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sorry this is long but its really important that i get an answer before i pop!!theres a girl that we'll call Taylor and she skipped a grade and everyone favors her because she's little. Everyone except me. she's really a b**** but nobody sees that and when they do they cant get mad because its Taylor. i dont get it. now my friend Michelle is starting to see this too. whenever we have a party we have to invite her because if we dont are friends will practically refuse to talk to us because they're like "how could you not invite poor innocent Taylor, she never did anything to anyone" but really she did so she always ends up forcing herself to the parties. and it really pissed me off when our friends were talking about one time when they went shopping with Taylor and she was being really b****y but they just forced themselves to ignore her attitude because "it was taylor and you cant get mad at her" which of course this just makes her self esteem so high which makes the situation worse. oh and one time i had really small shorts on and taylor was trying to fit in and she was like "oh my god look how small your shorts are, what are you a size 0" so i said "no they're 3's and i dont feel like hearing your mouth right now" which made her and her "possy" mad at me for a little while but she still wears kids clothes she's so small and how can she judge me!? so basically i need help dealing with her. either make my friends see how she really is or just something to say to this Taylor girl and a comeback to my friend when they try to defend her. i really like my friends when they're not around her so dont tell me to get rid of my friends. i just need them to get a reality check. thanks for listening i know this was long. (link)
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First thing I must say, good job on that size 3 thing. She deserved it.
It's simple. The only way for your friends to get a reality check is to make Taylor say something against them. Whenever she says something bout your friends, report immediately to them. Hehe. They can overlook the fact the she's being bitchy to other people but Oh hell I can tell you that they'll burst into flames when she turns bitchy to them. As they say, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
So bearing this in mind, you can also come up with a trap for little-miss-oh-i'm-so-perfect Taylor. And remember, don't make yourself look like the bad guy. Don't worry I'm rootin' for you; I know how you feel cos I have friends who are rather blind to such bitches too.
Oh how I'd love to see that Taylor girl go down to bits.
Have fun dear
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15/f
me and my friend fight all the time. and it is usally over very stupid things. and i am the one who always trys to make things up between us. and i have known him since i was in second grade. and now we are in a fight yet again. he got mad because i told him that i didnt think he cared about me and he was like blah blah blah dont talk to me and he blocked me. and i havent talked to him since then. And he deleted me as a friend on myspace. which isnt shocking. So my question is that should i try and fix things? or should i just not try and see if he trys and if he doesnt just give up on this friendship.
thanks in advance :)
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I maybe wrong bout this but from what I see, maybe he got mad cos he felt that you were being a little too whiny and uptight bout the caring-or-not thing?
Did you always complain to him bout it? If you did then maybe you should try to fix things by being less whiny? Dun go straight up and tell him that he doesnt care bout you cos this really makes people feel very agitated as in like they will think "so what do you want me to do?" And guys especially they dun like it. They dun really like to engage in too emotional stuff.
I know what you're expecting from him when you say that he didnt care bout you. You were expecting him to say something like "aw, no that's not true. I care bout you" and more assurance and blah blah.=) I know how you feel. But I have to tell you that guys arent like tt. Girls are like tt but not guys.
Pay attention to the little bits of things that he does for you. All these can show that he cares for you too.If he doesnt show care and concern for you the way you want it, it doesnt mean that he doesnt give a damn bout you. Maybe he just has different ways of showing it?
But on the other hand, if you really really really can't feel his concern for you and if he's the one getting all fired up for nothing always; and you're the one always trying to salvage the situation, then yes you should let him do the patching up and see if he really treasures your friendship. If he doesnt do anything, don't be sad, cos its not worth keeping a petty little man as your friend.
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I have this friend, me her and 2 other friends had a possy. Then she got a boyfriend and started acting different. She got mean and I got to the point where I didnt even like to look at her. Me and my friends made inside jokes about her. But, the thing is, she still thinks im her best friend, and I don't know how to tell her im not.
