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the gay/lesy friend
dear, any one
one of my friend is a gay/lisbaian
person i dont think its tht bad but it goes alout against my religion is it wrong of me not to care even tho my religon says that they will not go to heaven at least thts wat my mom says but im 16 and 16 a very confussing age
*The confussed 16 year old*
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you're friends with that person for a reason right? you can tell your friend why you think its wrong ( and i'm sure they have heard it b4), but don't force it upon them, its their decision, love them for who they are, and the wonderful qualities they have. i'm not asking what your religion is, but just about every religion says that we have to love another as we love ourselves, not in those exact words, maybe, but the principle itself. you have to respect your friends decision, you don't have to agree with it, but respect it, because you love them.
Victoria
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the thing about religion is that you choose to believe the things that whichever religion says. its really your own opinion whether or not you want to accept different things like that.
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Do you really think god cares if you are interested in the same sex. The truth is god doesnt. And there is nothing wrong with gays so what if they are different. Your mother might as well be a Notzi or in the KKK because if you think about it whats the difference between hatred of Blacks or Jews and hatred of gays. You are right not to care if they are gay because there is nothing wrong with it. As for your mother she needs to be more open minded and accepting of other peoples differences.
-ben
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Well.... my religion is totally against gays and see i'm mormon and a convert and see I have a cousin that is gay and i don't really agree with what my church says about gays cause i have family member that is. I personaly feel that you can still be friends with your friend because its not going against your religion.its not like YOU personaly is the one thats gay.
I believe that everyone has a choice. I know what I believe and what i do is my choice and if other people don't beleive that or don't do what I do thats fine. thats their choice. not mine.
And so don't feel pressered to stop being a friend just because of what other people say.
I hope i helped and answered your question.
sincerely
advice~gurl
kat
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This person is your friend. If he or she is a good friend, then that's all that has to matter to you -- if you don't care about their sexuality, then it's not an issue in your friendship.
Let God take care of who goes to heaven and who doesn't. It's not your place, or indeed your mother's, to judge that sort of thing. You are only responsible for your own behavior, not theirs.
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If you are Christian then the Bible says "all have sinned." So a gay/lesbian person is definitely no worse than any of the rest of us. We don't have the right to judge anyone, only God does.
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If your her friend, be her friend. It will be God that will judge her life in the end.
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hate the sin not the person
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Ignore your mum, and your religion on this one. If you personally don't have any problems with it then there's no problem with it.
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You know, if this person is your FRIEND then its obviously not because she is a lesbian. i say follow your heart and even though your religion tells you one thing and dont get me wrong at all, it is very important to take into consideration your religion when this issue comes up but its not at all a bad thing to go outside what your religion says or what your mother says to make friends with a person. shes not a bad person just because of the fact that she like the same sex and if you honestly see a good person and a good friend in theis girl then everyone should respect your feelings and opinions also.
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If I were in a more happy go lucky mood I would normally say "still be friends with your friend because she is what she is and can't help that" but I have to take your religion into concideration because that seems to be the biggest issue that's bothering you at the moment.
I do not believe that it is a sin to not care whether or not your friends are homosexual, but as long as YOU are not a lesbian, I think that it would be just fine. It would be more of a sin if you abandoned a friend just because of what they were than to keep your friend who happened to be unsanctified.
~Joce
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whatever you do, do not throw your religion at her and say she's going to hell. That's a sure-fire way to lose a friend. I have gay friends, heck I'm bi, but I'm also a Congregationalist. Don't go with what your mom says if you don't agree with her. Be picky, don't be fundamental. Make sure you're following the god who you want to. And 14 is a confusing age, too.
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Does it matter? They are still a human being. There is nothing bad about it either, except that the human race would end if everyone loved their same sex.
But either who...some things are more important.
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You could always make up your own mind and not let religion dictate such things to you. There is a time and a place to separate the religion (the rules) from the spiritual aspect. Maybe you're reaching one of those times.
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