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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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ok ill start by telling you his family backround. when his brother was a baby he has a cyst somehwere on his genitals, and his dad cant have kids because he idk has or hadd testicular cancer. so anyways now, my boyfriend thought he had cysts on his testicles and it was hurting so he went to the doctor and they said they turned into calcium, bones. and they told him he couldnt have kids. i dont know why, maybe its because im indenial but i dont believe that he cant have kids. and i know his little cyst things arent made up because i can feel them, and i know he went to the doctor for it. we used to have unprotected sex, and that was probably for about idk, hmmm 5 months? we used condoms sometimes, but rarely. the reason was, since we had sex so much and i never did get pregnant i thought i just wasnt going to. oh yeah and im not on birth control. and the fact that you can get pregnant just by putting their penis on the outside is just odd that i never got pregnant having unprotected sex that whole time. and of course, he has rubbed his penis on the outside of my vagina. his cum is clear, but like once, maybe even twice it looked a little milkyish. so, do you think he really is infertile? is there a way you can tell without going to the doctor again? im just the kind of person where i have to be proven things or it will bug me because then its hard to believe. (link)
There is no way for you to tell if he is fertile by looking at his sperm or anything.

If his doctor said he was infertile then he probably is. If you trust him to tell you the truth, then you will just have to believe him. :)


I am 15yr. Female. I have never had sexual intercorse. For the past two-three years ago I started geting these bumps. My doctor said it was an Absess [sp] from the bloomers I wear. They were to tight. I havent done cheerleading in about a year now but I am still getting the bumps, but they are worse now. They have moved lower and open like a sore. Is it possible that I have Genital Herpes?

I am still very active in sports. With summer coming up my next sport is SWIMMING and DIVING. Those sports are my life but i am to embarresed to wear a bathing suit with the bumps..


Please if you know anything.
Any information will be appreciated. (link)
Abscesses do open up and some can get very painful and sore. If they look the same other than that, it is the same thing you were treated for already. If you had genital herpes your doctor would have found it.

The thing about the abscess, which is probably a boil, is they can frequently reoccur. Buy some antibacterial soap and use it in the areas where you get them most. Even when you don't have one there.

Wash you hands before and after touching them. Especially if they rupture because they can be spread.

Use a triple antibiotic on them. Neosporin is one or you can get a generic triple antibiotic ointment at Walmart. It will work just as good. That will clear them up faster than anything else that I know of. :)



ok since my last few questions i finaly made up my mind about who i should ask out, but this girl shes realy quiet and the only times i could ak her is going to my home room or PE so my problem is how should i go up toher and ask her? (link)
Here is a web page that has some tips you may find helpful. Good luck! :)


OK, my cat, of about 8 years old, had quite a bit of diarrhea on my rug and well, what looks like throw up, on my sister's rug. The "throw up" looks like V8 Juice, only very, very thin-and more orange. I gave my cat some milk this morning-but it was only a little splash. I've given him milk before & he didn't have any after affects. He seemed to be in general good health, with a few minor glitches [such as laziness-when he never has been before], but after this happened, I started to question his health. I'm asking, BEFORE I GO TO THE VET, what you guys think it is? Is it something I should be worried about?

Please keep in mind, that this is my baby! (link)
Like Theymos said cats and milk do not go well together. I gave some to my grandcat once and he
got diarrhea bad too. So all those feeding kitty milk myths are wrong.

As for red vomit...are you feeding him red food? I ask because my pup got into the older dogs moist and meaty dog food and threw up red.

IF you feed your cat moist canned cat food or cat food in one of those pouches that have gravy in them, find your local news website and get the list of recalled cat food. Many brands have been found to contain rat poison. This would be a medical emergency for your pet.


i have had sex with two guys in alittle over a year, but i did it about like 15 times. i think thats alot. is it ? i dont want my vagina to keep getting looser because guys think thats gross. what can i do to make it gradually get alittle tighter. will not having any sex for awhile help ? (link)
Having babies might make you "looser". Having sex will not.

Not having sex when you are a teen is a good idea. But it will not loosen or tighten by not having sex.:)


whats the difference between Kurt Cobain and Nirvana?

is he in the group? is HE Nirvana? (link)
Kurt Cobain was the singer for Nirvana. I guess in a way he WAS Nirvana, since they haven't done anything
since Cobain's death in 1994.


I MAY have left a tampon in, and accidentially put another one in while the first was still in but i am not sure. I know that's horrible but is there a way to see if one is still in? Would the string be hanging out still? Help =/ (link)
If you don't see a string or can't feel it, go to the doctor or emergency room. A tampon left in can cause toxic shock syndrome. :)


where do babys come from.
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Cabbage patches. :)


I have heard a number of things.. and there all different.. My Q is... is it called child molesting.. or rape or whatever for someone over 18 to date a miner, Date... with no sex.
Please anwser only if you know the correct anwser... no assuming.. just facts. (link)
You can date, with parents permission. No sex.

If you were to have sex, it would be considered statutory rape. A fancy way of saying having sex with a minor.


