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I don't really have anyone to talk to about this...
So, im 16 years old.. and me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 1 year and a half.. and im really happy thank God, hes turning 18 Soon, thought you guys would want to know basically everything, but weve been having really complicated issues lately.. and i dont really have anyone to talk to about this, well.. i have alot of people in my life, but not exactly those i want to talk about this to... so i decided to come on here and maybe someone could understand and help me out.. we started off really great.. best friends..and we fell inlove.. we were perfect, i had guy friends, he had girls that were friends aswell.. but we acually approved on eachothers friends.. til one day, a friend of mine came back from a diffrent country, and they started getting close.. and i acualy THOUGHT i would like it, and i turned out to be wrong.. she wanted to basically mess up my realtionship with him.. and she brainwashed him.. and he treated me really badly, we were having problems before that so he turned to her about it, he said she was awesome and he really liked her as a friend, and i was totally against it only because she really wasnt such a good friend for brainwashing him telling him to leave me,we fell apart since, everything has changed between us, until he finally came to his senses... and stopped talking to her, after that he told me he didnt want me talking to one of my really close guy friends because he thought there was something a bit more than just that and he didnt likke the relationship between us anymore, basically ive been doing anything hes been wanting me too since day one, and im not gonna lie, he has been too..til he did what he did when it came to him wanting his freedom", even though i always let him do WHATEVER he wanted, but he would still keep saying he wanted his space.. and fucked me over pretty bad.. that was like in our 10th month. and hes changed, i see him diffrently now, and were still inlove.. but what never stopped hurting me was the fact that has alot of anger problems.. (family surrounding.) everytime we argue, or i do something he doesnt want me to do, he breaks up with me.. and after EVERYTHING hes put me through, after all the yelling and the hurting hes put me through i never FOR one second ever ended our relationship, everytime we argue like REALLY badly, he goes "your not worth it" or "im giving up my teen life for you even THOUGH hes not the type of guy that drinks. AT ALL, he doesnt care about that stuff, hes really religious, and after it he ALWAYS seems to regret it, and cry and say hes sorry.. just a couple of days ago, i did soemthing he didnt approve of, and no it wasnt going out with guys behind his back or whatever, it was just this little mistake i made, and it pissed him OFF sooo badly that he said "YOUR NOT WORTH IT, UR NOT MY GIRLFRIEND ANYMORE" so i got FED UP, and i didnt talk to him anymore, i told him to never call me up again.. and i didnt wanna know him anymore( ofcourse out of anger) i saw him today.. and he kept crying.. and begging me to forgive him and he kept saying ' you know i dont mean it when i say stuff like that when im mad, ofcourse were together we never broke up i love you" and hes like "GIVE me your hand" and id give it to him and hed smack his neck with it.. here where i live its a sign of disrepsect.. and he did it infront of all his friends and he didnt care. and he kept crying saying HED never ever do it again.. and he promisses and that hes an idiot blalblah.., now my question is.. what exactly do i do? everytime he cries i give into him.. i just dont know, i REALLY love him. i just feel SO hurt =/ someone help, please, i know this is long, i REALLY appreicaiet it though. sorry for all the typos, im in ahurry =]
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ok so m brother has a girlfriend and they do the same thing. she is so nice and he treats her like crap almost like he can do whatever he wants and he doesnt care if he hurts her. but she fell so in love with him that she would always try and be perfect and everything. my brother doesnt deserve someone as good as her. everytime they fight they break up but she always is the one to come back and apolagize even if it was his fault. it pisses me off. and i only no about all of this because the girl always chats me on facebook even tho she like 5 years older than me. we are like sisters and i hate that she takes what he does to her. but they have been broken up for about 5 weeks and i hope it stays that way. and if a guy treats u like that. dump his ass. he aint worth your time. plus t will save u alotta tears.
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Ok so im the same age as you and about a year or two ago this exact thing happened to my friend. The relationship was great in the beginning but then after a while things started to go downhill. He didnt treat her right when she wanted to do her own thing or go out with friends especially if they were boys. After arguments he would say hurtful things and then dump her but the next day say he doesnt mean it hes sorry and she wud take him back. Which gives him all the power. Meaning for you to take him back everytime gives him the comfort of knowing that he can do it because youll take him back everytime, all he has to do is apologise. When you hand all the control over to him you'll lose yourself and soon get drowned into the whole situation making it harder to get out of. You kinda need to get rid of him ASAP i know that sounds harsh and mean but so is what hes doing to you. When my friend got out of the relationship with that guy she found it so difficult cus she loved him and stuff and he made it harder because he was really quite rude he exposed her all over facebook all her secrets she told him and everything. I mean if somebody can hurt you so bad and do it so often they don't love you. They need more help then you could give them. You need to make a clean cut from him if you really don't like doing it then maybe try waiting until you've had another argument and when he apologises stick to your ground and dont take him back. Then he'll realise that he cant keep doing this. And either change or move on. But this is what you have to do or this will continue forever. If you need anymore help on this matter then just inbox me, i hope this helps, good luck xx
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The longer you stay with him the longer you prolong your pain.
Did he listen to your friend?...Did he stop talking to you? If he did, Then the relationship was never strong to begin with. A strong relationship doesn't let someone come between it. Sure, People say things when they get mad but lets face it after so many times of being dumped we begin to brace for the next time around. It's stressful, draining and tiring after awhile. What do you do? Be the strong one. Every time you take him back you give him the power to do it all over again and likely seeing he's done it on several occasions he'll do it again because he knows he can and possibly get away with it. Put your foot down, Don't take him back. As I've always said sometimes cutting contact with a person helps you to move on a lot faster. Find it in yourself to move on. Don't let him fool you
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