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I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.












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So the baby's father and I broke up officially like a week before Valentine's day . This guy Sam claims that I never told him on that day , but I did.. not directly like "IM SINGLE" but I told him we didn't have to keep secrets anymore.. Since I've been single we've talked less and less.. I really like this guy and want to give it a shot. He never texts me good morning or good night anymore as we used to wether it was me or him now it's always ME texting him .Because before the baby's father and I broke up he would always text me at random times , and tell me cute stuff.. and then he'd also tell me he was going to take me jetskiing and if I wanted to go to lunch and all these great things. and Now its come to a complete halt, but yet when I text him he still flirts and acts like he's intereseted.. Like today I was picking up my daughter from the babysitter's house after school , and on the way there I saw him and my friend yelled out the window "SAM" and kept going cause I was late but I had to go back that way to go home so I texted him and I said "We have to stop running into eachother like this. " & he was like "Hahaha , I knew it was you for some reason, you need to stop running and say hi !", SO I TOLD HIM "I'll pass by now when I get my daughter." he said "ok" ... When I went back he wasn't there. So I told him, "You say I'm running but when I went back you weren't there", and he said, "he didn't know". Im just so confused by him and Idk what to do. I just want an upfront answer like if he is still interested or not, cause I can just easily leave him alone if he isn't . How would I confront him about that without being to 'clingy' ..or bitchy? Please help me sometimes I'm so dumb found when it comes to guys. : (



If you like him and you are single, Then what is holding you back? Do you know anything about Sam? Does he have a girlfriend?..If he is someone you don't know much about then take it slow and try a friendship. It could be he backed down because when he was trying you were currently hung up in a relationship. If you like him, Ask him out..The worst that could happen is he can say No.

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Yesterday as I was getting ready to leave the gym, I saw a note sitting on my car window. It read "Hey, saw you going into the gym as I was leaving. You are beautiful! Life is too short to miss an oppurtunity. If you are available or interested shoot me a text: (phone number). Have a great evening- (His name). " Obviously, I was/am flattered! There are 2 ways to take that though, it can either be really creepy or really nice. I am debating wether to text him or not. If I do, when should I? Wait a few days or now? Don't want to seem desperate. But also don't want him to think I'm not interested.



Ride it out, Don't rush into texting the guy

Adding onto what Razhie already said; How do you know you were the only one to receive a note on your car? It is very possible he has played this field many times and this is where you got to be careful with chances you take. Flattering?..I suppose in a way it could be but I would look at it more as creepy than flattering.

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I have a so call boyfriend but i don't think me and him are actually going out,because 1 thing is i see him trying to flirt with a girl,me and this girl were friends but not no more because see talked about me and she is a backstabbing girl and anytime i have a boyfriend she is trying to flirt with him. And i asked him was going on with you and her and he said nothing. But i don't believe him, how do you know if a boy is cheating on you or not?



You look for the signs of cheating..


Does your boyfriend always have his phone turned off?

Does he not seem interested in your conversations as much?, Does he not seem interested sexually?

Sometimes the signs are obvious, If he stays out late, Seems like he's hiding things and lying all the time well then he's probably cheating.

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I am 16 years old and Im in love with this girl but she broke my heart for some other guy. And she meant the world to me. I was so depressed when she left and im not over her. I cant go one day without thinking about her and i want her to come back to me but at the same time i want nothing to do with her... What should i do????



Dude,

She left you for some other guy, You need to move on. Waiting around is a waste of time. Nobody needs someone who cheats around.

