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Relationship on the verge of ending
Me and my boyfriend have been together for for nearly five years. We had decided that we wanted to get married and start a family. But in the last two months things have gotten very hectic. He is extremely stressed because he had not been working.I was going to school and working to pay our bills. He gets very depressed and thinks that I will be better off without him. He has cheated before but that was four years ago and we have already worked that out. Now he thinks that he will do it again and can't be with me because he believes that he will only end up hurting me. I can see that he is happy with me and he does love me, but I don't know how I can fix the problems if he is unwilling to help.
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I am sorry to tel you this, but one person can't fix a relationship by themselves. Both people MUST be willing to work things out, or there is no hope.
I would see what he says about couples therapy. If he is good for it, then go and try to work things out. If not, trust me, there is little hope.
As for the cheating thing, what I hear him saying is: "I am still not getting what I want out of this, so I am always tempted to get it someplace else."
You MUST find out what it is he is looking for, and why he isn't getting it with you... if you want this to work.
If it turns out to be something that you simply cannot offer him, then don't be surprised when he cheats again. He even told you in advance he was thinking about it. :-(
Hard as it is to hear... this may not be the right guy for you.
Good luck, and I hope the best for you.
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Your boyfriend told you that the thinks he may cheat again and is using the fact that he has no job and is depressed as an excuse?? This is the worst excuse I've ever heard anyone come up with.
I'm not sure if you two are still planning on marriage but I sure as hell would rethink it over after hearing that one. You can try to help him find a job but even so the economy is so bad they are supposed to lay off another couple thousand people. If he is unwilling to work things out and try to stay positive for the sake of your relationship then your relationship is going to take it's toll very fast. Relationships cannot work out without trust and commitment. Your boyfriend is NOT the only one suffering without a job. If he is shit of luck and can't find a job..Then I would suggest him to try volunteer work to gain the experience needed for a better job as that is likely required nowadays. Keep him staying positive, Communicate. Hopefully things will work out but if you can't get him too come around...At least you've tried.
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Help him find a job and get back on his feet. and if he truely things he is going to go out and be with someone else just because hes depressed and doesnt have a job is he really for you?
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