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Hey I have a question it seems no matter where I go I hear a song by Hilary Duff and I see her on Tv. Naturally I have nothing against her or for her. Now What is so great and what isn't? Don't tell me she is a good role model because a good role model would encourage a person to be comfortable with themselves and she isn't example: height. Think about your future example Bys a 400 dollar vintage shirt for a "BOYFRIEND" so just comments would be great.


Cspinoza1

Well pesonaly I agree and dissagree with you.
I think that hilary duff is O.K.A.Y. I use to really like her songs but now they seem the same.
I don't think that anyone in hollywood should be labled a "Good Role Model" because thats just wrong! I mean there is not a single person in hollywood that i would call my role model. Yes hilary may have a nice voice, Yes she may be an actress and is on TV but what makes her my role model? she doesn't know who I am and she isn't perfect! My role models are people in my life that know who I am. They have familys they are nice, caring, they ALWAYS take the time to hear my complaint. Yes Hilary my be nice but she isn't my friend and so I guess in away i agree with you that she is not a role model and shouldin't be.

This question was a very good one. And I thankyou for asking it.
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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Please tell me what you think of the song. It is alternative/pop so please tell me, i need a song for an audition and i might sing this

This is who i am, This is who i wanna be
I can be an eagle soaring through the breeze,
I can be a mermaid swimming in the seas,
But this is who i am, This is who i wanna be,
And i won't change just for you, cuz i need to be me

Chorus
You always look at me like i'm who they say
And trying to tell me to be this way,
Did you ever think i may be too much
to do a certain dance (a certain touch)
This is who i am this is who i wanna be,

I'm not a supermodel,
I'm not your barbie doll,
Don't expect from me
A beautiful fantisy,
Cuz i'm already beautiful,
Inside my soul
But this is who i am, This is who i wanna be

Chorus
Guitar solo
In the mirror is where she comes face to face with her fears
Her own reflections now fatal after all these years,
All of her life she has tried to be something besides herself,
Now she's someone else with regret

Thanks a bunch!
Lizzy

GREAT SONG!!!! you have HUGE talent! You should totally sing this!

advice~gurl

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my life is shit
i wanna die
here i go
its a bumpy ride

wondering how and when
it should be done
should i stab my chest
or use a gun
should i poison myself
or maybe drown
will people smile
or will they frown

will they cry
i'll never know
doesnt matter
here i go
should i slit my wrists
or not do it at all
im on a cliff
should i fall
if i die
will you care
or will you pretend
i was never there

why doesnt anyone like me?
why doesnt anyone care?
why doesnt anyone help?
why isnt anyone there?
I try to talk to people
I try to tell them how I feel
damn, i pour my heart to them
because this i can't conceal
I've always been ignored
I've always been scared
I've cried
I've tried
But now I wana die
So now I have made a choice
a choice about death or life
I wipe my tears away
and get out a knife
I stab it into my wrists
cut them real deep
soon I'll be in a better place
the bloods starting to seep
i have no more worries
no more fears
no more pain
dont have cry no more tears
now i am happy
wait, should I be?
I have missed out on my whole life
I am drenched in blood, just look at me
I am sorry mommy
I am sorry dad
I knew you always loved me
sorry to make you sad
but now all i can see is white
i'm getting close to the light
bye to people who ignored me'
bye to the people who hated me
bye to the people who didn't know i even existed bye forever
I am at the light now
I am in a better place
do not follow me
i am never to far away

WOW,
I can't quite explain how i feel after reading this poem. its a misture. 1 its really a great poem and you should summit to WWW.Poetry.com you will most defenitly have it published.
2 its sad in away that you feel this way and yet i understand. please don't commit suiicde. i really can't help you sitting at this computer typing something. I want to help you but i feel useless. i know that you feel lost and alone and that no one likes you i've been there and stiil am butjust killing your self doesn't solve anything. honestly. sence i was little i have always been ignored by everyone i knew and made fun of anywhere i went. i try to turn to someone that i thought cared and they seemed to busy to care. i understand but to be honest i'd rather pore my heart out to someone than the thought of the people that hated me smiling when im gone.

