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How do I dump her?
I have this friend, me her and 2 other friends had a possy. Then she got a boyfriend and started acting different. She got mean and I got to the point where I didnt even like to look at her. Me and my friends made inside jokes about her. But, the thing is, she still thinks im her best friend, and I don't know how to tell her im not.
13/F
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Going up to somebody and saying you aren't or don't want to be friends with them only leads to trouble. Tell her that you don't like that she is mean and that she needs to change if this friendship is going to work. If she realizes that she needs to change or she will loose a friend, a garuntee it will have an effecton her. If you are going to breakup with her, she should be given a fair warning so she can prevent the breakup. If she still doesn't change, sit down with her and tell her that this is not working. No matter how mad you are still stay friends with her, not best friends. For example, nod to her in the hall, say hi every once in a while. If you find yourself sitting by her or you are paired up with her in a school project, dont be afraid of a conversation. I hope it goes well!
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Ah..something that happens to me quite often too. Mmmm you see, to me, girls in general are bitches. I admit I am one. They all tend to get all proud and competitive once something good happens to them and it kind of gets on people's nerves. Why do I say competitive? That's cos once they get praises, they'd feel like they're the prettiest or the best and no one else must be better than them.
Anyway, back to answering your question. If you don't know how to tell her you're not her best fren anymore, then slowly distance yourself from her. When she tries to tell you stuff, show that you dun give a shit bout what she has to say. When she wants to hang out with you, tell her you're not free. Give her negative answers and dun be too nice to her if not she'll keep thinking that you're still her bestie.
If she truly treasures the friendship, I believe that she'll sincerely ask you if there's anything wrong. If she does that, maybe you can tell her how you feel and if it all works out (like if she were to realise that she has been behaving really unpleasantly), then you should keep her as a friend.
If she still denies that she has been behaving bitchily, then seriously, you should ditch the bitch. Yea. I know it sounds mean but I dun believe in keeping this kind of bitchy friends.
I can understand if she has those conceited thoughts and wants to brag all bout it by being critical because I myself, ever entertained such thoughts b4.(and yes I am ashamed to admit). Its a fact that most girls are like that. But a true girl friend should never behave like that to her close friends or to anyone else for that matter.
Sorrie this is so long cos I just had to share with you what I've experienced over the years. Yeap =)
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You have to be completely honest with her just tell her your not sure if you really want to be friends because she`s being mean and changed. And just try to talk to her. ♥
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well one thing you should do is go up to her and tell her how you really feel. i mean tell her that you feel she has changed a lot and that you should just be far away friends..not best friends.
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