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Ah..something that happens to me quite often too. Mmmm you see, to me, girls in general are bitches. I admit I am one. They all tend to get all proud and competitive once something good happens to them and it kind of gets on people's nerves. Why do I say competitive? That's cos once they get praises, they'd feel like they're the prettiest or the best and no one else must be better than them.
Anyway, back to answering your question. If you don't know how to tell her you're not her best fren anymore, then slowly distance yourself from her. When she tries to tell you stuff, show that you dun give a shit bout what she has to say. When she wants to hang out with you, tell her you're not free. Give her negative answers and dun be too nice to her if not she'll keep thinking that you're still her bestie.
If she truly treasures the friendship, I believe that she'll sincerely ask you if there's anything wrong. If she does that, maybe you can tell her how you feel and if it all works out (like if she were to realise that she has been behaving really unpleasantly), then you should keep her as a friend.
If she still denies that she has been behaving bitchily, then seriously, you should ditch the bitch. Yea. I know it sounds mean but I dun believe in keeping this kind of bitchy friends.
I can understand if she has those conceited thoughts and wants to brag all bout it by being critical because I myself, ever entertained such thoughts b4.(and yes I am ashamed to admit). Its a fact that most girls are like that. But a true girl friend should never behave like that to her close friends or to anyone else for that matter.
Sorrie this is so long cos I just had to share with you what I've experienced over the years. Yeap =)
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I am going to be a freshman as of aug. 24 and i really want to make a good impression on everybody.What would be a good outfit to wear on orientation and the first day? i wear mostly peppy clothes i guess rather pricey brands: like a&f ae juicy and hollister but i am going to a school that is very mixed so i dont want to look like a snaob or a slut.
Also what type of back back is best for HS right now i bought a northface backpack that is all black. would a messanger bag be good what is trendy? (link)
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First of all, I think you should get a messenger bag. Get bags of different types to suit different clothings and create different styles to your dressing.
You can wear jeans, a halter top plus a kind of smart looking jacket(with a collar and short sleeved) that reaches only to your mid chest. You know what i mean?
Plus, you can wear belts that are special. For eg, you can use your scarf, tie or any sash as a belt. Its something simple yet creative.
And also, I have a rule which I abide by when I wear accesories: Don't wear dangling earrings if you're wearing necklaces or beads and vice versa if not you'd look overdressed; esp if you are dressed in smart casual style.
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well to start things off.. im 15/f
theres this guy that i absolutley adore!(16/m) hes funny, interesting, and down to earth.. well were pretty good friends and i talk to him alot online. the problem is that he just got out of a relationship and still misses that other girl (like ALOT) and i tell him things are gunna turn around and everything. but i really dont think that he thinks of me as anything more than a friend. how can i get him to notice me like that without straight out telling him i like him?
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Hang around more with him. Don't "talk to him alot online", talk to him alot face to face. That way he'll definitely notice your presence and your concern for him.
Guys will start noticing and remembering you when you start to show [[genuine]] care and concern for them. Just dun be a fake though.
Show him your personality. If you're fun and crazy, show it. I wont say "just be yourself" bcoz you tend to be a different person with different people. Am I right? And I dun even know wat the heck it means to just be myself. I dun even know wat's myself because i behave diffently to different people. Anyways, the right thing for me to say, is to stay true to yourself and dun talk or do actions that you're uncomfortable with when you're around him. Simple. NO crap bout being yourself. Haha.
Enjoy your time around him and he'll enjoy his around you; that way, he'll love being around you and then he'll notice you.
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Well from the last question about my hair I need a shampoo and conditioner that will throw away all the frizziness and dryness without it being expensive but all shampoos and conditioners work the same on my hair but they work different on other peoples hair. I need major help! Thanx
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Silken all the way! It doesnt make your hair dry after you shampoo , unlike other brands that I use.