I know i probaly haven't helped you but all i can say PLEASE don't commit suiside.

sincerely
advice~gurl
Kathleen

P.S.
my e-mail is kutekrushkat@yahoo.com

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dear, any one
one of my friend is a gay/lisbaian
person i dont think its tht bad but it goes alout against my religion is it wrong of me not to care even tho my religon says that they will not go to heaven at least thts wat my mom says but im 16 and 16 a very confussing age
*The confussed 16 year old*

Well.... my religion is totally against gays and see i'm mormon and a convert and see I have a cousin that is gay and i don't really agree with what my church says about gays cause i have family member that is. I personaly feel that you can still be friends with your friend because its not going against your religion.its not like YOU personaly is the one thats gay.
I believe that everyone has a choice. I know what I believe and what i do is my choice and if other people don't beleive that or don't do what I do thats fine. thats their choice. not mine.
And so don't feel pressered to stop being a friend just because of what other people say.
I hope i helped and answered your question.
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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Dont do what I do.






I don't cut myself, or physically hurt myself because that would be a watse of a good knife. I rot away from the inside so slowley and painfully, hacking my arm apart wouldn't make any difference. The people who want to be my friends, and say hi to me at school, don't really know what their doing, or getting themselves into. I don't want to be harsh but they can't be my friends, because none of them seem to notice that anythings wrong. One friend, just ONE person, seems to be able to look into my eyes and know somethings up. I don't even hang around with her that often. But theres been times when shes passed me on my way to class, and grabbed my arm and gone "There's something up isn't there?"


That person i cherish, even though they probably don't realise it. I spend everyday withsome people, and they never seem to notice.


I should be thankful for the people who care, but if one day i lashed out and hit them, screamed at them, hurt them..........wouldn't they just walk away? If you're friend smacked you round the face and called you shit, wouldn't you just turn around and go find someone else to hang around with? If you think you would still be there for that person, you need to think long and hard. I don't know anyone who would be able to tolerate something like that.


I won't kill myself, cos then I'll be just a statistic in the world. I don't want to be another number. That would be worse than staying in this world. And I dont want strangers sympathy. I don't want people seeing reports in the newspaper of my death and saying "poor kid." I don't want it.


This is my mind speaking. These are the things going round in my head at this moment in time.I love my family and my friends to death. I don't want to hurt them. I don't want them to worry. I don't want them to cry like I'm doing right now.


Some days I feel like crying, somtimes I'm too drained to do anything. Today i laid in my room and stared into space for ages. I don't know what I was doing. I don't even know whether i was thinking. I was in a daze, and I couldn't control it.

You said that you don't want a strangers "support" so I won't do that.

This poem is one of the best and truest poems i've heard in a long time.
You are very lucky that you have a friend that is like that because this poem is just like how I feel and I don't have anyone that can see my pain in my eyes. I go around and having a painted "happy" face on when im deing inside. all I see when i look in a mirror in a reflection of the mask. so you see i understand and i know i haven't helped and i know that you didn't want help so i guess all i can say is that turn to that friend when your feeling down and keep writing poems you have a talent. i suggest that you summit them on www.poetry.com.
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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her eyes are swollen, she cannot see
she feels like three, in that poem bout misty
shes just and expensive joke
no more no less then speed or coke
she had been kidnapped by her ex
because he was jealous and wanted sex
oh dear god he's back again
I beg please let this end
now the time has come
for him to run
for this is my last scar
do me a favor
don’t let your relationships go this far....

MAN!!! You are A great poet! You should summit your poems to WWW.poetry.com I did and I have won awards and got one of my poems published. You should totally summit your poems!

Advice~gurl

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someone mentioned about...hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia
wut is that?

I think its when people have a fear of long words.