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20/f
BF: 24/m

So my ex boyfriend and I stopped talking sometime in October, but now we’re friends on Facebook and have spoken a couple of times. He wanted my number, so I gave it to him (of course). He called me on Friday night at around midnight and went on for about an hour and a half about how he misses me, and how he feels about me, etc., and I didn’t really know what to say since I didn’t want him to be just telling me whatever I wanted to hear. Long story short, he paid for a cab to come get me and take me to his house (we didn’t have sex, I made sure of that) and we had a great time. We just hung out and talked and listened to music. We listened to Citizen Cope’s “Sideways” and he held my hand the whole time while he was sitting next to me. And the lyrics to that song are pretty, romantic.. I guess that would be the right word.. I thought it was cute because my feelings for him haven’t gone away, so the thought that he felt the same way made me feel good. Then again, I’m a girl so I’m emotional…. Anyway, what I’m wondering is: Is that song about ME ? About a year ago or so there was this girlfriend of his that convinced him she was pregnant with his kid, and he believed her. He packed all of his things and was ready to get a place with her and marry her so they could have a family. He took her to the hospital when she went into labor and he was the ONLY one there. He saw the baby and it changed him. Like night and day. He changed his diapers, fed him, all of that stuff. And then come to find out.. it wasn’t even his baby. She dropped him immediately and crawled back to the guy who was the dad and moved to a different city to raise the kid. She just left. Like that. It makes me sad to think how ANYONE could do that to someone, it’s so wrong. But back to my question, could the song be about HER ? Look up the lyrics to help you out. I was talking to his mom and she said he was completely heartbroken and became very depressed and went on about how much he loved that baby. All anyone could ever tell him was “But, it’s not yours…” and I’m just wondering if he’s over her yet. Whenever we were together the last time this whole situation with this girl had already happened, so could that be why our relationship didn’t work out before ?? I don’t know if you guys can follow this, but I really want to know. I don’t want to jump into this again if the feelings he’s feeling are left over from her and he’s using me as like a rebound or something. Thanks in advance for any advice you can give me.

I would not automatically assume that the song was about her or you, It could be just a random song that was playing or it could be song that he liked and just played. One thing that raises an eyebrow is too why he would call you at midnight? Maybe he really did miss you and want to spend time with you but the time is a little off it seems. Most guys would generally call a women at midnight for sex, Not out of missing someone. The rebound thing, Depends on how it went..Did he seem pushy when you or if you declined the offer of sex? Well, Did sex come up on his part? If he bought up the subject at all after 4 months you would think all he cared about was getting in your pants. If you want to be sure then I would suggest taking it slow. If he seems on the topic of sex..RUN

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me and my boyfriend were really horny and we were making out. He said he wanted to have sex without a condom. So i said yes. But he wasn't going to cum yet. But you know the wet stuff guys get i think its called "pre-cum" well i wiped it off and then he stuck it in and came out. it was only for a second. im scared that i could be pregnant. he asked all his friends and they said theres an 11% chance of me being pregnant. he told me to get the morning after pill. but when are you supposed to take that? after 72 hours? my stomachs been hurting the next day. and i think i got my period today because theres blood now. but do you think i could be pregnant next month? what's going on? i dont want to be pregnant :(

(ive also read that the wet stuff can get a girl pregnant)



Anything is possible, If you don't want to become pregnant then next time use a condom. There is no such thing 11%..

All methods can go wrong, All it takes is one time.

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There are a bunch of things on the internet about march 2011. does anyone know what day their predicting, who predicted it and why? and i also heard may 21 2011.. thanks! and ugh i hate these "end of the world" predictions. their so gay..



No, The world isn't going to end in 2011


The world was supposed too end in 2000, Then 2005..It never happened. These all predicaments based on the Mormon calender.

Lets imagine the world being blown into itty bitty pieces..Unrealistic right? That's because it is.

Don't let the phony talk get the best of you, Life is too short.

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okay so I have been dating this guy for the past three months and I recently found out he was cheating on me! He told the girl he made out with that he was single and that I was just his friend! I found this out cause i incidentally talked to the girl.I really got angry when I found out he had been lying to me all this while and I immediately broke up with him. when i confronted him about the whole thing he had to accept it but then for the first five hours after confrontation he was all like "i cant believe i could lie so well.." but after that he said sorry and kept on texting and calling me up! he wanted me back and told me he was very sorry and all and he actually spoke to some of his friends (who i know too) about the whole thing and how he really feels sorry about everything. he told some of our mutual friends to call me up too ..should i trust him again and go back to him or not????I am kind of attached to this guy.. before I knew this side of him, WE had an amazing time together ..thats what makes me hard to believe he could actually do something like this to me. I used to consider him my best boyfriend ever. He would do everything just perfectly :) and though ofcourse we were together barely for three months it felt a long time to me cause we used to meet atleast twice a week or even more often most of the times!!Thats why it is so hard for me.I dont know what to do.



