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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I have my doubts but I think there is a chance that I am currently pregnant for about couple of weeks. I heard that there is a pill you can take that could kill the baby before it develops and I wouldn't be needing a whole operation of aboration.. Is that true, what's that pil called, and how does it work? Thanks in advance
There are many other options you could sort rather than purposely try and kill your unborn. I have to agree with the user below me, It really disgust me also.
You don't think your child a least deserves to live? What about an adoption, It's completely harmless. I honestly don't know why you had sex if you weren't ready for parenthood as I would hope you would know there is always that risk. Your child did not ask to be born, It just happened. At least give the baby a chance to experience life. When he/she is born you can give the baby up and it won't be your problem anymore. There are other alternatives.
Hello forum Im nervous because my girlfriend just told me shes late on her period by 8 days.
Specifications are :
We were fooling around like a week and a half ago and she gave a hand job but I did not climax but there may have been very small amount of precum. then I fingered her, and we dry humped with just underwear on(no climax) so the question is what are the odds shes pregnant.
any input is welcomed to help ease my mind
thank you
James
Extremely small chance, In fact so small it's almost impossible. The penis didn't have any contact with the vagina from what you have written. If all you two did was dry hump, Then you are safe.
Delayed periods can be caused from a lot of things;
Depression, Stress, Diet, Exercise, Weight Loss, Weight Gain or even an Illness. Chances are she is late but be patient.
me and my boyfriend have been dating for 9 months now and lately i have been doubting him and believe that he has been lying to me, like he went for this party with his guy friend and he was really wasted and these two drunk girls asked him for a ride home and i heard that he slept with one of them but he explained and i believed him but then his friend told me that my boyfriend told him that " he makes love to me but he likes to fuck other girls" this friend has no reason to lie. so what do i do i want to break up because i'm no longer happy but i don't know why a part of me still wants to be with him and how do i break up with him what if he's not really cheating but he does often go to parties and i'm not with him
He cheated, You are pretty sure of it. When people are under the influence of alcohol they generally do not have the ability to think with full brain power.
However, As sorry as he may be nobody forces him to take in alcohol, He was fully aware of his own intake therefore his mistakes were completely avoidable.
I'm ten, female, and I kinda want a boyfriend. I don't know if I should do it, or how to do it. And if I do it how do I yell my parents?
You are 10 years, You are too young to be dating.
Wait until you are older and more mature, Dating is not a rush or a game.
First off this question is really weird.
I am 13 years old and have a boy friend.
When we first started off i planned to give him my virginity.
we are in a 7 or 8 month relationship(I dont keep track).
ANYWAYS
to the weird part...>.
When i think about him I get these liek feelings in my vagina.like if its being squeesed and sumtimes when i look in my underwear i see white stuff in it(I think its cum i really dont know).
When im with him i get that same feeling but stronger.
Why is that????O_O
You are turned on, It's normal
On the other hand you are 13 years old, Wait a few years before you think about sex. You are WAY to young to be doing it at 13
18/f, she's 17/f. (never in my life have i ever liked girls like this. i've always been into guys, but she's different)
she came to school at the beginning of the year and i thought she was quite annoying. she thought i was a bitch. recently, we started talking a lot more and we're becoming pretty good friends, i guess. i noticed that i'd get really happy when i see her. i'm always looking forward to having classes with her. i've had a few erotic dreams about her but i never thought anything of them. i never really thought anything about all of this. then, about 2 weeks ago, she got upset during class and started crying. something inside me broke. i couldn't stand to see her upset. i tried to comfort her and get her to stop crying but nothing seemed to be working and it upset me greatly. all i wanted to do was just hold her and tell her everything would be all right. this is when i figured out i was in love with her. now, you might be thinking "no, you're a teenage girl, you just THINK you're in love." and i'm here to say: you couldn't be any more incorrect. i know when i'm in love. i've been in love with two boys my entire life, and i remember when i first felt something for both of them, it was the same exact thing i'm feeling for her, now: i'd do anything for her. literally, ANYTHING. we complete eachother. i care about her life more than mine. all i ever want to do anymore is be close to her.
