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OKay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 8 months , and we are definantly in love. Lately we have been talkin about sex, a little more and more each time we talk to each other. Like last night we were texting each other and he said and i quote "Blaire, I love you, & you no that, i would do anything in the world for you. And , well now, i think im ready, for well you know, to have sex. I think we should try it. But only if your ready"
and the thing is , were young. He is 16, im almost 14.(one more week) and well, i would really love to loose my virginity to him, but he has already had sex(he used to be in the major party scene. He quit for me.) So should i have sex with him?
-Confsed
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Honestly you most deffenetly dont want to have sex with him he is lieing to you im sorry i had to say that but come on thats what he wants from you and beside your 13 and if anyone found out at your school it would spread fast and people would call you a slut so dont waste your first time and them later on regret it.
do the right thing
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heck nooooooooo you are to youngggggggggggggg
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first have him tested for diseases and if he loves you like he says he does then he won't have a problem but just ask yourself this, if you're ready for sex are you ready to be a parent? because anything can happen even with protection and all of that. my mom had me when she was on birth control. i'm kind of in the same position as you but less serious if you know what i mean. you deffinately are young and i think that's the only reason i don't really want to have sex. i don't want any chance of getting pregnant. just be careful and be smart.
modelkate11
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I am laughing at some of the replies you have gotten here. Many are just saying "No you're too young" or "He just wants the sex and doesn't care about you"
That is pretty funny since in the time he has been with you, he has quit partying and HASN'T PRESSURED YOU into sex. You have been together 8 months which is a long time to be together without having sex.
He is brining it up because he is ready and is trying to find out if you are. If all he wanted was sex, he would have left by now and found someone who would have given it up.
Since the two of you are having open conversations about sex (which is an excellent thing by the way) tell him that you would like to lose your virginity to him...just not quite yet. He is over 2 years older than you and he should take that into consideration.
He seems like a decent guy..despite what these other twats are saying..give him a chance to show you and ask him to wait for you a little longer until YOU feel that you are ready.
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Okay--he's had sex before, he knows the lines well. Since he is not a virgin--he has been ready since the day you two met!
"Blaire, I love you, & you no that, i would do anything in the world for you. And , well now, i think im ready, for well you know, to have sex. I think we should try it. But only if your ready"
In otherwords he thinks he is being smooth, but really he is more interested in sex than how you really feel. (What 16 year old male isn't?)But now because you asked, you know the truth..that's what they all say!
If you are afraid of losing him if you don't comply then he is not the right guy for you. If he does leave you because you won't have sex, he was only using you. So my answer is no--don't have sex with him. If he sticks around until you are much older, good for him, just write back and tell me I was wrong.
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no honey! you could get pregnant! you are NOT ready!
kathryn
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you're not ready
its obvious
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I concurr; if you have to ask if you're ready to people on Advicenators then you're really not ready to go for it.
And plus, you are young. Fourteen? You have your whole life ahead of you to have sex. For now, just enjoy life. Because once you start, you'll have to face consequences. And you don't want to do that when you're so young.
<33 jessica
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Simply put, if your unsure and feel you have to ask us here on advicenators for a yes or no...
the answer is no your not ready.
Even if you say here you would want to lose your virginity to him and feel your ready, if you really are coming to ask us for advice, then the answer is no.
Plus, isn't 14 a little young? Most love at 14 is a false love that alot of teenagers think is real love. There is a boundry line and for most teeangers, and they probably won't ever cross it during their teen years. Maybe that is difference from you (8 months can be a big factor there)but I can't tell.
You already know my input, so take it as you wish, it is ultimately your decision to make, but if you question anything about it, your not ready.
I hope this helps.
-Ryan
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No, I don't think you should have sex when you're only fourteen. In my opinion, sex should be saved until after marriage, but if you don't believe in that at least wait until you're eighteen and ready to take the responsibility of the things that could happen if you had sex. If your boyfriend loves you he'll wait for you and won't need sex in your relationship until you're ready. Do what you think is right and if your descision makes you feel like it's not right, then don't do it.
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well hun,personally i think your too young and i think this guy sounds a little to fake to me but then again i dont really know him but i wouldnt trust him.If you are DEFFINATELY SURE you love him then go for it,just make sure its for all the right reasons and you end up not regreting it later on.Make sure to also know the dangers of having sex like getting an STD from him,and getting pregnant i would suggest asking him to get a check up at the doctors to make sure everythings okay before you do it.Remember to also wear a condom ; ].I agree with the girl below me though,if you need advice on adviceanators about having sex then you might not be wuite ready the decision is all up to you not us.Good Luck!
♥ danielle
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well personally i think your pretty young but if you feel that you really love him then go for it. but first i would think of the consquences, like possibly getting pregnant, him leaving you after, or just regretting it. but if you truely think he loves you and you love him then i would go for it but if you arent ready then dont let him rush you into anything. hope everything works out <3
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Follow your heart. But, to be honest, he seems like a dick to me. I personally think all he wants is sex. Haven't you read stories about 16 year-olds dating 14 year old's, and then breaking up with them? Leaving emotional pain? Duh. But, I don't know him myself, so what can I tell you? He's been with you for 8 months. You are 13. Almost 14. Wait. Unless you marry him, he won't be worth it.
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Make the right choice.
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Well i think you should do it if your ready and seriouly love him..
Now you might want to think about this as much as possible and be ready for possible consequences..
Be responsible..Use a condom and possibly get on birth control..
♥Dez
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Don't do anything unless you are sure about it. Your virginity is one of those things you just can't get back once its gone. It sounds like he would wait for you.
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