker room when nobody is around. There's only 1 friend of mine that's a guy who actually appreciates me for who I am, and I now have such a huge crush on him. I don't want to sound conceited at all, but I think I'm a nice-looking person, so that eliminates the idea that guys might not like me because of my looks. Does anyone understand? How can I make more friends? Even though he doesn't like me back in the same way, should I tell this boy I like him, and if so, how?
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From everything I have read above, you sound like an extremely unfortunate victim of stereotyping, as some people that have already answered though, and I agree with them.
Sadly, the only real way to get out of a stereotype, is to become another stereotype and change yourself (which I am sure you probably don't want to do.) Don't let yourself get let down by people judging you by how you act, or what you wear. Everything you do makes up yourself, and if that is a descriptive trait snapshot of you above, there isn't anything wrong with wearing all black, a brutal sense of humor, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a little morbid, after all, aren't most people anyway?
From what you've told me from your above question, I would absolutely change nothing about yourself. If people don't want to be your friend, then it is their loss. You'll find the more you truly act like yourself (and from what you said, you sound like a very friendly person) and try and make friends, eventually you are going to get those friends. Sure it might take time, but having that close group of friends that you are extremely good friends with over that large group of friends you just hang out with, makes the time worth waited all the better. School sucks and it is gonna suck, mostly because most of the kids there, are idiots with nil to non maturity (mind you, there are some with it).
As for this guy. DO NOT BOTTLE UP EMOTIONS. I have alot more than once and in the end of holding it all in you are near a breakdown and the like, and it doesn't paint a pretty picture. If you like someone, tell them. Don't worry about "I don't want to lose the friendship we have" because almost all the time, that will never happen, especially if your good friends with this person.
If I wasn't clear on anything, please feel free to IM me at Alpha0mega345 or leave something in my inbox, or if you just have anything else you want to know. I hope I helped you though, it sounds like you really could use a good help right now ^_^.
-Ryan
P.S. Oh and about the "can you move so I can sit next to Joe Shmoe", just don't move. Tell them to sit somewhere else, or for Joe to move. And don't worry about the partner thing in class/P.E. It's just partners, nothing more.
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Here's a passage that's apparently from the Christian Bible.
I cannot, for the life of me, tell if it's a real passage. I've searched all over Google, but to no avail.
"Wherefore I say to all those who desire to be disciples, keep your hands from bloodshed and let no flesh meat enter your mouths; for the Lord is just and bountiful; who ordains that man shall live by the fruits and seeds of the earth alone. I am in all creatures and all creatures are in me. In all their joys, I rejoice. In all their afflictions, I am afflicted." 38:1-6
I just need to know what book of the Bible this is.
(Blank 38:1) Just like that.
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I am with every person before this, and from my own reading of the Bible, I can pretty well tell you it is NOT from the Bible. Now there are bible passages that speak of what to eat/what not to eat that are located in the books of the Law (see Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers, Deuteronomy). But these laws for Christians do not apply since A. Christians do not follow the exact same eating regulations as Jews (because we believe that through Chris, the law is fulfilled and we no longer need to observe it as a literall means to please God, but rather as a curb and mirror to see our mistakes and flaws)) And B, in the book of Acts, God mad it known to the apostle Paul that the eating laws were no longer in affect, and all food could be consumed.
I believe all of that above it correct, I am bad with names and books of the bible but I can recall parts of it well. So go with what I said above if your confused, oh and everyone else who has answered before me, because I know they are right.
I hope this helps.
-Ryan
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OKay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 8 months , and we are definantly in love. Lately we have been talkin about sex, a little more and more each time we talk to each other. Like last night we were texting each other and he said and i quote "Blaire, I love you, & you no that, i would do anything in the world for you. And , well now, i think im ready, for well you know, to have sex. I think we should try it. But only if your ready"
and the thing is , were young. He is 16, im almost 14.(one more week) and well, i would really love to loose my virginity to him, but he has already had sex(he used to be in the major party scene. He quit for me.) So should i have sex with him?
-Confsed (link)
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Simply put, if your unsure and feel you have to ask us here on advicenators for a yes or no...
the answer is no your not ready.
Even if you say here you would want to lose your virginity to him and feel your ready, if you really are coming to ask us for advice, then the answer is no.