I have to go up in front of the entire class and work on a dummie/manaquin tomorrow. Everyone in my entire class has already done it. The problem is I dont know how to do it. Can someone please tell me the steps on how to do CPR on a dummie because I want to get certified. Im really scared to do this. Everyone knows how to do it, except me. So tell me step by step how to do it so I can practice.???
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If you want the chest to rise you have to pinch the nose closed.

Here is a site on the basics. This is for adults. baby's and children are not the same.

http://www.ehow.com/how_7148_perform-cpr-adult.html

I can't believe they would certify someone without hours of training. Yikes.


do you have to be baptized to go to Heaven?i believe in Jesus Christ and i know thaat He died for our sins.do i have to be baptized to go to heaven?

thank you.





(if you can, give me Bible verses where it says you have to or/if it says you don't have to.)
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Don't rate this one.

Note: I think she meant that title to read:

Or are Christian. So no smart remarks please. :)


I am a large woman and i ahve lost 100lbs and my boyfriend has some proplems with my body but he loves me and he wants me but I dont know how to make him hot spice him up I never had to do anything special for my husband just lay down but i want to be sexy and turn him on in little exiciting ways. what can i do to soice up our sex life? (link)
Congratulations on the weight loss! Thats quite an accomplishment.

Here is a site full of ideas for you. :)

http://www.thenewhomemaker.com/fifteenwaystospiceupyourlovelife


My wife and i are 28 years of age and are planning to have a baby. She is anemic. Before we concieve is there any precautions or medications that have to be taken. If yes, what is it? (link)
Any woman with a preexisting condition should see a doctor and discuss how it will affect a pregnancy before becoming pregnant.

I don't think it will be a problem so long as her doctor is aware of it. The doctor can put her on whatever vitamins or anything else she may need to help things go smoothly for her and your baby. :)


do spiders lay eggs? no google please (link)
Yes. They certainly do lay eggs. :)


13/f.

I know this sounds gross, but I never knew that you were ssupposed to actually wash wash down there..

How do you do it! (link)
This site will give you all the info you need.

http://www.coolnurse.com/vagina.htm


is playing with your clitoris to orgasm technically masturbating or no? (link)
Its exactly masturbating. :)


Ok so i got my period 10 days go, and it lasted its normal 5 day lenght..but ever since it ended i have been getting some spotting every other day..and it seems a bit darker..is this normal Could i be prgenant? (link)
I don't think you are pregnant. Spotting between periods can mean a lot of different things. Stress is one of them. Fibroids is another.

If it just happens this one time I wouldn't be concerned to much. If it becomes a regular thing
then you should see a doctor to see what is going on. :)


i'm not sure what to do, can it occur without sexual contact because i'm a virgin and i need to know. I am worried sometimes i will not be able to have children, it's probably me being silly but....these are the syptoms i'm having
-Very tight for skin-
-clear discharge
-Red on the tip of my penis
-very small thick bits of semen appearing under my forskin after masturbation
-and small spotson my forskin that are only visible on the tip when you pull it back
-there is also discomfort when ever i touch the red part on the tip of my penis

Is this thrush and should i see a doctor?
i would like to avoid telling my parents if at all possible

thankyou (link)
Yes, you should see a doctor. It is not caused by having sex. Here is an article on it for you. It does give some treatments you can try and some ways to prevent it. :)

http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/mens_health/issues_thrush.shtml


I am divorced. We have 3 kids together ages 10,9,7... my son is the 7 year old. He comes home upset from visiting his father every time.He has been living with this boy who is 6 for a year, His mother has 5 kids by 4 different fathers and 2 are serving life in prison. one is (the boys) father. He is going to marry the boys mom in july and adopt him. This would be fine if he was a fit father but he is not.She is also a convicted felon.who only has custody of 1 of her 5 children. I am a suburban mom who makes a pretty good living, and gives my kids a good life, by the way he has also been convicted of domestic violence on our daughter. Should I keep my kids out of their home?? Its becomeing ever so bizarre.My son comes home cryin g because this new kid call his dad daddy, he feels like he has been replaced. His girlfriend told my son something about a month ago that set me off, they were spending the weekend with dad and girlfriend and my son asked when he was gonna see mommy and the crazy girl told him "mommy is dead i killed her", my girls said this was said..she has threatened to kill me through relatives, she is not all there. What do I do?By the way my ex and this woman were having affairs throughout our ten year marriage. This is not a stable environment for my kids, I am in a great relationship now and I might want to fight for sole custody and move away..Any advice?? (link)
I would choose no visitation then. Really, I would.
He has domestic violence on his record so you should have no problem at all retaining full custody.

If the kids were happy visiting it might be OK, but if they are not then why put them through it. That bunch just sounds like trouble to me. Fight for full custody and get on with your life. :)


18-f-aus

is it possible if 2 girls have oral together like you can catch aids or other diseases cause i have been with a few girls and im scared now that ive catched something and im gonna die its not possible if i just used my fingers right?? and you cant get diseases in yoru mouth can u please help im scared that ive got some infesting disease inside of me killing me away without me knowing (link)
I think you read the answer to another question this morning that has caused you to panic.

It is possible to get AIDs from oral sex. IF a person has a cut in their mouth while doing it with someone that has AIDS.

The other answers below mine are perfect. Just wanted to add that little bit to them. :)




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