but the problem with this is i have a boyfriend. we've been together for about 3.5 years. lately, he's neglecting me up the ass. we never hang out. he never calls. i don't have his new number so i can't call him. i'm thinking about dumping him, but i don't want to because what if she doesn't like me back? she's abundantly bisexual, but i'm getting mixed signals. like she'll hang out with me all the time in school and then when i ask her if she wants to hang out over the weekend, she says she'll text me but she blows me off! and i don't wanna risk scaring her away by texting her all the time: "are you there?" "do you still wanna hang out?" "any plans today?" etc. i just really don't know what to do about all this. and on top of everything, I'M STRAIGHT. i've had one other girl crush, but i've always maintained that i could just make out with her at a party or something. to be honest, i really don't like girls at all. they're too much drama and teenage girls are all just a huge wreck. idk what it is i see in this other chick, but i could do anything and everything for her, i would try to be good to her, i'd try my hardest to keep her happy and stay with her, etc. what should i do?
Talk to her, If you two are of good friends as you say then she should be open and respectful. She may not feel the same way back and if she doesn't you two can remain friends. Dropping the bombshell on someone isn't always easy but the only way to find out is too try. Start up a conversation with her and gradually work your way towards the bisexual topic and ask her how she feels about it and she what she says. If you want to do it a more casual way, Ask her to go out to dinner with you one night and you could drop little hints without fully coming out and saying it. Compliment her, Make eye contact, Smile..You know be flirty but don't over do it. As for the boyfriend, If he is ignoring you then he isn't worth your time. I'd imagine you'd be the first one he'd give his number too if he changed it and if he is neglecting you then hell with him dump him. If it doesn't lead to dating with the friend then at least you've got a friendship. If you feel more comfortable you could even try writing her a letter about it but personally I would be more comfortable if someone approach me in person rather than writing a letter only because they would be there to assure me that it's perfectly fine if I didn't feel the same way rather than to be weirded out when I'm alone while my brain is running a mile a minute. Now, For the next part..You may be straight but have you thought about dating your friend?...You said you were willing to do anything for her. Well, From the sound of what you said above you may be bisexual and if you are or turn out too be that's perfectly okay! At least you know who you are, Be happy with yourself.
Good luck
this guy at skool it the ultimate guy for me.
hes nice, sweet, really caring for me, and we get on... were practically best friends.
(only downer is im not physically attracted to him)
we have dated.
and because i felt like i was leading him on, i kept dumping him.
i do like him, dont get me wrong, but i think i prefer just talking to someone.
i dont have alot of friends, thats y i think i like him so much.
i know hes going to ask me out this coming Wednesday.. and i dont know what i going to say to him!!!!
Tell him the truth
( I'm really flattered but I think we are better off being friends)
i had a boyfriend for 2 yeras.i broke up with him 2 years ago.now my parents arranegd my marriage with another person. can my husband be able to find that i am not a virgin? is hymenoplasty surgery realy worthless & have side effects? how much cost of this aurgery?in calcutta which hospital do this surgery? please dont tell that "tell him the truth" it is the matter of my parents selfrespect.i dnt want my parents suffer for my fault.
http://www.onlinesurgery.com/article/potential-risks-and-complications-of-hymenoplasty.html
You may want to read that before thinking about surgery, I honestly think it's a ridiculous thing to do to your body. You are talking a lot of money and time into something that will possibly someday be a waste of your time. (Assuming you will have sex again at some point in your life)
No, Your husband can not tell if you are a virgin or not and to be truthful that is your business. Even surgery is not going to change the fact that you are not a virgin..All you are doing is just replacing your hymen that doesn't mean you are a virgin again.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for for nearly five years. We had decided that we wanted to get married and start a family. But in the last two months things have gotten very hectic. He is extremely stressed because he had not been working.I was going to school and working to pay our bills. He gets very depressed and thinks that I will be better off without him. He has cheated before but that was four years ago and we have already worked that out. Now he thinks that he will do it again and can't be with me because he believes that he will only end up hurting me. I can see that he is happy with me and he does love me, but I don't know how I can fix the problems if he is unwilling to help.
Your boyfriend told you that the thinks he may cheat again and is using the fact that he has no job and is depressed as an excuse?? This is the worst excuse I've ever heard anyone come up with.
