When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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Are we best friends or not? We have known each other since I was 2 and she was 3. We see each other almost every week, and have play dates and go on trips together. We get along very well but we randomly fight. Now she is in a higher grade and in a different school. That means we don't get to see eachother very much any more. And that stinks! Her b-day is next week and we are going ice-skating. So are we still bff (Best Friends Forever)?????????????? (link)
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Hey, I read your problem and i think that your wrong to even wonder about such a thing. I mean, for crying out loud, ofcourse your still best freinds.
I have been put in such a situation before when i had this gorgeous best freind and we used to fool around and do everything together until one day life seperated between us cause he went to a different school. But we still talk on the phone, chat, send our pictures to each other, go out and hang around. You could do that too every now and then. And the best thing is that at the end of the day ,when she gets sick of her new school and new freinds and new life, then you'll find her going back to YOU cause your someone who she knew for so long ,loved ,and cared about. Don't let the fact that your in different schools put you down, because that has nothing to do with seperating you from one another. Because if a true freindship exists, then it would last forever. And i am sure, that she thinks about you most of the time and wonders if she's still YOUR best freind just like your wondering. So tell you what, put the whole idea of best freinds aside now, and just think of how to make her birthday special, and what you could do to make her happy ,and what gift would you get her. And you know something, that even though she's in a new school with new people and stuff ,but i am sure that she would never be able to find a truly amazing best freind who cares for her and loves her as much as you do. So stop worrying and thinking about this, and just have fun while you can.
If there is any other advice, troubles, worries or concerns, then please be free to contact me with a private message or email me, and i would be glad to give you my prompt reply.Take care.
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I need this math software called "Maple 10". Not the maple story. I need it for school but I can't get it unless I purchase it. Does anyone know of anywhere where I can download it for free?
Thanks in advance (link)
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Hey, whats up? Listen , i am not really good in answering these questions. lol. But i did make a small search to try and help, and i will give you a link which holds different websites for downloading Maple 10 for free, so check it out.
http://search.arabia.msn.com/results.aspx?q=download+Maple+10%28Math+software%29+for+free&geovar=1194&FORM=REDIR
Goodluck. Lol.
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20/m
I have known this girl for quite sometime now and we are best friends and we've been best friends for a while now. I really feel like I am truly in love with her. I would do any thing for her and any thing to be with her. She means more to me than anything in the world. I would die for her. I feel like shes the only one in the world who understands me and the only one who I am ment for. But the thing is that we are just friends. I've never done the slightest thing with her. I've liked her since I became friends with her. I don't know what to do. She's all I ever think about. And the worst part is I know for a fact that she doesn't want to be with me because she doesn't want to lose such a good friendship. Shes the only person on the planet that I've never gotten into a fight with. I want to be with her so bad what do I do?
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Hey, i read your problem and i completely understand what your throwing at,because i have been put in the same situation where my best freind(boy) came out of the blue one day and told me that he is in love with me and wants me so bad. And i think that you would be just like him if you did that. You wanna know what i did? I was shocked, yes i was, and i bet she would be too. I mean.. its something great and amazing for a girl to know that there is someone who loves her and cares about her and would go as far as to die for her. But i want you to put yourself in her shoes for a moment and experience the situation, when someone that you believed that he shared the same feelings as you did and liked you only as a freind,infact, as a brother , and then suddenly he loves you and wants to be with you and date you . I can't really get the point across to you, but i know how it feels, and she would know how it feels, and she wouldn't like it. I am sorry, but thats the truth, i know the feeling and the reaction, so i am helping you with my experience. And right now, i had lost that amazing friendship that i shared with him, because after he told me that he likes me , i didn't know what to say or what to do, so i just bluntly told him that i don't feel the same way about him and that therefore i will just pretend that he didn't open that topic from start. And then a day after the other, i started to back out and slip away because things didn't feel the same, when i only cared for him as a freind, as a brother more like it, while he LOVED ME, so it just felt weird.Until, we just stopped talking and we never opened the subject again.
