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i have a crush
So long story short I like this girl and I know that she likes me back but how do i get to 2 base where there's touching I kissed her and she liked it but I want to see her privet parts how do I get her to let me
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Since this is something to weird or uncomfortable for you to discuss with the parents, it comes to me to give you an answer as if you were my own son . I am pretty open minded for an older person and understand the importance of a good healthy sex life for teens however for that to be so, there is some important information you need to learn that will help you life long.
First, what you call a crush is actually sexual attraction which can be totally separate from becoming interested in a girl as the whole person, wanting to spend time doing things together you have in common, a caring enough about each other to really love and support them thru easy times and the hard times.
To a girl, a crush usually does not involve getting nude, allowing touching and petting and possibly sex. Girls want love and romance and are of a different make up than guys. Females want to be loved for who they are inside, their character and personality, not just their body. Sex for girls is the result and outpouring of a mutual love for each other
So you will find it extremely hard to find a girl willing to show her private parts to you let alone do anything more with you.
The few exceptions might be like the 12 yr olds and on who are experiencing the first release of hormones that are meant to change their bodies and grow their sexual organs. In girls, these same hormones not only can make them as horny as you guys but it messes with the emotions of all girls, not a one of us is immune, we all experience this. It means she can all of a sudden be way more sad or depressed than usual, have an anger problem all the time, or other emotions like love are also over exaggerated too, and they can crave being loved by a guy. But what most girls interpret as being loved is usually with guys interpreted as sex. Only a few girls at such a young age want to willingly do nude shots, touching, petting and have sex.
I don't know if your girl is one of those few who wants sex, she may only want love. If so, then it would be cruel and mean to make her believe you really love her as a person just to get the gratification and your wishes to come true. Kissing is a safe practice for most girls, they cant get pregnant from it, and they can enjoy wonderful feelings from it, all girls love getting kissed. its taking it further that can be an issue not just for her but in general. If you're on good speaking terms and talk about lots and you feel that she feels comfortable with you, you might just have to ask bluntly and to the point. this isn't one of those topics to beat around the bush with and say things that might be misunderstood, causing even more problems. If you can be considerate of her answer and take no for a no and drop the subject thereafter and still want to be with her simply cus you can't imagine having anyone else for a friend, then ask her. Otherwise don't, as it wouldn't be fair to her if you can't adjust to the answer No and still like her. If your only goal is to find a girl who will strip for you or more, then letting her go is the kinder thing to do and find the girl who is ready and willing and doesnt have to be talked into it.
What you could say if you love her unconditionally is to say, "I really care deeply about you and well I won't hide the fact that very often these hormones flowing in me, make me want a lot more than just kissing with you. i am willing to go slowly, only at a pace you are comfortable with. If you say no, it doesnt change anything, I still want to be with you. But what I want to ask is how you feel about showing me what you look like naked, maybe I could do the same for you if you are curious. You have my promise, that I won't ask you for anything more, no matter how hard my hormones will scream at me for more...I leave it up to you to make the first move when you are ready. Until then, I will be a gentleman.
This kind of talk from a guy who has become a females best friend, is what separates him from being stuck in the friend zone. It also separates him from the group of men women begin to label 'the Players'. It is a males words of appreciation for her femininity, his compliments and sharing his desires but not acting on it, other than kissing and holding hands and hugging/cuddling, that let her know she is desired and gives her the control a female wants in such areas. Your eyes even change when aroused and send the message she is desired so it can't be mistaken unless a gal is way too naive. Even grown females respond much better if the man openly shares how much he is aroused by the female but leaves it up to her to make the first move sexually. Thats how my 2nd husband was. I had to give him the first kiss even though I knew he desired me and I had to make the first move for sex. But there is nothing awkward, or held back once I started the ball rolling and i am very happy with the lover he is. No hesitation now on his part. Since guys are naturally stronger than females, a female can be forced sexually, physically or verbally, even when she doesn't want it and that is rape, no matter how its done.
Now, if a guy lets her have the control without letting her know how he feels, nothings gonna happen, he gets stuck in the friend zone.
However, If you let her know how you feel but in a respectful loving way, and let her know its up to her to say when, even if you have to wait a year or two, its worth it. I know of the few guys who did treat their teen girlfriends with this kind of respect and hung out with her family and treated them well too, that when the time came and they were in HS the parents got the daughter on birth control and gave their okay for the two to have sex when the daughter asked them, and even in their home! A guys caring attitude and patience go a long way to eventually getting him something wonderful in the end.
For you, if masturbating isn't enough and you must view naked women, ask your Dad to get you an issue of Playboy or if not Dad, then an Uncle, someone who knows you and you aren't so embarrassed to ask. Cus in reality, it is a normal thing for a male who is heterosexual to want to view the female body but at a young age, and your Dad or Uncle will understand perfectly and not find it odd are terrible at all cus they feel the same things now as they did at your age.
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Look dear...you seem to be lil confused...so 1stly chat with her abouth this thing indirectly...As in ask hwr the questions that make her mind naughty lyk...what have you wore now? May I see you or like if you need my help in changing your clothes dont bother and even you can ask her about her lingire sizes ...etc etc make her naughty make her horny...all the best!
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