I'm not sure if you two are still planning on marriage but I sure as hell would rethink it over after hearing that one. You can try to help him find a job but even so the economy is so bad they are supposed to lay off another couple thousand people. If he is unwilling to work things out and try to stay positive for the sake of your relationship then your relationship is going to take it's toll very fast. Relationships cannot work out without trust and commitment. Your boyfriend is NOT the only one suffering without a job. If he is shit of luck and can't find a job..Then I would suggest him to try volunteer work to gain the experience needed for a better job as that is likely required nowadays. Keep him staying positive, Communicate. Hopefully things will work out but if you can't get him too come around...At least you've tried.
I know I will probably get a lot of rude replies, but.. I feel it is the best for my child. I am currently going through a divorce, and of course there is a child involved. The thing is, I never wanted to have her, but because of my religion I was unable to get an abortion. During the time I've raised her, I could never love her. I did try with all my being, but I just could not love her. I am also concerned for her because of her father. I feel the reason I can't care about her is because I hate her father. I felt it may be best if I gave up on her and allowed her to live with him and his family. Is me being unable to love her a valid reason to be able to terminate my parental rights?
Seeing you are already prepared to get some rude replies I am going to be upfront on my opinion.
If you didn't want a child, You should of done everything to prevent pregnancy. I really think it's incredibly sad and pathetic that you aren't mature enough to look beyond the hate for her father and love your child because she is YOUR child too whether you like it or not. Nothing you can do is going to change the fact that you ARE her biological mother.
I am being brutally honest, I know what it feels like to have a parent that doesn't love you.
Your child will one day find out the truth, She will wonder why her mother isn't in her life and don't be surprised if she wants nothing to do with you. As I dislike my father and couldn't care less about what he does, Perhaps one day yours will dislike you too.
I'm dating this guy. He's very sweet, smart, funny, and he notices all the little things about me. I feel like he really cares about me. I can be myself around him and we seem to have a good connection.
However, he's a little too sexual for me. We were laying in the grass for a bit and he put is hand up my shorts. I said no and pushed him away. He kept trying and I kept pushing him and threatened to get up and leave if he did so. So he kept his hand on my leg and calmed down a bit, but later he did it again. I kept saying no. And I got up and we talked about it and he said he'd stop and go as far as I wanted. But really, I want to wait. I know he likes doing dirty things, but I want to wait and see where we go in our relationship. I get the feeling he wants me for sex. I mean, we barely talk about sex, but still. He's very perverted and can't keep his hands off of me. I don't want our relationship to revolve around sex.
And something else: we've only been dating for a week or so, and he's already saying he loves me.
I still really like him but I don't know what else to do if he keeps being all over me like this. I want to stay with him. So how do I firmly tell him I don't want sex right now?
I agree with Witty completely, Run for it.
You two only been dating a week, Already he is trying to get in your pants. Your boyfriends words "I love you" is bait.
It's this simple: He wants sex and that's it
Guys will say and do whatever sometimes to get in a girls pants, They will say whatever they think might work. Sure he may notice the little things but whatever made you think this isn't his way of making you think he cares? The red flag is right under your nose, He keeps pushing and pushing even when you say no and threatens to leave if you turn him down. If you want to be a booty call..Go for it but if you really wanted to be in this relationship then would you really be asking us to help you? A week isn't very long, Dump him and move on trust me..You'd get over this one a lot faster rather than pretending he cares and prolonging the pain.
hello all...lately ive given up on finding a boyfriend a stick to messing around with people. But this one guy did make a move on me. his name is Efrain; dominican, and a senior..hes a real sweetie but..theres a three year difference..we arent even supposed to be dating supposedly.
some of my friends say not to mess around with that..others say screw the law.i agree with that point of course but...what should i do?
hugs&rockets---Michelle
hes 18/m (birthday august 18) im 15/f (birthday june 25)
oh and we're still 'talking'
Guys that try to get with younger girls especially when it's a dude (17-22 or even older) are normally just trying to get in a girls pants. Younger girls who are between (13-17) are usually gullible enough to believe anything their boyfriend's tell them. I'm not trying to be offensive, I'm speaking of what reality is today.