I use silken shampoo and dove conditioner. Haha, this combi may sound wierd but it works wonders for me. It takes away frizziness and gives my hair lustre. You can choose silken shampoo and conditioner though.
To help reduce dryness, dun let the shampoo stay on your hair for too long and wash it off as soon as you're done scrubbing your hair. Cos it may absorb excess sebum (hair oil) and cause your hair to be drier. Let the conditioner stay on for a longer period of time. 5 minutes will be good. Dun scrub too hard or wash for too long when rinsing off the conditioner. If not, you'll wash off the silky smooth feel that the conditioner gives. Just wash off the conditioner will do.
Try not to blow dry your hair. Let it air dry. Apply moisturiser to your hair after it's dry. Try to apply moisturiser straight after your hair's dry and dun wait for a few hours later cos your hair absorbs stuff at a faster rate when its clean and free of dust and dirt.
You can try serum too. Just get products that promises to moisturise your hair. They'll help in reducing frizziness as well.
Lastly, dun tie your hair too tight or bun it cos it causes frizziness too.
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Ive been told that you can still be preg. even if you get your period.. Im kinda scared because ive been feelin sick for a week now and i get dizzy and the only think i can think of is that i may be prego because on the 1st i had unprotected sex. but i got my period so is it possible to get your period n still be pregnant (link)
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Edit: It is impossible for you to have your period if and when you're pregnant.
I've read up bout the symptoms of pregnancy and no, you are unable to have periods during pregnancy because your body's lining up your womb for the growth and nutrition of the baby.
Some pregnant women experience bleeding during the first few months of their pregnancy but this blood isn't period. This bleeding could be miscarriage, rupturing of certain blood vessels, etc. It is however, difficult to differentiate menstrual bleeding from any other type of bleeding.
Get loads of pregnancy test kits and have many of these tests to confirm whether you're pregnant or not. No point asking the people here because I doubt most of us who answered you has a medical cert or has sufficient medical knowledge. Don't go searching the internet for it cos it throws up many contradictory answers. To be extremely certain if you're pregnant, see a doctor.
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I have a biology test tomorrow. So much information will be covered on it. When you study, are you supposed to memorize everything, or are you just supposed to review notes until you're familiar with everything? (link)
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Pick out the impt info you know will definitely come out. Come up with your own notes. In the process of coming up with your own notes, you'll be reviewing those topics as well.
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me and my boyfriend have been dating on and off for the past 2 years.I recently found out he cheated on me 3 times with some girls from Johnston.Now he asked me if we were dating about 2 days ago and i stupidly said "Yea,I guesss".Today he came to my house and told me that he has a new girlfriend. I said "i thought me and you were together" and he said "O well shes hotter".5 minutes later he tried kissing me.What should I do about all of this???Now im stuck the single one!
PLEASE HELP ME FAST!:( (link)
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Ditch the bitch, or rather , the bastard. The trick to dealing with this type of people is to give him the coldest shoulder ever. If he looks for you again, slam the door on his face. Show him you can live without him. Ignore any calls from him and dun see him again.
Hang out with other guys and let him come running to you for forgiveness. But DON'T forgive him unless you really really know that he's a changed man. And even so, remain as good friends and nothing more with him. Let him come begging after you and even if he does that, ignore him. I know it sounds mean but he deserves this kind of treatment.
Don't ever date him again even if he says how much he has changed. Because a leopard never changes its spots.
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im 16/f and this guy is 14 i know age difference but i dont care..
i started to kinda like this guy before he got a girlfriend. we always flirted and he would touch me and we would wrestle and i would get on top of him but then when i find out he asked this girl out that he liked i was kinda..heartbroken (link)
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I know how you feel. Guys are just jerks. I've experienced countless repetitions of your case and I have to say, that these type of guys jus wanna flirt with you. Simple. period.
