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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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How do you show your girlfriend you wont mess up anymore an that she can trust you?
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Depends on the situation, What exactly caused her not too trust you?
Everyone is different, Some people forgive easier then others. You didn't give a reason to why she doesn't trust you but let me lay out a few things..
Sometimes people are hurt so much that they have a hard time trusting people, They push people away to avoid getting hurt again. If you want to show your girlfriend that she can trust you then you may really need to punch through her barrier and even so depending on what you did it isn't always promising that you will get through. Relationships cannot work out if one doesn't trust the other. Relationships are very dependent upon reliability, trust and honesty but what holds it together is communication.
I'm sorry my friend but if you did something along the lines of cheat....You very well may be out of luck.
"Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, forever to repair"
Hi, i am a 17 year-old guy. And i am 5'7, a little higher than that actually, like five foot seven and a half. Am i short? I havent been called it lately, but i just feel like i am short since alot of people are taller than me. Should i be worried about this? Again, i am a 17 year-old guy.
The average male is between 5'9-6'4
However, Everyone comes in different shapes and sizes nobody is exactly the same with makes the world and the people in it unique. Should you be worried? No, Not at all. It is not a bad thing to be a little shorter then other people.
I am 5'10, I dated someone who was 5'7 for 5 years and the difference in height never crossed my mind believe it or not. I didn't care, It didn't matter to me because I loved the person for who they were at the time. Height is not a big deal everyone is different and encase you were wondering I am not a male. Honestly, You are over looking it a person who truly loves you for you will pay no mind to how tall you are or what you like.
I have this red nose that I cannot get rid of lately. At times it looks flaky or as if its peeling a bit so I use lotion and tried green concealer with foundation on top to hide it. Whenever I try to cover it up the make-up just looks as if its caked on even if I use just a little or a lot. This only happens on my nose. I think the problem could be that I have dry skin and am using the wrong product?? I always look for the moisturized products anyhow, but what do you think? Please Help! Thanks!
Vaseline is the best moisturizer
Hey do you think its odd to be 13 and still sleeps with your parents? it is really embarrasing and my grandparents make fun of me and even my own dad but my mom dont. I didnt have my own room until i was 4 and so I always slept eith my parents. Also my siblings and things would scre me about ghosts and stuff and a lot of times I see things like wierd stuff in the middle of the night and I think about ghosts. Also another thing i worry about is that someone will break in and I want to be with my mom. When I have friends spend the night with me I sleep in my own room with them and things (which most of the time we don't sleep) but anyway. Do you think it's wierd or abnormal please help!! Thanks!
At age 13, You should not be sleeping with your parents as it is a little bit inappropriate.
Hi,
I am a man. I am in my middle 20's and I have been in a relationship with the love of my life for almost three years now.
When I was 15 I lost my virginity to my father's girlfriend (she was 40 something at the time). I recall wanting to do it but now I feel like it was statutory rape. I look back on it as a shameful event and I never want to talk about it. This is actually the first time I've written it and told anyone.
My girlfriend/ soon to be fiance and I have never talked about me loosing my virginity. I feel like it will never come up but if it does I won't lie about it.
I just want to know if I was raped. Should I feel ashamed of what happened? Should I tell my girlfriend even though it is not a topic of conversation?
Thanks so much,
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Yes, Despite willingly going along with having sex with this women it still does not change the fact that at the time you were a minor.
Now I'm not saying this is the case but if you did or were thinking about pushing charges it may be a bit too late as there is now no proof of evidence. To answer your question, Yes it is statutory rape. A women of age 40 or even over the age of 18 for that matter should not be having sex with someone under the age of 18. If someone where to be caught they could be charged with the following:
Child Molestation, Lewd acts upon a child, Sexual assault and a whole load of other charges.
I have jack off like 62 times. I was wondering if i could have normal children when i get marry. I just want to know if that could affect me when i get marry and have kids. would it be a problem Or not. I am 18 years old. Will my sperms finish or not. Thank you for giving an advice to me. I really appreciated.
No, The number of times you have masturbated does not have any effect on whether or not you can have children. If that were the case, A lot of people wouldn't be having children.
Iam 22 years old and my ex is 36 but I was only 21 when we was going out and after we broke up which is going on 2 months now and laley for the past 2 weeks Iam even more confused about us becouse things are getting back to the way they were before the breakup and iam afraid he will be controlling again like he was before like he always thought I was cheating on him and I never had the chance but why would I anyway I loved him with all my heart. when we was together I was always in his sight he never left me alone. He sayed it was for my own protection becouse other guys might take advantage of me it was like he didn't trust me at all. I know that's pretty bad and why would I want to be in a relationship like that and I really don't know like I said before iam confused. Right now the relationship is to good part again like I would color him pictures out of my coloring book, make him cards, and every now and then he will give me a kiss, or a hug. He we tell me he loves me and call me sweetheart or sweetie or babydoll can somebody tell me what's going on?
