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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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today the day before my bday my mom comes right out with me and dad are getting a divorce. im freaking out and ive had a party with my friends for like 3 weeks so i cant bail out. what can i do? i know i cant change thier minds but my dad takes it out on me and my sibs and my moms all depressed. so i guess what im asking is if your parents got a divorce how did it turn out? should i be worried?

I'm sort of in the same position. Although I'm not having a party, my parents are getting a divorce soon.

I'm kinda bummed about it, but imagine how much better things will be. Your dad won't take things out on you, your mom/siblings will be happier & things will be easier.

Sure it'll be weird not having one of your parents around, but you'll get used to it eventually. Don't look at this experience as bad. It could be good, so if you think of it positively, it won't suck as much.

Okay I'm 15 F i weigh about 109 pounds im 5'3. I wear a 32 B but i feel like they are nearly an a do u think they are going to get any bigger soon? When? My moms a 32 C and my grandma is D on my dads side my grandma is a C also. What do you think my size will and what age do you think they are going to starting getting noticeably bigger? What about you what age did your really start getting noticeably bigger?

The size of your breast is a genetic thing & when they decide to grow, you'll notice. I can promise you won't be that size forever, and if you are -- embrace it. I'd honestly love to have small boobs. Having a big chest is super annoying.

Until then, wear a push up bra to make your boobs seem bigger. You've still got a couple years to grow so be patient.

if someone was raped what are some short term and long term things they may face ? like noth emotional and physical things you may notice??

They fear the person/gender who raped them.
They're less trusting to people.
They develop eating disorders/self-esteem problems.
They will tend to go for assholes when dating since an asshole raped them.
They'll be shaky, a little frightened.
They also fear it'll happen again.

But if you think anyone has been raped, or they tell you that they have been, whether they're serious or not, get them help. If they were just kidding, get them help because that's not a fun thing to joke about.

Somebody once told me that when you're pregnant, and if you go over due and you just want to have the baby but its just not comming, if you eat something thats sure to give you diarrhea, then it'll induce labor, but while delivering wouldnt that kinda be gross? for that matter, is it something regular for a woman to like fart or pee or something while giving birth? I know its kinda gross, im just curious.

I have heard of women doing number two while giving birth from pushing so hard, but I know that it's a very rare thing to happen.

However, if it does occur, they will get you/the bed cleaned up. It's no big.

my friends grandfather died this morning. hes really hurt. but i dont know what to say to him. im scared ill say something wrong. what should i tell him?

2 of my friends died a little over a month ago, so I can understand where you're coming from. My friends were pretty young, so it screwed me up even more.

Anyways, one of the kids who died was my friend's brother & he was the young one. I knew I couldn't exactly say what I wanted to my friend to his face, so I wrote him & his family a note & proceeded to give it to him that way.

I told them how sorry I was that they lost their son & that I would always be here for them if they needed someone to talk to. I said that although their son isn't with us anymore, he was obviously needed for something, and he was in a much better place.

Basically, don't say anything like "I'm so sorry, that sucks." Just say that you're sorry for his loss & you're there for him if he ever needs to talk no matter what time it is & leave it at that. He wouldn't wanna be constantly bugged about it, so don't constantly ask how he's feeling or whatever as that would be dumb seeing as how he's shattered.

I'm sorry for your friend's loss, I hope things get better.

I had my ears peirced at clairs, like 7 weeks ago and i woke up this morning and one of my earlobes where swollen. It doesnt hurt and it feels kinda num ,
do you know whats wrong with it?
and do you know what i could do to make it better?

thank you soo much,
and if it matters im a 13/f. :D

You should take the earrings out & go to the doctor. That's a serious situation & you need to get it checked out.

Okay well im a girl and i am 13 and i love guys and on the other hand i love girls to i mean i have been with a girl and i have been with a guy and my friends think im just experamenting but the truth is i think i manely like girls. So i think im a lezbian. But when i told my friends this they went balistic and were like " Your a lez?" " you should die i mean you need to be straight like us, i dont wanna be seen with a freaky lez" and that was a direct quote. So can you help me with the way i feel on how there treating me?
love,
ShOuLd I lIkE gUrL's?if its gunna make me loose friends?

Since you're 13, I wouldn't say that you're a lesbian just yet. This could all be a phase & you could be straight next week.

But, if you like girls -- then date them. If your friends are honestly that shallow that they would stop talking to you over your sexuality then they're dumb & you shouldn't be friends with them.

Date whoever you want, be whoever you want. Fuck the opinions, they don't matter. If something makes you happy, keep doing it. People are always gonna talk, it's just a matter of if you listen to it or not.

I don't understand what that thing is in the movies where the girl is lying on a table, and a guy licks something off her stomach? It has to do with alcohol, but I don't understanddd

It's a body shot.

It can be done a lot of different ways.

14/girl

I am going out with this guy and one of my closest friends just told me he cheated on me. I talked to him about it and he admitted to it, but he keeps trying to make excuses for it, and it was with this girl who he hooked up with before we were going out. He said it was over, but obviously its not. He also only apologized once, which makes me think he does not regret it. I really have no clue what to do about this, and any advice is really greatly appreciated.