Lets rewind on it, Why exactly is an 18 year old man trying to get with someone who is 15 years old? Perhaps, He can't get anyone his own age or for whatever reason. The fact is, 18 is an adult and sure many people say "Fuck the law" but these are the people that take a huge risk. I personally find it weird when older men look at minors, It's disturbing in my own opinion. It is up too you on what you want but likely the guy just wants to get in your pants. When I was 18, I didn't think about long terms it was a competition to who gets the most ass and that is the truth. If you don't want to be a booty call then be careful who you give yourself too.
this boy said that i have a perky butt what does that mean and is it a good thing or bad thing?
This guy is telling you that you have a nice ass, It's a compliment.
Name key (fake names):
Me: Annabeth
Boyfriend: Jaysyn
I'm 16, a sophomore in high school. My boyfriend, Jaysyn, is a senior, 18. He's really sweet, and it didn't take me long to fall head over heels for him. I met him last year when I was a freshmen and he was a junior, and we started dating one month later. He was always very sweet and understanding about the whole sex thing: he wanted it, but every time I tried, I told him the truth--I'm no where near being ready for that, even if I might want it. Every time I said so, he was really sweet, saying he understood and wouldn't dream of making me do anything I wasn't ready to do. Lately, he's been going back on that promise. He's been getting kind of physical about it, too. Pushing me and shoving me and stuff; a couple of months ago we were at his house watching TV in his room because he gets free movies on his XBox through netflix, and he started kissing my neck and touching my leg and stuff. He was getting really touchy, and pushed his hand away and told me to stop, and he got really mad and he raised his hand as if he was going to hit me, but instead he just pushed me away from him, and I almost fell off the couch. I left when he did that and I went home. He called me five times an hour all night after that, and almost ten times the next day. Since then, he's been getting more violently, and touchy feely and rough, and when I deny him sex he gets really pissed. Last night I got up to leave and he grabbed my arm so hard I thought my wrist would break. Then he pushed me and I fell into the table--my knees are bruised. He called me a whore and a tease and told me I was being a bitch, and I left. This morning we had a date, and I didn't expect or want to go on the date after last night, but he showed up at my house right on time. I told him to go away and started to close the door, but he forced his way into the house and apologized for last night and got my oat from the closet and we went out and actually had a good time. He was really sweet, and he acted as though last night never happened. What do I do?
Your boyfriend is abusive, Abuse is NOT love.
You can think you are head over heels and that he loves you but the truth is he IS abusive. A man does not have to hit a women for it too be categorized as so. Hitting, Pushing, Shoving is all forms of abuse.
He does not respect you and he is bullying you into doing something you are not ready for. Guess what, DUMP HIM. That is the best advise I can give you, If you keep dating someone who treats you like shit, They will continue to treat you like shit. I am a victim of an abusive relationship, I was in one for 5 years and I can tell you it doesn't end by sticking around and hoping for something that will never happen. Abusive people need to seek professional help. You are not being a bitch and in fact I give you full credit for being one of the smart ones that knows that she isn't ready. Your boyfriend is the one with the problem and you need to know that you are way better than that and don't deserve to be treated like shit. Dump him and cut contact, Don't talk too him, Don't even answer his text messages. Guys will say and do anything to get a girl to believe them so here don't even believe him when he says he is sorry. What's done is done..and he has done it on more than one occasion. If he loved you, He would of treated you will love and respect and he abuse it and crossed all lines. It's time to find someone else who will love and respect you.
my boyfriend dosn't talk to me and I don't know if i've done something to piss him off or if he just dosn't want to date me anymore. I don't know what we are? what should I do?
If your boyfriend can't be honest, Then you've got nothing. Here from what you posted...You and your "boyfriend" are nothing.
Your boyfriend is extremely immature, He is leading you into thinking there is something between the two of you. He is wasting your time and your best bet is too talk to him about what his deal is if he still can't be honest then move on and dump him.
I'm 17/f, and sexually active. I know I'm not pregnant because my period ended last week.
