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Moving Away or Getting Back Love ??
Me (Michael) and my girlfriend(Danielle) recently broke up. Before I get into it let me give you some history. I have been dating my girlfriend since she was 13 and I have been her only real love and her first everything since then. I am two years older then her and her father is very strict and didn't allow us to go out back then. When we broke up it was because of him and I sent him an email stating why I was good for her and it created more of a problem and the guy hates me so when we got back together a year later...he still didnt know about us. Now she is 16 and we been going out since December. Its been 2 weeks since we broke up. I broke up with her because of a little fight we were in but I had done that before and she always came back...this time she said I broke up with her one too many times and shes been trying to prove that point for the last two weeks. In December I left my girlfriend (Meghan) of one year for her and it was hard to do because Danielle has hurt me so many times before because of our situation with her dad. That really hasn't been too bad now that shes older because shes gonna do what she wants because shes gotta be her own person. She originally said she cant come back because she told me she wouldnt keep running back and then I went out and made things worse because I told her how i would tell her dad about us and I scared her. I really went nuts because I feel that i gave up so much for her ..its not fair that she wont forgive me over something I didnt really want to do. Then she asked for space and time to figure out her life and who she is...I gave her 3 days but it felt like 30 and I eventually called her to inform her one of our friends died and after hearing her voice I couldnt stay away anymore. I only broke up with her this last time over something stupid and I did it out of anger because I was afraid my mom had cancer which she didnt. I told Danielle that and she didn't understand...she said it was no excuse. I saw Danielle with her friends last night and I got mad and she happened to see me and accused me of spying on her but I was just driving by. Shes scared of me...she said shes afraid im going to get her in trouble. Although my actions are often inmature its only because I love her and I would never be able to hurt her like that. We are both very young and I wouldnt be wasting my time about this if it was another girl but its just that me and her have such a large and great history. We always made it back to eachother and even if we break up now...i still think we will get back together one day again. Our current status is..we are going to hang out the first chance we get which could be a while because we are both going to be busy. She said if she feels its right when we hang out and she feels safe and like she felt before we broke up she will go out with me again but if not I have to give her space. I don't know how I could make her feel that way. I already love her with all my heart and I changed for her. I want to do nice things for her when we hang out like buy her flowers but even so...I cant make her feel a certain way...only her heart can do so. I don't wanna lose her..the thought of her with another guy and the thought of her not giving me 1 more chance after I gave up so much for her makes me very angry and it really makes me wanna cause her pain like shes causing me. Since we broke up I have messed up in school and I havent wanted to do anything. Ive spent time with other girls just to get my mind off of her but I dont want them because I found everything I want in her. Sometimes when girls say they need space they come to find out what they are missing and they really dont need space at all..then they reach for the phone and come back..Danielle aint the type to call..she will feel stupid. Thats why I want everything to work out when we next hang out..i want her to come back and I realize only she has the power to do that..i cant make her feel like she did 2 weeks ago. Im in a really tough spot and I don't know what to do. I can't imagine my life without her again. It was so hard being apart from her for that one year. I know this is long and very complicated but your view on our relationship would be greatly appreciated as well as on any tips or advice you could give me on getting her back. Thank you.
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well im sry bout that, and i had that sme problem 2, i loved this guy named ben page, but he was older, and my mom didnt like it so we had to break up, but there is more then one fish in the sea, so just keep lookin i promise it will work
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Really, I think you should just let her go, even if you 'love' her the way you said you did. I don't think she wants to go back unless she wants to continue the craziness...and I think she doesn't. She has been hurt enough, and it would be stupid to go back with you and get hurt even more.
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I think you are both too immature for this relationship. For one her father is disaproving of her dating, she should respect that and so should you, if she continues to lie to her father, she will never be trusted and you will never be like. A relationship won't work if has to be a secret. And the fact that you break up with her every time you have a fight seems like a temper tantrum. You need to be able to talk and work out your dissagrements not shut her out just because your mad.
This relationship has been on and off for 3 years, and is still not working out. I don't blame her for not wanting to get back together, she knows you will just break up again, whats the point. After this much time, I think is time to realize that this relationship is never going to go anywhere. Maybe you should finally give up on her, there are a million other fish in the sea.
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okay, you have absolutly no idea how much i can relate to you on this subject. Im 19 yrs old now and ive been through what your going through right now. Its a really tough situation because if you share a great love with someone and theres something standing in your way such as (her dad) then you feel as if your world is falling apart. The thing is you should never change unless you want to in the first place. but since you did so much for her she should also take that into consideration but you have to understand her needing space as well. there could be a number of reasons but no matter how much it tares you up inside or even how angry it makes you, you gotta remember that you love this girl with your whole heart and only want to make her happy so causing her pain no matter why you may want to isnt what should be on your mind. you cant make things happen or make someone reopen their heart to you because if its meant to be ...in time it will and thats the only way to tell. but if shes agreed to hang out with you and see if her love for you is still there then make the best of it, talk to her tell her exactly how you feel but respect her decision in the end. of course it may seem unfair or your heart may feel as if its breaking into millions of tiny pieces and it hurts soooo soooo much believe me i KNOW!!!!!! but you gotta remeber what they say about everything happening for a reason.... you may not ever know the reason for any of this happening but she obviously kept coming back for a reason and she obviously agreed to spending time with you again for a reason. i wish you sooooo much luck.im always here if ya need to talk... my email is hypnotickutieknc@aol.com
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