There is a 14 year age difference between the two you, As a 36 year old man he is more experienced. The person below me pretty much nailed it, He treats you like a child because in his eyes you are a child.
There is a reason why he doesn't let you out of his site, You are young and capable of meeting other people. Your boyfriend could also feel that he will never again have someone young interested in him so he may be doing what he can to keep you around. (Very possible) Honestly, If you want someone who is going to treat you right I really think you may want to find someone else closer in age that is as experienced as you. Age plays a huge role and as a older man he is already 2 stages ahead of you in life. You didn't really go into detail about your relationship but if you are afraid he will be controlling again then maybe it's best to back out now because controlling people don't just change on their own.
what does it mean when someone keeps blacking out?
it happens all the time at the most randomest moment. im in a middle of saying something and i just freeze.0.o
It could mean several things but I recommend he/she see a doctor.
Been seeing each other for 6mths and she split up with her ex around a year before we got together, she was staying at my place and we were just chatting and she calls me the ex's name,then i realize and clicked that she still has got a pic with him on FaceBook looking kinda cosy, i kicked a bit of a stink up and talked about it a little, made me feel less a man kinda, what to do?
Does it mean anything? Yes it does.
If your girlfriend is truly over her ex then there should be no reason at all to why she would have a picture of him on her facebook. 6 months is a long time to be dwelling over your ex and the truth is nobody should ever date someone until they are completely over it. Sounds to me that your girlfriend still cares and has feelings towards him and her excuse of him being an asshole is her way of not showing she still cares for him. What to do? Honestly, I would end the relationship. You know deep inside she still feels for her ex or you wouldn't be asking us what to do. You have been in a relationship for 6 months with someone who apparently still cares very deeply for someone else and you are being led on into thinking you are the only man in her life. I would seek someone who is into you for who you are and values your relationship.
my boyfriend asked me "babe , can i have some porn pics of you? :\ "
do you think i should do it? and what exactly do i take a photo of?
im 13 by the way
Don't do it, NEVER do anything if you don't want others to find out. Chances are your boyfriend will show the pictures to his buddies are sky high.
You are 13, You are a minor if your pictures were ever to end up in the wrong hands you could be in a lot of trouble as well as the person(s) viewing your photos. You trust your boyfriend but reality is sometimes boys tend to think outside the box and do it anyway. Your boyfriend could use the photo's when he is angry or upset with you as a way to seek revenge. Don't do it, Say NO
Thinking about having sex in public. My SO and I are going to try it at the park in the woodsy type of area. It's a risk that we're both excited and anxious to take. Thrills are good...
But I wanna do it to where it isn't as noticable as we could make it seem. What positions would be best?
I was thinking about straddling him or something.
You are willing to take this risk knowing there is always a possibility of getting caught? If caught you could be in serious trouble and possibly charged with public exposure.
My advice, Don't do it
A woodsy area has bugs, ticks, poison ivy and god knows what else. Sure, Taking risk are always a thriller but is this really worth it? Think about it..
Ive gained weight, been nauseous, headaches, back aches, weird cravings,my periods out of wack, im starting to get a lil bump, ive tested near my last irregular period and it was negative. Id be about 16weeks. Im really scared. I would go to the doctor but i cant with out my parents knowing.I cant tell them until i know for sure.
Take a test you can buy them at Walmart
Honestly, Somewhere down the line you are going to have to tell your parents if you are. There is no way to hide a pregnancy, Your best bet is too be honest about it rather than have them find out the hard way. You thought you were mature enough to have sex, Now be mature enough to face the consequences.
This is a very long, complex question.
Recently, I just broke up with a guy I dated for about three weeks. I got over that pretty quick, but there's something else in the way.
After all this time, I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend. I'll tell you the whole story.
In August, I met him at the start of sophomore year. He carried my books for me, complimented me, treated me like gold...but I was in a relationship with someone else. And I longed for him, so much, it drew me away from my boyfriend at the time and we broke up because he thought I was boring. Anyway, I started spending more and more time with Semaj, and I was so in love with him that it got to the point where I couldn't sleep at night. He would eat lunch with me, spend every morning with me, and we also had algebra class together. And in January, finally, I made my move. I asked him out.
