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My boyfriend thinks I'm cheating on him but I'm not
My boyfriend of 2 years has been accusing me of cheating since the beginning. I have more guy friends than girls because they back stab. He gets jealous if I talk or look at a guy that I help at work for their schooling in placement tests. It all started when a friend that I have known a year and a half before him was changed to a girls name in the phone because I noticed he was deleting guys off my phone. I completely forgot that I changed him to a girls name because I give my boyfriend the phone while I'm at work. The guy called 8 months later and asked me for money. He lives in another state and my boyfriend got angry over it. After that I deleted it. Now he won't let me use my own cell phone that I pay for. I can't drive to work, he has to drop me off from my own car. He calls me at work to make sure I'm not cheating at the college while working. He thinks our 1 yr old is not his and that I'm secretly having sex with the neighbors. I don't know wat to do anymore. Counseling is not working
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There isn't much to say that Rahzie hasn't already covered. He's using his accusations to justify his own actions. He's manipulating you.
The "1 year old is not his" thing is incredibly messed up.
It's sad that you have a child with him. But at least you don't have to deal with divorce. Move out and start talking to a lawyer about custody proceedings and child support. No one has the right to control you the way he has. Remember this. When he finds out you're leaving he's probably going to dissolve into a pathetic spectacle, tell you he can change, tell you anything to make you stay or believe things will get better.
He is lying. Lying through his teeth. If he actually wanted change, counseling would have helped.
Get your phone back and use it to call people who you can move in with while you get the rest of your life in order for separating yourself from him. You're long past the point of no return, get out before you spend any more time being made miserable.
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okay wow he is so abusive hes controlling and i gotta tell you i would not put up with that tell him listen if you cant trust me and if you think you need to control me then we are over and go from there its not ok for you to deal with this hes phyco over you cheating and if you have not cheated on him before then why is he so paranoid? you need to end it so that he knows he needs to stop and if he starts stalking you then you need a restraining order this is serious and he needs more then councling he needs to go more often.
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Your boyfriend of 2 years has been bullying you and abusing you with false accusations since the beginning in order to deal with his own insecurities and negativity.
He has invaded your privacy on your phone and behaved deceitfully.
He is isolating you from other people in your life who care for you.
He is withholding your property from you.
He is not just an asshole. This is abuse, and in some cases, illegal behaviour.
If you are seeing counselling together - that's great - but if you have given couples counselling a fair shake it's time to get some counselling and support by yourself to help sustain you and advise you as your remove this abusive man from your life. Lots of centers for abused women exist, with legal aid available as well as counselling, and you should visit one. Just because this man has never hit you doesn't mean he isn't abusing you. He is. And you and your child deserve to be free from him.
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