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i have never been in this situation, its driving me crazy!
im 18/f hes 19/m
So for the last month i have been non stop talking and texting with this amazing guy. He's everything i've ever ever wanted and more in a guy, and the feeling i get when i'm talking to him is indescribable. The thing is, i don't know what to make out of this whole situation. He knows i like him...but he told me he wants to be single for a while and make out with girls and have it mean nothing, due to him coming out of a 5 year relationship in which ended 5 months ago. So i did my best to try and hide those feelings, i mean i don't want to get in the way... So i tried my best not to flirt with him too much and whatnot, but it was proving rather difficult. and its hard for me not to feel like i'm something special to him, considering how differently he treats me to other girls.
I met him for the first time last week, unfortunately we were both extremely drunk as we decided to meet at a gig in a club. We didn't get to spend much time together due to me getting kicked out for being too drunk (LOL), but the time i did spend with him ill never forget. He introduced me to all his friends, and would keep hugging me. I felt so comfortable around him, which is odd because every guy i've ever liked and i've met up with i've been to shy to even approach, and when i've been drinking i'm usually even more shy. The next morning he was texting me saying how he barely remembered last night at all, and how he wish he could remember every second that he spent with me. He remembered cuddling me and how nice i smelt, and that he found me attractive, yet he wished that i had of stayed the whole night with him, seeing as i got kicked out and all. When he says things like that its hard for me to ignore these thoughts about being with him.
One morning i awoke to a text from him telling me that he had a dream about me. I was genuinely surprised because we've had conversations in the past about dreams and how he NEVER remembers them, yet he remembered this one. I asked him what the dream was about. The whole day was spent of him telling me it was the most amazing dream he's had, how he couldn't stop thinking about me in that dream. How he woke up with a smile on his face and felt amazing. He wouldn't tell me exactly what happened, but he did tell me "in one part of the dream i saved you from a tornado, leaving my ex (his one of 5 years) and her new boyfriend behind". Thats all he would tell me cause he wanted to keep the rest of me in that dream to himself. He kept telling me how he couldn't stop thinking about me in that dream and couldn't stop smiling. i asked him why he wouldn't just tell me, and he replied with " i want to tell you...but it wont help anything" i ignored it cause i didn't quite understand what he meant by it wouldn't 'help' things. The next two days he continued to tell me how he couldn't forget that dream, how he couldn't stop thinking about it, but how he needed to stop, but just couldn't. i asked him why he had to stop and he told me 'i cant have those sorts of thoughts atm.." i was playing stupid because i tried to convince myself that he doesn't like me the same way i like him so i don't get in the way...he wants to enjoy singledom for a while, before he wants to get back in a relationship, but i cant help but think it sounds like he WANTS to have a relationship with me. I mean you wouldn't go telling your friends that you had the most amazing dream about them and you have all these thoughts running in your head all day about them.
He always flirts with me too, like tells me how he constantly reads my Facebook page and i'm legit the only girl he says "your gorgeous" etc etc on my status's and photos. He doesn't do that with any other girl, or even come close to talking to them like that. And he's the lead singer of a band and has a lot of female groupies, and he doesn't even acknowledge them at all compared to me. I just really don't know what to do, i've NEVER been this confused...i mean i want to let him go have his fun before he settles down...but i don't know how long i can wait when i sit here all day dreaming about being with him and being in his arms. Then i'm worried that he'll find someone else... or that things will be to late and his feelings will stop for me...i don't even know if he likes me that way but i'm pretty sure he does... i understand not being ready for a relationship after only getting out of one 5 months ago that lasted 5 years..i just...don't know what i should do...i cant stop fighting these thoughts about him either...i don't want him to fight his feelings. help? haha
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You said in the beginning of the conversation the guy wanted to be single for awhile, Therefore he doesn't want a relationship at this time at least nothing serious. This guy is all about getting some ass.
Now as you probably already know, Alcohol has a big influence on people and an even bigger influence when someone is drunk. The fact that he was all over you that night you can bet it on the fact it was the alcohol talking. For the part of him wishing you had spend the night with him well...would that have really been the best choice? From the very start of him wanting to "make out with other girls" Sure, He knows you like you him..but what makes you think he isn't trying to use that to his advantage to possibly get in your pants? It is much easier to get something out of a girl that already has feelings for a guy rather than sweet talking one that doesn't. If you want to know whether this guy is really into you or not try talking to him when he isn't drunk and test him. Sometimes men need to be put to the test, If you do not want to be his booty call then play it one step at a time. Any guy can say what a woman wants to hear but at least make sure you know he means it first.
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