I am sure i probably depressed you so much now, lol. But i am just trying to show you what a huge mistake you would be making if you tell her, and what an amazing freindship you would be losing if you tell her. And for what at the end, for dating her for a month or two maximum and then breaking up for whatever silly reason and hating one another forever. Thats just so unfair, but not only to you and not only to her, but to the freindship that has been standing between you and her for so long. So i will tell you something, after you heard my little sweet sad story, lol, i want you to think over again about your feelings and what you really want. And please, you can trust me and tell me about anything you want. You can either send me a private message or email me on l.ollit.a@hotmail.com , and i would give you my prompt reply. And believe it or not, if you don't want to ruin the freinship between you and her and you wanna stay as freinds but you just can't , because your feelings are too strong, i can change those feelings. Afterall, i am a girl whose known to get whatever she wants.lol. Honestly, trust me and i'll help you reach whatever choice you make. Take care.
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I was feeling really horny and so i called up my boyfriend to come over.(my parents were out for the night and im an only child) he came over and we talked and watched a movie but i could barely control myself. we made out on the couch and then he felt me up. He asked if we wanted to have sex and i couldnt resist. we went into my bedroom and he put his thing in and it hurt really bad, but when he cummed it felt soo good. we had sex for about an hour. after we were done i gave him a blow job because he asked for one. i had sex the day after my period and five days ago i was supposed to have it but i didnt. im SO scared because im only 13. i threw up all day today and i never want to eat. im SOO scared. please please please help me. i need it badly.
oh and we also did it up the butt. could i still get pregnant from that? we did it both way. (link)
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Hey, i read your problem and it looks to me, like there is a 50% of you getting pregnant, i mean.. you really have to wait for sometime to learn if you are or not. But right now, i can't help you or advice you with anything, because you've already done the action, so i am sorry to say it,but its too late. And actually, not getting your period and throwing up and stuff are symptoms of starting a pregnancy period. Look, i know that your probably freaking out and you don't know what to do. But i am telling you, that starting from right now , whether your pregnant or not, i am giving you a promise that i will stand by your side and support you through all the way.
And so now, you should try to calm down first , so you would be able to think straight, i am not gonna ask you why you even did it, because thats just too lame and useless, but you have to promise that you wouldn't do it again, thats for starters. And you have to admit that what you did was wrong and that you were not thinking straight. Listen to me, apart from all this shit and boyfreind stuff and sex and pregnancy, you have a religion that you should respect and a god that you should obey. What you did was wrong, so what you should be doing now, is to pray and ask for god's forgiveness, because if you don't , then your practically just working your way to hell right now. And i don't think you want that, and i don't think i want that for you. Listen, i will give you my email address which is l.ollit.a@hotmail.com , and please if you really want help , email me and tell me everything and tell me about his reaction after you did it, i mean.. didn't he think of the possibility that you would get pregnant? Tell me everything, speak up and say everything you want to say, because talking to someone is the first step to feeling better. And i am still keeping my promise, and i will help you and support you , and if there is anything at all or any problem that you face, send me an email immediately and i will give you my prompt reply. Take care , and don't worry, i am just about the same age as you are, and i have did the same to many others like you, so you can trust me and consider me as a freind or a hand that wants to help.
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My friend was staying with me for the weekend and we were talking about how much it hurt to have sex with a guy, then we were looking at all of the other possibilities. just talking about it made me horny. Then she announced the option of being a lesbian. We looked at eachother in the eyes and she grabbed me and started shoving her toungue in my mouth. i went along with it knowing it would be wierd if i didnt. She ripped off my shirt and pulled off my pants. i liked it. then i did the same with her and pulled off her bra and underwear with my teeth. she was on top of me and we were humping. It felt sooo good. I am very much of a christian and i know gayness is bad. I could never be a lesbian. How can i stop? I'm addicted to my feiend now, she comes over every night!!!
HELP ME BEOCME STRAIGHT AGAIN! (link)
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Hey, that sounds like a really tough situation there. Okay, first of all, i need you to listen very well to me and trust me.
Your not a lesbian, not just because you did something once. Try to consider it as just an experience or something you were trying out to see how it feels, but don't plant the impression inside yourself that you are a lesbian and that you will never change again. I mean... maybe your friend (no offense meant) is the one whose a lesbian, and who knows, maybe she did that before, so she's like used to it and has no problem with it, so she's doing it again with you.