Why would you trust him? He does not deserve your trust. Your boyfriend cheated on you, He lied to you knowing what he was doing was wrong. I am a firm believer in once a cheater, Always a cheater. If you take him back, You are telling it's okay to play with your feelings. If he cheated once, He will likely do it again especially if he knows he got away with it the first time. Sure, He is calling and texting you..The guy was caught. Put your foot down, If he really valued the relationship you two had he would of never had a reason to cheat on you to begin with. Don't crawl back to him, Know that you deserve someone who will treat you the way you deserve. Do NOT be someone's doormat...You were already down that road.

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Although happily married to a man, for 5 years, I find myself increasingly more attracted to women. How do I find out for sure without conducting an "experiment"?

thanks,

Karen



Are you attracted to men? Do you find them sexually appealing? ..

If you do and still find woman to be appealing as well, Perhaps you are bisexual.

If you don't find your husband to be appealing sexually, Then you are probably lesbian.


However, If you are not happy in your marriage then the right thing to do would be to be honest about it.

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Okay i am 15 years old and am a female. And i was hanging out with my friends and i met my friends friend Donny. He turns 19 next week. He has a son who turns 2 in october. i've hung out with him starting back a few months ago. But i do like him. Which i know is really bad...but no one can help feelings. And my bestfriend is trying to figure out if he likes me back...everyone thinks him and i would be cute together but there is many faults.. age for one. 2. the son. 3. some of the friends we share i am not aloud to hangout with. 4. he has some issues at home. but i cant help but be attracted to him. I just want to hear peoples opinions on how you guys think this would work out. Should i go for it, or should i drop it?




This guy is 19, If you two were to date you put him in hot water. It is Illegal, He is an adult you are a minor. If you two were to ever have any sexual contact he could be charged with statutory rape, If he was ever charged...You both possibly leave a two year old without a father. I suggest you find someone under the age of 18 who does not have a child.

This guy also has a 2 year old and the last thing you need right now is the responsibility of also caring for the child. Although you are not the child's mother being with the father you would be the co-parent. You are not ready, That's the fact.

My best advice: Find someone that is more suitable

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18/female

my boyfriend and i have been dating for 7 months now.

we had a bad start to our relationship. lots of fights. almost ended our relationship a few times. but we managed to work it out. we are doing great now. we are both really working hard to make this relationship work. we are madly in love with each other. we have been talking about the future and made plans. we have also been talking about marriage and where we want to live together. i know it might be too soon to think about the future like that but we ARE soul mates. absolutely in love.. :)

my problem?

i get anxiety over this relationship. when i'm not with him, my heart races and i get anxiety.. i get thoughts about him cheating on me with other girls. or him having second thoughts about me. or him sending me a text about breaking up with me.. i get scared. really scared.

when i notice that something is wrong with him, i freak out. thinking that it might be about me. or that he's having second thoughts on me. whether he wants to break up or not.

it even gets to the point when i see he sends me 5 page texts and i freak out thinking its a "break up" text. my heart races hoping that its nothing bad.

i guess my question is.. if i'm so happy with him, why do i get anxiety on this relationship? do you think its because i'm scared to lose him? do you think i'm scared of losing things i love?

how do i fix this? i'm not sure if i want to mention it to my boyfriend because i'm scared he will take it the wrong way and have second thoughts.

sincerely,
happy but scared.

Have you asked yourself what is causing you to feel the way you do? After so many fights in a relationship we begin to brace for the next one and yes, You will have a next one. 7 months is not that long to be dating. Now onto the next question...

What was it that caused you two to fight in the beginning? How severe was it? ..

If it was an argument over petty stuff, Perhaps the anxiety kicks in knowing you two have in the past argued over something silly and therefore you could possibly be cautious to what you say and do for the sake of avoiding confrontation.

If it was something serious, You could possibly be preparing yourself for another time around depending on what ticked the relationship.

