I LOVE giving advice so thought this was perfect for me. I actually came here to GET advice and ended up GIVING it. Ask me anything, i do not care what it is. I'm married with 4 kids so i'd be real good at relationship advice or parenting advice. I'll answer them the best way i can! Through my own personal experiences.
E-mail: christyjonescleckler@yahoo.com
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Location: Alabama
Age: 28
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Okay, so i've liked this guy for like legit 3 years. I'm a freshman in high school and he's a sophomore. He's mad popular and really good at sports. He's known that i've liked him ever since he's been in 8th grade and i've been in 7th grade. I like him a lot, and i want him more than anything. And i really wanna get to know this kid, but i'm afraid to say hey to him, or even smile at him. He looks at me constantly, and so do his friends. Sometimes he can't even look away from me, and he gives me mixed signals and looks. What do i do, do i say hi? or no? I'm friends with him on Facebook and whenever he's online i always stare at the screen waiting for him to chat or message me, but he never does. I don't wanna waste my time on him for the rest of my life, i think i may be falling in love with this kid, and i don't even know him. And i see him everywhere. I'm like obsessed, and i don't know why. God gives me tons of signals everyday, but i just am too scared. Is he waiting for me to say hey, or talk to him first? Why would he be waiting for me? he seems like the kind of guy that would never like me, but everyone knows that i like him, even his brother gives me looks. All the girls think he's like mad cute and hot, and he is, but then again other people say he's a tool and such. I just don't wanna believe them. Please help.
sincerely,
a girl who needs answers. (link)
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I had a similar crush in school and i did the SAME thing your doing. Always looking at him, i even wrote him a 4 page letter, put it in his locker, but didnt put my name on it. He never knew it was me, but to THIS DAY i regret not talking to him and putting myself out there, because i will never know what COULD'VE happened because of that. So, as scared as you are, just DO IT! Talk to him, message him on facebook. Whatever you want to do. Take a chance sweetie and do it. If you don't, you will regret it, like me. -Christy
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20 Female. Connor 19
Me and Connor used to "talk" for about 4 months. We actually got really close, like we could talk about everything. That's until he decided he didn't want to talk anymore and blew up on me. We didn't talk for about 2 months and then he eventually apologized twice for being such a jerk and asked if we could still be friends. Connor has a big house, and so they always have these huge parties. Well he said I could come with Joe (One of my good friends, who also knows Connor through hockey) one time and that he hopes to see me over the summer.
I haven't talked to Connor in about a month now since he asked if we could still be friends. Well just yesterday Joe texted me saying "Are we gonna go to Connor's this summer for a party sometime?" and I said "Haha yeah we can but I'm sure it will be kind of weird at first with everything that happened so you can't leave me right away!"
The thing is, I'd really like to see Connor again and be friends. It's just that I know it's gonna be awkward since it would be the first time I'd seen him since everything happened. I know he'd be nice to me but I also wouldn't know anyone except Connor and Joe at the party. I'd hate to be that awkward person. I'm not that good with meeting new people. Once I get to know someone, I'm outgoing but going into a party with a bunch of people I dont know, I will be intimidated.
Plus there is always a lot of girls that go too I guess, so I have a feeling they will be staring at me and being like "Whose that girl?" I know I'd get along good with the guys though.
