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So long story short I like this girl and I know that she likes me back but how do i get to 2 base where there's touching I kissed her and she liked it but I want to see her privet parts how do I get her to let me
Since this is something to weird or uncomfortable for you to discuss with the parents, it comes to me to give you an answer as if you were my own son . I am pretty open minded for an older person and understand the importance of a good healthy sex life for teens however for that to be so, there is some important information you need to learn that will help you life long.
First, what you call a crush is actually sexual attraction which can be totally separate from becoming interested in a girl as the whole person, wanting to spend time doing things together you have in common, a caring enough about each other to really love and support them thru easy times and the hard times.
To a girl, a crush usually does not involve getting nude, allowing touching and petting and possibly sex. Girls want love and romance and are of a different make up than guys. Females want to be loved for who they are inside, their character and personality, not just their body. Sex for girls is the result and outpouring of a mutual love for each other
So you will find it extremely hard to find a girl willing to show her private parts to you let alone do anything more with you.
The few exceptions might be like the 12 yr olds and on who are experiencing the first release of hormones that are meant to change their bodies and grow their sexual organs. In girls, these same hormones not only can make them as horny as you guys but it messes with the emotions of all girls, not a one of us is immune, we all experience this. It means she can all of a sudden be way more sad or depressed than usual, have an anger problem all the time, or other emotions like love are also over exaggerated too, and they can crave being loved by a guy. But what most girls interpret as being loved is usually with guys interpreted as sex. Only a few girls at such a young age want to willingly do nude shots, touching, petting and have sex.
I don't know if your girl is one of those few who wants sex, she may only want love. If so, then it would be cruel and mean to make her believe you really love her as a person just to get the gratification and your wishes to come true. Kissing is a safe practice for most girls, they cant get pregnant from it, and they can enjoy wonderful feelings from it, all girls love getting kissed. its taking it further that can be an issue not just for her but in general. If you're on good speaking terms and talk about lots and you feel that she feels comfortable with you, you might just have to ask bluntly and to the point. this isn't one of those topics to beat around the bush with and say things that might be misunderstood, causing even more problems. If you can be considerate of her answer and take no for a no and drop the subject thereafter and still want to be with her simply cus you can't imagine having anyone else for a friend, then ask her. Otherwise don't, as it wouldn't be fair to her if you can't adjust to the answer No and still like her. If your only goal is to find a girl who will strip for you or more, then letting her go is the kinder thing to do and find the girl who is ready and willing and doesnt have to be talked into it.
What you could say if you love her unconditionally is to say, "I really care deeply about you and well I won't hide the fact that very often these hormones flowing in me, make me want a lot more than just kissing with you. i am willing to go slowly, only at a pace you are comfortable with. If you say no, it doesnt change anything, I still want to be with you. But what I want to ask is how you feel about showing me what you look like naked, maybe I could do the same for you if you are curious. You have my promise, that I won't ask you for anything more, no matter how hard my hormones will scream at me for more...I leave it up to you to make the first move when you are ready. Until then, I will be a gentleman.
This kind of talk from a guy who has become a females best friend, is what separates him from being stuck in the friend zone. It also separates him from the group of men women begin to label 'the Players'. It is a males words of appreciation for her femininity, his compliments and sharing his desires but not acting on it, other than kissing and holding hands and hugging/cuddling, that let her know she is desired and gives her the control a female wants in such areas. Your eyes even change when aroused and send the message she is desired so it can't be mistaken unless a gal is way too naive. Even grown females respond much better if the man openly shares how much he is aroused by the female but leaves it up to her to make the first move sexually. Thats how my 2nd husband was. I had to give him the first kiss even though I knew he desired me and I had to make the first move for sex. But there is nothing awkward, or held back once I started the ball rolling and i am very happy with the lover he is. No hesitation now on his part. Since guys are naturally stronger than females, a female can be forced sexually, physically or verbally, even when she doesn't want it and that is rape, no matter how its done.
Now, if a guy lets her have the control without letting her know how he feels, nothings gonna happen, he gets stuck in the friend zone.
However, If you let her know how you feel but in a respectful loving way, and let her know its up to her to say when, even if you have to wait a year or two, its worth it. I know of the few guys who did treat their teen girlfriends with this kind of respect and hung out with her family and treated them well too, that when the time came and they were in HS the parents got the daughter on birth control and gave their okay for the two to have sex when the daughter asked them, and even in their home! A guys caring attitude and patience go a long way to eventually getting him something wonderful in the end.
For you, if masturbating isn't enough and you must view naked women, ask your Dad to get you an issue of Playboy or if not Dad, then an Uncle, someone who knows you and you aren't so embarrassed to ask. Cus in reality, it is a normal thing for a male who is heterosexual to want to view the female body but at a young age, and your Dad or Uncle will understand perfectly and not find it odd are terrible at all cus they feel the same things now as they did at your age.
I don't really know what I did but it's just really hard to accept because today is 14 years since my b.ilogical dad died
Go back to your multiple previous writings to us on this issue and read the responses. If you are having trouble doing this, then go to the
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Good luck.