If guys really like you, they will straight away tell you how they feel and not beat around the bush. They're simple creatures. They're not like girls. Girls have more emotional attachment whereas most guys( I'm not saying all guys) can just flirt and not get emotionally attached to their flirtee(or watever you call it). If he has a gf already, then it confirms the fact that he likes his gf more than he likes you.
He's not worth your time. Serious. You'll be happier getting over him and meeting new and possibly, beter guys. I know you're thinking bout the fact that you dun wan any other guys but just him. But think bout it, if you two were to be together, will you be able to trust him? He has a gf now and yet he is flirting around with you. Are you sure that you wan such a bf?
Think of the consequences and dun just dive straight in to get wat you want.
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hey, if you masturbate so much will u actually lose the temptation to have sex when u are older? haha i am just wondering ... thanks in advance :) (link)
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No. Masturbation could possibly increase your sexual urge. Think bout it.
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my mom caught me mastubating and watching porn and now i'm crying and i'm mad and i don't know what to do.... i feel awful... i cant stop crying i think i'm gonna cut myself... dammit i dont know what else to do!!! please help me i'm not some emo kid but im considering killing myself... (link)
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Your life is worth much more than a masturbating incident.
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To make this short.
I've had sex for the first time with my ex boyfriend even though he has a girlfriend...well i got sick of being the other woman so i told him that he either has to be wit me or her well of course he picked me but to my suprise the reason why he picked me was so we'll have sex and of course like a dummy i did it...well i thought we were together or going to work on it so the next day i waited for him to call me and he never did...it's been 3 weeks now and i've realize wat an asshole he is...i'm totally getting over him...i know hard to believe but it's true...but wat i'm wondering should i ask him why he or how could he do this to me or should i jus leave things the way they are? Thanks in advance! (link)
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NO you shouldnt call and ask him. Do you think he'll sit down and explain to you why he did all these (ignoring you after having fun) after doing what he did?
He's probably trying to run away from you that's why he didnt call you. So what makes you so sure that he'll say sorry?
Leave things the way they are. If he has a conscience, he'll come back some day and apologise. If he never comes back, ignore the bastard cos 10 years down the road he'll probably be suffering from some STD or AIDS for hooking up with girls just for sex. These kind of people will get their retribution some day.
People will never ever admit their mistakes when you try to tell them their faults. Let him discover his mistake by himself. Take this as a lesson learnt. Be postive bout it cos you've learnt to be smarter and not to trust everyone so easily.
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I'm not asking this question to be funny or to play stupid, but I'm actually really curious. I've been wondering for a while, when you lose weight, where does it actually go? Does that make sence? Thank you. (link)
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That's a very interesting question you've got there. I'll try my best to answer it but I may not be correct. I pieced this simple and basic answer together from various sources like from my biology books and from the newspapers. So if it seems ilogical, you can choose to ignore my answer.
When you lose wieght, it means you lose your fats. There are many outlets for fat loss which includes your pores(that's why you have oily skin or pimples from eating too much fat).
Excess carbohydrates (carbos that are not used) will be stored as fat. So when you work out or lose weight, you utilise the carbo that you have in your body and thus prevent yourself from chalking up on excess carbos. So when you lose wieight, the carbos that affect your wieght will be cut down as it is broken down to give you energy during your work out. That is another way in which fat is indirectly lost.
When we exercise we build muscle because
our body "notices" that we are now using our muscles so begins to send
energy there. The muscles are built directly from the calories we
consume.
So if you eat less (assuming you didnt work out), no muscles will be built up and your body just stores fat as fat.
