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im in love with my best friend
20/m
I have known this girl for quite sometime now and we are best friends and we've been best friends for a while now. I really feel like I am truly in love with her. I would do any thing for her and any thing to be with her. She means more to me than anything in the world. I would die for her. I feel like shes the only one in the world who understands me and the only one who I am ment for. But the thing is that we are just friends. I've never done the slightest thing with her. I've liked her since I became friends with her. I don't know what to do. She's all I ever think about. And the worst part is I know for a fact that she doesn't want to be with me because she doesn't want to lose such a good friendship. Shes the only person on the planet that I've never gotten into a fight with. I want to be with her so bad what do I do?
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Hey. Well if you tell your friend this right away she will probably be really shocked at first and she may be so shocked that she will turn you down. Not your fault. Also, if you have this great relationship she may feel the same way about you too and you'd never know it. I just read a poem about this on this internet and they both never told eachother that they felt the same way about each other. Start off slowly. First maybe ask her if she wants to go to the movies or something and then maybe give her a kiss to see her reaction. If she objects tell her how you feel and that you think you're meant for each other. Tell her you can start off slow if she wants and this may make her more comfortable and will make her feel it won't ruin your friendship. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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heeey , don't tell her just yet.
you know.... there is this guy who was also one of my best friends and he told me he loved me out of the blue. i was so shocked and totally didn't know what to say. everyone was looking at me so i was like : i don't care. but deep inside i had the same feeling. it was just sooo ambaressing. and then we never talked again and he left the school anyway but i am still so angry at myself.
okay so you know what you should do?
well you shouldn't tell her if you're not sure if she feels the same way about you.
but what you could do is give her hints and stuff like that. you know the guy i was talking about earlyier got me 2 like him cause he was always smiling at me protected me and showed me what a great person he is. you should do the same thing
and then she get's the feeling you like her and then it's not going to be a big shock when you finally tell her. and then when you do , make sure you do it in private and not infront of everybody. and don't be like : i love you and i wanna be with you...
tell her that you think you developed strong feelings for her and promise her if you get together that you would never brake her heart....
tell her all that stuff you wrote when you asked for advice here.....like that you would die for her...
you know what i mean
well i hope i helped and i also hope this wasn't 2 confusing.
i have a bad way with words =)
good luck!!!
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Hey, i read your problem and i completely understand what your throwing at,because i have been put in the same situation where my best freind(boy) came out of the blue one day and told me that he is in love with me and wants me so bad. And i think that you would be just like him if you did that. You wanna know what i did? I was shocked, yes i was, and i bet she would be too. I mean.. its something great and amazing for a girl to know that there is someone who loves her and cares about her and would go as far as to die for her. But i want you to put yourself in her shoes for a moment and experience the situation, when someone that you believed that he shared the same feelings as you did and liked you only as a freind,infact, as a brother , and then suddenly he loves you and wants to be with you and date you . I can't really get the point across to you, but i know how it feels, and she would know how it feels, and she wouldn't like it. I am sorry, but thats the truth, i know the feeling and the reaction, so i am helping you with my experience. And right now, i had lost that amazing friendship that i shared with him, because after he told me that he likes me , i didn't know what to say or what to do, so i just bluntly told him that i don't feel the same way about him and that therefore i will just pretend that he didn't open that topic from start. And then a day after the other, i started to back out and slip away because things didn't feel the same, when i only cared for him as a freind, as a brother more like it, while he LOVED ME, so it just felt weird.Until, we just stopped talking and we never opened the subject again.
I am sure i probably depressed you so much now, lol. But i am just trying to show you what a huge mistake you would be making if you tell her, and what an amazing freindship you would be losing if you tell her. And for what at the end, for dating her for a month or two maximum and then breaking up for whatever silly reason and hating one another forever. Thats just so unfair, but not only to you and not only to her, but to the freindship that has been standing between you and her for so long. So i will tell you something, after you heard my little sweet sad story, lol, i want you to think over again about your feelings and what you really want. And please, you can trust me and tell me about anything you want. You can either send me a private message or email me on l.ollit.a@hotmail.com , and i would give you my prompt reply. And believe it or not, if you don't want to ruin the freinship between you and her and you wanna stay as freinds but you just can't , because your feelings are too strong, i can change those feelings. Afterall, i am a girl whose known to get whatever she wants.lol. Honestly, trust me and i'll help you reach whatever choice you make. Take care.
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You definently need to let her know your true feelings. She might not return the feelings but atleast she'll know where you're at. Hey, she might be touched by your words and start to want to be with you. But seriously, tell her your feelings!
Try my adive, it will work!
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