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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I like to think about names for if I ever have kids, and I really love the name Alexei for a boy, but a lot of my friends say it sounds like a girl name. Would this be an ok boy name? Thank you answerers
Name your child should be what you and the father of the child want it too be, Not what your friends want. If you like the name Alexei for a boy, Then that's all that should matter.
So my ex and I dated for three months, and he broke up with me over an issue that made him not trust me completely. From the beginning, he wanted to be friends and frankly, I was uneasy about it. Normally when the relationship's over, it's over for me, and that door shuts as to not become a revolving door of emotions. But he ended up explaining to me that he still wanted to remain "friends" to see if maybe we could get back together again, and could see each other in a light outside our relationship (which for the last month was full of arguing over things we both misunderstood about one another.)
I agreed to this - and still, I'm uneasy. I've made it clear to him that I feel as long as I'm being his "friend" that seeing anyone else besides each other would be unfair to either of us and just hurt us, ultimately. And he's said he has no desire to do so. So we're "platonic friends"... and that's the gist of it.
However, he's stated to me several times about how it will take "time" to see if we can be back together. I'm not a serial dater, so I can understand that it's going to take time, but at the same time I feel like if he felt the same way toward me it shouldn't be too much of a question if he wants back with me.
I guess I'm afraid that this is just a way of keeping the door open for him, so he can still have that option with me but if something else comes along, he'll go for it. But I also know that he really likes me, and he's not the type to jeapordize what we have. It's just a complicated situation, and I'm wondering if anyone else has ever been there, and if they really got back together again? Also, what really IS the appropriate amount of time to keep him in my life is things seemingly go nowhere? I feel like a month and maybe slightly more is a justified amount of time.
One of the reasons why I always suggest to cut contact with the exes is because it only leads up being a pain in the ass later on half the time.
Lets back track on what you said:
You are uneasy about the ideal of having a friendship with you ex, This is where you've made up your mind on whether it's a good idea or not. If you feel uneasy then I'm assuming there is a good reason behind it.
On his behalf, The guy can't make up his mind on what he wants and so he decided he would go down the route of playing games to see "where it will lead too" Stop letting him waste your time. If he didn't trust you while dating, He certainly isn't going to start now.
me and my best friend are thinking about trying out the whole friends with benefits thing because neither of us are ready for a relationship yet. but from stories i've heard, friends with benefits doesn't usually work out. what do you think?
Friends with benefits is one of those things that if you end up doing you need to be aware there could very well be some consequences.
Friends with benefits often ruin a relationship between two friends, and likely overtime if not two then one of you could end up developing feelings for the other.
I think your best bet is to let it pass, FWB often leads to drama, betrayal and sometimes it can ruin a friendship. It's a risk you take, Is going along with it possibly worth the sacrifice of your friendship?
I've gone down this road, I was good friends with someone and we had a thing going and before I knew it 7 years passed and I haven't seen or talked to the person.
so the other night i hooked up with someone i had a crush on for a longg time. i wish i would've waited a little but when you're alone with someone you've really been into for awhile its so hard to not want to especially when he's initiating it. the thing is he doesn't text me first, when i text him first we talk for hours though. he said he doesn't want a relationship at the moment because he was in a serious one last year but i dunnoo i'm okay with being hookup buddies. so should i text him? idk :/
If the guy told you he didn't want a relationship, Then I would leave it alone.
A hookup buddy is not anything serious but in the end it is still a relationship, Whether or not you two are dating.
Best to let it go, If he is really interested in you let him come to you when he's ready. You don't want to be persistent and scare him off.
I'm a male 22 I've been using dating websites for almost a year now with no success I've emailed hundreds of people and never get a single reply. My profile's are normally simple, honest and to the point. I'm wondering what I can do to better improve my chances of at-least getting reply's. what would help me the most is an idea of what women look for in a guys profile or emails before they decide weather that person is worth giving a chance or not.