If you're going out with someone & they cheat on you -- then obviously the person they cheated on you with has something you don't.

It's nice to know you're not enough right? Fuck this kid, leave him. Cheating isn't cool & no excuse in the world could make up for it.

im 16 years old and am having a major problem..my hair is falling out like crazy and idk why!!..like i just run my fingers through my hair,look,then have a hand full of hair..im really bothered by this. what could be the problem?!

Are you really stressed? Do you have an eating disorder?

Usually your hair falls out from stress. If you have an eating disorder, it'll also cause your hair to fall out.

If you've got no eating disorder & you're not under any stress, the only other thing I can think of is that the strands falling out are dead. Dead hair usually falls out so that new hair can grow.

If that's not it either, you may wanna see a doctor because I'm not sure what else can cause this.

im over weight and have been since i was 8 years old but some of it is from meds that i have to take for a lung disease i have. the meds. help me breath but make me gain weight this disease also makes it hard for me to work out. im not a junk food eater cuss im allergic to most junk foods so it cant be blamed on that but im at the point now that i dont no what to do to loss the weight is there anyone that nos what i could do??

I'm not exactly sure how old you are, BUT I think that you should talk to a doctor about this.

They know more about your lung disease than we do, and they'd be able to give you effective workouts that are easy for you to do.

you see i just created a new myspace. btw, im 13/f. last year i made one but deleted it before the school year so i wouldnt get distracted. theres this girl, i've known her since like.. 4th grade, and we've been friends since then. this year (well it just ended for summer) i was in 7th. so yeah, like 3 years. when i wasnt in her pod for 5th and 6th grade, she was more friendlier with me. it was like we were still good friends though we didnt see each other often. she even invited me to her sleepover bday party in 5th grade though i couldnt go, cause my parents wouldnt let me. but in 7th grade it was different. in the beginning of the year it was the same like the other years but it progressed and it was like she was less interested in really being my friend, as i saw it. she'd share secrets with other friends and stuff, and wouldnt hang around me as much. i'd hang around her, but it was like.. she was half-interested in me. when i made my myspace before we were on each other's Top friends list. but this year, at the end of the year she had another sleepover party but she didnt invite me! i asked her if i was invited and she said it was for close friends only. i didnt show her how i felt, but i felt hurt cause i've been a good friend to her and i've known her longer than some of the people she considered as "close friends". and in my new myspace, i asked to be on her top and shes like "ummm.. no your not going on my top" and idk if its just me, but it sounded really snotty and that kinda ruined my mood for the rest of the day. cause i put her on my top... and yeah. and my other friend, we all knew each other in 4th grade too, shes not even in our pod but she got invited to the sleepover party and is 3rd on her top friends list. i dunno what i did wrong.. or is she just a friend i should drop? cause im not sure.. i dont like losing friends but i dont like being friends with people who dont act like friends should. or am i overreacting? also, i havent replied to her "umm no your not going on my top" comment yet.. i dunno what to reply! should i just be like "thanks, but no thanks" or "okay.." or "are you mad at me or something?" cause this is really hard to do. =(

I would ask her if she's mad at you or whatever & find out what's going on. If she's still being snotty & rude, then drop her.

It hurts to lose friends, but she's rude about stuff that she shouldn't be rude about.

However, I think you're overreacting about the top 8 thing. It's just MySpace, and it's just a top 8. It's nothing to get upset over. Who I put in my top is no big deal, so if people worry that much about it then they're never going in there. It's annoying to get asked "Why aren't I in your top?" or "I can go in your top!?"

But like I said, just ask her what the deal is & if she's still a bitch about it, forget her. You have better friends.

so, my best friend, can treat me like DIRT.
i mean horrible. she's just sooo rude! what do i do? i mean i love her so much, and shes amazing. but when shes rude i dont know what to do! i just take it. beucase i NEVER want to loose her. i NEED HELP!
15fem.

Talk to her about it. Tell her exactly how you feel, and if things don't seem to change, then you do need to lose her.

Best friend or not, it doesn't mean she can treat you like shit. That's not how friendship is so somebody needs to clue her in.

my friend uses a vibrators EVERY DAY. can this make it so she can't have children?

It'd only be harmful if she jammed it up there super hard.

And it's not bad for her. As long as she doesn't ditch you guys or stop eating to masturbate, she's fine.

I just turned 13 and well my bf is a little older than me. We have already made out. But I was wondering how far you think that we should go... considering my age.

Thanks.

Not very. You're 13, so you should stick to making out.

What jobs can my 11 year old sister or 9 year old brother get?

None.

how is it possible to be pregnant and not even know it? like doesnt the belly have to be big?

It takes a few months for you to start showing.

I know a girl who's about 4 months pregnant, but she's so thin she's not even showing so you can't tell.

Wait, do people have like parties and ceremonies when you get your periods? None of my friends did that...
What do they do at these parties and why would you have one its personal.

Only certain religions & cultures do that. They see it as a girl becoming a woman so they celebrate, but not everyone does it.

is it a myth that shaving makes the hair grow back more and coarser?

It's no myth. It's true.

What age do you think is appropriate to get your nose pierced? Thank you!

I think the ages 15/16 are acceptable for a nose piercing.

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