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you probaly dont want to answer it but i really wanna know so sorry in advance, but is there anyway to stop getting discharge in your underwear? because i get it everyday and when i do i always feel like im getting my period and it really sucks! lol

Don't worry! It's perfectly normal. All girls get it, some more than others. If you're getting alot, you should wear pantyliners because it might feel uncomfortable. If you notice a change in it however, (eg, colour, itchiness etc) it's worth taking a trip to the doc to rule out any infections. :)

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What's an easy way to make shoulder length hair with kinda not really there long layers and bangs look messy-ish?

Back comb your hair and fix with hairspray. It's so quick and easy to do!

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i have and appt. to get my braces taken off in a couple of days. Do you know if it hurts? and how long does it take?.. my friend said it takes an hour.. but mine is scheduled for 30 min.

hope you can help!

There is no pain whatsoever. All I felt was a slight tugging when the brackets etc were removed. It's actually really easy to get off. Don't worry :)

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Wearing a thong will make me feel sexy around guys i know im only 13 but just about everyone wears a thong in my school that my age. Should i just go off and buy one or should i tell my mom i want one. Im afraid shell think im a slut because she dosent want me to date yet but i do behind her back.

If you only want a thong to attract boys, then don't bother.
If it's just for underwear purposes and because YOU want to wear them, then buy one. But do your own washing so your mum doesn't see. If she does, say there was a special offer in the shop or something ;)
and the type of underwear you have doesn't mean if you're a slut or not!

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okiay, i'm gonna b blunt about it,
can you go pee with a tampon in?

"Yes, a woman can urinate while she's wearing a tampon. There are two different openings in a woman's vulva. A tampon is worn inside the opening of the vagina — the stretchable passage that connects a woman's outer sex organs (the vulva) with her internal reproductive organ, the uterus. Urine leaves the body through the other opening, the opening of the urethra — in both women and men."

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My knee has been like hurting lately.
When I say lately, I mean for about a 3 weeks?
It like hurts when I move it a certain way and cracks a lot.
Like yesterday, I barely bumped it on my computer desk.
And it hurt so bad, I nearly cryed.
Going to the doctors is not an option.
My mom thinks its all in my head.

What could be wrong?

A number of things can cause knee pain, such as injuries to ligaments, arthritis, tendonitis, cartlidge problems, dislocated kneecaps etc..
To ease the pain, or if it's swollen, use an ice pack and get a knee brace/tight bandage (not too tight!) to restrict movement and make it heal.
If it's still there in 1-2 weeks without any improvements, you really should see your doctor just to be sure what it is and to get treatment if necessarry.
Hope you're feeling better soon. :)

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oh yea, and what does 'hit that' or 'tap that' mean

They mean to 'get with' someone. Or have sex.

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what does SHORTY mean (like lil shorty or something)

does it mean like literally short, or something else..

"Has more than one meaning but is generally a term to describe a young woman amongst urban minorities. Shorty can mean:

- A female that is usually young in age/around her teens that is attractive.

- The man will use the term "shorty" to get the attention of a female that he is not familiar with but looking to talk to and possibly get her phone number.

- A man can also refer to a female as his shorty to imply her status as only being a just a girl friend that he chills with and more than often is also his fuck partner. She could be his woman on the side or one of other women he has a sexual relationship with.

- A man can either refer to a girl as shorty meaning that he doesn't care for her anymore than a girl friend or fuck partner. Or he can refer to the female as shorty implying that she is his down ass chick."

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okay well i really like this guy and i know that he likes me and we are both really shy none of my friends know that i like him.Its summer and what do i do when i go back to school and see him again

Why not arrange to meet up with him during the holidays? It will help you get to know him better and become less shy around each other.
If you'd rather wait until school, why not make the first move? Or perhaps you should tell your friends. It might make it easier if they talk to him for you if you are too shy.

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yea im kinda self conscious about the way i look and i look down on myself a lot like i dont only think i know that im ugly and sometimes it bothers me when my friends are like ur ugly and i just laugh it off or just say i know i dont know if they are serious or just joking with me but i dont know.. but like when i say mom im ugly shes like no your not your beautiful i know she doesnt mean it she just says that because shes my mom.. but ya whatever thats why im very careless of my looks like i dont really know what to do so that i wont look down on myself so much and not to think about how ugly i am thats why i dont really care about my appearance n e more is that a bad thing??

You think you're ugly, because as you've said, you look down on yourself. Don't do this. If YOU don't think highly of yourself, noone will.
Real friends don't call each other ugly. Even if it's a joke. Because deep down, a comment like that is obviously going to play on someone's mind. Tell them not to say that to you anymore, because it hurts. They should understand.
You should start taking pride in your appearance. Really make an effort. Get a new hair cut/style/new makeup etc. It will make you feel refreshed and so much better about yourself.
and remember, everyone is beautiful in their own way. :)

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ok so i just started going out w/ this guy but i REALLY like him and we talk every night unti like 2 in the morning on the phone. so i always have the urge to say i love you... but i know htat i don't. but i don't want to say "I like you" because that doesn't sound quite right and he already knows that. what is an alternative to saying " i love you" to someone you REALLY like but don't exactly love yet. cuz i still want to mean what i say.