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pick a number 1-100 make it a good one or i lose

23 So like did I win?

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You are going to get you GED when you are 16? Wow that is so young, what do you plan to do after that?

well to honest I really don't know if I will be able to get my GED when I turn 16 because I am home schooled and I am not taught a single thing. so I am just hoping that I will but it scares me to think that if I am able to WOW!
but after I get my GED (lets say I do) I would like to get a job and work for about a year and save my money then I would like to move into a apartment and wrok for year again and save my money then go to collage I want to be a Pastry Chef. and when I am 21 i want to go on a mission for my church. (that would be for about 2 years)then when I'm 23 i will start looking around for someone to marry. of corse I would probaly not move out of the house until I'm 18 but this gives you pretty much my plan.
OH! one more thing I will certanly move from my home town. (I live in a very small town) I woud like to move to OR. YEP! So i told you pretty much my plan for the next 10 years.
I know it's probaly more than you exspected to hear but why not!? no one ever wants to hear what my ambtions are in life.

so what about you? anything? I am open to pretty much anything.

anyways
hope I answered your question to your liking.
sincerely
advice~gurl
~kat

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lately i cant wait to grow up. like i cant wait to get my period, i cant wait to become a teenager, i cant wait to go to colledge, i cant wait to get married, i cant wait to have kids, i cant wait to drive, like all of that stuff! does this mean anything?

*lauve645*

Okay,
I understand this question because I have been in this same spot. (and I'm not Kidding)

This really doesn't mean that your "ready" to grow up because about a year or two I was doing this too. I did the exact same thing your doing too but i never said a word to anyone about it because I thought i would be made fun of or some thing. Well you know what? now that I have had my period for almost 2 years and am a teenager and having my heart broken, I really see that its not so great. And no i'm not saying that its aweful but its not as great as i thought it would be.
right now i'm trying to take each day at a time because I'm really scared of whats coming next. for me right it seems like everything is just going too fast! like every time I turn around i've had my "first something" and i didn't even have time to really enjoy it.
I am scared of going on my first date because i will be 16 then and thats when i get my GED and start to drive and all that and i know that im not ready for that and it scares me because thats in 2 years now. Im not trying to just say that im scared of everything or that it is all bad but Im just saying you will grow up out of wanting to grow up because one day you will wake up and notice how differernt everything is. just enjoy your youth. because it will all come in due time.
i hope I have helped you and answered your question! please let me know what you think pf my advice
sincerely
advice~gurl

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She's trapped inside her own world of sins


She can't get out, but she never wanted to get in


No one seems to notice, they just pass on by


Everyday she puts on her best smile, never wanting to start to cry


She's ashamed of everything she's ever put herself through


If she could only start over again, there's things she would not do


She never really wanted to be that kind of girl


But it was just so easy to fall into that world


Her world just keeps on falling down, around her like a thick cloud


She can't even see a thing, can't even hear a sound


Her skin crawls with angst, not knowing what to expect


She's afraid to open her eyes, afraid of what she might see next


She'd huddled in a corner, wrapping herself in her arms


Trying to block whatever it is that might put her in some harm


A single tear rolls down her cheek, the one she's tried so hard to block


She's tried to find the key, the one to open up the lock


She never wanted to be bad, but never wanted to be good


She doesn't know which way to go even though she should


The girl looks deep inside her own reflection, to see what she can find


But all she sees is false hope and deception, it's what she's trying to hide


But, you wonder, how I see all those things you can not see


It's a secret I've tried to hold dear, but that little girl is me

I think I answered your other poem. Im guessing that all these poems are yours and i'm not going to answer all but i really do like them. they are real feelings not fake. I like this poem too because I have these probs too. not this deep but I don't want ot be bd but i don't want to be good. well i have turned all good.and its hard because I want to be some thing else but it seems like i can't. remember you can. you can.
if you need help talk to people. nayone.
my e-mail is kutekrushkat@yahoo.com
sincerely
Kat

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Not enough, but so much,
Not enough guts to make that cut,
But yet so much, so much pain,
Within myself, im so insane,
Within that knife holds all happiness,
To give my arm that little kiss,
Within my grasp, I hold that blade,
Dying to cut, dying to staine,
I hold it in, but let it go,
To the floor i fall, only to show ,
That i had enough guts,
To make that sweet, simple cut.

WOW!
I write poems too and they are a way for me vent, a way to let my feelings flow. I see that thats what they are for you too.
I understand this poem, I have a mother that is very depressed and has almost been suicidal and so i have gotten a little depressed amd I came within' and inch of cutting myself. I'm not kidding. I remember feeling Just so alone, so tired of hiding my feelings wanting to cut myself to feel the real pain, not pain that I couldn't get rid of. I have to say that we maybe in different places but Remember to not hold it up all inside. It does help to tell someone, even if you can't bare the thought. it helps. I love this poem. it makes me sad to think this but I understand and you are very gifted poet. Keep up the writing. If you need somene to talk with i can help.
My e-mail is kutekrushkat@yahoo.com
I can share my poems with you. it would help to have someone to talk with for me too.
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat

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Which do you think is better?