We had the most wonderful relationship. Semaj was caring. Semaj was patient. Semaj was everything I ever dreamed of. I am very insecure and negative, and he put up with it. He comforted me and became patient with me when I know I was a handful. And every day, I began to fall more and more in love with him. We spent everyday together. He and I had this open trust like any other, this confidence and committment that I thought could never be broken. We shared this deep connection and so many laughs, so many struggles and heartfelt moments. With every kiss I could feel myself falling more and more. And for a while, I believed he was the one for me, the one I would be with forever. We barely had any conflict, barely any arguments, barely any fights or tears or upsetting days. He always knew just what to say, how to make me laugh, how to make me smile. He would hold me every morning and kiss my forehead while I smiled up at him. I felt perfect. I felt loved. I felt like I could never be hurt. You see, my past relationships have been full of pain, lies, and heartbreak. But with Semaj, I was invincible. He promised to always be there.
My family really liked him, too. And although we had a few bits and pieces of drama because we were a black and white couple, we conquered. We conquered through it all. I felt like I was on top of the world, with him. I felt like I was truly loved. It was all so new to me to be treated like this, and it took me a long time to trust him and really pour out my emotions. But when I did, he returned his feelings. He and I had a strong bond, and we never kept a single secret from each other, and we always told each other our true feelings. We shared mutual likes and dislikes, laughed at all the same things, and had a good connection right from the start. I loved him every since that first day. I thought our love could never end. But it did.
The afternoon he broke up with me was pretty normal. It was a Monday, in March, I believe, and it was caused by a single text: "My dad is coming to town and I don't want him causing drama." I responded, "Okay." "Okay, so you're okay with being friends?" It came out of no where. I hadn't even expected it. I got very upset and he got angry and claimed he was going to make this breakup temporary but since I freaked it was permanent. I was extremely hurt. I cried my eyes out for about two hours. And later on, he agreed he'd work it out...and he said to wait for his decision. And so I waited. Every morning I saw him, but it was mournful. I cried each and every time, because I couldn't take it. He eventually told me his decision on Thursday.
He broke up with me face to face. I cried in his arms. He said he wanted to be in my life still, as my friend, and he'd take care of me and help me and be there for me, always. I am very emotional so it takes me a long time to get over things, so I told him that. He accepted and then we just decided to be friends. I still loved him though. Later on, he told me he broke up with me because I was depressing. He said he'd never been so depressed before in his life, and I was an emotional roller coaster. I was extremely upset, and I still am. I wish I could go back and change it.
In the days that followed, I began to fall for someone else as I got over Semaj. Semaj texted me that he wanted to get back together the day some other guy asked me out. I told him to wait for me to decide, and he said no. Semaj was very angry that I said to wait. He instantly got angry and told me to forget it. And then, it just died. I knew he wasn't worth it if he wouldn't wait for me. But still, I yearned. I'd see him everyday. Our friendship began to fade into nothing. He was rude, bratty, and snobby, always calling me mean names and doing mean things when he knew I was sensitive. I got angry and we both cussed each other out. I was done. We stopped talking. And now, we barely talk. I still feel myself want to burst into tears when I see him. We exchange few words in class, but it is mostly playful jerkiness. Sometimes it hurts though. I try so hard to be his friend and he is jerky.
But putting all that aside, I miss him like crazy. He was the first guy I really fell in love with, the first guy to ever love me like I loved him. I've been thinking about him constantly...and I miss him so much. I don't know what to do because I still want him. Yet we barely talk, and if I told him I still love him he'd probably be mean or say he has a girlfriend or something. Some days I don't know why I liked him because he's so mean...he's changed since we went out.
But the breakup made me stronger. I have been awakened. I have been more positive and willing to think optimistically, and I want to show him I can be positive. I want him back.
I'm not saying this is the case but while reading this I thought to myself "Sounds too good to be true"
Semaj treated you like gold then after a brief split he treats you like crap when he was the one originally suggesting you two should remain friends.
Sounds like Semaj may have put on one hell of an act. The truth, When people get angry sometimes the real truth about them appears. Anyway, The only thing I can tell you is too try and talk to Semaj write him a letter if you have too and have him read it on his own time. One thing you should keep in the back of your mind though is Semaj broke up with you, If he doesn't want to fix things then you cannot force him to work things out. If he is mean then why exactly do you want to date him?
I'm 21 years old, I'm going to school full time, I don't have a job yet (I just got hired at a place for the summer while I'm not going to school though), and I have no form of insurance whatsoever. My dad still claims me as a dependent on his taxes but I pay for every penny of my school (that's tuition and fees, rent, and everything else) with federal loans. Basically, I'm completely broke.
The last time I went to the dentist was over a year ago. I had a LOT of dental work that needed to be done (like over 10 cavities) but my dad couldn't afford to get it done. And like I said, it's been over a year now. My wisdom teeth are coming in and I can see visible cavities.
I'm really scared, because my mom lost all of her teeth by the time she was like 35 because we never had dental insurance. I don't know what to do. I've been researching dental colleges but still can't really afford to do anything, unless I take out a loan or something. Please, is there anything I can do? I'm so desperate and I'm scared. I don't want to lose all my teeth. Is there any other option for me?