Dear, Seeking for love
Sometimes when we create a profile it's best to make it unique and different from other profiles on the site. While being honest and truthful sometimes we need to add something that will catch a girls eye without seemly desperate. The columnist below me has a point, People are usually on a dating site for a reason and that reason is usually the fact they have no luck in the real world. If you want to meet someone, Try and get yourself out there. Meet new people and try to talk to them. Do you have any guy friends that know people?..Sometimes that helps as well as trying to connect with people on Facebook. Usually dating sites aren't your best bet and the ones that require you to pay...Are rip offs.
i've been talking to this guy from craigslist, who's got an 85 camaro for sale. he's asking for 2000 for it. he said that it has no ac, or heater, and needs new vacuum hoses. he said he's got the vacuum hoses, just hasnt had the time to hook them up. i thought that he was asking a reasonable price for it, considering what's wrong with it. but i wanna know how hard is it to fix the ac and heater? what all do you have to do? is it expensive? would i have to buy new parts? i'm going thursday to go look at it and see if it's worth buying.
also, if anyone could tell me little things to look for when i'm looking at it to see if it's worth buying, that'd be great! i know nothing about cars! :) thanks so much
I know this isn't exactly the advice you seek but I wouldn't buy anything from Craigslist.
Seek a private dealer in your local area, That's your best bet.
what is this dance ppl are talking about?
This pretty much explains it
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NJxYiIfr4WM&feature=fvwrel
Okay so I've known this guy for a year, and he's a really good friend of mine. This isn't one of those "he's my best friend and I'm in love with him" situations. So one night, yes we were drunk, but we kissed...that's it. We made out for not too long then passed out on the couch that night! The next few nights we didn't talk much, but eventually we went back to being really good friends and just joking about that night! We both knew it was just a drunken night we didn't mean to happen, but we flirt ALL THE TIME! We don't have the intention of "hookin up" I'm not like that, or dating but I kinda like him. One night when we were drunk he kissed me and said..."Why don't we just face the truth and date." I said "You flirt with everyone haha dork." like joking around, but then he said..."who do I flirt with?" I said a few girls names and he said.."Maybe, but I don't flirt with them like you and me flirt, I like you." and that's when he kissed me twice in front of the whole party. I can't tell if it's just because he was drunk or if he was serious, because he jokes with me all the time,texts me and flirts, yet flirts with a ton of other girls.....help?
Alcohol has a big influence on peoples behavior, If you really want to know how he feels talk to him when he is sober. if he flirts around with other girls then you really might want to think to whether he is or will be serious if you two were to date. A lot of the times when a guy flirts around it's usually a warning.
Ok so I am a 17 year old girl. I have had my period since I was 12. I became sexually active when I was 14 (please don't judge). Since I had sex to this day I get an overboard amount of discharge. Its disgusting. I go to the bathroom to wipe down there more than to pee. It wets my panties and it doesn't smell nice . Please any advice will help.
If you've had an ongoing problem for 3 years then you need to set up an appointment with your gynecologist.
I'm a 17 year old female living in South Africa. I have a boyfriend who I have been with for 1 amazing year and an ex boyfriend who I was with for 2 years . I'm all about boyfriends. But I have some girl issues .!! Here's some things :: 1) when I masturbate I watch lesbian porn or I think about a girl. 2) sometimes when I see a girl I'm attracted to I get so turned on and I dono what to do with myself. 3) there is 1 girl in particular I want to be with sexually and emotionally but I don't know what to do . Should I go out there and try it or contain myself? Biggest problem is I love my boyfriend more than my own life ! Please advise me on what to do !!
You need to decide what is more important too you, Being with your boyfriend or dating the girl you have feelings for.
Know that if you decide to leave your boyfriend to date someone else don't expect it to end on a nice note.
You need to decide for yourself what you want
Hello people,
I have a problem, a big problem and I really need your help. I have my own room, and my own computer that is unfortunately in the TV room. I REALLY want my computer and desk in my room, that's where I have my problem(s). I can't have my computer in my room because. . .
{1} My room has no wireless or computer outlet thingie.
{2} My Dad and Mom are saying 'You can't have your computer in your room because we want to be safe.' I don't go on any bad sites!
{3} My Dad is too lazy to do anything on the weekends.
It's getting really frustrating for me having my computer where I write in the TV room with a TV and my parents on the couch leaning over and watching me type this. I watch TV while I write and it's really distracting.