Either ways, i need you to forget everything now, and think of one thing, your religion and your faith in god, and you know that what you did was wrong. No one would know about it,so take advantage of that and just stop doing it before its too late, and pray to god for his forgiveness.
Then, about your freind that comes over every night, i'll give you some choices, and i will grant you the freedom to choose one. first , you could simply just avoid talking about sex and being a lesbian and these weird sexual topics to prevent any horny feelings. Second thing, is that you could just come up to her and tell her that what you did yesterday together was not right and that you didn't enjoy it and you don't want to be a lesbian. I mean .. jesus christ, if a person wants something he will get it though whatever stands in his way. So come on, stand up to her and tell her that you don't want to be a lesbian and that you'd rather hook up with guys and have sex with them, because at least then, god would never get mad at you , and at least then, you wouldn't be working your way to hell. I know i am sounding harsh ,but its the truth, and just as i am telling it to you now, tell it to her when she comes. The last choice, and the one i don't really think you'd really choose, is that if you can't control her or change her mind or if she does something weird against your will (god hope not) ,then you should just ask her to back out and break the freindship between you and her, because come on, look at the bright side, why would you want a GIRL friend jumping around you all day and asking you to fuck her and hump on her.
I hope you see my point and what i am trying to say, i will leave you there, to just think things over. And i just want you to know, that you are not a lesbian and not a bad person , although what you did was wrong, but then again, people were born to commit mistakes and learn from them. So learn from your mistake, and make it right by praying to god and asking for his forgiveness and believing in yourself that your a straight person , because if you did believe that from start, you wouldn't have done anything. But you just don't have any self confidence in your self.I mean.. we all know how much it hurts while having sex with a guy, but after all, its the right thing to be done and god approves. So please think again, and if there is anything else you want to ask about or you want advice in, you are free to send me a private message on the website or email me on l.ollit.a@hotmail.com, and i would give you my prompt reply. Take care have a nice day.
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ok soo i need to lose weight can anyone help me?? (link)
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Hey,
I have several suggestions that could help you.
First of all, you have to totally cut on junk food an any food that contains carbohydrates. You should eat only healthy food, and i suggest you consult a doctor to make you a healthy diet.
Second of all, you should make lots of exercises, you could go to the club early in the morning and run the track or go to the gym and consult a trainer to help you carry out exercises which would make you lose weight and keep you fit.
Third of all, you could spend the evenings by going for long walks.
Fourth of all,if you get really hungry and you become desperate for chocolates or something ,you should drink lots and lots of water . It helps to make you feel not hungry.
Fifth of all, and this is a suggestion that you can follow if you desperately want to lose weight and everything else failed, you can consult a doctor and take pilates,but they are mostly for people obese who can't lose weight at all.
Consider what i said, and if there is any other help that i can offer, please be free to contact me or simply leave your email in the feedback for further advice.Goodluck:)
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actually.. remove the might.. i definitely just hacked my crushs email. for the second time.
can someone please help me understand WHY im doing this? cause i really dont understand.. i know for a fact he doesnt get emails, i already know all his contacts,, so i dont understand why i keep hacking him? like im an idiot!
last time i spent 2 weeks crying because of it.
and now i did it again!
wtf is wrong with me??
i think i get a rush from doing bad things.. why is that? and how do i get rid of it? i really dont want to anymore..
please help, thx. (link)
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Hey whats up,
I've read your problem and i understand exactly what your going through, but its all not worth crying all that long and feeling so depressed and getting worried and stuff. So i want you to relax first, and stop crying about it, because its not that big a deal.
I think you probably just hack your crush's email cause you probably wanna make sure that there are no girls sending him emails and that he's not involved in any relationship with anyone. But its cool, we all do that when we are totally obsessed with someone and we want to find anyway where we can get involved in their lives, so we hack their emails or do any strange action of the sort. But its normal, its okay, there is no need to worry and cry and make yourself feel so depressed to that extent.