BTW - My school doesn't offer dental insurance either.
Alright,
The best place I can suggest if you don't have insurance is to see if your local area has a Thundermist. Thundermist excepts everyone and people without insurance are put on a sliding scale where they can make monthly payments.
If you do not have a Thundermist in your area then all I can tell you is to call around and see which areas will allow you to do a sliding scale.
Me and my boyfriend try to have a baby, but a lot of my friends have baby's and they tell me if my boyfriend have a low amount of sperms i can not get pregnet.... :-(
how i know if my boyfriend have a good amount of sperm to get me pregnet??????
You are not ready for a baby, If you listen to what your friends say then obviously you are not ready.
There is much more to parent hood then just doing it because all of your other friends have babies, This is by far the worst excuse I've come across. Read up on what it means to be a parent and rethink your situation and it is pregnant not pregnet.
IM 17, male, a senior in HS
my girlfriend who is younger just broke it off with me, since she said she was losing feelings for me. but i realy know that she is just scared, like really scared, and she is getting pressure from me and from her mom. Her mom doesnt want her to date. I dont know what to do and now i am literally heartbroken...... I dont want to get over her. I just want her back.
How do i Win her back?
Assuming you are the same guy who posted this previous question: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=593350
There is nothing you can do as a minor her mother has the right to say who she does and does not date. If she was loosing feelings for you then you cannot force her to be in a relationship. I'm sorry you are hurting but apparently the previous answers didn't seem to faze you so I am being a little more blunt. As long as you dwell over the situation you are going to be hurt, You are soon to be graduating high school and she has another 3 more years left. Life changes even when we don't want them too. It's just the way it goes but like I said before you will meet new people but for now I really think you should find ways to keep yourself occupied.
I've done a lot of things sexual, but I've never really had real intercourse. When I was young, I had a quick fix with an ex, but I'm not even sure if he went that deep. I'm a little scared if I have sex I will bleed or something if the guy goes deep.
But one of my other fears is prevention. I've never had sex with a condom, and I am a very worrisome person. I've been reading tips online, but my nerves won't calm. I'm scared that even if I used a condom, something bad will happen. I cannot afford birth control and my parents would surely go ballistic. I know how to be responsible, and I feel ready now.
Any advice?
If you are scared then you are not ready for sex.
Condoms are 99% effective but even so it doesn't always do the trick. If you cannot afford birth control then you can call and find out what places can put you on a sliding scale where you can pay off little by little. As a doctors patient you are entitled to your privacy as well. Birth control and condoms are as safe as you are going too get. However like I said in the beginning if you are scared and nervous...You are not ready.
I just got my period yesterday and i am really nervous and embaressed to tell my mom. Any ideas of how i can tell my mom? please help...
Don't be embarrassed it is perfectly normal to have a period, Every women goes through it. If anything your mother is expecting you to confront her about it.
Just sit down with her and tell her that you had started your period. Your mom won't be mad it is a perfectly normal thing.
16, f
the guy i like doesn't like white girls. he is hispanic and he prefers hispanics. what should i do? we talk all the time and we flirt. but it hurt to know that he would never like me because of my race. he isn't racist because we are great friends, but what can i do to change his mind? what can i do do make him more open minded?
There isn't much you can do, You can't change what people are attracted too.
I am white, I have a lot of friends who are black but I wouldn't date any of them because I am attracted to white/fair skinned people.
Dangernerd makes an excellent point and your best bet is to remain friends.
Im 17, male, a senior in high school about to graduate.
Just last night my girlfriend, who is a freshman, broke my heart, when she said that she wouldnt anytime soon. We talked this whole week and everything was just perfect. But suddenly, her whole heart changed overnight and she told me that she was losing feelings for me. The thing is, that since shes a freshman, her mom doesnt allow her to date, so that was why she broke it off with me because she was sick of sneaking around. It wasnt because of me, its all because her mom.
I was broken, but i at least wanted to spend my senior prom with her. And then she told me she couldnt go. It all happened yesterday, and i was shocked that i lost the best girlfriend i've ever had, and lost the chance to go to Prom. and prom is so close by that it's too late to ask anyone.
MY heart is broken and she is all i can think about, and everything seems dark to me. And what is worse, is that she seems completely happy on facebook and she's talking to a bunch of guys. I always have bad luck with this, and it always happens to me.
PLease help. How do you heal a broken heart?
Your ex is a freshman in high school, She is young.
You are going off to college in a few months and to be honest once you leave high school you begin the next step in life. You start a job, You make friends, You go to a new school and you eventually meet people and as much as you may not think right now you WILL meet people. This girl is still in high school and likely she is just getting the hang of dating, She isn't serious. Life goes on, You have to try and be positive about the situation and look at it as a new opportunity. If you need it, Take a break from dating for awhile.