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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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so im going out with this guy and he's super amazing!!!!! but then theres this other guy who im best friends with but we've been a little bit more then just friendly lately...i dont know what to do should i break up with my bf for my best friend or just stop being as friendly? im 15 and female
Nobody here can decide what you should do, It is your personal choice of who you want to date. As long as the age is legal, The choice is yours. Who makes you happier? Who can you see yourself with? etc. However, The respectful thing to do is if you wanted to be with your friend rather than your boyfriend would to be to let your boyfriend know.
what does putting out mean?
Putting out is slang term for agreeing to intercourse. It's slang term and often relates to a sexual conversation.
"I heard Jane Doe put out" - Jane Doe agrees to have intercourse.
The term "putting out" can be directed at a man or a woman
I've heard the world was going to come to an end on 2012, 2011, and on a thursday in 2011, is that truee at all?
No, Not true.
20-female.
So, I've never given a guy a hand job or blow job before. I've never had a serious relationship ..maybe this is why? I've never been comfortable enough? But I've had sex before & I love it. It's pretty strange. Anyways I would be up for trying this I'm just embarrassed because I've never done it before! How can you tell a guy that you've never done this without sounding like a complete idiot? Whenever there was a time I had the chance to give one ..I just couldn't try because I was embarrassed (of course I've never told the guys I've never given one) I've been talking to this guy for a while and I feel we will start dating soon. So I don't want to mess it up with him. I have a feeling he think I've already done basically everything with a guy. So when we do start getting physical, how can I let him know that I've never done it but would be willing to try. Would it be a turn off that I never have done this before?
Any advice on what I could say ..please?
Understand that being experienced is not everything in a relationship is neither is sex. As it plays a big part in relationships, Everyone learns one way or another and sometimes we learn a little later as well. This is nothing to be ashamed about or embarrassed about. When that times comes, You and your spouse will hopefully trust one another and can openly discuss the subject. When the talk comes, You can explain the situation in a mature manner. Express that you feel nervous, and you are a little unsure of what to do. This is also not something to feel ashamed about if your spouse is mature at all then he should understand how you feel. Respect, Trust and Honesty play a huge role. Don't ever feel ashamed about something like that. However, Don't jump the gun either slow down a bit until you two actually dated awhile.
So basically me and my boyfriend had made 2 years on december 4th. We was suppose to be going out that day but he clamed that his mom took his money or whatever , but I had asked him the day before we was suppose to be going out and he said he had the money. So the day of our anniversary I got my hair done and make up but come to find out that we wasn't going anymore . I felt so hurt like I got played . So he called and said sorry but I just didn't feel like talking to him. So I didn't speak to him for two days . so I been thinkin about breakin up with him . Not because we didn't go out for our anny but it was because he cheated on me a couple of times and lied about everything . So I was looking for him in school but come to find out that he hurt his knee and he was going to be getting surgery. So this is making it harder for me to do what I have to do . Instead I'm just so worried about being here for him . Do u think that after he gets better that I should just leave him or should I do it now before matters get worse. Or should I just wait and see if he is going to change and really try to make us work . Please help me I don't know what to do
Dump him
Your boyfriend lied to you, He can't show moral respect in your relationship to be truthful...His lying has killed your trust and without that there is no relationship. Your boyfriend lied so much it eventually led to blowing you off, excuse after excuse. Fact: He isn't worth your time
I am fifteen, a girl, sophomore. Here's the story. I met this guy the summer before my freshman year. People told me he was a player and just wanted to use me but no, I saw something different. And so we started talking and he was funny and sweet and nice and I started to like him and he liked me back. We started dating and it was great. He was my first boyfriend and my first kiss. I have never been happier than i was those first four months. He made me feel so special. But he is sixteen at the time, a sophomore, and I was fourteen, a freshman. And he told me how the girl he was with before, well he fingered her. This scared me. I thought, I dont wanna do that stuff, I'm not ready but he assured me that our relationship meant more to him than the physical stuff. But things started changing. We would hang out and be making out and he'd try and slip a hand down my pants but I'd always pull it out. We never talked about it but it kept happening. Finally, I let him finger me. Next he started asking for handjobs and I would say no but... I gave him one. I didn't know what was happening at the time but I started to get sooo whipped. Anything he told me to do I'd do, just in general. I was going through some rough times with my friends and parents so he basically became my life. He was the only thing I thought was going well. I couldn't lose him. He told me he loved me. And I told him we were too young but eventually I said it back. And I began to feel it to. I really did love him in all of my twistedness. But he began to grow distant and the more he pulled away the more I clung to him. Thigs were falling apart