You could always tell him he means so much to you. and can't imagine what you'd be doing without him :)

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My cousin has been masturbating since she was 3 years old. Is that normal? She is 17 now.

I don't think she was masturbating. It's not really possible for a 3 year old to pleasure itself sexually. She was probably just wondering about her body..

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My dog just got put down. I miss her so much, how do I learn to forget about her?

You don't ever need to forget about her. Treasure the memories you have, remember the good times.
It will get easier to cope with in time.. so you will be fine.
I know she will never be replaced, but if it helps, get another, so it can remind you of her :)

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anybody know of any good drinking games other then quarters? something easy to play without alot of stuff. for liek 2 to like 5 players

Find a song which repeats a certain word. Everytime you hear that word, you take a shot.
"Roxanne" is a good one. (Every time you hear the name Roxanne, drink!)
It's hilarious. and you get so drunk.

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Hey could you guys help me out...i need fun songs to put on my myspace so could you like make a list of some and with the arist and title? Like techno,pop,dance,hip-hop,electronica,comedy,club,
fun,disco etc..something fun and dancish!

thanks a bunch and ill rate and give feedback =0)

Gravy train!!!!
Rude. But fun. :)

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I think I'm gonna pierce my own ear.


I have it pierced twice and my cartilage...but yea...how do I make the needle or w.e clean?

You can't realy get it cleaned unless it's autoclaved. Piercing it yourself is very risky business. You need the correct equipment and the placement is crucial.
But that's probably not going to make you stop!..
So boil the needle and earring, use alcohol, sea salt..
Use a range of things.

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okay this is kind of embarrising but how come i can never get a clean shave "down there"? .. and when i shave my legs and armpits it will grow start growing back by the end of the day.and even if i use a brand new razor it will grow back the next day

To be honest, I don't know.
But I don't think anyone actually can get a clean shave down below unless you have one very sharp razor or you approach it a different way.. like waxing.
I guess everyone's different with how quick the hair grows back. Try shaving it twice a day! Or if that's too much effort, you should also use other methods. Wax, hair removal creams..
You don't have to put up with the lameness of shaving. and the results of the other ways last much longer.

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hey! =) well lately its been REALLY hot and HUMID and i love straigtening my hair ..i think i look a lot prettier when its straightened and i have more confidence i know sounds kinda weird but whatever. but tomorrow or the next day im probably gonna see this adorable guy and i wanna look cute! lol im gonna be wearing cute clothes but then what about my hair? i cant srunch it and leave it down it doesnt work..i would have to srunch it then put it up in like a bun but i just think i look different and not as pretty. but if its gonna be humid and i straighten it then it might get all frizzy and like unstraightened a little bit! but maybe not? i just dont know! cuz even if im outside for a little bit then it gets weird when straightened but i want to wear it like that! gahh what do you guys think i should do..curling it doesnt work either!! =( i know the guy shouldnt care but i just have more confidence when i "feel pretty"

well thanks.

Sounds like we have the same darn hair! I get so annoyed when the weather/humidity screws up my hair. It ruins my day because it took ages to straighten. Sadly, there isn't really anything you can do about it! You could try putting straightening balm on your hair after straightening. That sometimes works..
But normally, when I know my hairs gonna get messed up, I straighten it, and plait only some sections and leave it in for an hour to make it wavyish and straight. It looks rather funky! Or you could try putting half up and half down. That makes it less noticable when it goes all frizzy.
You really shouldn't worry though. Because you're self conscious about your hair, you are obviously going to notice when some bits go frizzy/curly etc.. but it doesn't mean anyone else will. :)

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A lot of my friends have limewire and tell me how great it is. THe only problem is, I don't want to download a song and then find out that I have a virus. Can you get viruses easily from limewire or if I have Mcafe will it be ok? Basically, I want to know, if I use limewire, will it screw up my computer?

You can get viruses from limewire, because it happened to my friend. But I have it and I've never had any trouble. Just be wary.. and since you have virus software, take advantage of it and make sure you scan your computer if you're worried :)

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for the first time i had phone sex. my boyfriend told me what to do but i didnt think it would be so plesent i dont know if know i should have sex with him? anyone please answer i'll give 5's

If phone sex wasn't a very good experience, then you now know not to do it again.
You can't decide on whether to have sex with him just by not enjoying something like phone sex.
If you are asking advice if you should have sex, then the answer is definitely no, because you are obviously having doubts.. otherwise you wouldn't be asking for help. You should only have sex, when first of all you are LEGAL, have everything you need beforehand, know the risks and are 100% comfortable doing so.
What's the rush?
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