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Hi, everyone. I'm a 15 year old male, and so is this girl I like. I honestly don't know why I am attracted to her. She is overweight, and that's just a turn off for me, like most other guys. But beside the few extra pounds (actually about 30), she's gorgeous. (or so I think) She had chestnut colored brown hair, and paleish skin in contrast. Her blue eyes are amazing. We sat next to eachother in biology all of last year, as the teacher never changed the seating arrangement. We talked a lot, and I'm very shy, so it was a change for me. She talked to me first, and from then on we became very good friends. She bought me a cake on my birthday & gave it to me in class. She laughs at everything, so I don't know if she thinks I'm funny, or not. But I love it. I love talking to her, I love her laugh, I love how random she is, how different, how uncaring of what people think. (dont get me wrong, shes not a geek or anything, shes in with all the right kids, shes just overweight). I couldn't tell if she liked me, but there's something about her that makes me want to be with her all the time. As I said, this would be awkward for me, because she is overweight, and my friends would definitely have fun teasing me/her over that. I don't know what to do, I asked her for her number & aim screename, so I have those now. Whenever I see her get online, I IM her. I told her when I was doing driving school so she could maybe sign up. I think I'm just confused on what to do. Why is it I'm so attracted to her? Should I tell her how I feel? What about my friends? (link)
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Hi! I understand PERFECTLY how you feel because I was in that exact situation 2 years ago.
So sorrie if this is going to be long, but this may help you in your decision.
I grew to like a guy who's a little overwieght. He's not very very fat though but since I'm a very skninny person, he still looks fat and is darn fat as compared to me.
Anyway, its totally the same case as you. He has amazing eyes, handsome crop of hair , he would be darn handsome if he was thin but too bad, he's not and will never be. And for some reason, just like you, I felt very attracted to him.
I cared a lot bout wat other people said, just like you. He told me he liked me, and I accepted him. When I was with him, I felt embarrassed when he couldnt run as fast as the others, couldnt do as many push ups, etc during our track and field lessons. I hated the fact that he keeps eating and eating! And the fact that he does look like a fat ass from certain angles. But nevertheless, I enjoyed my time with him.
He was a very sociable person and so he had lots of girl frens. I got jealous of his girl frens cos I felt that they liked him and were flirting with him. I kept complaining non stop regardless of the countless times that he assured me I'm still the one he wants. Eventually, he couldnt take it and we broke up. And you know what, it was only then that I realised I had really liked him for being HIMSELF and I wanted so badly to go back to him that I could even forget bout his fatness.
So sorrie that this is all bout me but i just wanna tell you , that looks is really not impt in a relationship. Perhaps it is during the initial stages ONLY but you'll eventually grow to love her as a whole . ANd you know wat, you will even grow to love her fatness( don't think there's such a word but you know what i mean). Your friends may tease you bout it for a while but just ignore them. Make it clear to them to stop the teasing cos its gonna hurt her. Just dun react in any way that encourages them to carry on teasing.
If you really like her, go for it. Dun drop her just cos she's fat. Learn to appreciate her and not take her for granted. When you're with her for long, you'll grow to love her even more and find her beautiful because she has something which not everyone has - inner beauty. Ultimately, the choice is up to you. But remember, dun live to regret your choice =)
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so, i recently transfered to an girls school from a coed school. so i'm kinda new to the environment. its been about a month of classes alredy and suddenly, i feel a bit different to this popular lesbian. and it MIGHT because i'm starting to like her!! but this can't be happening! i think a girl having a crush on a girl is gRoSS!!! but then, what can i do about it?? how do i stop myself before i do anything stupid!!?? please help me!!
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It's a phase that you're going through at this age. Dun worry because I went thru that too, and I eventually emerged fine (and straight).
You are finding out what your sexuality is. But don't worry. You're feeling like this because of peer influence and because of the lack (or rather absence) of boys.
Go out and meet new friends, new guys, keep in touch with your friends from your co-ed school so that you'd have a balance of people from different school backgrounds. If you wanna remain straight, mix around more with your old frens from your co-ed school so that they can influence you.
