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is it possible to cure yourself of depression? and what are some things that help others. i think im mildly depressed and dont want to be a hassle to my parents cause i already am haha i just want to make myself feel better and i know its like something chemically but idk if mine is cause its mild and with God's help maybe i could. idk just tell me what you think and suggestions (link)
you cant actualy cure depression (i would know i have it) it never goes away even if you start bein happy again its still stuck in the back of your mind so just go see a doctur for me because im not brave enuf


OK, I am concerned with the look of my vagina. I think that it is not similar to, well, other girls vaginas. Not that I sit and study them, but I have seen porn and well I feel as if mine is not like theirs. I feel as if my "lips" sag compared to others, and from what I know it can be fixed. I have seen DR. 90210 and seen the same idea and cut off excess skin. Do any of you know anything more of this situation or the name? (link)
dont worry mine do that two its no big deal if it really bothers you just have surgery


Hello I'm a 13 year old female in a bit of a dilemma.

I get singing lessons and is pretty good at singing now but now I want to take up martial arts. But the thing is I can't do both because my dad can't afford both. I really like singing but I also want to learn how to fight.

Which should I pick? If martial arts which type e.g. karate, judo etc. (link)
Ok you have a problem k i use to take martial arts but when i got my orange belt i would cry if my mom told me we were going and then i got back into it and guess how many classes i was doing a DAY i was doing 4 clases a day and then when i got my red belt i started hitting my mother because i didnt want to go you are going to get tierd of it trust me and then you cant go and try out for sumthing with martial arts but you can with singing so stick with singing its a hobbie and could be a future


okay... im getting crest whit strips for christmas and im expecting like holli--white teeth. I dont have like gross green teeth but there slightly yellow.
what should I say if people notice my teeth got whiter and
do they dissovle.. or to they taste bad?
and what should I expect.? (link)
You normally can notice if you whiten your teeth. I can notice like really easily, but thats just me (I have really white teeth)
Crest White Strips do NOT dissolve. There like strips you just keep over your teeth for a half hour, twice a day. They taste kinda bad :/, buuttt you shouldnt be able to taste it if put on correctly. They don't taste like HORRIBLE or anything haha
But theres a new one, by Listerine. THESE dissolve, and taste kinda good! I think they have similar test results. If you get the crest ones, then you could always get the Listerine ones to follow up.
You should expect whiter teeth.
If people notice your teeth got whiter, DONT LIE! That would make you look lame. First day of school this year, I actually asked like 6 people what the did to their teeth. Theyre all like Crest white strips! nothing to be embarassed about, Just say it!
keep me updated, becuase they might not work for you, but they do work for more peoplee =]


is there any way to cure depression without help of meds? im not sure what i am. if anyone knows what im talking about, i feel i perhaps have long-term dysthmia. but dysthmia according to sources lasts for 2 years? then what if youre still sad in year 3? is it full-blown depression then? what is it, if not? exercise is hard to fit into schedule. i do not get much sleep. what can i do to help that without those sleep tricks people always say to use? like is there a good medicine i can take for insomnia or im not sure what valerian root does.. i would greatly appreciate any comments (link)
im depressed too but i think going to the doctor and taking meds only work for some people we must not be thoes people any way i just try to forget about it do somthing fun even thoe its hard there is some sleep med that i take but it dosnet really help until the next morning so i dont recamend it i just say go out tomarow and find a new friend dont be shy or sad just go out there i hope i helped a little and if you will please answer my quistion under "i wish i was like the other girls" or somthing like that it is the first quision i asked i share the acount with a friend


Is there any website that lets you watch the Spanish dubbed South Park episodes?

