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If he can't look me in the eye? :/
15 f Bf: 17 m
To start off, I'm a very paranoid person in my relationship, because things happened which made me even more paranoid, and I don't know how I can just stop and relax.
I love my boyfriend, very much and I don't want to lose him. He has a hard life, his girl friends never treated him right, one actually slept with her step father, and said that he stalked her. His first girl friend passed away, in a car accident. I'm the only girl who has actually been faithful and loyal to you. I Love him very much. I just want him to be happy with me, he had feelings first for my best friend..who isn't my best friend now. His feelings recently came back because he spent more time with her, He resolved things with her, and he promised me he only wants to be with me.
I noticed, that he can't look me in the eye when he says "I Love You." I noticed him doing that, at the last dance at our school..and he said it's because he has been hurt so many times..:/ So, should I just relax and stop worrying or what? Do you think I'm just overreacting?
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Over Reacting? Depends.
Many men cannot look a woman in the eye when they say "I love you" Some are uncomfortable making eye contact, nervous or simply aren't sure if they mean it. You've stated his feelings recently came back for your ex best friend, Does he still spend time with her? I don't know your boyfriend but maybe he has feelings for her? Sure, He can say otherwise but if you two have been together for a year and he recently developed feelings for your friend that could be the problem. Talk to him
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I think his trust has really been battered and the only way that you can prove you're going to stick around without hurting him is through your actions. I'm sure you're doing everything right, so just keep doing what you're doing. Eventually he will let you in and be more open to you as time passes. As far your paranoia is concerned, just let it go or it will make you go a little nutso. It really is ALL in your head. You need to understand that you have the opportunity to be the BEST thing to come into his life since sliced bread, so love him and treat him with respect. Be a great girlfriend and he will inturn be a great boyfriend.
Oh and think about this, if he really liked your best friend...wouldn't he be with her and not you? He's with you for a reason so don't sweat it.
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No you aren't overreacting. And why I'm telling you that is because, when I told my bf i loved him and wasn't sure i meant it, I would look away too.
You shouldn't be paranoid because chances are he probably is just scared.
Reassure him you aren't going anywhere. but MEAN it. If you don't, then don't say it.
Work it through with him. Talk more about his past and talk to him about how much you mean to him and everything. Just give him time as well, he probably just wants to make sure you are for real.
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