And about that rush you get from doing bad things, its completely normal too, we all get that, and we feel so guilty and we keep crying about it and thinking that we are really really bad and many more weird thoughts, but then at the end, we all do mistakes, but we learn from them. And you should learn from your mistakes. And if you can't, since you keep on hacking his email, then try to find a solution for it, its obvious that you want to talk to him and get involved in his life and know whats going on with him. Then why don't you try to send him an email instead of hacking his mail, or go up to him and start a normal conversation and get close to him and be freinds with him, and how do you know, maybe he would ask you out or something. See, there are much more sensible and wiser ways that you can use to get what you want. yOu don't have to go through the hardest wrongest ways which don't even lead you to anything at the end.
So listen, think of what i said and consider it, and if there is any other help you want, then please be free to contact me, or simply leave your email in the feedback for further advice personally.Goodluck:)
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13/f -okay, heres the problem! I love my mom (of course) but me and her get into SOOO many fights, and I know its common for teens to get into fights with their moms, but she always starts it!! I will just say something, and she will think that i'm yelling at her and be like "rar!" and then i'll be like UGH and then we will just ignore each other for the rest of the day (sounds childish right? EXACTLY!!) Also, my mom is such a hipocryte (dunno how to spell that)!!! She will do the same things I do, and then i get mad at her!! CAN YOU PLEEEEASE TRY TO HELP ME BECAUSE I DONT WANNA FIGHT AS OFTEN WITH HER BECAUSE THIS GOES ON LIKE EVERYDAY!!! (link)
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Hey,
I have read your problem and i understand what your going through, and as you said, its just the typical mother/daughter fights that go on everyday in every house all around the world.
I have answered a couple of questions similar to yours before. So umm.. listen, first of all, i have to make sure that you know that your mom really loves you and cares about you and doesn't hate you when she fights with you, its just that you probably do some actions that get on her nerves and she probably does the same thing which annoys you. So all you have to do, is that when you come to talk to her,and you think that you are gonna start a fight, just shut up and don't say anything, just say okay and agree with whatever she's saying and just walk off and leave her. But do that in a respectable way and don't be rude about it. I am telling you to do this, so that she wouldn't get pissed off and would keep shouting at you and stuff. So just quite things down before a fight breaks out. Try to follow what i said for a couple of days, and you will notice that things would quite down between you and your mom, and try to maybe not do what you see that annoys her, and try to be much nicer and try to get closer to her and be put on her good side.
Just think of what i said and consider it, and if there is any other help or advice you need, please be free to contact me or leave your email in the feedback for further advice personally.Goodluck:)
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13/f
When a guy asks me out, how can I say 'No'?
Can I have an example of what to say? (link)
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Hey,
You should simply say what i always say, and it always works out. Say ' I am not ready to get involved in a serious relationship,I simply can't handle commitment '.
If you need any other help please be free to contact me or leave your email in the feedback for further advice personally.Goodluck:)
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My mom has been working 24/7 and she missed out on my birthday and almost every holiday. Now I have these "emotinal times." The "emotinal times" are when I cry in random places. I thought it was because of my dad too. See, my dad left me and my mom when I was only 2...I DONT KNOW WHATS GOING ON! PLEASE HELP
Thanks in advance :D (link)
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Hey whats up,
I have read your problem and things do seem pretty messed up, but i understand what your going through and i want you to relax first and not to worry about anything.
There comes a time in every person's life when we fall down on our knees and we become really depressed and melancholic and we can't seem to get up,but then its only a temporary situation, and after a while you recover and you simply move on with your life like nothing had happened.
Listen, i know its really hard for you that your father left you when you were so young, but always try to look at the bright side, that you were only 2 years old , really young, so you didn't get a chance to know him well and cling on to him. Thats better than if you were older and had common sense, it would have hurt more. But its more hard on your mom,thats why she probably spends all this time working to try and forget your father, she probably loved him so much and is hard for her to overcome this situation. It was still wrong for her to forget your birthday and stuff, but maybe she's just not feeling well.