but I couldn't let go. He forced me to look him in the eye and he told me he loved me. So when he asked for a bj I did it... I trusted him. He dumped me four days later in a text message. I asked how he could say he loved me on day and then four days later not want a thing to do with me. He said we were never in love. He said we were too young. We dated all school year, broke up on the first day of summer. It was the worst summer of my life. He told people how far we went; that I put out. I told him I hated him. I said horrible things to him but I still wanted him back. He moved on quickly. It broke my heart to see him flirt with other girls and hear rumors of his hook ups. It tore me to pieces. In the middle of the summer he said he wanted to apologize for how he handled everything, that he was an ass. (all in text of course). But I wouldn't accept his apology. School starts again and I yelled at him. For such a stupid reason... He ignored me and I sent him nasty texts. I felt bad after and tried to apologize but he said he doesn't care. He doesn't wven want to be friends. And I think I still love him... It's been eight months since we broke up and not a single day goes by that I don't wish he wanted me back too. I think about him 24/7. I texted him the other night because it actually wasnt until a few weeks ago that I noticed how clingy I was in our relationship. I used to blame everything on him but I know I had a part in our relationship failure and I wanted to apologize. It was in text. He said he appreciated it and we had a nice little conversation but I texted him a few days ago and he said yup and then didn't reply... He knows I want to be friends and he kind of knows I still like him (I think) but I don't think he wants a thing to do with me. But I'm miserable without him. I don't understand. It's been so log since we broke up and Ive done the hook ups, the hanging out with your girls, the finding new hobbies, I even went a week pinching myself whenever I thought of him. I dated another guy but I broke up with him recently because I know o still want my ex. I just don't know what to do. I'm desperate right now and I want to be happy again but I feel like it's neve gonna happen. I know I'm young. Don't tell me that. That's not going to take away any of this pain and I want it gone. I just need help on getting through this. And not a lecture.
It sounds like he told you what you wanted to hear, He clearly took advantage of you. Him saying what you wanted to hear is his bait way of gaining your trust. I would honestly move on, You can't change what happened but you can change what happens next time in a future relationship. You are young, Too young to be having sex but I'm not going to lecture you but I will say you might want to think before you do. Reality, Most teenage boys these days only go for one thing, It's extremely rare you actually find one that isn't your typical horny teenager. How do you prevent it? Take it slow. If he seems pushy then there you go...You've got yourself another pig that needs a boot in the ass.
No, You don't want him he disrespected you.
Well i've been with my boyfriend for four years, and i'm one of those girls who no matter how many times i hear that porn is okay i can't get it through my head and it still hurts, well i had learned to accept it as long as he did it when we weren't going to have sex, but i recently found out he does it like after or before we have sex i asked him not to because it bothers me and i caught him again, and after a while he admitted he had a problem and was addicted and was going to seek help, so i stumbled upon porn filters and i mentioned it to him and he said he wouldn't mind but i don't know how porn works with guys, will this cause him to want to do others girls now that he can't wack it to just the thought of others? cause i always researched how to accept your guy looking at porn and they always said " you should be happy he's trying to control it not doing the real thing" hes always looked at porn so i don't know what problems it's going to cause if i apply this filter. What do you guys think
Yes, It is wrong in all cause you would be violating your boyfriends rights.
Everyone looks at porn, Woman, Guys, Horny Teenagers...This isn't a wrong thing. You telling your boyfriend that he can't look at porn is like telling him he can't be a typical guy. Checking out porn here and there is one thing but if your guy has a problem where he watches porn 24.7 and plays with his dillyhoo rather than pleasuring his girlfriend well then it's completely understandable to why you feel the way you do. However, Even if he did have a problem filtering his computer without his permission is yes indeed 100% wrong, Here we have a clear case of lacking trust. You need to sit down and discuss how you feel on the subject with your boyfriend, Lay down some rules and talk it out. You applying a filter to his computer without his permission is asking for one hell of an argument.
Last time i had sex for the first time with my boyfriend of 2 years. It was great and we used condoms (i'm not on the pill yet) and it didn't rip. It hurt at first and then it was okay...but i feel so weird now. I feel like i'm pregnant and i'm stressing over it. I'm so scared. Is there any way to find out NOW? Its only been a day
The recommend time of taking a home pregnancy test is 10-14 days after intercourse. Taking a home pregnancy test a day after is not going to give you a positive result.
If you don't want to get pregnant keep using condoms, If you REALLY don't want to get pregnant I sure as hell would try and get on that pill if you can. First of all, You didn't mention your period but I'm going to throw it in here anyways. Several things can delay a period...Stress, Weight gain or weight loss, Illness related, Pregnancy, Depression etc. You used a condom, Likewise you aren't pregnant if you don't get your period about 2 weeks after you are due THEN take a pregnancy test. For now, You are getting yourself way to worked up, Your being paranoid...Chill.