1)



The Moon

The moon whispers nightly prayers
before the sun awakes to overflow the day with light

The moon is the stars storyteller and
sings a lullaby to bring all children to a slumber

It witnesses all night activity
as a sliver of silver in the sky

The moon brings restless animals
to their hunting hour and
see all lowering their sleepy eyelids.

2) The Moon whispers it nightly prayers
before the sun awakes to overflow the day with light
It is the stars storyteller and
and sings a lullaby to bring all children to a slumber
It witnssas all night activity as a sliver of silver in the sky
and sees all lowering their eyelids

Well I have to say you write poetry beautifuly! I write poetry too and i think yours is better!
Anyways back to the question i would have to say they are both great but i like the 2nd. the 2nd seems to jump out at me like the night has been captured in this poem. I would say keep writing! there is a site www.poetry.com and you can summit your own poetry. you might even have your poem published.
anyways i like the 2nd.
sincerely
advice~gurl

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i have a crush on a girl and i dont know if she likes me i need help :/

Well it is true that gurls like guys to make the first move because it shows that you singled her out and not just kinda just sat there. I would say get to know her. What I always do when I have a crush on a guy I always get to know them and become friends with him. I would say DO NOT come right out and say I like you or some sort of thing. because I have a friend that does that and when you do that you don't give the person a chance to think and so they will run. ( not literly) so just relaxe and just be friends and later tell her.
i know how ya feelin' trust me but i hoped i helped ya.
sincerely
advice~gurl

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I never really have any good feelings- i'm always either depressed, bored, sad or apathetic. Haven't felt happy or even angry in AGES, and am sick of it. Could this be because i got less naive (i found out how much the world sucks, etc, after finding out my mom committed suicide and my friend was molested). Also, how do i END this annoying similarity of my feelings.days, etc? I've been kinda contemplating suicide, but only jokingly. masturbation doesn't work either- makes me more depressed. i like art but when i'm at art school i feel calm, not really happy though. When i laugh at a joke i get this .5 second uplift in spirits but then become sardonic and dark all over again. Any advice would be appreciated.

Okay,
Having a mother that is really depressed and probaly would have have committed suicide by now if it wasn't for me, I understand.

Please don't "think" about committing suicide even if in a "joke". Because maybe one day your feeling even more depressed and you decide "who would it hurt?" or "it's not like i will REALLY kill myself" Because of my mom being so depressed i have often thought of cutting myself to make my pain go away. Trust me, what will hurting your self make everything go away?

Now to the question,
1) Life IS great! Look around you. Look at the beautiful blue sky, the birds, the trees. How can life be bad if there are so many beautiful things? Just because there are some people in the world that don't appriecate what they have and do things like molesting people and stuff. They are just sick! Don't let them get you down!

2) Knowing the symtoms of depression I would say that you have it bad. Not knowing your age or sex I can't be that sure but I would say that you may need to go to a doctor for anti-depressonts. Because it sounds like there could be more to your depression than just this. Do you know if depression runs in your family? I am guessing that your mother was depressed before she committed suicide because if it runs in your family than this could be a family trait. If so, You should go to the doctor!

Please let me know if your depression gets better, Don't committe suicide! Don't even THINK about it, PLEASE!

Anyways I hope I helped you, *HUG
sincerely
Advice~gurl

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Every time I go to my friend she always jokes with me saying that "Oh here comes lil miss christian girl" and "Oh great your going to preach to us are'nt you." I know she is just playing but I wish I could witness to her without being made fun of.

I would like to say it's nice to have someone writing in spirituality!

