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Ex Boyfriend Issues
20/f
BF: 24/m
So my ex boyfriend and I stopped talking sometime in October, but now we’re friends on Facebook and have spoken a couple of times. He wanted my number, so I gave it to him (of course). He called me on Friday night at around midnight and went on for about an hour and a half about how he misses me, and how he feels about me, etc., and I didn’t really know what to say since I didn’t want him to be just telling me whatever I wanted to hear. Long story short, he paid for a cab to come get me and take me to his house (we didn’t have sex, I made sure of that) and we had a great time. We just hung out and talked and listened to music. We listened to Citizen Cope’s “Sideways” and he held my hand the whole time while he was sitting next to me. And the lyrics to that song are pretty, romantic.. I guess that would be the right word.. I thought it was cute because my feelings for him haven’t gone away, so the thought that he felt the same way made me feel good. Then again, I’m a girl so I’m emotional…. Anyway, what I’m wondering is: Is that song about ME ? About a year ago or so there was this girlfriend of his that convinced him she was pregnant with his kid, and he believed her. He packed all of his things and was ready to get a place with her and marry her so they could have a family. He took her to the hospital when she went into labor and he was the ONLY one there. He saw the baby and it changed him. Like night and day. He changed his diapers, fed him, all of that stuff. And then come to find out.. it wasn’t even his baby. She dropped him immediately and crawled back to the guy who was the dad and moved to a different city to raise the kid. She just left. Like that. It makes me sad to think how ANYONE could do that to someone, it’s so wrong. But back to my question, could the song be about HER ? Look up the lyrics to help you out. I was talking to his mom and she said he was completely heartbroken and became very depressed and went on about how much he loved that baby. All anyone could ever tell him was “But, it’s not yours…” and I’m just wondering if he’s over her yet. Whenever we were together the last time this whole situation with this girl had already happened, so could that be why our relationship didn’t work out before ?? I don’t know if you guys can follow this, but I really want to know. I don’t want to jump into this again if the feelings he’s feeling are left over from her and he’s using me as like a rebound or something. Thanks in advance for any advice you can give me.
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I would not automatically assume that the song was about her or you, It could be just a random song that was playing or it could be song that he liked and just played. One thing that raises an eyebrow is too why he would call you at midnight? Maybe he really did miss you and want to spend time with you but the time is a little off it seems. Most guys would generally call a women at midnight for sex, Not out of missing someone. The rebound thing, Depends on how it went..Did he seem pushy when you or if you declined the offer of sex? Well, Did sex come up on his part? If he bought up the subject at all after 4 months you would think all he cared about was getting in your pants. If you want to be sure then I would suggest taking it slow. If he seems on the topic of sex..RUN
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