Meanwhile, think of guys more often. Look out for cute hollywood actors, fantasise bout them. Think of how hot they look with their toned body, biceps and washboard abs. Drool over them! That popular lesbian would be imcomparable and can never look like that! Dream of how the guy of your dreams can sweep you up and just kiss you passionately! Indulge in love stories and movies (between a guy and a girl of cos =D ) ! Look out for eye candies on the streets and gossip bout them with your girlfriends ! Girls are excellent friends but they make the worst partners in relationships. hehe. sorrie but its the truth.
So, have fun ogling at cute guys yea? =)
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I'm going to be a freshman in high school, but I'm really shy. I have 2 best friends that I can be my complete self around and tell anything to, but in high school, we're probably not going to see each other as much.. Plus one of these two friends I have is mad at the other claiming that she hates hanging out with her and always feels like she's the one left out.. But that's a whole different story. I feel like high school is going to change our friendship and kind of like deteriorate it. I have a few other friends too but it's not the same as with my other two friends.. So next year, how can I overcome my shyness and make new friends? Don't tell me to just be myself or anything because that's so hard to just NOT be shy. Around people I just meet I hardly talk and when I do it's only a few words, so they get the wrong impression. But with my good friends and family, I'm loud, funny.. like a whole different person. But I want people to see that person instead of someone who hardly talks. How can I do that? Thank you (link)
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Hello! Most people will be shy to a certain extent. Me inclusive. I understand how you feel when you want people to see that outgoing and fun side of you but my dear, you have to take things slowly.=)
You see, if you immediately show them your crazy and fun side, they might not know how to react to you.
They might think you're wierd because they dun really know you that well.
The reason why you can be your fun self when you're with your friends is because you are confident that you can entertain them and you know that they'll love your crazy outbursts and so on. You tend to by shy around new people because you dun know how they will react to your loud character. Likewise, if your new classmates were to behave crazily and outgoing and fun, you'd feel a bit wierd around them cos you might not know how to react to them.
You can slowly get to know them more by talking bout a little bit of personal stuff. Dun be too intrusive though, but show a little personal side of you so that they'd feel more comfortable around you. (For eg when you're having lunch with them, you can say "hey,the chef looks like brad pitt! He;s hot right?" blah blah and so on. ok i know this sounds lame but you should rougly get wat i mean)Then, try small jokes and show a little fun and crazy side of you and see how they react. If they laugh, you'll naturally start to expose the real you. If they don't laugh, then show a little more serious side of you. Different people have different characters and hence will have to be treated differently.
Observe and fine-tune how much craziness to shower upon your new frens. This fine-tuning thing will come to you naturally, so dun worry.
Why worry bout something which hasnt even happen yet?Just go to school the next day and be friendly and smiley. You dun sound like an introvert to me so dun worry, you'll fit in just fine =)
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do you know anything about foreign exchange students? i think i might want to be one but i need to know more about it! if you have anything please answer this question! anything will help! sorry i don't know wat category this goes under! (link)
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In my school, I'd have to register (in my very own school) first to be in a foreign exchange programme. To qualify for this prog, particpants must have attained rather good grades or have outstanding extracurricular activities.
And, normally my school would send out only bout at most 10 students for the foreign exchange program. Yup. That's all I know. Hope I did help =)
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My face complexion is always changing because either, i have a tan & then I don't, etc. And I get and lose tans easily and it makes things hard when it comes to face makeup and chosing the right color. What should I do? (link)
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When you have a tan, give up the makeup. Show off your tan babe! it'll give you a nice, natural, and golden glow. =)
Use make up only when you dun have a tan. So yeap, get your face makeup according to your "tan-less" face. =D
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I'm almost out of concealer, and it dpesn't even really work well. You could still see the redness and it dried weird. (I forgot what kind it was because the logo thing faded I had it for so long lol) k so I was wondering what kind I should get that works good. What are good (cheap) kinds that go on smoothly and cover really good?
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I suggest "tea tree" from the Body Shop. Works wonders for me.
I can even apply the concealer only without looking fake and wierd. It gives you a natural look.
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