Do you think I should go? I really want to, I'd obviously be really nervous but I think it'd be good for me. How can I fit in with everyone and not be that "awkward person" Of course it's gonna be even more nerve-wrecking with all those girls there that I don't know (you know how girls can be) so how can I be someone that's approachable? ANY suggestions? Thanks! :) (link)
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I mean all you can do is be YOURSELF and if people don't like that then say screw you!! Don't EVER change for ANYONE! If your shy until you get to know someone a little bit, thats completely okay. Just say "hey" to people as you walk by, smile, don't walk by with your head down and not speak! Then you will be the "awkward" girl! Just hold your head high (with out being cocky), be confident, talk to people, and laugh alot. Let others know that your having a good time. Don't let the girls "intimidate" you! Their nervous just like you are except they just don't let anyone know! If you feel someone looking at you, but not saying anything, just say "hey what's up? or how's it going?" lol make them feel like an idiot for staring! The main thing though, just be YOU! HAVE FUN!It's a party! And plus you want to see Connor! About that, don't let it be "awkward" between you two. Let the past be the past and look towards the future! Going to the party might help you with your "shyness" and you never know, you might meet some cool people there and make some new friends! OR even meet a guy! Theres all kinds of stuff that can happen at a party lol! But also be careful. I think you should for SURE go to this party! Don't worry about the girls there. Good Luck and have some FUN, girl! -Christy
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17/f
Two days ago I had a sore throat and I thought that maybe I was getting a cold. The following day, I woke up and I was sneezing had a runny nose, and felt like my head was in a cloud. I am not coughing at all, but my ears hurt and my head hurts too. I've never had allergies before, but when I looked up my symptoms, it seemed to match up with the symptoms of hayfever. Do I have allergies? If so, should I go see a doctor? I took Zyrtec last night but it didn't help whatsoever. I feel terrible :-\ Help! (link)
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i'm not a doctor, but it sounds like allergies to me or a upper resppitory infection. Your allergies are probably causing "drainage" so thats why your ears are probably hurting, and the sore throat as well. You can also run a fever. Just go to the doctor if it doesn't get better with in a few days. Or try some different "over the counter" meds. Like Benadry. Hope you feel better! -Christy
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so i liked this guy for a while. not a big crush, but he was freakin' amazing.. then my bestfriend started liking him, and eventually they went out. So they jut broke up.. and i'm over him now, and started liking someone else who i've had feelings for, but not exactly liked since i was in first grade. and guess what.. she likes him now! and asked him who he liked.. and he said her and not me. So what do i do? :( (link)
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WRITING BACK FROM WHAT YOU POSTED. Maybe SHE needs a new friend then. You dont COMPETE with your best friend over boys! And then come online to ask advice about something that YOUR doing! And also didn't explain alot so made it sound different than what it really is. You are immature to try and fight over a guy with your friend, that's stupid and it's going to cause NOTHING but drama with your friend. Do you not see that? Probably not. Live and learn, Honey. Your young, you should listen to someone who's been there, but thats it. Your not going to because your young! You will figure out it's not the best thing to do when it blows up in your face! Obviously he likes your friend, so theres nothing else for you to really even do, besides back off. -Christy
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I've been on the pill for 4 months now and my boyfriend aand i just started to have unprotected sex. He never cums inside me but for some reason i'm scared that i may be pregnant.
I got my period ( a light period) while on the 3rd placebo pill and it lasted about 3 days. THEN i just started to take Loestrin 24FE instead of beyaz and i feel gross. I'm so nauseous . i'm on the 9th new pill now. Should i get a test?
thanks (link)
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A test NEVER hurts! I'm married and have 4 kids and i still take pregnancy test just to make myself feel better! If your worried just get a test. You can buy one for like a dollar in some stores! I'm not going to give any advice about the pill because i know nothing about it, but always remember with the pregno test, there can be a "false" negative, but theres NEVER a "false" positive. I was told that by a doctor. Good luck!- Christy
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Is there something wrong with me?
I cant stay still for long (about 10-15 mins) before I have to change position and ill start movin my feet around or somethin. Especially in school when im in my lessons. Ill be sat there and ill just start moving my legs and feet and ill be messing with my hands or somethin, I get really uncomfortable. I also find it really hard to concentrate. I try telling myself that Ill concentrate this lesson, we get ten minutes in and im daydreaming. I tune out and when I come back to earth i wont've heard a word the teacher said. I also get bored really easily and this is also a slight problem in my relationship. I feel really selfish because I wont be able to keep makin out or anything because Ill get bored if its not got my excited or got me really into it. If I am at home and told to do somethin Ill try to put it off, Im a very disorganized person and Im hopeless for planning in advance. I also get naffed off about things easily but I can keep that in my head and ill get upset over tiny little things or whatever. If im not doin somethin I like ill just get bored and not want to do it or ill get distracted and do something else which will lead me to getting told off. I really do try to concentrate on things but it just feels boring unless im doing something I like to do. I know I probably just sound like any average teen but I look around and everyone else is managing to keep up. Ill end up tryin to talk to a friend when they are busy or working which will again get me told off. Im also really loud and I don't even notice, ive been told that im being to loud when im talkin when i get really into it and i dont even notice how loud im being, ill also end up annoying people without me realising. Ive also been told im childish and to grow-up but i cant, i really cant help it.
