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losing my bestfriend?
I feel like i losing my bestfriend of 3 years. She's the closest I've felt to someone EVER. I get very insecure about losing her a lot and I try not to let it bother me but when shes always commenting on this other girls facebook statuss and photos and it gets to me because she doesn't do that to my stuff anymore. I practically have to force her to text me and even then she barely says anything. Whenever she needs help figuring guys out or something she's texting me or calling me. When I need help from her about that sort of stuff shell never text back or she won't answer her phone. Calling back hours or days later sayin her phone ws messing up. But when it like Friday comes when I'm allowed to go over she always tells me I'm coming over. Then were perfectly fine. As soon as I leave its back to the same old same old no texting, etc. She also uses the excuse that she doesn't really text a lot or she never has her phone but when were together she ALWAYS has her phone and is always texting.
I love this girl with all my heart and I know she loves me too. When I tell her how I feel she's just always like I never want to lose you your my bestfriend and sister and nothing will ever change that.
I just don't always feel like that's true. Losing her is NOT an option. I refuse to walk out on her llike so many have before.
Please, any advice?
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Friends drift apart. Its horrid but it happens. I lost my best friend of 3 years too. We talked 24/7 and then it just faded then I brought it up and it turned into an argument and things were never the same after that. She turned into a drip who likes to make fun of me now. Whatever.
I suggest that you don't force texting her during the schoolweek. In fact, let her miss you a little. Only text her if its necessary during the school week; after a few weeks, she may start texting you more. If she doesn't, she (a) either feels like she spends enough time with you on Friday nights and feels like she doesn't need to text you as much as her other friends, or (b) just doesn't want to have that close of a friendship anymore. Both options are tough - for (a), you're wondering why she has time to comment on her other friends' Facebooks but not yours, publicly snubbing you. For (b), you feel neglected and alone. Its hard. I know. I've been there. A lot of girls have. You'll get over it with time though, and grow to be stronger.
Although you may feel the need to address it with your friend, it may only drive her away more. I'd strongly advise against it. And definitely do not send off a quick "why don't you ever text me anymore?!" text when you're angry. She'll feel defensive and will avoid you.
Just coast for now hon. Its tough, but try to rely on family and other friends for now. Or form other friends. They may not come all of a sudden, but they'll come eventually.
Best wishes. xoxo
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The truth is sometimes friends don't last forever. If your friend doesn't want to contact you once in a while then obviously she doesn't value the friendship as much as she used too. Sounds to me she only looks to call you when she needs something.
Now, You said it is not an option to walk out of her life but lets reverse that...If she isn't willing to put in the effort to make the friendship work then who's life is she walking out of? You can't force someone to be your friend, If she doesn't want to be friends then there really isn't much you can do but talk to her and express how you feel. Tell her exactly what you've told us. It's either she hears you out and wants to make it work or she continues to walk.
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