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this is getting way out of control .
Im becoming seriously DEPRESSEEDD !
Im my own worst emeny and things are getting way out of control .
I dont have confidence in myself or anything and it seems like I have no one I could talk to about thiss cause they wil probalay all judge me and I cant have that right now .
I look in the mirror and she a ugly girl and its really sad . i have to pretend im smiling when others are around me knowing im really sad inside . My life pretty much SUCKS . Any Advice ?
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I totally disagree, I believe that you are a young vibrant beautiful girl who has let other people's opinions and views get the best of you.
Do not feel pressured to be something you are not.
It is so easy to feel that you dont't fit in with others because you don't dress the same as them or look the same, well let me tell you something no one is perfect. Everyone has their own style and image, and think about it wouldn't this world be so boring if everyone looked and dressed the same?
You have to understand what you see in the media such as tv shows,celebrities, models, and in the music videos, that's all fake, it's not natural and its only for entertainment. Real people don't dress so outrageously or wear loads of make up. Do not feel that you have to live up to this as this is all fantasy, and majority of them have had surgery or had some sort of enhancement.
You need to talk to someone who you feel 100% comfortable with and trust. It's important for you to talk about these issues as you need guidance and support. Try to talk to your mum she may be the best person to talk to, or if you feel you cannot speak to your're mum about this then speak to your teacher, friends, or local school counselor.
Remember you are young and beautiful and never let people make you think you're not. And if they do then they are not worthy of being your friend and they dont deserve to know what a great person you really are!
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You have not said how old you are. For the purpose of my answer I am going to assume you are a teenager.
Teenage depression is far more common than parents understand. Most parents mistakenly see what is happening to you as a phase that you are going through and something you will grow out of. It has only been recently that teenage depression has been properly diagnosed and treated.
Teenage depression is nothing to be ashamed about. Who better to be depressed than a teenager, with all the changes, both physical and chemical, going on in their bodies. The social changes they have to adjust to not to mention the added stress placed on them in school and by their parents for good grades to qualify for good colleges.
Depression is caused by the lack of one or both of two chemical produced in the brain to control depression. Generally speaking once properly diagnosed by a doctor a simple pill or two once a day for at least a year will replace the missing chemical. Then with the help of talk therapy to identify the stressor(s) you learn to deal with what is causing your depression.
The road to recovery starts with a trip to your family doctor. If you are over the age of 13 you have the right to speak to your doctor in private with total medical privacy. This is the law which is called HIPPA. Nothing you say to your doctor can be told to anyone including your parents without your expressed written permission.
When you are with the doctor tell he/she exactly how you are feeling. Bring the letter you wrote us with you and show the doctor. It is very possible your doctor will refer you to a psychiatrist. No you are not crazy, since the chemicals; they are actually hormones, are produced and deal within the brain; most family doctors feel a psychiatrist is better trained to prescribe medication than they are. Then this doctor can refer you to a psychologist for talk therapy.
As someone who suffers from depression I know exactly how you feel. Understand one thing; depression effects how you perceive things not only about yourself but the world around you. See your doctor, get some help. It will take a few weeks for the medicine to fully kick in but you will feel better about yourself and the world around you.
Talk to your parents, see your doctor. For the record I'm old enough to be your grandfather.
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What are the reasons behind your depression? I've been struggling with depression all my life. Mostly because I've never been skinny and I am at a constant battle with my weight. The day I had a different outlook was when I met a 300 lb teenager that was so full of life. She was the cool kid in high school, everyone loved her. She invited me to a pool party and she was the first to jump in with her bathing suit on. I remember wanting to drop my jaw because I would NEVER do that! I realized at the moment that if she could be happy despite her physical appearance, so could I. And so can you! I think if you look deep inside, you'll see that you're a pretty cool chick! You just have to check yourself everyday. When a negative thought comes into your head, replace it with a positive one. If you ever need to talk, you can email me anytime (shereengeorges@yahoo.com) But I think you're selling yourself too short by not talking to other people around you about your depression. If you're close enough to confide in them, their close enough to you to WANT to listen and WANT to help. Good luck! Keep your head up!
And listen to Lady Gaga's Born That Way!
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The one thing I know is that all women or girls go through the same thing. It might not be for as long you've been struggling through it but we all go through it. You got to except the way you are( physical wise). You can change you attitude, your clothes, though that can't change how you feel. Just know that God made you that way for a reason, for some man to treat you right and to love every thing you may offer. Try this start putting positive things around you mirror like your beautiful, your smart, you can do anything you can put your mind too. Keep a journal of what's getting on your nerves. And if you don't like the way you do things, change them for the better.
Lillian
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