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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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ok. i was with this guy for a while and he dumped me. but he says he still loves me. and i just told him after a while that i dont feel the same way. now i broke his heart and hes making suicidal threats. what do i do!? (link)
Call his parents or someone who knows hims well so they can talk to him. Thats all you can do.

You are not responsible for whatever he does. Hopefully its just a threat, but if he did follow through it wouldn't be your fault.

Threatening suicide to keep hold of someone is wrong & abusive behavior. He is just trying to control you, don't fall for it or you will never get away.


So, ive been on the pill for a good half a year, and i let my bf cum inside of me one time during sex in the begininning of a new pack ( i usually never let him)(i had alreayd been on this pack for about 3 days) ..i am supposed to e get my period in a few days and i have been very diligent taking the pill every day properly, and have not missed any..but i have been vigorously excersizing recently and im worried that that will affect my period coming..and i am also worried that i may be pregnant becuase he cummed in me..do u think i Could be pregnant? (link)
Nah. Once you have been on the pill for 30 days you can have sex anytime at all without getting pregnant. Even on the off days. Makes no difference at all.

Exercising a lot can have an effect on your period.
I had a friend who ran 20 miles a day. She didn't get her period back until she stopped. Even if you have a light period or no period at all, so long as you take your pills, you are protected. So don't worry about it at all. :)


does anyone know how to delete a profile the yhave on here? (link)
Go to profile settings link in the blue column on the left.

Go to part III area and highlight what you want to delete from the scroll box. Right click and hit cut and its gone. :)


My sis keeps complaining of a thing moving around in her belly - lower abdomen. She is not pregnant and it is up near her waist and moves around every time she eats or drinks anything. She said it feels like a someone is in there pushing out on her belly from just under to navel and sliding around to her side. Weeeeeeird!! I know maybe she should go to the doctor, but we just want some idea what it might be! It doesn't hurt and doesn't feel like gas; it's just something moving--Eeeewwwww. and only for the last month. By the way she lost about 15 lbs recently on a sensible diet, but I doubt that has anything to do with it. (link)
She should really see a doctor. I know some gas bubbles can move around and feel a lot like what your describing. So can some cramps. I'm not talking the kind you get before a period, these are like those you'd get in a leg. They can hurt and they do move sometimes from one side to the other.

If she has changed to a diet more high in fiber then it could be gas. I had cramps like these before I had my medication regulated, I have a hypothyroid.

Whatever is causing it she needs to see a doc. No sense in suffering with it or worrying about what it might be. :)


i really like someone but im afraid to ask her out incase she just laughs at me. I have tried flirting but i dont know wether it is working or not, could you give me any advice? (link)
If she talks to you now without laughing...well, unless you say something funny, then she probably likes you.

Here are some ways to tell if she likes you.

http://www.wikihow.com/Tell-if-a-Girl-Likes-You

If you think she does, go for it.

If you still aren't sure after looking over that short article, keep working at it. It has some useful tips for that too.

Good luck, hope it works out for you! :)


I want to try Nair, the hair removal thing.
I don't want to buy the bikini line one, so I just want to but the plain Nair lotion. Can I use it on my bikini line? I mean, it says you can use this one anywhere, so why do they still make a bikini line one?
Thanks! (link)
Oh no! Do not use regular old Nair on bikini area.
It will burn you badly. Use the one made for bikini
area only. :)


So, for the Latin Banquet [since I'm year 4 in Latin], I have to be a mythological figure. I was going to be Cleopatra but all the make up =X So I changed to Pandora. The thing is, I don't know what to write about Pandora. Like I need a short, short paragraph giving a brief description of myself. Like if I was Cleo, I would say something like "I'm the Queen of whatever and the lover of blah blah blah blah blah." I need something to say for me [Pandora]. I need it to be short, not serious but not totally frivolous. I need an in betweener that will describe Pandora. Anyone think of anything?? (link)
This search called up a lot of articles. Fast facts will give you just that, Her strengths, her parents
etc. Short and sweet. The other articles you can read if you want more in depth information.

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because most of the questions i ask dont fall into the like categories so i like mostly put it in random weirdos in miscallaneous.. i mean this happens alot with other people too, which shows, because the most used category is random weirdos. answer to this if you think that advicenators should get more categories, and which ones you think we should get. unless you dont think so, and state your reasons why.

i have some of my own categories they can add.. there can be lots, so just like brainstorm and stuff, so we can get alot of replies so maybe the advicenators staff can see this and then like add the more categories.

thankyou for your time. =] (link)
http://www.advicenators.com/news.php

November 7, 2006 :)


Has anyone tried inserted a sleeping friend’s hand in a bowl of warm water at a sleepover? Tell me if it works! It’s a good prank for next April fools day.i don’t get why they don’t wake up and doesn’t the water get cold quick? (link)
Yes, it does work. So does putting shaving/whip cream in the palm of their hand and then tickling their nose with a feather or something. :)


Ok so I'm on birth control and I try to take it everyday around the same time but some days I'm a few hours off ... a few days ago I let my boyfriend go in me without protection but I didn't let him cum....all I want to know is the chances of getting pregnant....are they low...because I already heard getting pregnant off of pre cum is already low. (link)
If you are taking birth control pills everyday, regardless of the time of day you take them, you are not likely to become pregnant.

They try and get you to take them at the same time everyday mostly so you will remember. Taking them the same time everyday makes it habit. :)


First off, it's TiNA_DUH.

My brother joined this site about a month ago, if not a little longer. I tried to find him by browsing through the columnists, & searching them, but I can't.

Is there anyway to find him by email? I wanna see his column & see how he thinks when he gives advice. He's never really given me any, so I'd like to see what his method is. (link)
Not unless he tells you his column name. He can't remember... RIGHT! LOL.