I've tried googling and found nothing. (link)
OMG hae you heard of youtube


so for when im 18, i would like to go to cancun mexico with a couple best friends.
no parents, just a bunch of 18 year old girls & boys.

does anyone know of a good hotel that has a bunch of people close to our age?

night clubs around cancun that are HOT?

any suggestions for summer in cancun?

thanks! (link)
well there is the hilton it is a very nice hotel (i went there in cancun) and it has 3 resterants an ocean view for about half the rooms and 8 swimming pools and about a mile away are a couple clubs i havent been there but i have driven by there a couple times and they looked cool i hope i helped and i hope you have a fun time


how do i get rid of a cold sore FAST! I can feel one forming on my upper lip and i know it will be big by tomorrow morning. (link)
abreva and/or zovirax. but if you cant go to the store...break it with a needle or something. then put warm water and salt in a bottle and shake it. then open the bottle and put it over the cold sore. and let it sit there soaking for a while. my friend told me that a few months ago and i did it and it worked. it will have a sore cut spot i guess, a small one, but its better than a huge blistery sick thing! ahha. ps, holding ice reduces swelling if its too late.


how do you curve your cravings?
i can never do it and i end up bingeing and stuff thats not good.

any advice would be awesome thanks :D (link)
Here's whatcha do:

Chew a piece of gum
Suck on a mint or hard candy
Distract yourself by going on the computer
Listen to music
Eat a low calorie snack
watch tv and change the channel when a food commercial comes up

Hope I helped!


I might get this bed set.

http://store.delias.com/browse.do?categoryKey=roomwares.room.heart&splashTrack=room

I'd like to hear your opinions on it. And if I got it what color should I paint my room? On the picture it has green but I'd rather paint it a diffrent color. Any ideas?

Thanks (link)
I guess the bed spread is okay, not my style. I'm into more bright colors, and that looks a bit 5th-6th grade for me NO OFFENSE! (I'm really not trying to offend you, honest.) But if you were to get it and paint the room, I'd go with a medium blue, it makes the bed spread pop. I like the hearts though :]
Have fun!


I have severe nose descongestion since forever. I used this nasal spray containing HCL or w/e and some doctor told me not to use it any longer as it is harmful but I cannot breathe without it when I am trying to sleep. Now I am sick and I have to keep waking up every 3 hours to spray some more of the stuff into my nostrils even though it is not a good idea to use it for more than 3 days as it says behind the bottle. I don't even know what that means. Does anyone have a similar problem and a solution to nasal decongestion? (link)
Sollution, not really, but I am suffering from the same condition.

I used to be addicted to that stuff, I understood that I cant be using it forever and finally learned to live breathing from my mouth.

At First I couldn t sleep. I couldn t eat.
You eat and you try to breath at the same time and you are kind of gasping and it makes you look funny lol...

Now its OK.
I ll give you some other advice though, drink a ot of water and always keep water next to your bed.When you sleep and breath with your mouth open, it gets really really really dry.So you get thirsty.
Also try applying some vaseline on your lips before sleeping.Sometimes they get so dry, they get cuts and bleed.Vaseline is good for your lips.


how do i get the motivation to firm up my body. i am very busy adn jsut had heart surgery. so it has to be quick easy adn fun... a work out that takes 15 min a few times a week in a small space... i dont need to loose weight i weigh only 110 adn i'm 5'3" so i'm just fine, but since my health issues ive lost my tone can anyone help (link)
Hmmm, you could try doing pilates or maybe a kick boxing class? I like yoga, and it is SUCH a good stress releiver, which, I may add, you can do anywhere at anytime even with music on, which makes it more fun. Try doing a class with some friends, that is always guarenteed to grant you a good time. If you want motivation, remind yourself that you have to stay fit, that you want to look good and stay healthy. :]
Good luck!


I love this version of the song. where can i get the instrumental version off the internet? please post a direct link to it. thanks. (: (link)
Is this what you're looking for?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G97EvoyC-uA&feature=related

or

http://girls-aloud-jingle-bell-rock-lyrics-mp3.kohit.net/_/35337

^^scroll down and look for the title of the song and press the blue and white box before the title. this will let you download it.