My girlfriend and I have had an intimate long distance relationship for nearly three months. We constantly drown each other in compliments, and I help her with her depression whenever I can. My problem is that I don't know if I'm bothering her. I'm constantly doubting myself, which I'm not sure if it bothers her cause she never tells me if she's mad at me. And when I'm courageous with her, I don't know if I take things too far. Other little things like messing up my words and saying the wrong things make me wonder if she even loves me anymore, or if she's slowly drifting away which I NEVER want to happen. I just want to know how I can be more "manly" for her, to keep her interested in the man in me. Thank you
Razhie has a point but I have a different life experience so I see another issue here.
But first, it is harder to build trust in a LDR than in a face to face relationship and no, Skype doesn't count. That is not the kind of interacting in life I am talking about. We can all be at our perfect best when sitting at a keyboard on Skype.
Unless these self doubting thoughts have never ventured out beyond your mind and actually been spoken out loud or typed to her, then she has no reason to think you don't trust her. Even if you did say these things, there is a way to repair it still. However, you need to realized what the original problem is that is causing a chain reaction of other problems to occur in your life as I will venture a guess that self doubting in a relationship isn't the only area where you do not have enough self confidence and self esteem. I should know as I've been there and I can tell you that unless a person wanted to become a loner living in the back woods, to live in society, we need to get over our fear of people, what they think of us, and gain what would look like a "tough hide" to some but is what I call a strong sense of confidence in oneself, where we no longer listen to the negative self generated thoughts of ourselves, no longer take personally anyone's less than supportive compliments personally, and learn great communicating skills to that from the shyiest person to the most aggressive personalities, you can handle them all without breaking a sweat. The real question is, have you reached the point where you are so tired of being this way that you are desperate to do anything that will change you so life improves for you along with any relationships in life, not just bf/gf ones, but with school mates, friends, family and coworkers. I had to reach that point of feeling desperate before being willing to do the things and stick with those things that would help change me forever into a more confident person. If you agree with me that it is your views and thoughts of yourself at the bottom of this issue, then let me know if you want to know what to do to start improving things. Please refer to your previous question so I know who I am talking to. Good luck.
So i have this friend who gossips about her friends way too much I don't know if she does it as a topic of conversation because she just doesn't know how to start a convo with someone (that's how I was in elementary school cause I didn't know how to make friends but I'm not this way anymore) or that's how she genuinely is cause every time I talk to her it's like she's gossiping about a best friend. Then the next day you'll see her hanging out with the same person she just talked bad about. Usually the people she talks bad about are my friends too and even though I wanna tell them what she says I can't because I don't like spreading rumours and wouldn't wanna break friendships anyways. What do I do about this friend? How can I get her to stop talking bad about her friends?
As you've already noticed, she has a bad habit and likely also idea how to make good conversation..
\As with any other bad habit, habits are not selective, choosing only certain times or certain people so it is also certain that when not around you, she is also saying the same bad stuff about you behind your back. And you would be one to know if there was any truth in what she is saying. So the same goes with others, they likely know the same thing you do, that one can not trust anything that comes out of her mouth and to just ignore what she says about others.
The sad fact is, that we can't change a persons behavior at all unless they choose to want to change. And often it is extremely difficult to get a person to admit that they are lacking in some way and need improvement in their character. All you can do is be a good example to her. For all you know, she may come from a home where both parents are really messed up and belittle or call their children names all the time, verbal abuse, so she doesnt know any better. The best you can do is be a good example.
So the next time she opens her mouth and starts to talk bad about someone, stop her and say, "Tina, look...I like you very much as a person, I just don't like this one thing you do, which you may not even be aware that you do. All I want to do right now is point out what it is and ask that you never do it around me. What I am talking about is that the only conversation you have with me revolves around you saying bad things about others behind their backs. Maybe you are like I used to be in elementary school, not knowing what to say in conversation and so this is your way to have a conversation with people. It's probably just a bad habit. I am willing to help you try to get over it and learn how to talk about other things. I would be willing to use a secret hand signal or word to clue you in when I hear you doing it so you can stop yourself. But you need to know, I am serious bothered about this, just finally had the guts to let you know."
You can of course put it in your own words. But make sure you mention it like I did, without accusing her of doing it intentionally, even if she really is, because that gets a persons internal defenses up and they are not going to listen to the rest of what you say. That is why saying "you may not be aware..." or "I know you dont do this intentionally..." or "I know you're not trying to be mean on purpose..." all work very well. Also, it helps to let the person know that they aren't the only one who does or has done this. Often, I haven't done some of the really nasty stuff some humans do to but I find the closest example I can from my life and share my story to show I have struggled with the same or experienced it, and how I got past it.
It helps to be able to tell a person once that you once were there and reassure them that you don't hate or condemn her. This is how God treats us, so why not try treat others the same, with some understanding, no condemnation but challenging to improve and volunteering to help be their support as they embrace the change.
I have been both at the dishing it out end of bad talk about others as well as having been attacked by others behind my back and then to my face. I think you are an angel on earth for caring this deeply about a matter most teens wouldn't take the time to be concerned about. One last thing, make sure theres always a smile on your face, your tone of voice is soft not harsh and your body language open, meaning don't cross your arms which makes it seem you want nothing to do with her. Go spread some love little angel.
