My name is Kayla Nicole and im a 19/f.
Ive been through some pretty rough stuff and if i havent been through something personally then most likely im around people (friends family...)who have.Even though it seems almost impossible to use your own advice most of the time, i still love to give and advice on anything i can so that maybe i can help someone out.
Gender: Female
Location: Rockmart/cedartown ga
Occupation: Jefferson Southern
Age: 19
Member Since: February 24, 2004
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Last Update: October 8, 2004
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Me and this guy..let's call him Kyle. Ok well me and Kyle knew eachother for a long time but we didn't talk to eachother a lot. Then we started talking and he asked me out and we went out but it didn't go that great so we tried again a little bit later and that didnt go very well either but it worked a little more, there was more communication. Well we have taken a break for a while and dated other people but we only like dated 1 other person but now, almost a year since we've went out we are back fooling around and stuff. We went on and off during that time like majorly flirting and stuff but now we like makeout and feel and stuff and he always talks about doing stuff with me lol We talk on the phone like every day now and he tells me that he loves me and stuff but it's flirty. Well i've heard stuff from his friends that he's going to ask me back out and stuff but then he starts acting weird, like he doesn't like me in school and that we are just friends and then like on the phone we plan all this stuff we are going to do with eachother and we chill and everything goes back to the making out and stuff like that. I really like him and i don't want to keep playing these games but I don't what i should do or like say to him because I don't wanna ask him out just in case, you know. I want him to do that stuff but I don't know what to do because I want a relationship with him and it seems like he does also i'm just not to sure!!
Sorry it's so long I just needed to get the whole story down lol thanx -ill rate high- (link)
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Well first of all... i think that you need t jus tell him whats on your mind and that your totally better than all this game playing. if you want a relationship with him and you also think he does then find out what his deal is and tell him its time he took things seriously.
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My boyfriend, we'll call him *Bob*, and i always fight...like seriously, we can't get through a day with out fighting about something. but i love him with all my heart...and couldn't break up with him even if i tried...but what should i do? i can't handle all the argueing? (link)
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Well seein as how most of us have been thru this at least once . . . i would just suggest that you and *bob* set aside time for the two of you to talk about this problem and actually listen toeach other. if you love each other so much then you will come to and agreement that is best suited for each of you.
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there are these two gurls that like me but i am going out with one of them but i like like them both and i don't now wat to do signed,confused guy (link)
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hello! okay well you know you cant have the both of them first of all. and no matter how either of you feel youve got to figure out whats in your heart and figure out which girl you truely want to be with . i mean its only fair to yourself and especially the girl your already dating. and besidesw, you obviously started dating this girl for a reason ...doesnt that tell you anything?
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Can some one give me an average age of getting a boy friend? (link)
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Well there really is no set age for a boyfriend but alot of people young people dont know any better just because of there age. by the way how old r u ? anyways, if you like someone then go for it i mean whats the worst that can happen? you win some you lose some trust me itll all come to you when time is right!
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I like this boy who we where boyfriends and then we broke up then we got back to gether then he ceated on me so we broke up but know I like him but I dont know what to do cuse I dont know if he likes me but the bad part is that my bbfs dont like him and they alwas tell me to brake up with him what should I do?someone help me!!! (link)
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okay,well, first of all, no matter how much you like or care for this guy, if hes doing things like cheating on you and your friends are telling you to break it off with him then obviously they have reason for it. they are your friends they are only looking out for you and maybe just maybe you should try listening to them because guys come and go and im sure youll find some other guy who you feel is way more worth your time then this so called boyfriend who cheats on you!
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how do i ask a girl out on line (link)
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How do you ask a girl out online? well if you insist then theres always email or im. you could mail her saying whats up ya know just start up a normal convo with her and then just be like you wanna hang out sometime. if she agrees then see how things go and if they go pretty well,i say ask her out again. the worst that can happen is her saying no but we all have to go through it some time or another but i still wish you great luck !!!
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A bunch of my friends keep complaining that they do not have dates for prom. They have even stated that they will not go if they do not get a date. Some of them have gone so far as to say that they will not go unless someone asks them.
I, for one, have a date, because I got off my sorry ass, swallowed my pride, and asked my best guy friend to go with me, because I'd rather have fun and have fond memories of prom than ruin it by going with anyone I'm remotely romantically attached to - I learned my lesson at my ninth grade social. Whenever my friends complain and I tell them that maybe they should do something about it, they pretty much tell me to shut up because I have a date and "I'm not one to talk." Which is fine, but why complain to me when I took care of the situation already?
I really want my friends to be there, and it's not like they don't like my date or anything. This is the only time of their life they'll get to do something like this, so why don't they want to go? I understand that money can be an issue for some people, but not going because you don't have a date is a stupid reason to give.
