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I still sleep with my parents.
Hey do you think its odd to be 13 and still sleeps with your parents? it is really embarrasing and my grandparents make fun of me and even my own dad but my mom dont. I didnt have my own room until i was 4 and so I always slept eith my parents. Also my siblings and things would scre me about ghosts and stuff and a lot of times I see things like wierd stuff in the middle of the night and I think about ghosts. Also another thing i worry about is that someone will break in and I want to be with my mom. When I have friends spend the night with me I sleep in my own room with them and things (which most of the time we don't sleep) but anyway. Do you think it's wierd or abnormal please help!! Thanks!
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First off, once and awhile is okay, like once every few months, but for comfort, why not try sleeping with a bear instead? I'm 22 and I still sleep with a bear, if anything happened your parents are just in the other room, you can call for them.
I believe ghosts are real, but most wouldn't hurt you hun, they are just spirits of people who died, so they can be good or bad.
If you are really that scared of ghosts maybe you should face your fears, or do something like a cleansing of your room[with an adult around]
You can't sleep with your parents forever, when you live on your own someday[which I'm sure you want to do] you wont come home to sleep with your parents, just like you wouldn't if you went to college.
I don't think you're abnormal at all, I think you're confused.
It's wrong for them to make fun of you, but your mother is enabling you too and that isn't right either.
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Your jagging the fear thing way too much.
It actually is not good for your development as an independent human being to still be cuddling up with mom at night.
Your chance of being burglarized while you are home is exceedingly low. The overwhelming portion of them occur while people aren't home. Breaking into an occupied dwelling carries with it sentence enhancements and even possible kidnapping charges. You are unlikely to be able to defend yourself anyway at your age and your mom definitely won't.
Ghosts don't exist.
So chill out, sleep in your own room and don't give into the fear. Fear is used mainly to control people (in the case of the media, which has been on a big fear spree the last couple of decades, they use it to draw eyeballs). Don't let them control you. Take control of your life since you are the only one who can live it and go on from there.
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I slept with my mom until i was like 14. But not like everyday... and im a guy too haha. I didnt do it everyday, i only did it when i felt uneasy when i slept or had bad dreams or was paranoid and scared. But i didnt even sleep through the whole night with her, i would usually just rest in her bed for a few hours and go back to my own room.
If you do it everyday, then i would say it is a little unusual. But hey, you are 13. These are the times where hormones take rollercoasters and you dont know what you are feeling. You feel scared, and there is no reason why you should torture yourself by sleeping alone. If you do it everyday, then i suggest taking an alternative, but seriously. Its not that unusual. You will grow out of it.
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it's normal to be stressing about ghosts and burglaries at that age but it's definately innapropiriate to be sleeping with your parents and i'm sure that they want their privacy so why don't you try sleeping with a night light for a while until you can sleep in the dark or keep a monitor or something so if their are burglaries(which i doubt) your parents will hear it
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At age 13, You should not be sleeping with your parents as it is a little bit inappropriate.
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It is abnormal to be sleeping with your parents at this age. It means that there are some emotions inside you that you need to deal with.
For some reason, you feel unsafe and insecure at night. You need your parents presence to feel protected.
Perhaps you would consider going to a therapist to discuss this, and see what is really bothering you that you can't sleep alone.
I think you should try to gradually break away and begin to be more independent by sleeping in your own room. After all, you are a teenager! You want to do your own thing with your friends and you will be going through a lot of changes these next few years. The privacy and alone time of sleeping in your own room is really needed. I'm sure your parents would also like some privacy!
First, try sleeping on the floor by your parents bed. You're still close to your parents but at least in your own 'bed'. Do this for a few nights.
Then, try sleeping right outside their room by the door. You can leave the door open if you want. Keep this up until you feel comfortable.
Now, try to sleep in your own bed at least one night a week. Get a night light and maybe a noisemaker that plays soothing sounds (like the ocean or rainfall) that will keep you feeling safe. I sleep with a fan on because it blocks out background noise, because I am superstitious like you and it creeps me out to hear any noises late at night.
I also sleep with a pillow over my head to further 'block' anything out. You could get one of those eye masks and ear plugs/the noisemaker to block out any odd sounds that might scare you. You can sleep with the door open or closed, and just remember, your parents are only footsteps away! You are safe.
I hope you can try these things and start to feel more independent. My brother slept with my parents for a long time, but now he loves having his own private room to be in. You will too!
Good luck,
-Abby
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