Hope that was what you were searching for! If not, sorry in advance.



well my ex is at again... he told my bf that i cheated on him with an ex from years ago who isnt even in town and lives far away...wtf...well now my bf and ex are becoming good buddies and my bf said he was sorry for asuming in an email but then when i talked to him he said he jsut wants to drop it and he dont believe me but he jsut wants ot be with me so bad that he dont care... ok if i cheated would i be here trying to figure it out... no and i didnt and i swear on my life.... how do i get him to believe me... ps i have cheated on him once before but so has he... so taht makes it harder please help (link)
You both cheated on one another and he doesn't believe that you didn't cheat on him again? Hmmm, sounds to me like you two have some trust issues and your ex isn't helping. I think that you should stop flirting (if you are) with every guy except your boyfriend because this will prove to him that you can be trusted and that he is your only sweetie :] hehe. You should also probably try talking to him again, and if he doesn't care, maybe you should just leave it at that. You know that you didn't cheat on him, and if he doesn't believe you or not, at least you guys are still together. Just act normal as usual, like nothing ever happened and move on with your lives, you'll have a better time that way. Maybe your ex is just jealous, and that's why he is starting trouble, but don't worry, just be loyal to your boyfriend and everything will be okay.
Good luck and I hope I helped!


In the book "Why french women don't get fat" it says to drink coffee after meals because it helps digest the meal better.

However I don't like coffee much, so I was wondering do you think tea would do the same thing? I know it's healthier for you but I'm not sure whether it would help disgest the food though. (link)
Here's the thing about coffee:
It may stunt your growth.
There are other ways to digest your food, and if drinking coffee is one of them, I wouldn't reccomend it. You should stick with the tea because it is healthier. It is a fact that yes, coffee suppresses your appetite, which makes you not want to eat, but tea helps speed up your metabolism which makes you burn off fat quicker which will amount to you losing some weight.
Plus, coffee stains your teeth: yuckk.
:] I vote tea!
(hope I helped)


Okay, since I was 4 I've been chubby. I never exercised (My mum feared I'd get hurt) and I always ate junk food because my Dad doesn't know how to cook and my Mum was pretty lazy. I'm not HUGE, actually for my lifestyle choices all my life I think I've been pretty lucky. You seriously don't know how bad it was.

Anyway my question is: Do you think I'd be able to lose weight. I'm not expecting to drop the weight in weeks or even months. I'm looking at a long term thing. I've always been chubby so do you think it's possible? I'm 15/f by the way.

My plan is: Drink nothing but water, go for a 20-30 minute walk everyday (I live in a real hilly area so that's good) and eat really healthy foods and never eat junk food.

Do you think I'd be able to do it? I don't care how long it takes. (link)
I am 100% sure that you'll be able to pull it off. But don't swear off junk foods just yet, you can always enjoy a chocolate or two :] Everyone is capable of losing weight, but you have to be dedicated. You won't shed the pounds as quickly as you must want to, but in time you'll be at your goal weight :] Make sure you get three meals a day, this will help your metabolism and you can drink some juices, water can get boring after a while :]
Good luck and stay healthy*


pretty much self explanatory :]
cute mushy love songs pleeeeeeeeease!
thank you so much! (link)
:] here's some you should try...

Nickelback: Far Away
Jimmy Eat World: Sweetness
Rihanna/Neyo: hate that I love you
Chris Brown: Young love
Natasha Bedingfield/Sean Kingston: Love like this
Colbie Caliat: Bubbly
Jordin Sparks: Tattoo
Nicole Scherzinger: Baby Love
Alicia Keys: No one
Howie Day: Collide
Life House: you and me
BabyFace: Nobody knows it but me
Youth Asylum: Color everywhere
Edwin Mccain: I'll be

Those are just a few of some outrageously cute love songs. Enjoy :]


I am 17 years old with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome). Having this condition is extremely hard. I get sore breakouts all over my skin followed with some skin discoloration. It's hard to keep a guy when I get these breakouts, painful menstrual cramps (because of the cysts), I get random depression and sometimes I break down and cry out of nowhere. My doctor put me on birth control, antidepressants, metformin, and an NSAID. I am on a diet, but with the diet and medication it doesn't help my symptoms very well. I'm even scared to death of becoming infertile because I really want kids someday.

Please, if anyone with PCOS or anyone who knows someone with it, please give me some advice on how to deal with it and maybe some encouragement on having kids, getting a guy who will accept me for it, and my mood swings.

