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I am so depressed!
I'm very depressed. My mom died 8 months ago after being diagnosed with breast cancer. When she first found out, it was still at an early stage, so she could have cured it, but when she told my dad to go to the doctor with her, he said 'I don't give a fuck', so she ended up just living with the cancer for 3 more months or so till it reached the last stage and spread through her entire body, and she died. You see my dad hates my mom, and he's been abusing her since before I was even born. And I hate him because of that, I truly hate him, and I also hate him because he hates me and hates my sisters and he physically and emotionally abuses us all the time, but I can't send him to jail because where I live and in my religion, the father does not go to jail or is not punished for abusing his children. So i came up with a plan of leaving home, and I've been saving up ever since I was young, and I'm going to leave home at the last day of college, because I don't want to leave my sister alone, and by the time I finish college, hopefully she would've started her own life away from the house. So I still have 3 more years in college, and I also can't leave now, because I have to finish college and my studies, and I need money from him to do be able to do that. But the thing is, I can't take it anymore, I wanna leave now, but if I leave now, I won't be able to go to college, because then he'll find me, and bring me back and abuse me again and more. I keep having all those thoughts of killing him and stabbing him and I pray to god all the time that he dies, because I've been miserable since I was born, and he made my mom miserable and my whole family, and now my mom is dead, and he killed her because he wouldn't take her to the doctor when she first told him. Me and my sisters are the ones who took her to the doctor when she finally told us, but it was too late. And I am mad at her, I am mad at my mom, because she had the chance to divorce him so many times, and yet she didn't, and when she got sick, she knew that she was going to die and she knew he'd abuse us and make our lives miserable, and yet she didn't do anything about it. I just want to leave, I want it all to end, I am so depressed.
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I know that it is hard, but you have to stay and get your college degree, once you're done you will be able to move on. Buy a house, don't ever let him in, change your number, and then go to a courthouse to see about getting custody for your sister. He won't be able to touch or hurt you anymore after that, if he tries, get a restraining order and if he tries, call the police and have them send his sorry butt to jail. Just keep thinking of what you will be able to accomplish after College.
Hope this helps!
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We here in the US have ways to help women and men that are going threw negative things in there own country .. For instante Cuban they get help once they touch US soil ...
I'm going To fiend a way to help you amd your sister ..
Give me some time and you will be free .. You can email me when ever you need to talk to someone ..
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Unless you live in a Country ruled by Islamic Law you can report your father to the proper authorities for child abuse. In the United States or any of the European countries, child abuse and child endangerment is against the law. The law of the land always will come before any religious law. What this means is that even if your father is a practitioner of Islamic Law at home, but home is in a non Islamic country he can and will be arrested if reported.
If you live in the United States I would like you to call a hotline operated by RAINN which stands for; Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. This is a 24/7 hotline staffed by volunteers who are trained to help you find people in your hometown who can assist you in getting the proper help. The hotline number is : 1-800-656-HELP. Please if you live in the USA call them or go their home page: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) to find a center near you.
Y our first responsibility is to the health and safety of you and your sister.
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You and your sisters health comes before your religion, I know you feel it doesn't but it does.
The columnist below me is right, You don't have to live like this. Report him, Take all the proof you've got and go to the police.
It is NOT okay to take abuse from anyone and I know you feel it wouldn't be right to send him to jail but he deserves to be there. There are options, You can live a better life or hide in misery and fear. You don't have to live life like that, You have options and you can receive help but the only way someone can help you is if you let someone know your situation.
Here is a website I found
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This is also a 24 hour hotline: 800.621.HOPE (4673)
It is possible to make things better and you can.
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You And your siblings DO NOT ! I repeat DO NOT have to live with that. If you look into abuse centers online ,. for centers or help lines around your area there are many. I tried looking for you but the search is so wide because location is unknown.
You do need to talk to some one. Even though your beliefs provide the facts that he isn't judged or consequenced because of his actions what he is doing is NOT OK.
Please talk to some one sweetie.
My prayers are for you!
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