Back on topic. How can I get a PRIVATE writing space when I can't move my computer into my room and I have a TV with my favorite show on in front of me while I write!!!!??? Thanks in advanced.
~~Anna
P.S. I'm fourteen, I don't want a TV in my room, and I'm thinking about getting an iPod keyboard for my room instead of moving my computer, what do you think?
Save your money and buy a laptop, Laptops have wireless and you do not need an outlet to get a connection. You can easily buy a wireless plug at any Staples, Best Buy or Wal-mart. However, At 14 if your parents say you can't have a computer well then your likely stuck going to a local library. The old saying goes "There house, There rules."
i'm 17/f and he's 19/m
so the other night i hooked up with a guy i've kinda been crushing on for like years. he goes to school an hour and a half away so i kinda rushed things more than i would if he was to live closer to me. we did everything except sex, which i'm glad we didn't. but i'm just wondering if i ruined my chances with him. he's a really nice guy and after we hooked up he told me to text him when i got home to make sure i got home safe and he held my hand while i was..ya know haha. we text a bit but i feel like i'm always the first one to text him but he shows signs of interest for me and sends me alot of smileys and winky faces haha. so my questions are, what goes through a guy's mind after a hookup? what are the chances of him coming back?
Did you blow your chances? Possibly, You two fooled around early on and weren't dating which would generally give any guy the wrong impression. Hell, Maybe you got lucky and find one of the few decent ones that aren't an asshole but the chances of developing a relationship is slim considering what was done and the fact he lives so far away. Long distant relationships are stressful and most of the time unless the relationship has serious commitment and goals towards living with one another likely it won't work. His smiley faces are probably his way of keeping you seemly interested for his next time around and that is to get possible ass. Sorry to be blunt, But sometimes the truth hurts.
So, im 16 years old.. and me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 1 year and a half.. and im really happy thank God, hes turning 18 Soon, thought you guys would want to know basically everything, but weve been having really complicated issues lately.. and i dont really have anyone to talk to about this, well.. i have alot of people in my life, but not exactly those i want to talk about this to... so i decided to come on here and maybe someone could understand and help me out.. we started off really great.. best friends..and we fell inlove.. we were perfect, i had guy friends, he had girls that were friends aswell.. but we acually approved on eachothers friends.. til one day, a friend of mine came back from a diffrent country, and they started getting close.. and i acualy THOUGHT i would like it, and i turned out to be wrong.. she wanted to basically mess up my realtionship with him.. and she brainwashed him.. and he treated me really badly, we were having problems before that so he turned to her about it, he said she was awesome and he really liked her as a friend, and i was totally against it only because she really wasnt such a good friend for brainwashing him telling him to leave me,we fell apart since, everything has changed between us, until he finally came to his senses... and stopped talking to her, after that he told me he didnt want me talking to one of my really close guy friends because he thought there was something a bit more than just that and he didnt likke the relationship between us anymore, basically ive been doing anything hes been wanting me too since day one, and im not gonna lie, he has been too..til he did what he did when it came to him wanting his freedom", even though i always let him do WHATEVER he wanted, but he would still keep saying he wanted his space.. and fucked me over pretty bad.. that was like in our 10th month. and hes changed, i see him diffrently now, and were still inlove.. but what never stopped hurting me was the fact that has alot of anger problems.. (family surrounding.) everytime we argue, or i do something he doesnt want me to do, he breaks up with me.. and after EVERYTHING hes put me through, after all the yelling and the hurting hes put me through i never FOR one second ever ended our relationship, everytime we argue like REALLY badly, he goes "your not worth it" or "im giving up my teen life for you even THOUGH hes not the type of guy that drinks. AT ALL, he doesnt care about that stuff, hes really religious, and after it he ALWAYS seems to regret it, and cry and say hes sorry.. just a couple of days ago, i did soemthing he didnt approve of, and no it wasnt going out with guys behind his back or whatever, it was just this little mistake i made, and it pissed him OFF sooo badly that he said "YOUR NOT WORTH IT, UR NOT MY GIRLFRIEND ANYMORE" so i got FED UP, and i didnt talk to him anymore, i told him to never call me up again.. and i didnt wanna know him anymore( ofcourse out of anger) i saw him today.. and he kept crying.. and begging me to forgive him and he kept saying ' you know i dont mean it when i say stuff like that when im mad, ofcourse were together we never broke up i love you" and hes like "GIVE me your hand" and id give it to him and hed smack his neck with it.. here where i live its a sign of disrepsect.. and he did it infront of all his friends and he didnt care. and he kept crying saying HED never ever do it again.. and he promisses and that hes an idiot blalblah.., now my question is.. what exactly do i do? everytime he cries i give into him.. i just dont know, i REALLY love him. i just feel SO hurt =/ someone help, please, i know this is long, i REALLY appreicaiet it though. sorry for all the typos, im in ahurry =]
The longer you stay with him the longer you prolong your pain.