18/f and my boyfriend is 15
Well me and my boyfriend decided we would abstain from having sex. We've been dating for 7 months now and most of the time everything is great. While we may not be having sex we still do other things (pretty much everything but actual intercourse). His mom has come home and seen us messing around in my car before he went in the house and just told him later that she understands how it is but he needs to wait to have sex and he said we were so it sounds like problem solved. Well not really because he's been a few minutes late for curfew lately and apparently the other night she told him to "be careful in what he chooses to do because some things you cant take back" i think he thought she was talking bout curfew but i instantly thought she was talking about sex. Thats what it sounds like to me. I dont know if she saw us messing around again or what but what do i do to convince her that we arent having sex. It's hard enough to abstain so cutting off everything just wont happen. I get that he's only 15 but he is way mature for his age and is a really good guy. I guess im wondering if i should talk to her? I really dont want to but if i have to i guess i will. I think he should say something to her but i just dont know what he could say that will convince her to trust that we are abstaining.
Be careful, Be VERY careful
Depending on the state, You don't have to actually have sex with a minor to be charged. If his mother DID decide to press charges you could very well fall under the following:
Child Molestation, Sexual Contact of a minor etc.
Why aren't you dating someone your own age?..Too mature for the age of 15, The fact is it does not change that he is a minor and is still a child.
i'm currently a criminal justice major in college and am looking into the FBI or GBI. i understand they do background checks for these types of jobs. i got a misdemeanor citation for underage possession of alcohol when i was 19, paid my fines, and served probation. would something like this prevent me from getting in to the FBI or GBI? other than that i have 2 speeding tickets, but have never been arrested or anything like that. any help is appreciated!
I'm not very familiar with exactly HOW to become an FBI agent but you seem to be on the right track with criminal justice. However, To answer part of your question...
If you received a misdemeanor charge at the age of 19, In some cases they will make an exception to getting a record expunged. Most expunges all depend on how severe the charges and how recent it was. You normally would have to wait at least 5 years for the judges approval...Will it effect you becoming an FBI agent well it shouldn't as long as you wait until your 5 years and expunge it, Nothing looks good on a record.
Okay, I have bowl problems and I'm constipated a lot. I usually take extra fiber to help me but lately I haven't had the money to buy any. I've tried eating high fiber foods but it doesn't help all that much. But that's not my question is: lately ill have the feeling come that I need to poop but when I go try all that come out is this thick white sticky substance. What is this and what can I do to stop it.
Sounds like it could be mucous, However if this problem continues you may want to see a doctor just to make sure nothing is wrong.
20f
How can you tell a guy you have your period. Lets say they started touching you, wanting to hook up ..how do you basically tell them no because you have your period without grossing or freaking them out even though they shouldn't be in the first place or even without making it awkward.
Simply say "I just wanted to let you know ahead of time, I'm on my cycle" If you plan to do something like that inform him ahead of time.
A guy who acts immature with something like that is obviously to immature for sex.
20-female.
I've been with two guys and they both knew what they were doing sexually and I think them knowing what they're doing to you is such a turn on.
Now this boy i'm with now he doesn't seem to really know what he's doing which is a little bit of a turn off. We haven't exactly done anything yet but we were texting and he was like I am reading this womens health magazine. And I was like umm please tell me why you're reading that and he said there is a good article about love and sex and it gives good tips. And then I was like well what have you learned. And he was saying stuff like "you're suppose to talk dirty when spooning, grabbing a girls boobs while cuddling is a turn on, you're suppose to get dirty in the shower because it intensifies my arousal."
I was thinking, oh gosh when we actually get to the point of doing anything sexual I have a feeling he is not going to be able to turn me on and I'll be thinking "what is he doing..?" I feel so bad that I feel this way, what can I do to help him? Just tell him what I like? I don't know why I find this such a turn off..can someone please give me some advice on what to do. I feel bad for him.
Relax
Not all guys are experts when it comes to doing the nasty! I understand that it's not exactly arousing to know that you have to teach your man what to do. Hey, This is where practice comes to play, Everyone learns in different ways and sometimes it takes role play to make it perfect. Your actions can make him feel insecure, The one thing you don't want to do is to let him down and kill his pride. Be understanding, If you have to set an example by taking charge and gradually you can show him what HE is supposed to do to you. Also, It's not a bad thing to have an open discussion about sex with your partner when you two are sexually active or about to become so. Discussing sex and sexual desires can increase sexual desires for one another and can improve. Give your man some credit for reading the magazine at least he is making an effort to try. Hell, It could be worse! He could just dive in head first!(lol) ;)
I have a maltipoo who is 6 months. She weighs 2 pounds and has thinner fur. She's very tiny and when I
take her out to go potty, she freezes! She has boots and a jacket. But they don't seem to help much. I'm trying to potty train her but I don't know, should I switch to like .. Litter box or something :/
Your dog is small, The cold weather will make her freeze like you said.