Plus, isn't 14 a little young? Most love at 14 is a false love that alot of teenagers think is real love. There is a boundry line and for most teeangers, and they probably won't ever cross it during their teen years. Maybe that is difference from you (8 months can be a big factor there)but I can't tell.
You already know my input, so take it as you wish, it is ultimately your decision to make, but if you question anything about it, your not ready.
I hope this helps.
-Ryan
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I just found out that a distant relative who passed away has left me an 800 dollar inheritance. It may not sound like a lot but to me it is. I should be getting the money within the next month.
I would like to purchase something with the money. I don't want to blow it on clothing or CD's or DVD's. What would be something that I could buy that would be a wise purchase? I already have a DVD player and a computer. (link)
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Investment and bank it.
Here's why. 800 is a very fair amount of money, with a fair amount of interest coming back on it. The higher your cash acount in your bank is the more your interest will be. It will keep paying you for it and that 800 can become alot more money, and then you can really buy something worth it's while, with more options.
And it will help you alot more in the long run if you need money in a pinch.
I hope I helped and you do something good with that money.
-Ryan
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OK, so me and my boyfriend had sex for like 2 minutes at the most!!! He didnt ejaculate or anything but i need to know if theres a chance i could still get pregnant!!! Please help, its urgernt!!! (link)
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Ok before you do anything sexual, atleast know the consequences, that is just poor judgement on both your parts.
Yes your at risk for pregrancy with any kind of intercourse no matter how long it took. Learn before you do it and you won't have to worry about those things.
-Ryan
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i bought an ipod from my friend with the usb cord and all but i have no clue how to get music on it. i was messin arround and got some songs on it somehow but i have no clue what i did. so my question is, how the @#$% do i get music on my ipod?? thanks (link)
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The instruction manual should tell you.
As should the HELP located on your iTunes taskbar.
iTunes is easily one of the simplest programs I have ever seen. So it shouldn't be THAT hard.
Check the manual alright?
-Ryan
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is there anywhere in the bible were it says someone from another race or color cant marriage someone of a different race then them? i was just wonder.
any advice on how to get my parents to approve of me datin a guy of the darker skin then me? (link)
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There is absolutely nothing in the bible to denote different-race relations.
The only kind of relationship God doesn't approve of in the bible is that of a "foreigner" but he used it to apply to the Israelites not marrying anyone non-jewish. Modern day this means try not to have a relationship with a different religion, because then you get influences from that religion that you will end up mixing with you own.
So in conclusion, NOWHERE in the bible does it say you can't have a relationship with someone of the of a different race or color.
I hope this helps and your parents get outside their racial boundries, because the whole boundy thing, is pointless.
-Ryan
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I sit next to this really great guy in school (every class except my extra classes[french and music]). Well he has a girl freind and on monday he starts talking to me and he never talks to me. He asked me for a piece of paper. He asked me to help clean glue out of his desk. Then we start talking about our pets. Then yesterday he poked me on the sholder and smiled at me. What does this MEAN???????? (link)
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Friends?
It would be my guess. And it is painfully obvious. See, friends will usually do that kind of stuff....you know..ask for help..poke and play at each other...TALK ABOUT THINGS.
Painfully obvious so I hope it helped.
-Ryan
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i know this is a pretty stupid question, but who won the flavor of love ? lol i missed the season finale
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www.google.com
Consult the oracle please. And then you will know what you seek.
It's easy, just type in what you want in the search bar. Out of the MILLIONS of results you will get back, I am sure one of them holds your answer.
Hope this helps
-Ryan
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ok so for lent i'm promising myself to walk the dog atleast 1 a week, do 15 situps a day, eating healthy (tho i can never do it) and practice soccer and tennis whenever i can....what else can i do to get results....FAST?
please please help! i'll rate and comment....thanks. (link)
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Define "results"
If you are practicing Lent for the sole purpose of getting in shape, then just do it on your own time and not dedicate it to lent. Lent is something serious, and from the way your talking you don't even know what half of lent is. So just do it for your own time, and don't even bring Lent into the picture, unless you are actually very serious about it.