I have this friend... my best friend, actually. Karlyn is her name. From the moment I met her, I felt something more than just friendship. It vaguely resembled love, but I didn't know exactly, and didn't want to face it, so I suppressed the feeling, not knowing that Karlyn was dealing with the same thing: Karlyn loved me.
It wasn't until after I experienced a bad relationship with another girl that I realized how I felt about her in full: I was in love with her. I confessed to her shortly afterward, and she told me she felt the same and had for a long time. However, she had lied; while she had at one point felt the same, she'd gotten over me when I was in the other relationship. Now, she's interested in some other guy, and I don't wanna lose her. I love her so much and I want her to be mine so... how do I rekindle those feelings she used to have? How do I make her fall back in love with me...?
You say she lied, and that this lie was spoken at the time you confessed you love her. Was she at that same exact time in a relationship with someone else? If so, do you know that there are some people who believe they are monogamous but find themselves in love with two people at the same time? Thinking that monogamy is the only answer, they have to choose one. There is such a thing as polyamory, being in love with more than one at the same time. The deal is, this is an out in the open relationship style where each member of a group of interconnected lovers all know and give their appproval. Nothing is in secret. I dont know your ages but falling in love with two different people is possible, just not really common. For most situations, it means one person wins and one loses.
So a heart to heart talk is needed where you don't accuse her of lieing but ask questions and own your problem by starting statements with "I feel.." instead of "You make me feel..." Find out if she has love for both you and this other person. If she truly doesn't love you in return, then perhaps what she thought was love for you was not. I don't think that if a person was truly in love with someone that they can fall out of love. It may go into limbo awaiting to be rekindled. OUr subconscious mind is where our emotions lie and that mind does not forget love and feelings and memories very easily at all. In fact the subconscious hinders us often from getting over really bad partners who were harmful to us and yet we still have feelings of love.
If she claims to love both of you at the same time, it depends on how open minded and mature you both are to share each other. Could you share her with this other. And if you found a second person, could she share you? And would her new partner be okay sharing her with you. Lots depends on working things out this way, otherwise there isn't much to be done if she truly says she doesnt love you anymore. If she says no, then you need to honor her wishes as much as it may hurt and I know how much it hurts cus I've been in your position in a slightly different circumstance. If not willing to let her go, just for now, continue to be a good friend to her, willing to talk about old times and good memories together. Treat her well and dont act jealous. If in time her new relationship goes sour or she begins to question who she really wants to be with for her entire future, most people will be drawn to the person who treats them the best, is the most mature, self confident, and loving but thats unconditional love, meaning you love her but dont expect anything in return for your love. When faced in her future with deciding which person she wants to be with for life, it's more possible that you will be a candidate if you bide your time well. To try to force the situation and coerce her away right now would not come across well if all of you are monogamous.
So I have a crush on this boy at school his name is Matthew and I sometimes catch him staring at my friend and they sometimes talk to each other and I wad just wondering if he liked her.
One of the signs of interest and attraction to someone is the staring at often. Also smiling and saying Hi, finding excuses to be standing or sitting near the person.It gets pretty involved after that with different automatic body language and flirting that we dont have to think about but comes naturally to us. Just keep in mind that because someone stares at and has an initial interest in a person, it doesnt always mean the two end up dating or are even right for each other, having enough the same in common. If you are interested in him, look at him often, smile and say hi to him and try to talk to him. Don't wait for him to notice you. When it comes to making friends or winning the attention of a person you're intereseted in, the same thing applies...the quieter and more shy people who wont make eye contact, dont act self confident dontd look like fun to be around for a friend or anything more. Same works for gaining a sweetheart. YOu have to come across as interesting enough for a person to want to get to know you better. To look approachable and friendly the easiest thing you can do is smile and greet people by their name and compliment them, thats stroking the ego, something everybody likes being done to them and will naturally want to be around the people who make them feel good. Self confidence tests on adult women showed that men were more attracted to the self confident ones, no matter what the looks, than the low self esteem, shy, or drama queens.
So I only have 2 really good friends. I like them and they like me, I know I can trust them with secrets, but idk...one of them is really shy and never wants to do anything, the other is really stupid (school wise, she's smart but other than that she's a bimbo) and we just aren't into the same things. I like politics and human rights issues, I like astrology, and animal rights and follow the vegan lifestyle. I like the "scene" bands (i know that's not a genre but just putting it in general terms) and I wear black and have a fringe and wear band merch. I like darker things I paint my nails black. She isn't interested and is hard to start a discussion with, she isn't into astrology and thinks veganism is stupid. She likes pop music. She wears pink and has curly hair and is way too immature for the darker things, we're in 7th grade but she still faints at "darn it" she doesn't paint her nails. I mean when I first met her we were compatible as friends, but i don't think so anymore. I've met a few girls, like one girl from an enviormentalist account we like and comment on each other's instagram photos, like the same music, dress the same but I've never met her. And another girl I met at the park who I text, we like similar music and are into the same things, but she's in a diffirent town. Two other girls, one I don't have much in common with other than we boogy board together but she's at my maturity level, and another I don't see eye to eye on some things but she's still cool but I only see them when I go on vacation. A lot of the kids who dress like me and appear to like the same bands as me (they write band names on their arms for whatever the reason) have a huge superity complex and bitch everyone out. I just don't feel like I connect with people, and a lot of people are sort of scared of me because of how I dress and they think my music is scary (Suicide Silence, BMTH earlier, and Asking Alexandria terrifies them) and i just don't really like them, other than this one girl who im going to a Sleeping With Sirens & All Time Low concert with she's nice. How should I make new friends?
