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Help him become sexual with me
20-female.
I've been with two guys and they both knew what they were doing sexually and I think them knowing what they're doing to you is such a turn on.
Now this boy i'm with now he doesn't seem to really know what he's doing which is a little bit of a turn off. We haven't exactly done anything yet but we were texting and he was like I am reading this womens health magazine. And I was like umm please tell me why you're reading that and he said there is a good article about love and sex and it gives good tips. And then I was like well what have you learned. And he was saying stuff like "you're suppose to talk dirty when spooning, grabbing a girls boobs while cuddling is a turn on, you're suppose to get dirty in the shower because it intensifies my arousal."
I was thinking, oh gosh when we actually get to the point of doing anything sexual I have a feeling he is not going to be able to turn me on and I'll be thinking "what is he doing..?" I feel so bad that I feel this way, what can I do to help him? Just tell him what I like? I don't know why I find this such a turn off..can someone please give me some advice on what to do. I feel bad for him.
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Yeah, communication pretty much. Whatever the relative levels of sexual experience he's obviously less sexually confident than you are.
Sex is a skill, everyone has to learn. A conversation about what you like would be a good start. Begin it with "Every woman works differently, and your universal tips won't work nearly as well as just being ready to figure out what your partner likes when you begin sleeping with a new one" and continue into what you personally enjoy.
Be prepared for clumsy. If you care about each other, you can work past it pretty easily.
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Not all guys are experts when it comes to doing the nasty! I understand that it's not exactly arousing to know that you have to teach your man what to do. Hey, This is where practice comes to play, Everyone learns in different ways and sometimes it takes role play to make it perfect. Your actions can make him feel insecure, The one thing you don't want to do is to let him down and kill his pride. Be understanding, If you have to set an example by taking charge and gradually you can show him what HE is supposed to do to you. Also, It's not a bad thing to have an open discussion about sex with your partner when you two are sexually active or about to become so. Discussing sex and sexual desires can increase sexual desires for one another and can improve. Give your man some credit for reading the magazine at least he is making an effort to try. Hell, It could be worse! He could just dive in head first!(lol) ;)
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