So i will tell you what, you probably see your mom every once in a while, so why don't you take advantage of one of those times, and speak to her from your heart, tell her how your feeling and how you need her more around the house and you want her to get more involved in your life and to be with you more. You wouldn't be fighting or acting rude if you do so, this is your right, and after all, its just your mother that your talking to. So tell her how you feel, give it a shot, you have nothing to lose, and i am sure she'll listen and understand and maybe even start making an effort to spend more time with you and remember your birthday and a few holidays next time.
So consider what i said, and if there is any more advice you need, please feel free to contact me or simply leave your email in the feedback for further advice. Goodluck:)
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Hi, you gave me some advice about having a frind talk to the guy I like for me...
OK so, what if I'm already really good friends with him (I've known him for a year) and I talk to him all the time, and I'm already pretty sure that he like me too? I don't think it's weird for a girl to ask a guy out. But every time I see him, and I even think about asking him, my mouth dries up and my jaw shakes. It doesn't happen when we talk about normak stuff, but then I get the perfect opportunity to ask, and I just come to a complete loss for words. I flirt with him a lot and I think he's flirting with me too, so either he just really, really, can't take a hint, or he's just as scared/nervous as I am.
My friend keeps threatening that if I don't ask him out soon, she'll so it for me. So should I let her? (link)
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Hey,
OKay i understand whats going on here and i know what you mean, but umm.. why don't you make the 'asking out' part come from him. I mean, you say that you both are good freinds and you talk alot and you flirt alot and you like him and you think he does too and he's responding in every way you want him too, so what if he really does like you, then why isn't he asking you out? Maybe your right, he's scared about the situation just as you are. So i will tell you about something, you have one of two choices, you can either wait for him to take a step forward and ask you out himself, and god knows when he would get the courage to do so. Or if your 100% sure that he likes you and wouldn't let you down, then ask him out or just let your freind do it for you. I just want to make sure that he wouldn't hurt your feelings or refuse when you ask him out.
So make a choice and think before you act, and if there is anything else you need advice in , please let me know or leave your email in the feedback for further advice personally. Goodluck:)
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I got my period for the first time in May. Since then I've only gotten it 3 times, and I'm still irregular. But whenever I get my period, I become sort of...disgusted with myself. The thought of blood coming out of my body disgusts me, and sometimes I see the little things of blood and I actually throw up. What should I do to become more comfortable with my body during this time? (link)
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Hey whats up,
I have read your problem and i completely understand what your going through,cause when i got my period, i went through all this for the first whole year. So you see, its just normal, nothings wrong about it, i don't want you to worry. Its just because this whole situation is new to you and the feeling is really strange and all, but believe me later on you will get used to it and you will learn how to cope with it.
so cheer up and try to think of what i said.
If you need any other help or advice ,please be free to contact me or simply leave your email in the feedback if you need further advice personally.Goodluck.
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16/f
Ok, a while back I asked for advice about this guy I love and if I should tell him. I follwed the wonderful advice I was given and told him. When I told him (on msn)he told me, and I quote, "i believe that i may like just to be friends...im not ready to like you…not like im not old enough but…its just……like no one is ready for a relationship…but im just very cautious…like i like to see and outcome in the end and if it is and if it is an outcome that is cloudy to me i dont think im ready unless u show me…" ...
After all this of saying he's not ready, he's still constantly flirting and being all touchy-feely and it confuses me...like with all the hugs and holding...:[ ...and then one time we were talking about my best friend and then he asks "have you told her about 'us' yet?"...like huh?...where does that come from...why the word 'us'...anyways...what does this all mean, im so confused?
thanks in advance ♥ (link)
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hey,
Umm.. that all does sound really confusing and messy. But i just have one suggestion, and nothing else would work.Just question him about all this confusing situation, ask him what he considers you as. Ask him about the 'us' he mentioned. Be frank and honest, its your right to know what kind of relationship your leading. Theres nothing wrong if you ask about that. And then if you do, then things will be set straight and you'll know exactly whats going on between you and him. But at the same time, don't make it sound like you want to get into a fight, just be smart and really cool about it, and slip the words in the middle of the conversation, like you are just wondering about it. I hope you get what i mean, just think about it and decide what would work best for you.