Hon, it sounds like you are already doing the right things, venturing into chat rooms or groups where you can meet others with same things in common. Its not as important as one might think in 7th grade how we look as a person including how we choose to dress. Everyone has a right to personal choice and one choice isn't better than the other but that seems to be hard for young people to get. You wont easily find a friend that you have something in common with on all levels. Yes it's possible but at school ages, really hard. Its better to focus on having different groups of friends, the couple who have same music in common, those who like astrology, maybe one friend who is all about animal rights. The only way to find out other than on social media, is to ask enough questions of teens you do know in school. You may be a bit ahead of your peers as far as subject matter of interesets. Things like that they havent even begun to think about. A sure way to find others is create a blog for young teens who think far beyond their age, on subjects like what you mentioned. Then write about what you find, put ads on your facebook for the group, join others who have those interests and get your blog or facebook or what ever other media mentioned on there. Get the word out and once there are enough members, start finding out those who live in your state and which there is a possibility to meet in person. When something doesnt exist or is hard to find, it just points to a need for a place where others like you can find each other and one of you need to be the one to create it, why not you?
usually when I am in a long conversation with someone I start feeling that my nose gets itchy. it appears weird to me as a part of my brain remains busy scratching the tip of my nose. my mom suggested it may be because I don't feel confident. but it even happens when I'm talking to my friend about my usual self.is that because I'm an introvert? what can be the possible reason? how do I get rid of it especially at social meetings, presentations , interviews ?
Going into what could be the reason could be a long delve into your psyche. Lets just say for short that there is something that long ago, you decided not to bring up, something you don't like or are too afraid to bring up. I can guess. Whetther you like or don't like the conversation, you be feeling that you want to respond to something said, but either feel inequipped as to what to do or feel what you say wont be accepted and being a generally nice person, you don't want to share your true beliefs and feelings for fear of rocking the boat or possibly upsetting people which you are afraid of doing, so your subconscious mind has come up with a way to take your mind off the conversation and on to you and does so by creating an nervous habit, sometimes its a body tic or an anxiety or obsessive behavior. This simply means something that is important to you subconsciously is Not being addressed. Until you discover what it is that is so important to you that you have been ignoring, this won't go away but perhaps you can exchange it for a new habit. The moment you feel your nose itch, choose to do something different like scratch a hand instead, a spot less likely to draw notice when others are looking at your face.
If you want to be totally rid of it, it will take your learning to gain self confidence which will help with the 'introvert' thing you mention. Being a naturally more quiet, less talkative person does not mean you are self conscious, lack self confidence but can be mistaken for that and thats why I bring up those things cus once upon a time I was there. I didnt scratch my nose but my hands got clammy when I thought I was expected to say something. I finally got tired of lacking in those areas and did something about it. So it depends on what your situation really is which you will know best, I can only guess. If you do need help gaining self confidence, I can help share more with you only those lines. Let me know.
So I have really really low self-esteem to the point where when someone calls me pretty (which is very very rare) I never believe them. The only people that really compliment me are my parents and it's never about my face it's always about how curvy my body is, which is annoying. So basically growing up I've never thought I was pretty at all, my elementary school was kindergarten to grade 8 so I went to a school with the same judgemental people all my life. I remember in grade 3 this guy would always make fun of me and you know the saying "if someone makes fun of you they have a crush on you" but this wasn't the case it was flat out bullying. In grade 5 I remember this other guy said his brother said I looked like a man. In grade 6 I remember one of my best guy friends saying my lips were too big. That same year a boy finally had a crush on me but then this girl who I thought was my friend basically filled his head up with nonsense about me and made him dislike me. Fast forward to high school those same judgemental people now go to my high school. If you've read my previous questions you'd know I have this friend who is always talking about my appearance she's always making sly comments like in grade 9 she said that "you're so lucky you're not popular cause if you were I'd hear the boys saying you're so ugly", in grade 10 she told me she can imagine me with longer hair and makeup. Also that same year she had a boyfriend and my other friend made a joke saying that me, Chrissy and marissa were gonna steal her boyfriend and she said and I quote "I understand if marissa was gonna steal my boyfriend cause she's pretty" basically indicating that me and Chrissy were ugly. Also in grade 10 this boy had a crush on my friend and his friend made a joke saying that if he can't get with my friend he can get with me, he got so offended and repulsed he was like "chill....Let's not go that far". In grade 11 I was minding my own business talking to my friends when this boy just randomly called me "burst" which is slang for ugly. Then in summer school while I was walking past by these group of boys this one boy joked with his friend and said "hey that's your girl" and then he said "ew wtf man" and they all started laughing. I've never had a boyfriend my whole high school career or any guy friends either cause everyone at my school is superficial if you're pretty guys will automatically want to at least get to know you but if you're ugly like me you have to try talk to them yourselves and 8 times out of 10 if you're ugly then they won't really acknowledge you unless they wanna make everyone aware that you're ugly like that one guy did when I was minding my own business. Grade 12 just started so I don't know what it has in store but these are some of the factors that impacted my low self esteem it's so low that whenever an adult gives me a lecture on how I'm pretty I just bawl out and start crying because I know it's not true. Also if you've read up to here can you also give me tips on how to stop being so nice cause now everyone is taking advantage of me, like I'm so nice that one time a girl sneezed on my hand and I didn't say anything cause I didn't want her to feel bad.
