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Depression
i have gone through depression and i am 13 i am still going to therapy and it is helping me alot and i have become alot less stressed and anxious and calmer about my life. But my father hasnt been in my life for quite some time now and i dont miss him i am much releved and happier. i dont miss him i miss having a father but i guess everyone goes through big bumps in ur road of life no matter what age you are. and times occur in the most randoom time i will strat crying becuase i see a happy fmaily or something and that make me sad and i cry and i get it out and the next day im fine. but prior to my depression while still seeing my father i had cut and smoked which i was not proud of and am proud of that i stopped, but i was not addcited to either one but neither was helping me. So anyway prior to my depression from family troubles, let me also say me and my mom and siblings fought alllll the time and it was horrible and sucicidal throught came across my mind and i felt like i was the lonliest sole on this earth that could not connect with anyone else including family and friends, becuase i was mentally abused by my father; and im happy he's out of my life. and so now i have a better relationship with my siblings and a lil with my mom. But not a challenge i face everyday is to become like i was before the depression and my family split, i was a great leader as a friend, sister, and sport player. aND Iwould like to be like that and have but also have the life lessons i've learned. Because i am such a down to earth girl and independent smart funny and nice but tought girl. And now it seems very hard open up or act the way i used to. So for example when i go to parties i like to dance in front of everyone and have a good time. But its sad because i need to have caffenie like coke a cola and then eventually it wears off but then im still dancing becuase then im fine and confdent. sO all i really want to be is more confident and happy and make sure that hole is filled with my saddness and i just want to be happy. So how do i become myslef and happy and confident like i always and was before besides sports because i do sports? to fulfill my life at 13 would to wish to be more confident. if i said this 2 years ago it would be a joke becuase i was nothing but that, not cocky at all but comfortable. to be more confident would mean i would raise my hand in class, raise my grades, be happier, be outloud and funny like i always am, not get benched and be a better friend and sister, and thats what i always was. How do i get to be like that again? thank you sosososos much!
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Hey girl... I am also suffering from depression!!and yea.. I also have a messed up family! my parents and my siblings dont really support me and always put me down by telling me that I am not good enough!It kills me to hear that! Right now, I am living alone for myself! I was lucky to have a good friend who help me maintain my self-esteem! My other friends kill me with their painful words! I tried to kill myself about a year ago but someone came and found me on the right time! I got better after that..with all the medication and sports but I do feel lonely and down from time to time! I feel give up at times! depression can really kill you! and trust me, if you are in medication, keep taking it! REmember! depression is also chemical imbalance in your brain!keep doing sport! meditation and healthy diet are important for you! I know that there are urge to smoke and drink but DONT!!! Please! Healthy body leads you to healthy mind,sweetheart!! Talk to one person you trust!(please! This is important!) Dont expect to much on people! Be who u used to be! Its still there with you! its just hiding somewhere because of your depression! Trust me..if you need therapy, do it! if you need to talk, talk! depression may hurt you in daily basis, but its your choice to conquer it! You can do! I believe you are such a wonderful girl!!You have lots to do! There will be many thing you can do in years to come!You are healthy, You are normal and You can always be happy! Do what is good for you -physically,mentally, emotionally and spiritually!!And I do know that deep down you know what can really help you! just have a bit time for yourself! Youll find it again! :)
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Confidence is a universal problem. For example, one of the things most people really fear is having to speak in public. There are famous rock musicians and NFL players who throw up before concerts or games due to nerves. You also have to realize that kids your age experience a lot of insecurity as their minds and bodies evolve and each is attempting to figure out who he or she is. So the lack of confidence you feel is part and parcel of being a teenager. Don't overthink it. Just recognize it as, "this is what I am going through right now" and keep looking forward to the next day. Every day you get further away from old wounds and get better and better.
Here is how I deal with things when I get a little down:
1. Do I have a roof over my head? Yes.
2. Am I able to eat regularly? Yes
3. Am I healthy? Yes
4. Do I live in a safe environment? Yes
So already I'm doing better than half the planet. Pretty good, huh?
Then I go on:
5. Am I an ethical person? Yes
6. College degree? Yes
7. Decent job? Yes
8. Kind to animals? Yes
9. Good relationship with my parents? Yes
Man, I'm liking me and my slice of life better and better after that. It might be simpleminded, but I'm grateful for everything I have. I've been really lucky, so it's kinda tough to really have anything to complain about in a major way. I don't know if that is useful to you, but there it is.
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I went through alot of the same things as you when i was a teenager. We go through trials (hard times) in our lives and this is not the end of the road for your hard times. Not to be negative, but this life is not easy, but you HAVE to be strong. Everything negative that happens to you, WILL make you a stronger person!! Things are extra hard for you right now because of your age. If you have changed because of things that have happened to you, you can ALWAYS become the person you long to be. Think of the things that you do that you DO NOT want to be doing, try your best to change them. Even if it's taking one day at a time, atleast your putting in effort. Always know that it takes time, strength, and forgiving your self IF you've done things your not proud of. This will not happen over night. You can do it though! Don't EVER think you can't do it! I'm still trying to become the person i used to be and WANT to be. When bad things happen in our lives, it changes us and some of that change will not go away. It's just who we become. I'm 28 years old and that's something i'm still working on. Treat people the way you want to be treated, be the best person you know how to be! As for the confidence, think about all the things you like about yourself, think about how pleasant you will feel and how pleasant it will be for others to be around you! If you think badly of yourself, then that shows to other people, with out you saying a word! I also think your low confidence could be your age. It's hard for young girls to have high confidence in this society and your getting to the age where alot of things are going to start to change. Your emotions and the crying is probably puberty, and what you've been through. Hormones play a big part in your emotions. And your hormones are going crazy right now! You've been through alot to be 13 years old. Be proud of yourself for making it through and not giving up completely! This life is so hard, trust me i know, but you CAN do it! Give yourself more credit, and DON'T underestimate yourself. Good luck Sweetie and be strong, chin up :) -Christy
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It takes a lot of time to heal from depression. But eventually things do get a whole lot better.
I know it sucks now, I really do, but I promise that if you take it day by day, you will slowly start to see a change in yourself.
It's hard not having a normal or perfect family. It's totally normal to be upset or angry that you don't have that father figure in your life, but remember that you still have those other amazing people in your family. It may be hard when you fight with your mum and siblings, but they love you so much more than they could ever tell you. And no matter what, they'll be there for you.
Sometimes I like to think that everything happens for a reason. Depression is awful, but from my own experience I realised that it matured me a lot as a person. Now, I'm able to talk to people that have depression and understand what they're going through. And the great part is I can give them advice to help them out a little. If I had never been through depression, I never would have been able to help the few people that I have.
Just be positive about yourself. Say nice things to yourself, to remind you that you are a confident girl and that you can be just as happy as you were before. Don't force yourself to be the girl you were before, let it grow naturally. If you know the answer in class, take a risk and put your hand up. Doing little things to break those fears will make you realise that there's nothing to be afraid of.
Recovering from depression is a battle that you have to fight every single day, but I promise sweetie that it does get better. Hold your head high and be proud of yourself for quitting smoking and cutting, and remember every day how amazing you are.
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