So my breasts aren't sore, but my nipples are, and mostly it's just one of them that's sore. It's very sensitive and when my boyfriend touches them, they kind of hurt. This just came out of nowhere a few days ago but has yet to go away. Do you know what this could be from?
If you are sexually active then there is always a chance of pregnancy despite your period ending a week ago. There is no such thing as "safe zone"
If you are sure you are not pregnant and have taken a home pregnancy test, Then likely the cause would be cold air or just your hormones.
Theres this guy Ive been friends with for many months and been dating for over a month. Hes a frickin weirdo and my friends hate him. I come from a conservative New England town and he stands out in wifebeaters and skinny jeans. His friends are the same way-- weird. He goes to com college and never tried in high school, whereas I'm an overachieving senior heading to a competitive school next year. And hes not attractive. My friends are trying to convince me that he's not right for me at all-- and from what I've just said, its obvious to see why. But he's seriously one of the nicest people I've ever met, and the biggest thing is that we share the same morals. He doesnt drink or do drugs, and he believes in treating women with respect. He treats me better than my old boyfriend did. Should I pay attention to the superficial, surface things or just take him how he is? I mean, how many 18 year old guy will I be able to find who actually want to treat me and my body with respect?
You are his girlfriend, This is a guy that treats you like gold and here in the beginning of your question you insulted him?
The main purpose should be excepting him for who is he and not for what he looks like. If you love him, care about him and respect him then who gives a flying crap what your friends think. If you are happy and enjoy being around him then that is all that should matter. Your relationship with your boyfriend shouldn't be what your friends think, It's about you and him. Also, It's not being superficial it's being judgmental.
what are some sites like Rollip.com?
i want to edit my pics with a vintage feel or something like when a pic has a random redish line in the middle?
here are some links as to what im looking for thankss
Try this..
http://www.picnik.com/
My ex (we broke up about 7 months ago) texted me to today for the first time in a looong time. He started with small talk, but then asked me if I would like to get coffee as friends sometime. I don't want to at all, because I'm completely done with that part of my life and he's not the kind of person I would like to spend time with. How do I tell him I don't want to get coffee without being rude? Is simply saying "I'm not comfortable with that" too harsh? He's an easily upset guy.
I've give you a few examples:
1) I'm sorry but it has been 7 months and I have moved on with my life and I feel you should do the same please do not contact me again.
2) I am not interested in having a friendship with you, It has been a long time and I have moved on.
3. I'm sorry but I feel it would be best if we both didn't talk, I have no interest in seeing you again please do contact me.
Seven months is a long time for someone to still be thinking about an ex, You can use the lines I suggested but make sure you let him know that you do not want him to contact you again. Sometimes it isn't about being harsh, It's about getting your point across. If you have to be direct then be direct..he is the one that contacted you first. If he still continues to text you then let out your inner bitch he'll eventually get the picture.
So if you haven't read my last post, I am dating a really nice guy. We've spoken on Facebook and we have mutual friends, but we barely knew each other until Saturday. I spent the whole day with him. I really am beginning to like him. He's very smart, funny, and quirky. I feel really happy around him. He told me he's liked me ever since he texted me from my friend's phone in December...and he said he likes me even more now since we spent the day together.
However, I sometimes feel like he doesn't like me as much as I like him. Like, I know it's early in our relationship, but I can't help but doubt. For instance, he and I barely talked yesterday. He was sweet in person, but through the computer he's rather quiet. He doesn't have a cell so it's difficult to talk unless we speak over yahoo messenger and Facebook. He goes to a different school, too.
I was supposed to meet him at the park an hour ago. I reminded him this morning and last night. He never replied. I think he's shady. He accepted my yahoo request this morning but didn't reply to any of my messages. This is bringing me down.
Help!
I'm going to be honest...
Don't be annoying or he will loose interest very fast. That is not trying to be mean, It's just giving you the heads up.
Sometimes people just aren't talkative over the internet and they would rather talk in person. I'm going to guess but maybe seeing you two spend an entire day together he ran out of things to talk about online? It wasn't right for him to show up at the park, He should of showed some respect and told you he wouldn't be able to make it instead of blowing you off but maybe give him a little bit of space and see if he comes around. If he doesn't..Then maybe he lost interest.