If looking for a way to get over being of low self esteem, there are two area's to pay attention to.
1. Your thoughts 2. Lack of confidence
Human naturally think negative or distorted thoughts more often than positive ones. I've found also that for say every one negative thought, you need more than just one positive thought to cancel it out, more like 5 or 6, maybe for some, a dozen. So the more we allow ourselves to dwell on negative thoughts, there more we become over run by them. This can easily pertain to how you view yourself in looks, personality, etc and feeling like you don't match up. Kids in HS haven't even begun to understand this yet and I was there too at that age, worried about being liked and what others thought of me.
Along with low self esteem there is low self confidence. Funny thing about self confidence, it is something our subconscious mind picks up on, like vibes that emanate from other people. So there is behaviour and mannerisms that give us a clue that a person may be no fun to know, or high maintenance, like unable to look others in the eye, always hanging their head, trying to avoid people, hide in a dark corner of a room and have problems verbalizing our feelings, believes and setting rules. In tests done with adult men who were placed in a room with different types of women, they seemed to more often go for the ones with high self confidence rather than the beauty queen who was high maintenance and low self esteem. In explanation, they found the average woman with self confidence to be sexier than the ones without. After reading that, I did my own experiment. It really works, so here's what you can try. Think of a famous actress you admire, someone hot and gorgeous, and pick one where you may have something a little in common with, same bone structure, same body size, same shape of eyes, same hair cut, same nose or mouth. Just one thing will do the trick for this mind exercise. I did this with my eyes and Sophia Loren, an actress you probably wouldn;t know of from the past. Because of the eyes, I thought of them as my best feature and imagined myself as looking like Sophia and getting the same attention and reaction everywhere i went once I stepped out of the house. Before entering the grocery, the bar, the store, going to the park, I would close my eyes and visualize myself entering a room looking like her. The results were tremendous!!! I am not kidding you dear and I was in my 40s when I tried this. People would stop me and mention that I had the most beautiful eyes they'd ever seen, both men and women! I got compliments even if my ex husband was with me. It felt so surreal like I was someone being pranked on a TV show with a hidden camera. Did my eyes change from before my little test. No, they looked the same. So why did people notice me now? Simply one thing, self confidence which isn't something tangible that can be touched or seen, but peoples sub conscious minds can pick up on. I borrowed self confidence from an actress to start out, but once you've received enough compliments and choose to believe them because in truth, people are only seeing you, not the actress, then you can continue on with your own self confidence in being an attractive women that turns the head of men who are not available, and spurs others to approach you, and fills the dreams of all.
So I'm a white European (family is from Italy) and I heard that dressing up as a culture or religion is racist. Mainly minority groups but I've heard some about certain countries. Basically I want to dress up like I'm from the rennisaunse or medieval times at Halloween and I'm wondering since it's apart of my culture would it be bad?
don't know where you heard that, but it sounds like you've run into someone, several someones who are spouting their own views and assumptions as if they're the truth or they are passing on the views and beliefs of someone else they heard it from. Some of the simplist easiest dress ups is to dress as the opposite of what you are sex wise and race wise. So my husband dressing up with all his friends as females for one Halloween would have been 'looking down on women? A costume a person wears for one day is not a statement of what they believe in their heart towards other people. We live in a world so scared of saying or doing something that according to society is considered inappropriate or breaking a law of personal rights, that instead in some areas we go overboard in being cautious to avoid getting caught up doing something distasteful to another person or race or religion. And thats what we have in your case.
Wear your medieval or rennaissance costume and enjoy it. Likely you are unaware of many big festivals near big American cities cross the country that are all about that time period and including anything about fantasy themes, so fairies and satyrs are part of it. These are called Renaissance faires and I have attended one each year in my area.
I am including a listing of the ren fairs from Wikipedia in case anyone gives you flack for dressing from the renaissance period.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_Renaissance_fairs
The fun thing about such fairs that mostly occur during summer months, is everyone who attends comes in costume or buys a costume there to change into. Thats half the fun, people watching and taking photos. The majority of attendees are adults. If you enjoy dressing up in Renaissance clothes and want to experience it again, not just at Halloween, you might try looking for the closest Ren Fair to you and attend it next year and I think you'll soon see for yourself that the singers, the jousting and other handiworks are nothing more than a re-enactment of a long gone by time period and a fun way to spend a weekend.