Did he listen to your friend?...Did he stop talking to you? If he did, Then the relationship was never strong to begin with. A strong relationship doesn't let someone come between it. Sure, People say things when they get mad but lets face it after so many times of being dumped we begin to brace for the next time around. It's stressful, draining and tiring after awhile. What do you do? Be the strong one. Every time you take him back you give him the power to do it all over again and likely seeing he's done it on several occasions he'll do it again because he knows he can and possibly get away with it. Put your foot down, Don't take him back. As I've always said sometimes cutting contact with a person helps you to move on a lot faster. Find it in yourself to move on. Don't let him fool you
hello i have been with my boy friend for pritty much 5 years and i am 20, he has been my first everything. my parents dont like him. he takes me out on dates calls me everyday to see how im doing and tells me im beautiful all the time. He has always had a temper but has never hit me, recently he had a problem with a house he just bought and cant fix it so when he gets mad he breaks glasses and windows and cabnet doors.he jokes about hitting me and this bothers me because i dont find it funny and he does. he says he cant hold me or cuddle with me because he feels he cant breath and he dosnt act like he enjoys kissing me even tho he says he does. he cant ever look me in the eyes. i am starting to realy feel lonley but i feel i should be here for him through thick and thin and hope things gets better or if i leave him im afraid ill regret it and never be able to get him back what should i do
Your boyfriend has issues he needs to sort out, His anger is one of them. It is not funny to joke about hitting someone and guess what you should be taking that "joke" as a warning.
Let me explain a few things...
There is no getting better for your boyfriend, You can't wait until it all magically goes away. This is something your boyfriend needs to do on his own and how he begins is to seek professional help and possible anger management. I was once in a relationship for several years and my spouse had an anger issue as well. I put up with that crap for 6 years until I realized I'm wasting my time. If your boyfriend can't look you in the eyes, Well let me rephrase that one..That is the least of your worries. Your boyfriend makes remarks about hitting you, You need to leave. Waiting around isn't going to make things better for you and neither is talking to him. After 5 years assuming the subject has come up on several occasions...It won't phase him and like I said he needs to do this on his own. This is not a healthy relationship, There is a reason why your parents don't approve of him. Dump him, Cut all ties with him and focus on your life. There is nothing to regret. If you had to seek advice from us then obviously something is telling you that you aren't happy in the relationship and it's time to move on.
say a family member of mine is in the hospital. and i had to miss a few days of work to be with her. could my employers call to see if she was a patient?
No, That would be interfering with a patients privacy rights.
I am 15 and he is 18. I met him last summer and he was kind, nice, shy and sweet. After a while, he became my boyfriend, but he lives in America and I live in Greece. He always says that he loves me and that he'll marry me and that no girl is like me, but he has had 4 other girlfriends while we were together, other girls post dirty stuff on his fb wall, he's told me twice that I am embarassing him in front of his friends, and whenever I just have some tears on my eyes and tell him that I'm kind of bothered, he just laughs sarcastically and tells me that he cannot take any girl drama. I love him, but he's not the same person anymore. I can't really say no to him cuz if he leaves me i'll be alone and I just hurt. I'm not a slut, i'm a rebel, i deserve some respect! But I can't even talk to him, he always shouts :'( What should I do? I'm afraid I will leave him eventually...but I'm not ready to be alone again. He recently told me that he doesn't need me, that I just "add to his happiness". What should I do? :'(
He doesn't love you, He's playing with you just like he's playing everyone else.