Honestly, we couldn't tell even if we knew. Keep working on him. :)


well i have alot of pimples because of this product i put in the sun is it possible that its because of the too much sun and the make up???? (link)
It could be. Both can cause acne, anything you put on your face can clog your pores.

If you can do without the foundation makeup, your eye makeup will be fine to wear. As for the sun block, that you will have to use if you are going to be out for long periods of time. For shorter times outside, get yourself a cool hat to keep most of the sun out of your face. Hang out in the shade whenever possible. :)


i need help! i don't know if im wrong ...ok so i have a boyfrien , and he's nice and everything , but today we went on an argument about him not oppening the car door for me ...am i wrong for wanting him to do it?? even though he's nice and open places doors for me etc??..i told him i'd like that ..and he said :S its not like im going to be your slave or anything! can't you open it yourself??? ...and i was like ..i can obviously , but i would appreciate if you'll do it ....he sad your spoiled! its like i have feelings too! and im a person too why do i have to be all day after you doing evrything for you opening doors for you and for me who will do it? nobody does it for me , why do you have to be better than me ? we are both equal! ... then it turn into a big fight but am i wrong :S?????? (link)
If he opens other doors for you without you even having to ask...don't argue about the car door.

Really, it might be polite if he did, but it isn't necessary. Especially if you are going to argue about it. It really doesn't mean much if you have to ask anyway. If you care for this guy, just take him as he is. A non-Car door-opener. :)


what are some effects of women not having all their rights in iran? i've searched google for a couple days and i cant find anything...i'd really appreciate if anyone could help me find some websites that explained it. thanks a lot. =] (link)
Click search and it will bring up a lot of useful sites for you. Don't be afraid to go to the We Change website. The title writing is not English, but the article is. It has lots of info. :)

You probably didn't find them yourself because you should have used affects, not effects. I mix them up all the time! :)

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okay so .. there was a lil chance i could of been pregant so i took plan b pills . i wund up getting my period about a week earlier than i should and a week after i had sex and took the pills, its never on a certain time though. i get it all differetn dates. so when i got it it wasnt light, but it wasnt as heavy as it was usually . do u think anything is wrong, or im just over reacting and worrying to much? (link)
You're fine. The whole idea of the pill is to get rid of any unwanted pregnancy. Thats why you have your period. Its normal. :)


on Advicenators. If you read a question and your automatically like "Oh i know this!" and you answer it without looking at other peoples answers. Well what if you accidentally put something that is almost the same as another person, and you get rated badly? is it still considered copying someone elses answer? (link)
Heres the deal. Always look at the other answers first. If it isn't word for word and you wrote it at the same time, or within a few minutes it isn't considered copying.

You can and should be rated down if you just repeat what has already been said before you. Best advice
is to pass it by. The whole purpose of making the other answers viewable in the first place was to stop all the repeat answers.

So if you are rating questions (reading from bottom up) you rate the first one well, if you like the answer. Anyone repeats and doesn't add anything new or useful, you can rate them down to a 2. The rating will not be changed. Be aware of that before answering. And it is also a good idea to leave that reason in your feedback. Already got this answer. Politely, of course.


Is it illegal like if say theres a couple and the girl sends the guy nude pics and there under the age of 18? Cause my friend gets them alot just from his girlfriends and i was curious?? (link)
I would suppose if they are under 18 it could be considered they are exchanging child porn which is against the law. Big time. :)


ok so, i made a big mistake yesterday. I told some people i started hanging out with that i skateboard (since they're all skateboarders)and honestly i dont really know how... They asked me to skate with them in 4 weeks so in that time i need to learn how to skateboard =[
so does anyone have any tips or know any website tha teaches people how to skateboard??? (link)
This is a good place to start.
http://skateboard.about.com/od/tricktips/ss/JustStartingOut.htm

For other sites, there are quite a few, click search.

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There is one columnist who draws peple like flies.She rarely lists anyone as a favourite columnist but many people list her as a favourite columnist.She rarely answers questions from the pool but she still gets tonnes of inboxes.Once someone told her not to drink snd she told them to mind their own business.She got an apology and even a rating of five for being rude.When I told someone to mind their own business I was yelled at by her and told not to be so rude.Dale Carnegie who said in his book titled "How to make friends and influnce people that people like people who make them fell important and appear to like them.She contradictcts him.Why do people love her so much?How can I be like her and make people like me?This is her advice column-http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=lorelei (link)
She did answer questions from the pool. She hasn't updated her column in over a year.

Almost all inbox questions to her...examples, How much do you weight, I love your sunglasses, where do you shop, were probably asked by friends. The biggest majority of them would be considered chatting now, which gets users banned.

The site has undergone a lot of changes since she was here last. Maybe she didn't like the changes.
If she was rude to anyone today, or chatted on her column with friends (or not friends) she would be banned.

Also just so you know this, inbox questions do not count toward your column rating. You have to answer pool questions to be rated.

Legitimate inbox questions usually either liked a previous answer you gave them, or they want you to give them more info on something you answered for them.

Honestly, you don't want a column like that. You wouldn't have it very long if you did. :)

FYI EDIT: Maybe I hinted to much and didn't come right out with it. She is no longer here. If she were, she would have been banned for her smart remarks. The site has a new owner since she had a column. Emulate her all you want to, but your column will not be on the site for long. So why on earth would you want to be like her? Thats all I'm saying. You want to treat people like dog crap...more power to you. :)


does caffene help your metabolism go faster? (link)
No it won't. It may give you a short burst of mental energy, but that has nothing to do with your metabolism. There are quite a few things you can do to help get your metabolism going. Try this for some great tips.

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