You are happy, You sure you aren't flattered by lust? There is a difference between lust and love and it takes a lot of brainy thinking to know the difference. From the sound of you posted, Your not just experiencing anxiety but you are feeling insecure in your relationship. You need to sit down and talk to your boyfriend, Think of ways to work on your relationship and create a stronger bond between the two of you. You are 18, 7 months is not that long to be dating..Lay off the future talk for awhile don't put stress on your relationship now. You and your boyfriend should be focused on getting to know one another more. Commitment comes later down the line, Don't rush things. Communication is golden key in relationships. You talk it out, You work it out. If your boyfriend ever has second thoughts about you, Then he was never worth your time.

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I'm having a little bit of trouble. A couple of months ago, I smoked (to get high) because i had never done it before and I just wanted to experience once what it was like. I have not done it since, and i do not plan on ever doing it again. My girlfriend got mad at me because i did it on a night that i couldn't talk to her - she had her sorority initiation. So she was upset with me. This weekend i was supposed to go visit a few friends at a school up north and i had to back out last minute because i have a big test on monday. She was also going to visit a few friends and she rightfully went. Anyways, she decided to smoke last night because she had never tried and she and her best friend promised each other that they would try together. Now here's the thing. I'm not upset that she tried it, because I had. What i'm upset about is the fact that she did exactly to me what i did. She didn't have her phone so she couldn't talk to me and she ended up getting sick from the mixture of that and drinking. Like I said i'm not mad that she tried it, because she too vowed she didn't like and would never do it again, but i'm mad she did exactly to me what she got mad at me for. What's the best way to talk about this with her?

Thanks for all the help. I really appreciate it, guys




You two are getting mad at each other over stupid choices, You can sit down and discuss how you feel about the situation and admit you were also in the wrong. However, If it backfires..It backfires. Your best bet is to let it go because in this case...You really don't have a ground to stand on. Learn from your mistakes, This conversation is an argument and reality is you were both wrong.

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I'm 14 and a chick.
My friends expect me to be some hard core rock metal fan because I have blue hair and combat boots. Truth is, I'm a die hard Simon & Garfunkel fan, lol. I like old people music. Is this normal?


No nothing wrong with it, You are unique and sometimes looks can be deceiving and that's not always a bad thing.

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18/f.

Okay, so there's this girl Sara that my boyfriend used to have a RIDICULOUS crush on a couple years back. It didn't work out for him; they have been and are still just friends. He claims he's over her and stuff, but who knows. That's not what bothers me, though.

Apparently one day, he and Sara were hanging out and she was wrong abotu something/lost a bet/ etc. and now owes him a blowjob. Note that this (apparently) isn't something she agreed to; he just declared it. And now, every so often, he brings it up and nags her that she "promised".

How do I know about this? Obviously he never mentions this to me; I once saw him say it to her on Facebook on my news feed, and another time I read a VERY lengthy aim convo about it (I was bored, on his computer, and creeped on his conversations). I know the AIM thing was an invasion of privacy on my part, but I was bored. I didn't read it out of suspicion or anything.

My problem is that I feel EXTREMELY jealous and hurt. But I don't know if I have the right to. First of all, Sara's my friend, too (we're not good friends, we haven't talked in a while, but we're friends nonetheless). I know for a fact she wouldn't ACTUALLY agree to it for that reason (and also because she never saw him as more than a friend). And my boyfriend's the type of person who jokes about sex 24/7. But there's just something different about telling your best guy friend "don't worry about it. you'll just suck my dick later" vs. sayign to a girl you've had a huge crush on for over a year that you want a blowjob from her. No?

Anyway, what do I do? Should I do anything at all? I feel like I should tell him how uncomfortable this makes me, but how can I even bring it up without admitting to reading his messages? I feel like the second I bring up my problem he's going to turn the privacy thing around and make me the bad guy.

Dump Him


If your boyfriend is having this kind of talk with other woman behind your back, Then therefore he doesn't want you to know for a good reason. Lets get to the point, Your boyfriend is an ass.