Well... I'm mormon and I am always telling people about my religion everytime i get the chance but when someone gets bored with what i'm saying I just let them go and I think that if they're not intrested than they'er not ready to hear what I have to say.
What I have to say to you is that don't try to press your beleifs on other people and even more if they make remarks like that or aren't intrested. I know you may not think that your pressing them with your beleifs but that person may feel like that. Another thing, find new people to tell. they're your friends just let them be that. If they don't share your beleifs just be happy to be their friends. maybe later on in the future you will have the chance to tell her and she will be ready to hear what you have to say.

I sincerely hope I have helped you. I know what it's like to be in your postion. I have been in it MANY times!
let me know how everything turns out with your friend!
sincerely
advice~gurl

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hes a wierd guy lol last night i talked to him on the computer and he said that he thought i said a guy i dont have feelings for. i acctually said "a guy who doesnt have feelings for me" but he heard it wrong. and when i told him last night that i still like him he said he "would" but he has feelings 4 his pillow now. i know hes joking though. should i wait for him to ask me out? i would ask him out but im to shy and nervous. and if he does. in this next relationship should i kiss him at some point in time? he hasnt kissed me becuase he doesnt know how to kiss. neither do i but i really want to kiss him. even though i am to shy to make the first move. he also has recently started sitting by me. even when the other chairs are not filled by someone elses butt lol. he wouldnt sit by me when we were going out though. maybe he will keep sitting by me. and i hope he does. ok im gonna let you go cuz this is already really long. bye!

Okay,
This "guy" who told you he has feelings for his pillow is sending mixed signals! I personaly think he likes you still.
Okay,
This "guy" sounds like he is one that will wait for the gurl to ask, so I think you should totally ask him out!But you say your too nervous and shy? Well sence it sounds like your going to wait for him to ask you out. The kiss? hmmm.... well... kissing a guy is some thing that will come when its time. like, lets say its your 3rd date (exsample) and you reach this "time" in your date that everything just feels right nothing matters what is going on except your date. I can't quite explain it "just" right but it will come naturly. it will seem as if you've done times times before. I mean it may not happen with this "guy" but it will. I promise. Another thing, you may feel like kissing him now. I would say wait till its the right time. you will know.

I hope I have answered your question good and gave you some good advice.
Let me know what happens. I care! Ask me for advice ANY time.
sincerely
advice~gurl

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he said that he broke up with me because he didnt have feelings for me anymore. but the same day he broke up with me he started flirting with me and has been every day ever since. but then agian. the way he flirts and the way he acts normally are very simaler. except the whole smiling, laughing at my stupid jokes, and looking at me when he thinks i cant see thing. i still like him alot.
signed,
*~confused~*

I feel your pain and confusion.
it sounds like when he broke-up with you he didn't really think it over And you say the way he flirts and acts is pretty much the same right? Guys are very hard to read. infact the guy i crushed on for like 3 years did this to me too.
Laughing at your stupid jokes, taking your side even if he knows your wrong,Checking you out when your not looking, making sure you know that he is there, are all HUGE hints that he likes you. I would say he still likes you *ALOT*. What I would do is start smiling back, give him comlaments on his clothes take his side even if he is wrong that kind of stuff. BUT... if does nothing more after you give him the bait, Forget Him! if doesn't go after the bait like acting more weird than he did before, He is just a player and will keep playing with your mind unless you make him just a memory. I know you still like him and its hard to get him off your mind but slowly but surely he will disapate from your mind. I asure you.
I really do hope that I helped you. please let me know how everything turns out, I do care and ask me anytime for advice.
sincerely
advice~gurl

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I have this friend. Well, he's not exactly my friend, but we hang out at school and stuff. Awhile back, I used to like him and I told some people. One day, someone told him. Then he started avoiding me. Now he's talking to me, like all the time. He always wants my advice on something and always sticks up for me. Does anyone know why he's acting like this?

Thanks!
Confused

WELL...
When he heard that you liked him he probly got scared because he didn't like you "That Way" and so he avoided you.
He probly grew up a little and realized that he was acting way stupid. And so now he may be trying to fix how he acted and he could possibly "Like You" like you. One more thing, taking your side on things is sorta a big sign that he likes you.
One things for sure guys are weird! they send you mixed feelings. Trust me! they act like they like you but then act like they don't.
You may never know until you hear it from his mouth and his mouth only.
I hoped this helped! *HUG*
advice~gurl

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