Hi, there. I'm a high school student, and I guess I'm seeking advice. I always liked school in elementary and middle school; I hated the weekends and I'd stay after school for all sorts of clubs. But now, I hate it. Everyone's always lecturing to me about how 'these are the best years of my life' or telling me that 'this is as easy as it gets', but dear God, I can't imagine it getting any worse than this. I'm miserable in school? and out of school, all I do is dread and dwell on how I have to go back in a couple days. I have no motivation to do homework or practice my flute or do anything productive. I feel like this is all for nothing, like my life isn't going anywhere and I'm going to end up a stay-at-home mom with unfulfilled dreams or working at some mediocre job I don't even like. I think that I don't even belong in my honors classes because I don't feel smart anymore. I feel so physically and mentally exhausted.
So what changed for you since middle school? Changes to family structure, having relocated, an accident , disease, etc. Unexpected changes or those out of our control can rob us of daily rob us of daily joy and it is easy to become stressed, depressed or just burned out.
Personally, when in High School, for the most part, I did just what was needed to get by, had a handful of friends but other than that, didnt participate much in school and couldn't wait to graduate and really begin my life. While all the girls were weeping at graduation, I was excited for school to be over with. I was not depressed or burnt out. I simply happened to be quite a lot more mature than my peers so there was no challenge, no fun in being part of hanging in there and going with the program, much like if you were the only teen expected to attend a Kindergarten class every day and participate at that level. So go ahead and start making plans for what you will do when you get out. I planned to go straight to work which I did and soon after bought my first car. You are going to be able to handle HS and find energy to do what the basics are if you can bring back hope, a direction, goals into your life. Or perhaps your goals for after HS seem to impossible or unlikely to meet or make happen. Take those plans in smaller bits then. If you don't find a way to change your thinking and views of your life, then you could easily become depressed. Stress is a step away from depression.
I dont get the saying that HS is the best years of your life. I will say that they are the best for feeling a bit of what its like to be an almost adult and not have any of the burdons and responsibilities that an adult or parent has. Before 18, parents still handle it all, provide a home, clothing food, etc but once you are an adult on your own, you have the same set of concerns any adult has, having enough incoming money to handle all your bills which include your livelihood, food, place to sleep at night, school loans, or a car and the upkeep of it, etc... I think the saying is meant to say its the best time in life as far as being carefree. However my life didn't take a turn for being the best years of my life until I met my 2nd husband just before turning 50. Oh, I had great moments and memories of being a mom raising my kids. But the part of life that affected me personally was shitty....abusive ex so in reality I am now living the best years of my life. Who knows when yours will be.
I'm 22 and never did it before. I just started dating this guy and we really want to have sex, but there's one thing I'm worried about.
What if he literally can't fit inside me? I have a super narrow pussy........ the opening is less than an inch in diameter. His cock is big! 6 inches in circumference. And how bad does it hurt to have your hymen broken?
Your vagina is elastic in how it works. While resting, if you use a mirror to look, you won't see much of an opening but it will stretch to accomodate. A good example is a piece of elastic like that used in underwear. A piece only 3,4 inches long if pulled on can stretch to 8,9 inches or maybe more. Also the length of a resting vagina is pretty short, think of tampon length. However, when a female has been aroused, the uterus pulls away and upward in you creating more space length wise as well.
About the only problem there can be with the hymen is if instead of a smaler circle of skin around the circumferance of your vagina, your hymen is a strip going down the middle of the entrance to vagina causing 2 much smaller openings and for some reason, in this form, called a 'Septate Hyman", it does stretch or tear as easily as the other and from what I've heard, can be painful. If you suspect that is what your issue is, meaning a tampon or just a finger is hard to get in, then you'll want to schedule to see your Dr to have it checked out because it is a simple thing they can take care of, numbing the local area and snipping away the extra strip.
Once it is out of the way, you can become accustomed to stretching out for a great range of sizes.
Can I get pregnent if my boy friend fuck me in my back whole
No you can't get pregnant that way because the anus and the vagina do not connect at all inside your body. The only way for sperm to get inside to impregnate you is by the vagina.+
my daughter has decided to join the poor clares but she has mental issues do you think they will accept her?please and this is a serious question thanks and god bless
I am not Catholic and had to look up Poor Clares online. The site I found that describes them sounds to be open minded and very accepting especially with this sentence: there is no "template" for what a Poor Clare should look like, sound like and be like. Because there are no two alike.. and that is how the Holy Spirit works.'
Here's the site: http://poorclare.org/
I do not know what mental issues you are talking about but can imagine that as long as her issues do not interfere with the ability to perform her tasks that it shouldn't be an issue. If she is on medication for a mental issue and doesnt do well when not on it, then she'd need to be consistent taking it. If she isn't able to remember to take it every day, then there may be an issue. Since the article says that every Monastery is uniquely different so the rules for each may differ. If your daughter is of legal age and able to make decisions for her own, then it is her decision to make. If she is an adult but due to severity of her mental abilities is going to need to be in need of guidance and adult care for the rest of her life, no nunnery or any other type of group is set up to be an adult overseer or caregiver but I am sure if they have an issue with your daughters abilities or lack of them, they will explain to her why they can't allow her to join.