If your boyfriend truly cared about you, He wouldn't go behind your back. Whether or Whether or not she was "dared" to give him a blowjob..She got herself into that situation. Your boyfriend does nothing but feed into it. It's not okay, He is pretty much kicking you to the curb so he can get himself a bet deal. Don't worry to much because reality is you are too good for him. If it didn't work out once with her..It likely won't work another time around and obviously he needs to learn that the hard way. Walk and let him deal with the consequences.

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Can a girl get pregnant if sperm gets in her ass




No, A woman can not get pregnant by having anal sex.

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I've been with my boyfriend for 15 months. I'm a senior in high school, 17, and he's a freshman in college, 19.

Its gotten to a point where I can't bear the sight of him. I don't even want to Skype him because I don't want to bother feigning interest.

I have no idea what sparked this. I don't think I necessarily grew tired of HIM, but I found out more about him as the relationship went on that I grew to hate. He's cocky, conceited, and we want different things in the long run - he has a lot of family baggage involving a special needs sibling and he wants to live in the house he grew up in for the rest of his life; I want to marry young, him older; I don't think I could ever bear children (due to med. problems) and he inconsiderately said that "he couldn't marry a woman who couldn't bear him a child". And our overall level of communication does not match up.

Now as I'm writing this, its plain to see where breaking up would, in fact, be the smart and obvious move. But there are so many things about our relationship which I feel I would miss so much. I've seen him once a week almost every week for over a year - I feel like there'd be a major, lonely void there if I broke up with him. - I admittedly don't have a whoooole lot of friends. I have a few close ones, but not enough where I can make plans with different sets twice a weekend, every weekend. - Also we do have a few good times, when he's not pissing me off...

I think he was more mature than I was when we met - I was a young 16, he was just on the cusp of 18 - but now I think the tables have turned completely. He talks to me in a baby voice constantly and I can't stand it. When I calmly and casually confront him with minor issues he whines "nooo" in a baby voice. I want to smack him. And all he thinks about is schoolwork. I'm very studious also, but he hasn't found out how to balance work and play. ALL he talks about is schoolwork when he's at school - he has no fun at all. This is completely opposite from high school, when he did no schoolwork whatsoever.

Obviously this relationship sounds like a trainwreck, I'm not stupid, but I can't bring myself to break up with him. I wish it could just fade away. This is my first relationship and I don't know how to handle it. He hasn't actually done anything wrong, which would make me feel bad to break up with him. I'm also torn about whether to end it now or at the end of the summer, before college... or during college, after I scope out the guys... idk. I know its not fair to him because I'm not committed and I've been scoping out other guys for about 3 months. Any advice at all, or personal experience, would be greatly appreciated. Thanks :)

(He's cocky, conceited, and we want different things in the long run )

Right here you have made up your mind, You do not need opinions what you should do. If you are not feeling it anymore then it's over and done with and you should end it.

The first sign of a dead relationship is the fact that you two have different desires and needs for the future. Your boyfriend isn't on the same page, If you aren't committed and been looking at other guys then end it and move on.

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18/f
Next Tuesday I will probably be found guilty for lar-2337-m1.
Larceny-2337-misdemeanor class 1
First offense.
35$ shirt.
The person I was with who was caught also got away & was banned from the store & will have to pay for the items...yet not arrested & will not have a criminal record for it. (that person is 27)

I was also banned & will have to pay for the item.

Yet I was arrested & am being charged. I will plea guilty.
I want to try to fight it some how because this is going to be on my record forever & I find it unfair that the other person is not having the same punishment I am..
I'm a senior in high school..
& I regret every bit of it.
& I want to go to college & get a good job.. & i know that will messed up if I am found guilty of this charge. . .
does any one know if I can get this misdemeanor expunged in a couple of years? I heard that misdemeanors sometimes go away but I don't think thats true..but I have heard of expungement, & I was wondering if you are found guilty of a charge can it still be expunged from my record?

Any help is greatful thanks !




Adding to what Julie already said..

Depending the state the laws vary, I being a juvenile delinquent my teen years had to wait 5 years before they would allow an expunge. Again, Depends on the state and the laws.