If a guy is embarrassed of you in front of his friends then clearly he doesn't deserve you. No guy should ever give a crap of what his friends think, If he loves you for you that is all that matters. It is not about impressing his friends nor what they think of the situation. If a guy can't commit himself to you and only you then obviously you shouldn't be in the relationship.
At 15, You are young and have all the time to meet other guys. The truth, If you want a real relationship that is satisfying the internet is really not the place to look. Your best bet is to put yourself out there and try to meet people in person. Anyone can say things over the internet and I'm sure if I tried hard enough I could be a convincing 18 year old too. Drop him, He's all about flattery not love and he is not going to show you respect he has already proved it.
15 f Bf: 17 m
To start off, I'm a very paranoid person in my relationship, because things happened which made me even more paranoid, and I don't know how I can just stop and relax.
I love my boyfriend, very much and I don't want to lose him. He has a hard life, his girl friends never treated him right, one actually slept with her step father, and said that he stalked her. His first girl friend passed away, in a car accident. I'm the only girl who has actually been faithful and loyal to you. I Love him very much. I just want him to be happy with me, he had feelings first for my best friend..who isn't my best friend now. His feelings recently came back because he spent more time with her, He resolved things with her, and he promised me he only wants to be with me.
I noticed, that he can't look me in the eye when he says "I Love You." I noticed him doing that, at the last dance at our school..and he said it's because he has been hurt so many times..:/ So, should I just relax and stop worrying or what? Do you think I'm just overreacting?
Over Reacting? Depends.
Many men cannot look a woman in the eye when they say "I love you" Some are uncomfortable making eye contact, nervous or simply aren't sure if they mean it. You've stated his feelings recently came back for your ex best friend, Does he still spend time with her? I don't know your boyfriend but maybe he has feelings for her? Sure, He can say otherwise but if you two have been together for a year and he recently developed feelings for your friend that could be the problem. Talk to him
Omg this problem keeps biting me in the butt...I'm on break with my boyfriend lets call him Alex and I'm starting to like my childhood friend lets call him Donny. So me and Alex would fight all the time and never seemed to be on the same page on anything and Donny walked into my life again around that time. He told me he was going to help me with my problem with Alex but in that attemped I realized that I like Donny more then just friends. I told Alex about it and he understood and I kinda made I bigg no no and started dating Donny I didn't think that I was going to start liking him a lot. So I'm still stuck bcuz Alex told me that he wants to fight for me as long as he knows that I still love him and after that Donny told me that now that he has me he doesnt want to loose me again. Both of them are good guys but I'm love with Alex and I think that I'm starting to fall for Donny. So I dont know what to do I'm stuck because whatever choice I make I know I'm going to hurt someone but my question is what do I do, Who do I stay with???? I need help quick!!!! Omg is someone out there that has been in the same situation?=/
You need to decide what you want, It's unfair to lead your boyfriend on. If you feel you like Donny more then tell your boyfriend you aren't happy in the relationship. Cheating is wrong, If you really love Alex there would be no reason to second guess what you should have to do, but at least have the respect to do what's right. The choice is yours
I started tanning about a week and a half ago. I am fair skinned and started at 5 min. in the weakest bed they have. i went everyday 5,5,5,6,6,6,7 minutes not seeing very much color a little pinkish tinge allover. on the day i went for 7 minutes about 4 hours later i broke out in hives on my stomache and back and front inner thighs i stopped going due to the intense itching as well it has been 3 days and all day i itch and everynight i get hives. did i catch something. is this normal? did i OD on vitamin d?
Some lights have chemicals in them, There is a chance you could be allergic to the lights from the tanning bed, Another possibly is the tempature the bed was set caused a skin irritation. The best thing to use for hives would be calamine lotion.
im 18/f hes 19/m
So for the last month i have been non stop talking and texting with this amazing guy. He's everything i've ever ever wanted and more in a guy, and the feeling i get when i'm talking to him is indescribable. The thing is, i don't know what to make out of this whole situation. He knows i like him...but he told me he wants to be single for a while and make out with girls and have it mean nothing, due to him coming out of a 5 year relationship in which ended 5 months ago. So i did my best to try and hide those feelings, i mean i don't want to get in the way... So i tried my best not to flirt with him too much and whatnot, but it was proving rather difficult. and its hard for me not to feel like i'm something special to him, considering how differently he treats me to other girls.
