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Hello :3

15 f

Okay, so my face naturally is red all the time, so I believe I have sensitive skin, and I use face washes for sensitive skin also, and stuff to clear the redness.

It doesn't really work :/ I hate it. I can't use any acne medication, for my acne..(Don't have a lot of acne but some ..) because it will make my face beat red, and sore like a sunburn >.> So I've stopped using medication on my face, all together and I just wash my face twice a day (Once in the morning, and at night) with a blemish clearer, etc. I don't wear much make up, hardly any..so I don't know what to do. -.-
Please give me some advice, and I don't want to go out and by anymore washes, or creams because my brother has so many for his face..he has horrible acne x.x So, whatever advice will be appreciated.

Thanks!



I know this is going to sound weird but try applying Vaseline on your face and leave it on overnight. Vaseline is a fantastic moisturizer and helps dry skin. Many people found Vaseline to help acne in some cases also. If you do apply the Vaseline make sure you wash your face with warm water in the morning. Yes it will be a bit sticky but it works and you can buy a container at Walmart for about 2 bucks.

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image you trust your friends to let the know about your boyfriend but all you girl freind is going to look to do is to be with your bf



If your friend is trying to get with your boyfriend then obviously she is not a friend and never was. Friends don't back stab friends and if your boyfriend is going for it then shit can him too because he would never been worth your time to begin with. Many people out there would gladly be your friends and there are many more guys out there too.

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How do u call back a restricted call?? I got a call yesterday and their like " im gonna kick ur ass at school tommorrow." and said some other bad stuff then they hung up. HELP ME!!!!



Restricted number means there it is a blocked caller, You should inform the police about this issue they can scan the calls and trace where the threats are coming from. Threats shouldn't be taken lightly and I highly suggest you report it too an adult in the household.

Do not ignore it, Report it

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I want to rephrase my questiong because no one in understanding it. I am married. My husband has a son who lives with my husbands parents. My husband was young and unable to care for him now his parents dont want him to live with us (they think and even have him call them mom and dad) I have a son and we have a daughter together. I am thinking my step son is jealous some how and a little more. When we all get together (normally at my inlaws house) he is very "abusive" towards my kids purposely makes them mad yelling at them, example call my son to go play on the swings with him and then start spinnig with his legs out to purposly hitting him. There are many more examples some worse then the first. I have tried asking my mother in law about putting the boys in therepy or counsling together and she refuses there is anything wrong. my son is 4 and my step son is 7. No matter what I do its as soon as we get out of the car he starts with his attitude and being very rude. so as of right now we limit contact with them which we do not enjoy but we dont know what else to do.




If I were in your shoes, I would not allow him around my children.


Assuming that your mother in law has custody over this child there is not much you can do. However, If your husband wants to visit his son perhaps he should think about spending one on one time with him. Why would you want a child living with you if he hurts your children? This child needs therapy or psychiatric help not to be put in a house hold where he can continuously beat other children. Perhaps lay off bringing your children around him for awhile.

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Okay so I have a bf, and we have been going out for 2 months. And I have a guy friend that asked me to give him a picture of me in my bra, should I?



Don't do it


Remember, Don't ever send someone what you don't want to be seen by others.

As much as you trust him, Things DO sometimes backfire. Don't be stupid

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I'm very depressed. My mom died 8 months ago after being diagnosed with breast cancer. When she first found out, it was still at an early stage, so she could have cured it, but when she told my dad to go to the doctor with her, he said 'I don't give a fuck', so she ended up just living with the cancer for 3 more months or so till it reached the last stage and spread through her entire body, and she died. You see my dad hates my mom, and he's been abusing her since before I was even born. And I hate him because of that, I truly hate him, and I also hate him because he hates me and hates my sisters and he physically and emotionally abuses us all the time, but I can't send him to jail because where I live and in my religion, the father does not go to jail or is not punished for abusing his children. So i came up with a plan of leaving home, and I've been saving up ever since I was young, and I'm going to leave home at the last day of college, because I don't want to leave my sister alone, and by the time I finish college, hopefully she would've started her own life away from the house. So I still have 3 more years in college, and I also can't leave now, because I have to finish college and my studies, and I need money from him to do be able to do that. But the thing is, I can't take it anymore, I wanna leave now, but if I leave now, I won't be able to go to college, because then he'll find me, and bring me back and abuse me again and more. I keep having all those thoughts of killing him and stabbing him and I pray to god all the time that he dies, because I've been miserable since I was born, and he made my mom miserable and my whole family, and now my mom is dead, and he killed her because he wouldn't take her to the doctor when she first told him. Me and my sisters are the ones who took her to the doctor when she finally told us, but it was too late. And I am mad at her, I am mad at my mom, because she had the chance to divorce him so many times, and yet she didn't, and when she got sick, she knew that she was going to die and she knew he'd abuse us and make our lives miserable, and yet she didn't do anything about it. I just want to leave, I want it all to end, I am so depressed.