Misdemeanor offenses do not just go away on their own, You have to take it court or a judge and have them approve it. If it recently just happened there MAY be a slim chance kiddo.

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my friend is to friendly with my boyfriend their relationship makes me uncomfortable i always tell my boyfriend of three years that it makes me really mad that they always seem to be flirting and it needs to stop and the things my friend says pisses me off to no end like i feel like he is her second girlfriend and some things she says is like what why would you say that? like his birthday i had the idea of having balloons all over his room when he woke up she said that she was going to leave him balloons by his door and surprise him???!!! i dont know but thats wierd like she says stuff like that to me! one day i was mad at my boyfriend and i asked her to ask him if he was ok and dont talk to him about why i was mad and yet she texted him and asked to meet somewhere private just them two to talk. i was like why would you say that and my boyfriend was like oh sorry im busy not now like he said it was wierd. so talking to him about this is uncomfortable he gets mad about it so i dont know who to talk to about it or how to stop it with out us getting into a fight i think its okay that they are friends but when your doing stuff like that it makes me mad and uncomfortable like what do i say to her to let her know it makes me mad and if i do she would tell me that i have nothing to worry about because she doesnt like him like that but i dont care if she does or does not i want it to stop i dont like having the constant look on my face like why would this happen and why would you say that?! i feel like im overreacting but then again im not because if it bothers me then obviously it needs to be said to her now ive said my peace to my boyfriend and now i have to let her know. if im wrong explain how i can control this cuz i want to like bitch her out for this and yah i need to talk to her about it but i dont know how if we fight over it cuz i dont want to loose a friend.



You may not just be loosing a friend but your boyfriend as well.

Your boyfriend needs to confront her not you. If he isn't doing anything about it after you've told him the relationship between him and your friend makes you uncomfortable then you need to dump him.

Friends do not flirt with other friends boyfriends/girlfriends. Have you told her that you don't like the way she acts towards your boyfriend? If you have and she still continues to act like this...Then either you tell your boyfriend it's either her or you. Nobody deserves to be someones doormat. If he can't show you respect then he never should of been with you begin with and the friend on the other hand...Wouldn't be a friend.

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I feel like i losing my bestfriend of 3 years. She's the closest I've felt to someone EVER. I get very insecure about losing her a lot and I try not to let it bother me but when shes always commenting on this other girls facebook statuss and photos and it gets to me because she doesn't do that to my stuff anymore. I practically have to force her to text me and even then she barely says anything. Whenever she needs help figuring guys out or something she's texting me or calling me. When I need help from her about that sort of stuff shell never text back or she won't answer her phone. Calling back hours or days later sayin her phone ws messing up. But when it like Friday comes when I'm allowed to go over she always tells me I'm coming over. Then were perfectly fine. As soon as I leave its back to the same old same old no texting, etc. She also uses the excuse that she doesn't really text a lot or she never has her phone but when were together she ALWAYS has her phone and is always texting.
I love this girl with all my heart and I know she loves me too. When I tell her how I feel she's just always like I never want to lose you your my bestfriend and sister and nothing will ever change that.
I just don't always feel like that's true. Losing her is NOT an option. I refuse to walk out on her llike so many have before.
Please, any advice?




The truth is sometimes friends don't last forever. If your friend doesn't want to contact you once in a while then obviously she doesn't value the friendship as much as she used too. Sounds to me she only looks to call you when she needs something.


Now, You said it is not an option to walk out of her life but lets reverse that...If she isn't willing to put in the effort to make the friendship work then who's life is she walking out of? You can't force someone to be your friend, If she doesn't want to be friends then there really isn't much you can do but talk to her and express how you feel. Tell her exactly what you've told us. It's either she hears you out and wants to make it work or she continues to walk.

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So i downloadeed the free trial but the application where i click it and open up isnt there and i think i found it but it was kind of faded and said you cannot open this because it wasn't supporeted by the architecture....Anyone hellp??




I would recommend using GIMP, It is similar to Photoshop and it's free. The problem you are experiencing sounds you contracted a possible virus.

Try going with GIMP, You may have better luck.

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