I met him for the first time last week, unfortunately we were both extremely drunk as we decided to meet at a gig in a club. We didn't get to spend much time together due to me getting kicked out for being too drunk (LOL), but the time i did spend with him ill never forget. He introduced me to all his friends, and would keep hugging me. I felt so comfortable around him, which is odd because every guy i've ever liked and i've met up with i've been to shy to even approach, and when i've been drinking i'm usually even more shy. The next morning he was texting me saying how he barely remembered last night at all, and how he wish he could remember every second that he spent with me. He remembered cuddling me and how nice i smelt, and that he found me attractive, yet he wished that i had of stayed the whole night with him, seeing as i got kicked out and all. When he says things like that its hard for me to ignore these thoughts about being with him.
One morning i awoke to a text from him telling me that he had a dream about me. I was genuinely surprised because we've had conversations in the past about dreams and how he NEVER remembers them, yet he remembered this one. I asked him what the dream was about. The whole day was spent of him telling me it was the most amazing dream he's had, how he couldn't stop thinking about me in that dream. How he woke up with a smile on his face and felt amazing. He wouldn't tell me exactly what happened, but he did tell me "in one part of the dream i saved you from a tornado, leaving my ex (his one of 5 years) and her new boyfriend behind". Thats all he would tell me cause he wanted to keep the rest of me in that dream to himself. He kept telling me how he couldn't stop thinking about me in that dream and couldn't stop smiling. i asked him why he wouldn't just tell me, and he replied with " i want to tell you...but it wont help anything" i ignored it cause i didn't quite understand what he meant by it wouldn't 'help' things. The next two days he continued to tell me how he couldn't forget that dream, how he couldn't stop thinking about it, but how he needed to stop, but just couldn't. i asked him why he had to stop and he told me 'i cant have those sorts of thoughts atm.." i was playing stupid because i tried to convince myself that he doesn't like me the same way i like him so i don't get in the way...he wants to enjoy singledom for a while, before he wants to get back in a relationship, but i cant help but think it sounds like he WANTS to have a relationship with me. I mean you wouldn't go telling your friends that you had the most amazing dream about them and you have all these thoughts running in your head all day about them.
He always flirts with me too, like tells me how he constantly reads my Facebook page and i'm legit the only girl he says "your gorgeous" etc etc on my status's and photos. He doesn't do that with any other girl, or even come close to talking to them like that. And he's the lead singer of a band and has a lot of female groupies, and he doesn't even acknowledge them at all compared to me. I just really don't know what to do, i've NEVER been this confused...i mean i want to let him go have his fun before he settles down...but i don't know how long i can wait when i sit here all day dreaming about being with him and being in his arms. Then i'm worried that he'll find someone else... or that things will be to late and his feelings will stop for me...i don't even know if he likes me that way but i'm pretty sure he does... i understand not being ready for a relationship after only getting out of one 5 months ago that lasted 5 years..i just...don't know what i should do...i cant stop fighting these thoughts about him either...i don't want him to fight his feelings. help? haha
You said in the beginning of the conversation the guy wanted to be single for awhile, Therefore he doesn't want a relationship at this time at least nothing serious. This guy is all about getting some ass.
Now as you probably already know, Alcohol has a big influence on people and an even bigger influence when someone is drunk. The fact that he was all over you that night you can bet it on the fact it was the alcohol talking. For the part of him wishing you had spend the night with him well...would that have really been the best choice? From the very start of him wanting to "make out with other girls" Sure, He knows you like you him..but what makes you think he isn't trying to use that to his advantage to possibly get in your pants? It is much easier to get something out of a girl that already has feelings for a guy rather than sweet talking one that doesn't. If you want to know whether this guy is really into you or not try talking to him when he isn't drunk and test him. Sometimes men need to be put to the test, If you do not want to be his booty call then play it one step at a time. Any guy can say what a woman wants to hear but at least make sure you know he means it first.