Sorry this question was so long. But I just want to know what might be wrong with me..
Thanks,
F/15 (link)
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It sounds like you have ADD/ADHD. iT'S where you have a hard time concentrating, get bored with one thing and move to the next. My husband has ADHD and at times he annoys the living crap out of me. He can read a book and when he's done with it, he doesn't remember ANYTHING he just read! You should go see a doctor is my advice. They can put you on medicine that will help with ALL of that. Alot of kids have this so it does not mean your crazy or abnormal. My husband couldnt stay in one place for long when we were dating. He'd come over and stay 15 minutes, next thing i know he's leaving. I thought he didnt like me, but it was because he couldn't sit still AND he got bored. I really think this is what you have, go see a doctor sweetie. Good luck! -Christy
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Okay I'm pregnant with my current boyfriends baby and I have three choices. My first choice is to move in with my sister while he gets a job and we both move in together. My second choice is move in with him and his family. My last choice which is giving me the biggest problems is staying with my mom and my other sister. The problem with that is that me and that sister don't get along and both her and my mom don't want me to be with my boyfriend until he gets a job. I love my boyfriend so much and I don't want to live with my mom and she is trying to force me into staying with her but I don't want to because I wont be able to see him. My question is out of the three which one would sound like the best choice for me right now? (btw I'm 19) (link)
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I feel like the best place for you to stay is the place where the LEAST stress is! Your pregnant, you have to think about your baby and you can have a miscarriage if your under too much stress! You love your bf and your family, but NO stress is what you need right now. Good luck sweetie! -Christy
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i have gone through depression and i am 13 i am still going to therapy and it is helping me alot and i have become alot less stressed and anxious and calmer about my life. But my father hasnt been in my life for quite some time now and i dont miss him i am much releved and happier. i dont miss him i miss having a father but i guess everyone goes through big bumps in ur road of life no matter what age you are. and times occur in the most randoom time i will strat crying becuase i see a happy fmaily or something and that make me sad and i cry and i get it out and the next day im fine. but prior to my depression while still seeing my father i had cut and smoked which i was not proud of and am proud of that i stopped, but i was not addcited to either one but neither was helping me. So anyway prior to my depression from family troubles, let me also say me and my mom and siblings fought alllll the time and it was horrible and sucicidal throught came across my mind and i felt like i was the lonliest sole on this earth that could not connect with anyone else including family and friends, becuase i was mentally abused by my father; and im happy he's out of my life. and so now i have a better relationship with my siblings and a lil with my mom. But not a challenge i face everyday is to become like i was before the depression and my family split, i was a great leader as a friend, sister, and sport player. aND Iwould like to be like that and have but also have the life lessons i've learned. Because i am such a down to earth girl and independent smart funny and nice but tought girl. And now it seems very hard open up or act the way i used to. So for example when i go to parties i like to dance in front of everyone and have a good time. But its sad because i need to have caffenie like coke a cola and then eventually it wears off but then im still dancing becuase then im fine and confdent. sO all i really want to be is more confident and happy and make sure that hole is filled with my saddness and i just want to be happy. So how do i become myslef and happy and confident like i always and was before besides sports because i do sports? to fulfill my life at 13 would to wish to be more confident. if i said this 2 years ago it would be a joke becuase i was nothing but that, not cocky at all but comfortable. to be more confident would mean i would raise my hand in class, raise my grades, be happier, be outloud and funny like i always am, not get benched and be a better friend and sister, and thats what i always was. How do i get to be like that again? thank you sosososos much! (link)
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I went through alot of the same things as you when i was a teenager. We go through trials (hard times) in our lives and this is not the end of the road for your hard times. Not to be negative, but this life is not easy, but you HAVE to be strong. Everything negative that happens to you, WILL make you a stronger person!! Things are extra hard for you right now because of your age. If you have changed because of things that have happened to you, you can ALWAYS become the person you long to be. Think of the things that you do that you DO NOT want to be doing, try your best to change them. Even if it's taking one day at a time, atleast your putting in effort. Always know that it takes time, strength, and forgiving your self IF you've done things your not proud of. This will not happen over night. You can do it though! Don't EVER think you can't do it! I'm still trying to become the person i used to be and WANT to be. When bad things happen