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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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I am a 27 year old female. I don't know what to do. I dated someone for 7 years and we broke up. I got married and the ex and I avoided each other for a long time. Then one day we see each other and he starts unloading how bad he feels for what happened with us and that he got hurt by a girl and realized how much he hurt me. Well, I felt I would have the opportunity to unload and now, he won't talk to me. I don't feel I can truely move on with my life. He is all I think about. Please help.

You should have been "moved on" before you even got married to your husband. But I will just hold my toung on that issue.

If you have a lot of feelings you need to get out, write it all down in a letter to him. You don't even have to send it, just the act of seeing it all laid out will help you unload your feelings and reslove the issue.

What are some things I can do for my boyfriend to make our relationship better, to help what is already there to get better

Knowing nothing about you or relationship, it's impossible to tell you what you should approve apon. In general treat him how you would like to be treated.

My mom gave me a pair of earrings a while ago. I wore them all the time and I loved them. The problem is, I lost one of them somewhere in school. It was a total accident and it must have came off while I was running/playing sports. I have still have one of them, but I don't know whether to tell my mom. I have alot of other earrings and the lost earring is probably already stolen. Should I just let it go or fess up to my mom? If they were expensive, I would be in deep trouble. Also, my mom would think I was very irresponsible and wouldn't trust me with anything anymore.

Loosing your earring was an accident. I would hope you mother would not punish you for that. Hiding something shows you did something wrong, which in this case you didn't. Tell her what happened and how upset you are for loosing something you loved. I think you will be suprized how supportive she'll be.

i want to be more fit but my parents only buy junk food. When i dont eat this they keep telling me that i am becoming anorexic, and i'm not i just want to eat better. How can i explain this?

Next time your parents go shopping, go with them so you can pick out what you would prefer to eat. They are not going to refuse to buy you some fruit and crackers.

hi i have a huge problem i feel like everytime i make chicken sadnwhiches it gets soooooo soggey..is this because i am using too much dressing or is it my chicken!?PLEASE HELP ITS MY FAVORITE MEAL!!!

Don't make the sandwich until you are ready to eat. If you bring it in a bagged lunch, keep everything in separate bags, and make your sandwich fresh at lunch time. Using good bread instead of floppy white bread will also make a big difference.

Well, I have the first original computer game, The Sims. But the only thing is I can't download it to my computer because I lost the case which has the pin code (the long code with numbers and letters) in back of it. My sister had her friend give her another pin code from another orginal The Sims computer game and it worked. I was wondering, for people who have The Sims, could give me their pin code so I can download my game. Thanks so much, I really appricate it. I was waiting to play this game forever!

I hope you know asking for that kind of information is very illegal.

15/f- I want to go on the birth control pills called Seasonale because they give you a longer cycle so that you have fewer periods a year, who wouldn't want that, right? well...my mom won't let me get them because she says i'm too young...and then she started giving me excuses such as "the doctor doesn't perscribe birth control unless you're sexually active" well...if i were sexually active, wouldn't i have wanted the pills BEFOREHAND anyway??? and i was under the impression that sometimes birth control is percribed to those with irregular periods to help regulate them. so, was my mom correct? and if she wasn't, how can i convince her to let me get seasonale? thanks!

Yes, birhtcontrol is sometimes perscribed to regulate periods. However Seasonale would not be perscribed in that case becuse it would be messing with it more than regulating it. Also Seasonal in a new "brand name" drug which also makes it MUCH more expensive. And if you don't need them in the first place (besides having less periods), why should she pay for them? So those are three valid reasons why your mom would say no.

Remember the pill is a drug, and messes with your hormones. Unless you have a real need for it, it is best not to take them. Taking the pill for too many years in a row can actully effect your chances of having a child in the future.

can you get birth control without your parents knowing? and how much does it usually cost?

Yes, you can buy condoms anywhere. However to be put on "the pill" you need a perscription; in that case your parents would know since they pay your insurance.