Not all pet clothing is guaranteed to keep them toasty warm especially for the smaller pups. You're best bet is to try a Pee Pad! These are convenient for potty training indoors, It will take some time for your pup to get the hang of it but eventually she should pick up on it. :) When she does a poop in the house, Put it on her pee pee pad and eventually she will gradually get the picture.
I don't know why but i want a Verizon phone over and at&t phone. Can someone tell me why most people say Verizon's better? Or is it not? Are they equal? Bottom line, which one has better service? 'Cause I know they have the same features and similar phones. So can someone break it down for me, thanks. And for ever which service is better ( V or A) can you explain.Thank You.
If I had to choose one, I'd go with AT&T
I've had A LOT of problems with Verizon in the past, They have charged me for unused features I've never used or ordered, I had to call them up and argue with the sales person insisting something went wrong on my bill they took it off however the charge continued for 3 months in a row....Well, This is just my luck however I'm not saying that you would run into this problem but my choice would be AT&T definitely. Good luck
so, I originally just got him some $5 boxers. he then told me today that he was getting me a necklace, around $100. as guessed... I feel very cheap. -_- I was thinking about getting him something custom, like a picture of us, but I've already done that. anything else custom I can't think of him actually using. (like mugs or anything like that.) he's getting me a gift from his heart, and I want to do the same. any suggestions?
What does your guy friend like?
Gift cards are an awesome gift, If you friend likes video games (assuming by his age he might) Why not a gift card to game stop?
Hey, Dudes like food you can't go wrong with a gift card to his favorite restaurant either.
Another cool idea, Movie passes! Ain't often you run into someone who doesn't like to see a new release.
Remember, It's not all about the money, It's the thought that counts! If you feel that 5 bucks isn't enough...Well, Add something to it but it doesn't have to be a pocket burner either. ;)
Is if reasonable for a guy to give a gift to his girlfriend at christmas if they started dating in Novmeber?
Yes, It's the thoughtful idea.
Ok I am a 26 year old male... It's a girl that I have been talking to for the last three months...We haven't seen each other we meet off of
a social networking site... But we haven't seen each other before... But for the last three month we have been texting each other everyday and, talking on the phone everynight for hours... We have been sort of liking each other since we talked... But we both kept the relationship on a friendly manner... But when other females try to talk to me she gets jealous and vice versa... so the day before yesterday we both admmited that we liked each other... And if our meeting went right we will date each other... shes way on the east coast and im on the westcoast... but next month i was gonna fly out there and take her on a date... and we were going to hang out... so i asked her could we have sex... and she got all mad and was like no... she treated me as if i was wrong... but 5 min before she was saying that she would rape me... i mean i knew she was joking but we joked alot on a sexual manner... she's 20 and she has been with 5 guys and three different women... so it's not lik shes a virgin... and i dont think i was wrong because i have been talking to her 4 three months and i geinuly wanted to start a relationship when we meet... I'm upset because I started to grow feelings but at the same time... I think she was wrong for treating me like this...what do you think?
Certainly isn't the smartest choice you've made..
Lets back track, You are going to fly half way across the United States to see a woman you've never met? I'm surprised she had enough self respect to turn down sex. Did you ever wonder why she was on a dating site? Well, This woman has been with 5 guys and three different woman and you honestly want to go and fuck her?...I think you should do some serious thinking to whether you are thinking with your head or your manhood. Anybody can say things over the internet, Through texting etc. and as much as someone comes across as nice, sweet and innocent 99% of people you'll meet through dating sites or on the internet in general are never exactly who they say they are. Just from her description she is likely a BIG waste of time. Meet someone local, That would certainly be a smarter move anyhow.
There's this guy that I'm seeing [not exclusively in a relationship though] that goes to my college. He took a long break between high school and college and he's not a third year (I'm a first year). We've never talked about our ages or age in general. I want to say that I don't care about age, but a 9 year difference (almost 10 in January) is pretty substantial...
What are your views on this?
At 18, You are legally an adult and you are free to date whoever you wish. Yes there is a big age gap but you never know unless you try. If you were under the age of 18 then I would say it would be wrong but again you are an adult.
so if Im pregnant and having sex is that bad?
is something going to happen to my baby
please help!
No it is not bad to have sex while pregnant, Your baby is in your uterus and it is protected by the sack. Many gynecologist recommend having sex while pregnant.