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So I recently started dating again and met someone I'm interested in. We've gone on two dates so far but seem to hit it off well and have plans for another.
That stuff doesn't really matter though..
My mom passed away a month ago. She had a stroke and was in the hospital for a month before she passed. It was heartbreaking. The doctors told us she was going to live. She would open her eyes and smile and was responding and all that. They were looking for homes for her to go for recovery. But she ended up having another stroke.
Anyways I'm rambling..
My friends were shocked when they found out that I'm dating. My dad doesn't seem to see any problems with it.
I think they think I should be grieving more. Well, I am still grieving but I think they expect me to sit in my room and isolate everyone.
Is me dating a month after my mom passes away inappropriate?
No hon, it is not. Everyone deals with grief in different ways. Many get stuck and don't process through properly and end up so depressed they can't even think about a new relationship.
It is also well known that having a sense of normalcy, that life goes on, like getting into a new relationship is what helps others much better in coping and recovering from a loss.
When I lost Mom, I did about half and half, a few days of the hard grieving and crying til I had no more tears and then turned to things of normalcy that promised life goes on and of course did things too from time to time that reminded me of Mom, such as carrying on a Christmas traditionn of hers. Playing a favorite song of hers, or thinking of Mom while browsing thru 2nd hand store clothing for my kids growing like weeds. This was something she always astounded me with, finding the prettiest clothing for the cheapest prices.
If you feel compelled to explain to your friends to help them understand better, you could explain to them what I've just said to you. Not for the purpose of defending yourself, but if you are the caring type who can put yourself in someone elses shoes, you can feel a bit of how helpless they feel to know what to say to you. If they just knew you needed to experience life going on as usual with new experiences as your particular way of dealing with grieving, then they may feel relieved and not avoid you but know they can invite you out to a movie or party and be happy to include your boyfriend.
because I don't want to hear how you think I'm dumb and that this is a load of bullshit.
But along with many people, I believe that affirmations can collect like energy in the Universe and can create/bring your desire. I constantly say my affirmations everyday. Are you able to feel your desire spiritually with you, or is it just me?
Again, don't answer if you think this is bullshit. Thanks.......
On a scientific level I know there are many who believe this and there are those who've written books and gone around the country doing lectures about this. You'll find this belief in the main stream and also in religious groups...especially there. What the general public has heard about is that there is power in positive thinking and not only thinking but verbalizing those positive thoughts with affirmations daily.
I do not quite understand the wording of your sentence: "Are you able to feel your desire spiritually with you, or is it just me?" You'd probably have to re-word it for me to be able to have a chance at answering that.
What I can do is share what I do believe. The bible says we are created in God's image. I believe that is about physical appearance of our mortal bodies, but concerning our souls within those bodies. I believe we have character attributes very similar to God. I also believe that if God was able to create the heavens and the earth and everything upon it by simply speaking the words, that our souls have to some extent the same abilities, to harness positive thoughts and words or affirmations to speak it out and make it happen. However since God gave a will to everyone, He won't force us to do something against anyones will and will not allow us to use affirmations that attempt to force another person to bend to our will. So it really depends on what your focus of affirmations is really about. I do energy healing and have found that what I visualize in my mind begins to happen to the person as long as they are willing and wanting and accepting of help. The other day, I held my hands a few inches away from the head area of a gal in extreme pain from migraine but she was a caregiver and needed to be helping her client. I had the picture in my mind of healing energy funneling down from the universe into me and out the palms of my hands to enter the person and take away the tension and stuff causing her pain. I was multi tasking and having a regular conversation with her at same time, not on the subject and at one point she interrupted me to say the pain was gone. I can do that because I do not have one negative thought that it might not work. I know it works. So its hard to start doing this without a track record of one success at doing so but eventually you can get there. Speaking your affirmations works the same way. Instead of speaking the words "Pain go away, Be healed" which is unsettling for people with a dfferent spiritual belief and puts a person on the defense feeling its more about me wanting to convert them to my belief. SO if you still have a question, just rephrase it and maybe give an example so I know what you meant.
Ok so I was in math class with my teacher(female) who I had a crush on and when I looked at she was always looking at me but whenever she around me she smiles and I just try not to, but idk what to do because i know that it is wrong to like a teacher bug I think she likes me...😶 but I can't tell but if she does what should I do?
Another vote for doing nothing because really this is something that is illegal to pursue. I do know from a teacher friend that teachers can have favorites each year in their class, although they are not supposed to treat them any better or different than other students and for the most part do not. Sometimes a student has the looks or mannerisms or something of a person they know, a daughter, a niece, someone they are close to so it is natural to be drawn to look at that person with a big smile. I have come across people that remind me of my own daughters and I feel an instant mothering instinct arise in me if they look, act or talk like one of my kids. I believe it may be nothing more than that but due to your crush, your mind imagines that there must be something more.