You and your sisters health comes before your religion, I know you feel it doesn't but it does.

The columnist below me is right, You don't have to live like this. Report him, Take all the proof you've got and go to the police.

It is NOT okay to take abuse from anyone and I know you feel it wouldn't be right to send him to jail but he deserves to be there. There are options, You can live a better life or hide in misery and fear. You don't have to live life like that, You have options and you can receive help but the only way someone can help you is if you let someone know your situation.

Here is a website I found
http://www.rainn.org/

This is also a 24 hour hotline: 800.621.HOPE (4673)


It is possible to make things better and you can.

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Today, my ex boyfriend called me the name of his current girlfriend. And for some reason this made me FURIOUS... why...?? I honestly don't know why I got so mad... Maybe cause he and I dated for a longggg time, and they're fairly recent and I think she's a whore and not good enough for him? Or maybe cause I obviously still have feelings for him... Hahaha yeah I really don't know why I got so mad. Has any one had the same experience? It happened in study hall, and he was trying to crack his knuckle in my ear and I tried to run away from him cause it grosses me out and he grabs my wrist and goes "(her name)!"



You are exaggerating, He is your ex boyfriend.

Despite what you think, You are not with him. So, He called you his girlfriends name. I'm almost 99% sure that it probably was on accident. Stop making a big deal out of it

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So last thursday 3/17/11; me and this guy darryl walked home and we ended up in a small field..and had sex plain and simple,
i got home really REALLY late(4:15)..of course im not going to tell my mom..
but she took away everything until i told 'the truth'..should i tell the truth if not...i really good excuse??
15/f
16/m




Tell the truth, You were well aware of your actions now be mature enough to except consequences.

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okay so I'm a 18/female
so I'm talking to a boy named Dametrious



[do you think there's a reason why he might not want to be with me? ]


You are 18 years old, He is a 16. He is still a child while you are now legally an adult.

Also, The guy is 16, At that age they are still not ready to settle down as he is still a kid and doesn't know what he wants. Many kids think inside their pants and not with their head. Even if he said he "loved" you...Do you honestly think he knows what love is? Again, He is a 16 year old.

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my boyfriend.. lies bad. just about everything,and he lies about uu






If he can't be faithful, Then why are you with him?


Dump him if you don't trust him.

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Iv'e been curious about this for a while what do doctor's use to scrub there hands with while scrubbing in is it some type of soap?

Also by law how many minutes do doctor's have to
scrub their hands for?

Thank you!



They wash their hands with anti-bacterial soap,

However according to Healthy Living..Some Doctors don't wash their hands. (Yuck!)

#1: Doctors DON’T Wash Their Hands
It’s common knowledge that washing your hands is the best way to avoid getting sick and prevent the spread of germs and infection. Most people wash their hands before preparing food or treating wounds and after they use the bathroom or handle dirty objects, like money or diapers.

It’s been reported that 60% of doctors don't follow hand-washing guidelines.


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okay so I'm 17/ female
soo me and my ex have been talking for a long time we broke up last summer but we still talk as if we go out even when he has a girlfriend he still messes around with me.. which i think is wrong he has put me through hell and back in it again but its like i fell in love with him so i cant leave him alone we almost had sex last week but i got really scared i dont know if i should have sex with him because i dont want him to have everything. its really confusing should i just cut him off and not talk to him anymore? it might be kind of akward tho? i dont want any of his girlfriends coming up to me and asking me have i been messing with their man shaking my head what do i do ?



You stop messing around with him, He is in a relationship. If you two were messing around, Then no it's not just wrong on his part it's wrong on both ends.

Guess what, He is in a relationship and he has moved on, If you two keep messing around then eventually the drama will catch up too you. If he is in a relationship and he is fooling around with you, It's cheating, It's wrong, It's unfaithful. Last summer was almost a year ago, Move on and stop being his booty call. Your ex boyfriend is not in love with you, The only reason he kept you around is because you give him what he wants.

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can you get pregnant by getting fingered even when he touched his penis ? 14/female me and my boyfriend wanted to have sex but he didnt have a condom so i said no bt he still pulled out his penis bt we didnt do anything with it i jus felt it and stuff like that bt he fingered me could i still get pregant even if he touched his penis then started fingering me ?



Very unlikely, If you don't want to become pregnant in the future then use a condom and be safe.

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Well my boyfriends friend likes me, and me and my boyfriend have been dating for a month and a half. I hung out last night with his friend and we smoked it wasn't just us my friend and his friend went too. Sometimes I tell him I love him, then again I do that to all his friends as in a friendly love cause I'm friends with all my bfs friends. And this morning I got a text from him saying he reallyl ikes me, expecting me to say something sweet in return but I said idk what to say cause I have a bf.. I really like my bf but in a way I like his friend. What do I do? His friends mad at me for not saying anything back cause he says I "flirt" a lot. Help? What do I dooo?