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hi its me again okay i have a question well me and my boyfriend have been having sex and he says he can't have kids . well we have been having safe sex and i am not scared of it i am just wonderin can i get pregnant if he say's he ant have kids and he doesnt wear a condom when we have sex again?i mean should i trust him on him saying he cant have kids or should i ask someone like his sister? i just dont know if i should believe him and plz answer my question here it is again. Can i get pregnant if my boyfriend says he cant have kids?

If you have to ask us if you can trust your boyfriend, then you probably can't. Insist he wear a condom regardless, otherwise get on the pill.

Someone told me that washing your hair every day can damage it. Then someone else told me that it wasn't true unless you blow dry it everyday (which I don't so)
So which person is right?
I've been washing my hair everyday for ages because there's nothing better to do, haha. I don't want to damage my hair from it though!

Yes, washing your hair everyday can strip away your natrual hair oils. Skip a day once a week.

I just got my period again today (not the first time) But I have a wicked bad cramp. Like I came home from school because it was way too unbearable. Any ways on how to make it less painful other than take advil or w/e cuz i already did.

Using a heating pad will sooth the pain.

ok so thers a gurl i like and she kinda likes me so i could probably go out with her but i already told another girl that i would go to the dance with her as friends and i dont know what to do so help me out

Peace

Tell her you are taking a friend, and ask her to save you a dance.

Okay well my friend and i want to quit the dance team we are on rite now and we want to go to a dance studio that concentrates mostly on technique and such. I think thats cool, but I also think competing would be fun. Should I quit the dance team to go to the dance studio or do both???

That's a decision you have to make yourself. We don't know anything about you or your dance team. How can you ask us to make that kind of decision?

i wont to have sex is it right at 15

You won't or want?
I personally think you are too young.

Does anyone know any good websites (beside toneteen.com) that have effective ways to lose weight? I rate high! :)

http://www.calorieking.com

what do i do if people are writing bad things about me on somebody elses column??

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1. well i was wondering if a girl that is 15 turning 16 in 2 months is going out with someone that just turned 25, could that someone go to jail?
2. what if the girl is not a virgin and the cops find out and they try to accuse the boy and she denies it could they file charges???
Thank you!

1. yes
2. yes
I'd say it's time to break up.

Alright, well I have been going out with my boyfriend for a couple weeks now! Well somehow him and my friend got into a conversation about like doing stuff. Not her and him but my bf and me. He said that he was going to do something, like finger me I guess.. at this thing we went to together but he heard that I didn't want it to happen and she said that he should just do it. Well I have never been fingered before and I guess she thought it wasn't a big deal. And usually things for the first time are a big deal! So I don't know what to do.. I am scared of what is going to happen like what should I do and what is it going to be like and like.. yeah I shave I'm just nervous that it'll be maybe prickly or like weirdish down there. Could someone help me out?? :-) thanks!

Seriously two weeks in nothing. You should take some time and get to know each other before engaging in sexual acts.

*EDIT:
"Alright, well I have been going out with my boyfriend for a couple weeks now"
- a couple is two!

Okay well i have been on a diet for about a month now. I have lost 10 pounds. (I'm pretty big so i'm nowhere close to goal weight.) I was wondering if anyone had any tips to speed up the weight loss? And also, I know it takes time, but no one has even noticed that I lost weight so it is starting to really get to me. It is very hard to stick to a diet but I am doing it and no one is even noticing! Some people still make fun of me and it gets discouraging. Does anyone know what I could do to just block out what they say until I lose all the weight?

I'd say 10 pounds in one month is a great achievement. Congratulations! On a healthy diet you should only loose about 2 pounds a week; so you are doing good. Loosing weight takes time and discipline. So be patient.

It's very sad that people are making fun of your weight. Don't take them to heart, they most likely have low self esteems and say those things to feel better about themselves.

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