I went online and bought diet pills, I was told it was a trial and would only have to pay postage, after I paid postage I then saw that it was a membership and I would be billed in 30 days for about £70, I got in touch and told them I didn't want to continue this, that was ok, but when pills arrived it was for 60 not 30 as stated in the trial,(I was told they didn't have any bottles of the 30 pills left only the 60) I was told to send 30 to address in Cyprus, I then said this is going to cost a bit and really why should I pay for 60 when I only wanted 30.I have informed my credit card company to stop them taking any more money from my account. Anybody got any solution thank you
I can't say but it may be a business that is hoping to get ahead by scamming people. They may never have ever created a 30 pill bottle, only advertised it. Considering the amount they then ask to cover 60 pills, they figure most people don't want to bother with any legal action against them for such a small amount and thats how they make their money.
There could be a claim for false advertising and trying to get your money back but you did the right thing to inform your creditcard company. So if they got more money from you than postage, I would say it should be okay to keep the pills and not send back.k They lied, used trickery and with such a company, I would not even trust them to acknowledge recieving the pills back from me, or trust them to reimburse any money they took from me. Just ignore them and don't deal with them anymore. If they threaten to do anything like take you into collections, I would check with a lawyer but also report their bad business practice to any agency you have there that covers it, like the States BBB Better Business Bureau. And next time you think to order something online, check to see if there is a place for customers to put their remarks about the company. If there isn't, don't take the chance. If there is a place to rate and give opinions on the company, read what others have posted. If theres too many bad marks against them, don't use them.
I'm going to make this brief, yet informative as possible. This happened all around 2-3 years ago.
It all started when my mother passed away and we were left with her life insurance benefits. My dad, brother, and me each got around $141,000. At the time I was around 20 or 21 and to me it was quite a lot of money and wasn't sure what to do with it. I wanted to go back to school but my dad told me to wait. So he helped me and my brother set up a money market account with Citizens Bank that way it would sit there and build interest. I wanna say that he might of been the primary owner of the three accounts he set up and we were the secondary owners because we had the ability to withdraw and deposit money into the money market account. Plus I have a document stating that the life insurance was to be divided and entitled to the following beneficiaries correspondingly.
Later on he suggested the idea that we all chip in to pay off the mortgage of our house and that he would put all of our names on the deed. Some time has passed and I asked my dad when we were gonna follow up with it and told me he was getting the paperwork for it. So one day I checked my bank account and noticed my money market was empty and had been withdrawn and so has my brother's.
Basically my dad withdrew from me and my brother's money market accounts, ALL the money that was entitled to us, deposited onto his account and ended up paying off the mortgage himself and only putting his name on the deed of the house, not honoring the deal we all came to.
So I confronted my dad about it saying he didn't actually pay it off with his own money, the deed should have three of our names on it, but since he did not honor the deal then we should have our money refunded back to us but he won't do it.
So right now he is a different person from before and I believe he has intentions of selling the house we are all living in because all of us can't live together due to conflicting reasons. Unfortunately there is no contract of physical documentation about the deal being recorded, it was more of a "he said this" situation. Basically I've been lied to, stolen from, and cheated by my own dad which became heavily influenced by the large sum of money that was left to us.
What should I do? What can I do? Am I able to put a Lien on the house before he sells it? Or should I get a lawyer involved and attempt to sue him? Go to a debt collection agency? How do I go about this?
All I csn add to what advice man said is that I know from having children who had their own bank acccounts with accident money deposited in them is that until they turned 18, they had to have a joint account with a parent on it. If you & brother were 18 or older at the time, there was absolutely no reason for Dad to be on your account, no reason to have joint account with him. It might come down to his word against yours. However there is legal paperwork that acknowledges each of you recieved a 3rd of the money. As to what rights there are after that, you will definitely need a lawyer to go after. Luckily, its not just the word of one person against Dad but two.
I’m a bit worried about the last couple of periods I’ve had. I’m 22 year old female, virgin, not on Birth Control or anything like that, I’m not taking any medicine or tablets (apart from the normal cold&flu remedies) my periods have always been fairly regular and normal but then up until a few weeks ago that changed. My periods came around the normal time it’s supposed to but I suddenly stopped getting period cramps. I always get cramps when I have my period and it goes away after one day. My last period was on September 20th (no cramps just period). Now period suddenly turned up today on October 4th. It’s been 14 days since my last period and suddenly it’s turned up! I don’t think I’ve got the date wrong of my last period but I’m getting worried now since it’s so unlike my normal periods. Is this anything to worry about? Should I see a doctor?
The further into my twenties I got, the less severe my cramps became and sometimes I didn't have them at all. That part is normal to come and go and shouldn't mean anything.
If you'd said that you had irregular periods all along, then I would say there is something missing in you, likely some kind of hormone is low and Drs. can help with that.
If however as you say this is the first time its off, I wouldn't be concerned yet. If you continue to have irregular periods, such as 2 in a month, or none for a couple months, or a long period with only spotting or a short one with really heavy bleeding, all of that irregularity is common for a teen in puberty whose body is getting used to the hormones and starting a cycle and its also common for women going into menopause who face the same irregularities until it stops totally. Any irregularity at any other age that is ongoing, is not normal and needs to be checked out by a doctor.