What should I tell them the next time the situation arises? (link)
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I should be an expert on this subject because i went to prom my freshman yr sophomore yr twice my junior yr and then i went to my senior prom. Ill tell you its something special you shouldnt miss i mean every yr i went, i went with a close friend of mine just like you. i never said though that i wouldnt if i didnt have a date. talk to your friends and tell them how much you want them to be there and that even if they dont have dates then they shouldconsider going with each other... i mean as a group of friends. because that way they wont miss out and will have such great fun because they are there partying with their frinds!!!! trust meits a great idea!!
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In our school, we have teams that everyone is seperated on each year. We dont usually associate with the other teams. This year my best friend and I were put together...but next year, we won't be. I know everyone says that I will make new friends, but it is the hardest thing in the world, because I will never see the person that means the most to me! What can I do? I feel really empty inside...I can't live without seeing her everyday! We won't be in the same hallway or anything, not even the same classes! Now what? (link)
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If theres no written rule anywhere that says the two of you cant be friends AT ALL then do not worry about it! I mean theres school time and then theres away from school time. Take an advantage of your time spent away from school so that the two of you will still be friends. it may seem sooo horrible to you because your best friend in the world isnt gonna be on your team again but you gotta thing about it like this....your not her friend only in school are you? so you two will be just fine!!! promise!
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i have a bf who is cheating on me and wat shold i do (link)
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It seems as if almost every b/f ive ever had has done this to me so i know what your going through. its a really tough and complicated situation. talk to him and tell him you know whats been going on. if he denys it (which most guys do) and you know absolutly for sure what hes been doing then throw him aside. you dont need that and it may seem really hard to do at the time but in time someone better will come along and that other guy will be the onew missing out!
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Me (Michael) and my girlfriend(Danielle) recently broke up. Before I get into it let me give you some history. I have been dating my girlfriend since she was 13 and I have been her only real love and her first everything since then. I am two years older then her and her father is very strict and didn't allow us to go out back then. When we broke up it was because of him and I sent him an email stating why I was good for her and it created more of a problem and the guy hates me so when we got back together a year later...he still didnt know about us. Now she is 16 and we been going out since December. Its been 2 weeks since we broke up. I broke up with her because of a little fight we were in but I had done that before and she always came back...this time she said I broke up with her one too many times and shes been trying to prove that point for the last two weeks. In December I left my girlfriend (Meghan) of one year for her and it was hard to do because Danielle has hurt me so many times before because of our situation with her dad. That really hasn't been too bad now that shes older because shes gonna do what she wants because shes gotta be her own person. She originally said she cant come back because she told me she wouldnt keep running back and then I went out and made things worse because I told her how i would tell her dad about us and I scared her. I really went nuts because I feel that i gave up so much for her ..its not fair that she wont forgive me over something I didnt really want to do. Then she asked for space and time to figure out her life and who she is...I gave her 3 days but it felt like 30 and I eventually called her to inform her one of our friends died and after hearing her voice I couldnt stay away anymore. I only broke up with her this last time over something stupid and I did it out of anger because I was afraid my mom had cancer which she didnt. I told Danielle that and she didn't understand...she said it was no excuse. I saw Danielle with her friends last night and I got mad and she happened to see me and accused me of spying on her but I was just driving by. Shes scared of me...she said shes afraid im going to get her in trouble. Although my actions are often inmature its only because I love her and I would never be able to hurt her like that. We are both very young and I wouldnt be wasting my time about this if it was another girl but its just that me and her have such a large and great history. We always made it back to eachother and even if we break up now...i still think we will get back together one day again. Our current status is..we are going to hang out the first chance we get which could be a while because we are both going to be busy. She said if she feels its right when we hang out and she feels safe and like she felt before we broke up she will go out with me again but if not I have to give her space. I don't know how I could make her feel that way. I already love her with all my heart and I changed for her. I want to do nice things for her when we hang out like buy her flowers but even so...I cant make her feel a certain way...only her heart can do so. I don't wanna lose her..the thought of her with another guy and the thought of her not giving me 1 more chance after I gave up so much for her makes me very angry and it really makes me wanna cause her pain like shes causing me. Since we broke up I have messed up in school and I havent wanted to do anything. Ive spent time with other girls just to get my mind off of her but I dont want them because I found everything I want in her. Sometimes when girls say they need space they come to find out what they are missing and they really dont need space at all..then they reach for the phone and come back..Danielle aint the type to call..she will feel stupid. Thats why I want everything to work out when we next hang out..i want her to come back and I realize only she has the power to do that..i cant make her feel like she did 2 weeks ago. Im in a really tough spot and I don't know what to do. I can't imagine my life without her again. It was so hard being apart from her for that one year. I know this is long and very complicated but your view on our relationship would be greatly appreciated as well as on any tips or advice you could give me on getting her back. Thank you. (link)