Do you love your boyfriend? If you do then you shouldn't have any reason to second guess being with him. From now on, Lay off the love thing. Saying "I love you" even in a friendly way can sometimes give people the wrong impression. If you like his friend and want to be with him then go for it but the right thing to do would be to tell your boyfriend how you feel. If you decide to leave your boyfriend for his friend ... don't expect him to take that one lightly. Either back off, or be honest with your boyfriend. It is extremely uncool to cheat if you don't want drama then stop giving the wrong impression to people.

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I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 months. We're both 22 and have a lot in common, and the beginning looks promissing for a successful long term relationship. The compatibility, his behavior, his mix of almost everything I want from a man, him finding what a lot of what he looks for in a woman with me... Though early, it seems like this could potentially blossom with time into something beautiful. So far, we bring out the best in each other, we push each other to do better, and we function like a team in many aspects. I honestly think this relationship makes both of us happier and better persons.

We haven't had sex yet, though we got to the stage of doing everything else, including sleeping together in the same bed without clohes on. I am not a virgin, but sex is a serious topic for me. I don't take it lightly, and I only want to think of having it in the context of a long term, loving relationship possibly heading towards marriage. I have had two serios relationships previously, which both ended at their own times due to compatibility reasons. After my second relationship I had told myself that I will only have sex again with a man that I am compatible enough to head into marriage. That doesn't mean waiting until marriage itself, but having a relationship with a good enough shape for that, if it makes sense. I don't want to get married now, but I see myself there in 2-3 years.

There is a strong attraction between me and my bf, which is why we got as far as we did. Despite the physical connection so far, I deffinetely don't feel ready to take it to the final end and have the sexusal intercourse, with all the risks and vulnerability it implies. I need more time for the relationship to develop and ...well to see how much of a long term it can get.

Last night he told me, while we were on his bed,that "That's it. This has to happen soon", because he "can't wait much longer". That "It's been already more than 3 months", and that "he's already showed me" he loves me and he's interested in more than just a sex fling with me.

I felt hurt by his words, and taken aback, because up to this point he acted very patient and encouraging, telling me things like "I can take as much time I need". I am curious ,was this something said in the sexual tension of the moment, or if it goes deeper and should worry me as to his feelings and intentions. I also don't want him to suspect any other reasons why I don't want to have sex with him, and on the other hand I don't know how to tell him everything on my mind without scarring him off.

I am sorry about the long post, but I am a bit confused about what I should do in my interaction with him. What I am not confused about is that I don't want to go all the way yet... So I guess I am asking for some feedback and for views of how people would handle this situation. Thank you



If you don't want to feel pressured, Then stop teasing him.

Your boyfriend told you he is willing to wait until you were ready but don't expect him not to nag the hell out of you if you are in bed naked with him. If you want to wait but perhaps if that is your choice you should wear clothing to bed.

If you are doing everything NOT to be a tease and the guy is still pressuring you into having sex, Then screw it he doesn't respect you enough to lay off and respect your choices. Your boyfriend is being a typical guy, Any guy would be tempted into having sex if their own girlfriend has no clothes on com'on. Stop teasing him if it bothers you so much.

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What is a good bigger buttocks workout? Are there lots of ways to make your butt bigger or just a workout? How long does it take to make your bottom noticably larger?




Eat a lot of Burger King!!!

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I'm 19 and female,I've been working and and eating healthy so I can lose some weight, but my period started yesterday so I was craving more food than usual,

Breakfast:10:00am
2 whole wheat bread
1 tbs of peanut butter
1 scrambled eggs
handful of cherios with no milk

lunch:11:40am
1 piece of ribeye steak
a plate of roasted pork (no skin)

snack:1:00pm
an apple

snack #2: 3:20pm
southwestern wrap from the cafe (the size is 1/3 of the burrito)
(including honey wheat tortilla,tomatoes,lettuce,chipotle sauce,black beans)
drink:
mulberry hot tea

pre- workout snack:5:00

banana oatmeal with medium size of banana
1 small cup of strawberry

workout:2 hours and 30 minutes


after workout:10:00

footlong subway:black forest ham with all the vegetables and jalapeno (no sauce included)


Did I overeat for the day? I'm trying to lose weight.


No, You didn't eat too much.

Just make sure you are eating protein and not too much starch.

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Does ambulance charge just to come check a person at home and see whats wrong



As far as I know they only charge you if you ride the ambulance, I rode in one once they drove me about 6 miles and I got a whopping 400 dollar bill thank god for my insurance.

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how do i make a boy 6 years elder then me to love me and he knows that i love him but he thinks its just affection and thinks me as his sister and likes someone else.i am an indian
12 years old female.




You can force someone to like you, It's either they do or they don't.

Not sure if you are in the United States or not but If you are 12 years old it is illegal for someone over the age of 18 to date you. You are a minor, A child and you are not an adult.


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february 26,2011 is the first day of my last period.
then me and my bf have sex last march 11,12ang 13 do i have any chance to get pregnant? pls. answer my question.



Yes, There is always a chance.

Take a test

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