If you need any other advice, please be free to contact me or leave your email in the feedback if you wish for further advice peronally. Goodluck:)
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If I really like a guy, who I'm friends with and I talk to a lot, but I'm afraid to ask him out, would I look really stupid if I had my best friend talk to him for me? (link)
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hey whats up,
Ummm.. It will actually look kind of weird to do that, because usually its the guy who should come ask you out,or bring HIS best freind to ask you out. But listen i have a really good suggestion, why don't you just go up to that guy and act really freindly and cool, and just lead a normal conversation about anything that comes to your mind, and keep on doing that for a while, meaning.. that you should like be freinds, until you know him better and he knows you better and then you know where your leading on with this relationship, cause believe me if he likes you then, he's gonna come and ask you out himself. So just dont rush things and give yourself a chance to know him better for your own good.
Think of what i said and if there is anymore advice you need, then please be free to contact me or leave your email in the feedback.Goodluck:)
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okay so im 15/f. and i have a b/f of 10 months ..he has this ex who like he used to talk to and she used to try to get him back for like 6 months of our relationship blah blah ..well i confronted her and tolod her to stop tryin to break me nad my b/f up and she started iming me online ..now all she does is talk to me ..she tells me all about her new relationship in skool and ims me all the time ..i dnt wanna be mean and say listen i really dnt like you st all and can't stand u but she is also driving me nuts ..whats do i do?? (link)
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hey,
I read your problem and i understand how totally nuts that could be, but a thought actually crossed my mind while reading your problem. Now you say that she talks about her new relationship and stuff, then that means that she finally met someone who she's happy with and who helped her overcome her love to her ex. And she may have bugged you alot and had been really mean and annoying ,jumping all over your boyfreind for 6 whole months, but you have to admit that this happens to everyone who breaks up with someone who he really loves. She was probably all heart broken and upset about it, thats why she kept bugging you and your boyfreind. But you see, now she found love and she's happy, so now she's trying to make freinds with you and get on your good side, so why not respond. I am not telling you to be her best freind, not even a regular one. I am simply telling you to answer her messages, with a simple word or two. But just answre her and tell her that its good for her that new relationship and that you really hope she's happy.Thats it. Just answer with a couple of words everytime, its completely not a big deal. Ignore her, don't make her something that would drive you that nuts. Its fine really relax.
Now think of what i said ,and if there is any other advice you need, please be free to contact me or email me. Goodluck:)
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Alright so, I really like this guy who is in two of my classes, and in some of my lunch periods. I always try to talk and flirt with him, or walk with him after class. Most of the time he flirts with me too (I guess i can kind of tell), but the problem is that he flirts with ALOT of other girls, and its really obvious. Its really annoying because its about every day that I see this happen, and i can tell that the girls are totally falling for it. Well, the quesiton is how can i figure out if i am accually just one of those girls that are falling for it, or if he accually likes me. I have to admit i'm not really outgoing so its not like i'll be able to say 'oh you wan't to hang out this weekend' or 'hey i like you' or anything around that area. Honestly, at this point i'm just really confused. Thanks :] (link)
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Hey,
I've read your problem just as well as i read so many similar ones before. Its totally cool and simple. Listen ,these type of guys you see them everyday and everywhere in school, the club, the mall or wherever it would be. They just go fooling around, wasting type cause they are too bored with their lives, and when they find a girl who would respond to them, then they play with her feelings. Thats exactly what he's doing with you. I don't mean anything by what i am saying , but he doesn't really love you, with the true meaning of love, he's just wasting his time fooling around with you like how he does with every other girl, and you know that better than i do, cause you see it everyday. So let me give you a good piece of advice, he doesn't love you and he's gonna get serious in what you are trying to lead, cause he's just wasting time. So don't get yourself involved in something that your gonna regret at the end, so just stay away,or act as regular freinds, but honestly, dont try to work your way in a relationship, because there isn't even one. I understand that your confused and you don't know what your doing, but take my advice, and try to work on what i said.