I would appreciate it a lot because right now I feel no sense of living with this condition,

Thanks. (link)
I have pimples on my arms, and they are so gross. They haven't gone away, I've been everywhere, and I haven't found any treatment. I don't love my skin, but I deal with it, sometimes it's oily, sometimes its extremley dry. And I had given up on ever having a boyfriend, until I finally realized that i shouldn't care! If a boy is going to not like you because of something you can't help, then they are heartless and shallow. You will eventually find a guy who can see past all of your flaws and love you for you. But this won't happen right away or maybe it will...and it's not your fault that you have PCOS, and I'm sure that you'll have kids someday. Just try not to think about it, and you ARE beautiful just the way you are, and if people tell you other wise then they are just jealous. Try listening to music, or getting a new hair cut, maybe even going on a shopping spree to make you feel as pretty as you are. Do something spontaneous, and always walk with your head held high, you deserve a guy who will treat you no differently (or 100 times better than) anyone without PCOS. Someday you'll meet that "prince charming" and live happily ever after, but until then, keep taking your medicine and try your best to think positively because your life is worth living. Trust me, some people have it worse than you do, but you're not alone. Nobody is perfect :]
Hope you feel better!


16/f. I've liked a certain guy, lets call him A, since I was 11 in the 6th grade. That's a pretty long time. We are both now sophomores. Its a major crush. This guy...I'm like in love with him. I don't even think it's infatuation..because its just been there for such a long time. I dream about him, when I see him, my heart just beats really quickly...I always want to impress him. He notices me, but doesn't say anything. Just kinda...puts his head down...and listens to what I'm saying to my friends (JUST TO GAIN HIS ATTENTION =[) He smiles at me a lot.
When we make eye contact in class, he smiles. He nods...there's this certain understanding between us (we both speak Russian) But I don't know if he likes me or if he doesn't. Thing is...I've lost so much weight and gotten so much better looking since those 5 years ago. I KNOW that I have 'potential' without being conceited. But Ive never had a boyfriend. And I just really want it to work out with him. He's a really shy guy and rarely talks to anyone. But he's just so amazing, smart and nice. I actually think we might both be shy...because I'm way too scared to start up a conversation with him! I don't wanna sound stupid ;_; I'm just..so confused. I want him to know. I don't know how though. It's tearing me up!
Any help will be VERY appreciated (link)
Wow! You've liked him for that long? So, what's holding you back? I'm sure that since you are both russian, have a mutaul understanding of one another, and are both shy, that is a lot to have in common with a person you don't even know. Just imagine how much more you two probably have in common! Just talk to him, I'm sure he wouldn't mind since he is obviously attracted to you. And even though you haven't had a boyfriend, this guy seems like he would be your best bet to have one. So go say hi, introduce yourself, in the long run, I bet you'll be happy that you did. Trust me, I would know. :]
Good luck with the relationship! Hope I helped.


so my friend and i are...i mean WERE best buds, until i found out that she told her friend about my secrets of liking this boy, and then to make me jealous, her friend (my bff's friend) was deliberetly making out in the hallway RIGHT in front of me! The thing is, my bff's friend has a bf! so i grabbed him in the hallway right in front of her and made out with him! now my bff is mad at me and is bffs with her friend who made out with the guy i like! what do i do? forgot to add...she was (with her hand!) starting from his shoulders, down to his middle pelvis in between his legs...if ya know what i mean...i am soooo mad (link)
Ouch. Man, that was so not cool of your bff or her friend. But maybe you shouldn't have taken it to the extreme of stooping to her level and making out with the other guy, I know it was a heat of the moment thing, hard to prevent, but nobody can take it back. It's okay for you to be mad at your bff and her friend, you have a right to, and if your bff is going to spill all of your secrets to another friend, she wasn't your friend in the first place. That was really wrong of them to do that to you, and it shouldn't have happened. But, I would move on and try to forget about it because they aren't worth your time.
Hope I helped!

But I do understand what it's like! It hurts...a lot. And I know the rage you must be feeling and you must have a broken heart but life will go on! He is just a boy, ONE boy, and there are plenty more. If you cherish your relationship with your bff so much, talk to her, resolve things, and if you can't, then you were better off without her! I know that revenge seemed liek a good solution at the time, but I'm pretty sure you're not the only one who is hurt. I suggest talking with them and apologizing, if that doesn't work, there's not really anything you can do. I'm sorry that you don't think I understand, but I do. I really do.




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