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okay, you have absolutly no idea how much i can relate to you on this subject. Im 19 yrs old now and ive been through what your going through right now. Its a really tough situation because if you share a great love with someone and theres something standing in your way such as (her dad) then you feel as if your world is falling apart. The thing is you should never change unless you want to in the first place. but since you did so much for her she should also take that into consideration but you have to understand her needing space as well. there could be a number of reasons but no matter how much it tares you up inside or even how angry it makes you, you gotta remember that you love this girl with your whole heart and only want to make her happy so causing her pain no matter why you may want to isnt what should be on your mind. you cant make things happen or make someone reopen their heart to you because if its meant to be ...in time it will and thats the only way to tell. but if shes agreed to hang out with you and see if her love for you is still there then make the best of it, talk to her tell her exactly how you feel but respect her decision in the end. of course it may seem unfair or your heart may feel as if its breaking into millions of tiny pieces and it hurts soooo soooo much believe me i KNOW!!!!!! but you gotta remeber what they say about everything happening for a reason.... you may not ever know the reason for any of this happening but she obviously kept coming back for a reason and she obviously agreed to spending time with you again for a reason. i wish you sooooo much luck.im always here if ya need to talk... my email is hypnotickutieknc@aol.com
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dear, any one
one of my friend is a gay/lisbaian
person i dont think its tht bad but it goes alout against my religion is it wrong of me not to care even tho my religon says that they will not go to heaven at least thts wat my mom says but im 16 and 16 a very confussing age
*The confussed 16 year old* (link)
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You know, if this person is your FRIEND then its obviously not because she is a lesbian. i say follow your heart and even though your religion tells you one thing and dont get me wrong at all, it is very important to take into consideration your religion when this issue comes up but its not at all a bad thing to go outside what your religion says or what your mother says to make friends with a person. shes not a bad person just because of the fact that she like the same sex and if you honestly see a good person and a good friend in theis girl then everyone should respect your feelings and opinions also.
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i hate my life its a whirling twirling sprial of doom i dont know wat to do my life is filled with gloom my friend likes vodo i hate it i hate me i dont no wat to do they say to slit your wrist i say i used to i wrote this before to day wat dose it mean besides the fact i wanna die but i also want to help people but i cant if im dead but i wanna die... (link)
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If you dont mind my asking, how old r u and what in your life can seem soooo terribly bad that you just wanna die? If your friend is into something that you obviously are not then talk to her about it, at least let her know what your feeling and why you feel that way. I mean just think about all the things you wanna do things youve dreamnt about doing....like you said you wanna be able to help people...you can do that if thats something that you feel is worth spending your time on then focus on ways to do that. no matter how bad things may seem.... you should always focus on the more positive things in life even though it seems really hard at times. im here so hit me bac if you wanna talk or something.
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i have this friend. shes a really good friend of mine. we got on really well. but about a year ago she started to show her true colours. everything i said i liked she said she hated, but then about 2 wks later she would say she liked it having forgotten she said she hated it. ive found she started to copy me aswell. she started to take my friends away. she can be really nice....but she has mood swings. she likes to critisise a lot. she can become very bitchy when she doesnt get her own way. she likes to take control and tells me she hates it when others take control. she seems to contradict everything.
i think that our friendship is deteriorating. i dont want it to. what do i do? i dont want to hurt her feelings? shall i say anything? i feel trapped. (link)
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i know what you are going through,belive me! if i were you, i would talk to her and bring all the things shes been doing to hr attention and let her know exactly how you feel. but also let her know you still want her friendship but things need to improve. if eventually you donot see a better friendship from this girl, maybe there wasnt a true friendship in the first place.
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why do guys tease girls alot even though there good mates and respects each other and why does he jokes alot and why does he always winks at you and says hello u ? in an akward way!and why does he say its like if i talk to u its like havin a cup of tea? i mean wat does this mean and if i say something he goes red and laughs really funny way but in a good way i think and he says tht i am soooo nice why or how comes?
please reply bck (link)
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Chances are this guy totaly digs you. As any female would say guys can be even as complicated as we are at times but this is also their way of saying whats up ?! i sy talk to him and find out exactly whats goin on in that head of his for yourself.
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all my pets have died and my mom says i cant get anymore because she thinks i am not responsible. what do i do? (link)
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If you really want a pet that badly, talk w/ your mom and come up with something that you could do i order to show her how you can be respnsible. if u show her you can be more responsible, she may reconsider letting you have a pet.
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