If there is any more advice you need, please be free to contact me or email me. Goodluck:)
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ok, so i'm 15/f freshman, i have a huge crush on a girl who's a junior. it's not just a crush, she's seriously ALL i think about, i'm in love with her. She's been going out with a senior for a few weeks, and honestly, the girl she's going out with (we're all gay if you haven't figured that out ;) , is not very pretty and honestly kind of dull. I have a few questions
1. do you think i have a chance with this girl? we're not really friends but i've known her for a while and we talk and joke around once in a while, but never actually hang out. sometimes i really get the feeling she likes me, do u think i'm just being dillusional?
2. what should I do? should I try to ignore it? should I just flirt a little? and if so, how? i need tips! or should I just tell her? and if so, HOW?! I don't want to come across as imature and naive, cuz i'm a year and a half younger than her
thank you sooo much i raelly need all the help I can get! (link)
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Hey whats up,
Listen, i have read your problem and i have a suggestion. Since she's already going out with some other girl, it doesn't really matter if this girl is nice or not. This is not the point, the important thing is that she's going out with someone else.And since your not really sure of her feelings towards you. Then what i think you should do is to try and get close to her as freinds. Hang out with her ,call her, see what she likes and do it for her, be really nice and freindly. And then after you do that for a while, you will have known her much better, and she will also get to know you better and then she can judge whether she has feelings for you or not, and you will see if she does, cause she's gonna start getting closer to you and making her feelings obvious.
I am suggesting this cause there is noway that i can tell right now whether she's in to you or not, cause i don't think she even knows you really well. Just act as freinds first, and then if you see that she's responding to you and showing interaction and stuff, then start flirting and twisting things around, and again if she is in to you, then she'll come around herself.
Think of what i suggested and if you agree, then work on it, and if there is any other advice or help you would need, just feel free to contact me or email me. Goodluck
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ok i'll be straight to the point, i want a boyfriend. i don't care if its just a lust boyfriend who i date for a month..i just want a guy to like call at night and to kiss,etc... =/ i hope that doesn't sound too weird. yeah except i go to a small private school where all the guys are just friend with the girls and never really ask them out unless the girls are reallyyy popular,which i'm not really.and this might sound really snobby but my friends say i'm really pretty and i guess i'm alright but guys don't seem to like me at all. i don't know..guys at the movies and stuff hit on me but guys at school are like blahhh. ugh,i dont know what to do. where's a good place to meet guys outside of school? and no,movies and malls don't work. and what is up with the guys at my school anyway!? (link)
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Hey,
I've read your problem, and i understand what you are trying to say, and no you are not weird when you say that cause its normal that any girl would want to have a boyfreind to be there for her , and hang out with her and call and check up on her and so on.
First of all, i would like to clarify a point for you. About those guys in your school,maybe they just simply take you as their sister and or just a normal freind. Sometimes, their are girls that are usually considered this way , not in the kind of girlfreind type, its something good, it really is. But the thing is, that its just the way they feel about you, you can't change that. And actually boys usually get attracted to those popular girls cause they have good looks or are good kissers or are just so free loose type girls. But you know what, not everything should be about looks, cause when a guy dates you, he should like you for your personality , not for the way you look. Thats just lame, and you shouldn't think that way. Cause i am sure that you have such a great personality and any guy would want to date you, but maybe this guy simply is not from the guys with you in school.
You wanna meet a guy, then participate in a club , or in a certain activity, or take up a sport and maybe you would meet someone with you in practise, or take a course in learning any language you want, and maybe you would meet someone there. YOu see, you could make use of this, and at the same time, meet someone nice who could ask you out. Or maybe look for a part time job somewhere.
On the other hand, maybe you could simply try to get close to a cool guy with you in school, and try to drag him to asking you out, just be funny and nice and you can get him if you want. But only if its someone whose nice and respectful and you have feelings for him.
Try it out and think of what i said ,and if there is anymore advice you want, then please be free to contact me, or email me. Goodluck and have a nice day.
