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Prom dates
A bunch of my friends keep complaining that they do not have dates for prom. They have even stated that they will not go if they do not get a date. Some of them have gone so far as to say that they will not go unless someone asks them.
I, for one, have a date, because I got off my sorry ass, swallowed my pride, and asked my best guy friend to go with me, because I'd rather have fun and have fond memories of prom than ruin it by going with anyone I'm remotely romantically attached to - I learned my lesson at my ninth grade social. Whenever my friends complain and I tell them that maybe they should do something about it, they pretty much tell me to shut up because I have a date and "I'm not one to talk." Which is fine, but why complain to me when I took care of the situation already?
I really want my friends to be there, and it's not like they don't like my date or anything. This is the only time of their life they'll get to do something like this, so why don't they want to go? I understand that money can be an issue for some people, but not going because you don't have a date is a stupid reason to give.
What should I tell them the next time the situation arises?
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I understand why this behavior is annoying the hell out of you. But rather than just tell them to do something about it, why not *help* them do something about it? Offer to play matchmaker. With their permission, talk to your own date and see if any of his friends would be willing to step in. Got any guy friends who had planned to spend prom night doing something lame? Tell them to get off their asses and ask your awesome friends to the prom! Or maybe you know someone who goes to a different school and has prom on a different night.
If none of these solutions are going to work, or if your friends don't seem willing to take you up on your ideas, offer one final suggestion: that they go to the prom in a group, and have a fun ladies' night instead! Tell them this way they can leave the prom whenever they want, eat a delicious dinner together, attend the after-prom party and have a girly all-nighter sleepover. While you're talking about this, build it up to make it sound really cool, then say, "Damn, that sounds fun. Now I'm kind of wishing *I* didn't have a date!"
If they don't even respond to that idea, then sad to say, they are hopeless. In that case, treat them like a boring lecture and tune them out. Think about how much fun YOU'RE going to have at prom instead, and be thankful that it isn't too far away, meaning that they don't have much time left to bitch.
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I should be an expert on this subject because i went to prom my freshman yr sophomore yr twice my junior yr and then i went to my senior prom. Ill tell you its something special you shouldnt miss i mean every yr i went, i went with a close friend of mine just like you. i never said though that i wouldnt if i didnt have a date. talk to your friends and tell them how much you want them to be there and that even if they dont have dates then they shouldconsider going with each other... i mean as a group of friends. because that way they wont miss out and will have such great fun because they are there partying with their frinds!!!! trust meits a great idea!!
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well tell them to get of thei butts and find a prom date and trust me proms are special you only get to experance them once and a while so dont waste the chance
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I think you have done the right thing by actually finding a solution to the problem instead of just complaining about it, like your friends are. You are right, they should just swallow their pride and ask someone who is likely to accept or at least likely to be tactful if they decline (that might be hard to find in high school.)
Can't you go alone to a prom now if you want to? When I went you were definitely required to have a date, but I heard that is not longer a requirement. That would be swallowing their pride too, but might be easier than asking someone.
Or they can wait till the last minute hoping they will be asked, or put out some strong hints. Sometimes guys are shy about asking even though they want to.
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You don't need a date to go to prom. Tell them they should just all go in a group together. Most people hardley dance with their date, you dance together with all your friends. The prom is a big party, you don't need a guy to have fun at it! Tell them to get over themselves and have some fun.
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I think there are a couple of things you can do. One, you can keep quiet and let them vent, since that's what they seem to want. I can imagine it would be sort of tiresome for you to have to listen to it, though.
The other possibility is, instead of telling them to do something about it and repeating yourself, you could come up with some concrete suggestions for them. Like "how about going with Mike [or whoever]? He doesn't have a date and he's a nice enough guy to spend an evening with." Or "you know, a bunch of you could go as a group, and then you'd have people to hang out with plus be able to dance with whomever you want." They may reject all your suggestions, but at least it'll get them thinking constructively about possibilities.
If they keep being this boring and whiney about it, though, I wouldn't even bother with any of it. Just say "well, I really hope you can be there," and change the subject.
Oh, one other thing? It's definitely not the only chance they'll have to do something like this. You'll all have plenty of opportunities later for formal dances, most of which will be a whole lot more fun than prom. So if you get the sense that somebody really just isn't that into it and is using the date thing as an excuse, let it go.
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Dear Prom dates,
I think that you should not tell them anything.I mean if no one as asked them yet and they are not going because of that then its is their proplem not yours.You made a great choice asking your guy best friend out.So you should noy worry about them and have a good time with your guy best friend at the prom!
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