-Ryan
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ok, for language arts, i have to right a persuasive essay. My topic is america acting as the worlds police, why we shouldnt do this. I basically know what im going to write about, but i need a it of help. One thing ill be writing about are wars that it was unnessescary(sp?) for the U.S. to get involved in. Does anyone know what wars the U.S. was involved in that really didnt need to be involved in? like the original conflict didnt involve the U.S and we didnt get attacked or anything. I think vietnam is one of them....sorry its so long! ♥ (link)
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There is a fine line between necessary and unneeded. For instance. Alot of people (such as the columnist who answered before me) will argue that the war in Iraq is unneeded and uncalled for. But then some will argue it was, as the people were being oppressed and treated inhumanely (such as the exteme prejudice that befell the Kurds in northern Iraq in the 80's). And undecided people are left to wonder, do we just let people suffer, or do we risk our lives to help.
I will have to disagree with the below columnist on his view and forgive me for doing so, but allow me to voice what I want to say. Because we live in America and have we have all these nice things and whatnot, wouldn't you want to share it? Instead of keeping it to yourself and hoarding it. Also let me use a quote which I like very much to prove a point of why I believe this way.
"The only thing it takes for evil men to prosper is for good men to do nothing" - Edmund Burke.
What does this mean? It means that by allowing prejudice and persecution to exist, we are breaking a fundamental human right and as it says in the Bible "Help your neighboor and even those who persecute you, if he asks for your cloak, give him your cloak and tunic. If he asks for bread, give him both bread and water." (I don't remember the exact location of it, but I do know it is in the New Testament in one of the 4 gospels).
Therefore, the war in Iraq and the Vietnam war can't be considered "unnecessary" because both were aimed to release people from oppression and to spread the freedom we as americans enjoy now. Granted, a bit of the Vietnam War can be a result of the "Red Scare" that America expierenced during the Cold War. But the end result was our troops fighting and dying helping others.
I need to apologize for the length of this response, but I think it is necessary for you to realize most wars aren't "unnecessary". Yes warfare is not right, but given circumstances when we have the ability to go somewhere and help some people, then it does become necessary. America to my current knowledge, has not been involed in any wars where they were not threatened or went to war to protect the rights of people and freedom where they saw fit.
Also I wish to make a point about America acting as the world's "police". That is hardly the case. If it were true, we would be in alot more countries fighting alot more wars.
I have made my point and I hope you atleast read it to understand what I am trying to say. So I hope I helped.
-Ryan
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Can anybody analyze these Shakespear poems? :
So shall I live, supposing thou art true,
Like a deceived husband; so love's face
May still seem love to me, though altered new;
Thy looks with me, thy heart in other place:
For there can live no hatred in thine eye,
Therefore in that I cannot know thy change.
In many's looks, the false heart's history
Is writ in moods, and frowns, and wrinkles strange.
But heaven in thy creation did decree
That in thy face sweet love should ever dwell;
Whate'er thy thoughts, or thy heart's workings be,
Thy looks should nothing thence, but sweetness tell.
How like Eve's apple death doth thy beauty grow,
If thy virtue answer not thy show!
And this one as well:
They that have power to hurt, and will do none,
That do not do the thing they most do show,
Who, moving others, are themselves as stone,
Unmoved, cold, and to temptation slow;
They rightly do inherit heaven's graces,
And husband nature's riches from expense;
They are the lords and owners of their faces,
Others, but stewards of their excellence.
The summer's flower is to the summer sweet,
Though to itself, it only live and die,
But if that flower with base infection meet,
The basest weed outbraves his dignity:
For sweetest things turn sourest by their deeds;
Lilies that fester, smell far worse than weeds.
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Shakespeare is hard for some people to understand, therefore I am going to refer you to an oracle.
www.google.com
Searching it is easy, as Shakespeares works are all translater and recorded. Try there and look up the poems, instead of taking the easy way out and getting it analyzed on advicenators. You have to do work to understand shakespeare, so do so and you will pass easily.
I hope this helped and good luck.
-Ryan
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Is breaking up over the phone okay? Or should I make an effort to do it in person? (link)
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To be quite honest, no it isn't.
It is impersonal and if you can, all effort should be made to do so in person. Phone is a cowardice way out of it. But the worst of it all is breaking up over the internet. It may seem awkward to break up person, but you will both thank yourselves later for the honesty put forth by doing so. A phone cannot do that.
I hope I helped and good luck.
-Ryan
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