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Alright. This is going to sound really emo, but I need advice. When I was 13 or 14, I was dianosed with depression. I cut a couple times. Then I basically overcame it, and moved to Nevada, where now everything's basically great. Until yesterday. I was working on my Halloween costume, and I was using a razor knife to cut the head box. The knife slipped and sliced my arm. It hurt, but it felt like all my problems came gushing out of that cut. I hate to admit it, but every time something bad happened today, I thought of that cut, and I wanted to do it again. And again and again and again. I don't want to get into this shit again. Please help. (link)
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Hey,
I read your problem and i completely understand what your going through . But as i was reading , i came up with a conclusion to what you said. You did not overcome the whole depression and cutting thing, and you did not move on with your life as you said at the beginning of your problem. Because if you had done all that, then that accident cut would not have affected you one bit. So here is the thing, i for instance, have a really shitty past and horrible things that i used to do, but i just simply overcame it and i try my best everyday to completely forget about it and i moved on and started a new life and changed practically everything about me and my life. And still, there always comes a time when a situation happens and it reminds me of what i used to do. But then again, am i just gonnna spend my whole life thinking about what i used to do in past? About something that happened and finished long ago? Life moves forward, it doesn't go back, and you have to do that to. Look in front of you and never look back. And if there comes a situations which reminds of something ,the put it behind your back and continue moving on. It may hurt and it may be hard. But its not impossible.
Besides, i have discovered that there is so much in life that a person doesn't know about, so much fun , so much love, so much to do . so you said that you moved to a whole new place, why not just put this all behind you and change yourself and your thoughts and your life style and just start a new life, a new beginning. YOu were a kid for heaven sake, you had a little troubled childhood and you wasted it all in depression, but now your old enough. So be strong and learn to live your life. Its so good , i swear and there is so much that you can do. So consider what i said, and if there is anything that you want or if you feel like talking to someone, just send me a message, and i will give you all the help you want.
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okay well i liked this guy && he seemed to have liked me && we were planning on hanging out && then i found out that he has a girlfriend && he still likes me ((he told me that)) and hes not sure who to chose cause he likes us both but he said that im prettier && nicer && he will see me momre bc we go to the same school. what do i do (link)
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Hey,
I read your problem and I completely understand the situation that you are in, because I have been put in exactly the same situation.There was this guy who came over and said that he liked me and considered me as his girlfriend and I liked him too, and we even started hanging out together . Then, after awhile, everyone started telling me that he has a girlfriend, and I kept telling them the opposite, until i found out that he really does have one, and this girlfriend of him turns out to be a very close freind of mine.
I stayed with him for awhile, and i actually tried to ignore the fact that he has another girlfriend and that he loves someone else, because he kept telling me that i am prettier and nicer and that he loves me more and that same usual stuff. But then , a day after another, things didn't work out at the end, and it turned out , that he was like dating me in secret , and he didn't want anyone else to know about it, and he kept telling me that i am not allowed to tell anyone that we are dating. On the other hand, he treated her so differently and showed her so much love and care, and like showed her off everywhere and was practically crazy about her.
Now i am telling you all this, because its my job to make sure that you don't repeat the same mistake that I did when i agreed to date him although he was already dating someone else.
That is just so childish and naive and a truly low act . So don't blind yourself with his love or with some words that he tells you just so you could agree to date him. If he met you and got to know you and liked you more than his girlfriend, then he should just break up with her and be with you,but he can't date two at a time, thats just so unfair to both of you and to her more, because he knew her first and dated her first.
Honestly, Look at the title that you wrote down for your question, you think he's an asshole yourself, and you probably know that its not right that you should date him when he's dating someone else, and your confused and you don't know what to do. So take a piece of advice from someone experienced who has been through the same situation that you have been in , and knows the ending of this relationship and the consequences that follow. My piece of advice is that , you should set things straight for him, tell him that you can't be with him or date him aslong as he's with someone else, because thats just unfair and not right. Maybe he treats you well and tries to be fair and equal ,but its still not right. And if he really does love you, then he would break up with his girlfriend and chose you over her. Thats if he really does want you as he claims and tries to show you . Because its not just about the fact that your in the same school with him, so that he can show you off in school, and show her off outside school.
Thats too lame and not right at all.
So please consider what I said, and if you need anymore help or advice, then please be free to contact me.
Have a nice day:)
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