in our lives, it changes us and some of that change will not go away. It's just who we become. I'm 28 years old and that's something i'm still working on. Treat people the way you want to be treated, be the best person you know how to be! As for the confidence, think about all the things you like about yourself, think about how pleasant you will feel and how pleasant it will be for others to be around you! If you think badly of yourself, then that shows to other people, with out you saying a word! I also think your low confidence could be your age. It's hard for young girls to have high confidence in this society and your getting to the age where alot of things are going to start to change. Your emotions and the crying is probably puberty, and what you've been through. Hormones play a big part in your emotions. And your hormones are going crazy right now! You've been through alot to be 13 years old. Be proud of yourself for making it through and not giving up completely! This life is so hard, trust me i know, but you CAN do it! Give yourself more credit, and DON'T underestimate yourself. Good luck Sweetie and be strong, chin up :) -Christy
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my ex had full custody of my 6 year old daughter,i heard stories of abuse and neglect so i called the 800 # for abuse and neglect the local cps went out said ;there were no findings' that was 2009,september 2010 they went out again because of new allegations,this time it was founded,my daughter was removed because mother and stepfather were abusing drugs neglecting my daughter,and the mother was abusing her mentally as well,this was all admitted in court by the mother,instead of me getting my child she was placed with step fathers family non blood,the mother told cps i wasnt in my childs life etc,i am applying for custody in 2 weeks,now she and stepfather get 'supervised visits' and the supervisors are the step fathers family,my daughters demeanor has changed drastically ,she rushes me off the phone non loving afraid of me so i called cps and told them mental abuse is still going on,they brush off everything i say,the law guardian has no clue about the case or my daughter,how can i get someone to advocate for my daughter?the county was told to have my daughter go to therapy i as the father set up the appointment,cps is being very relaxed but i fear now for my 6 year olds mental well being,no one is taking my claims serious no one is listening to me,and the biggest part is the mother over a 3 year period of time told my daughter that the new husband is 'daddy' i just need help to protect my daughter,when we go to court no one is prepared,or clueless,the child was removed from dutchess county n.y.,and placed in westchester county n.y.,so cps passed it along to westchester county as a 'courtesty' westchester just goes twice a month to make sure the child is ok phyisically'what rights as a father do i have? what petitions can i file in court?and since the child was removed they said it is called article 10 custody of ******,who has custody county or article 10 people?i just need help and need to get more stricter supervised visits and i need phone calls to be monitored,but am unsure on how to do so,case is in dutchess county n.y.and my daughters mom is telling cps worker that she does not want me in my daughters life and does not want me around her,so what makes a person believe that she the mother isnt feeding her head with more stuff.parental alienation is key it has and is happening,there has to be an intervention,thank u for any help/advice (link)
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Yes, i agree you need a lawyer! Your lawyer can answer all these questions you have. Keep calling child services, so they will keep going out. Don't give up! Do you pay child support? Are yall legally separated or divorced? Or were yall married to begin with? If your divorced you should have visitation rights, and there should be a putition sent to the judge by your lawyer. If you were never married, everything is gonna be even harder. Good luck, but just GET A LAWYER!!!! YOU NEED ONE! -Christy
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okay, im 17 years old and wont be turning 18 till december.. i am pregnant and due in september.. im covered under my moms medical insurance, and i know my baby wont be able to go under my moms because grandchildren are not covered by their grandparents medical. SO, i have to get my own medical so that the baby will be covered under my insurance.. because im under 18, it is to my knowledge that i have to get medical from the state because it is the cheapest and easiest way i guess..? butttt...... my mom is telling me that if i get medical from the state, my boyfriend has to pay child support to the state.. is that true? he doesnt believe me because he hates my mom and he thinks my mom is trying to screw him over... (link)
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I really don't think just because your getting "medical insurance" from the state your bf has to pay child support to the state. That doesn't even make any sense. why would he have to pay child support to the state????? He will have to pay it to you. The only way your bf is going to have to pay child support to ANYONE is if you take him to court and get a court order. I've been through this before. It's different in each state, but i'm positive that what your mom is saying is not true. The state didn't have his baby!! Thats the craziest thing i have ever heard of! Regardless of what your bf has to pay, you have to think about your baby, not him. He should be the least of your worries. Let him DEAL with what he's going to have to pay and not pay. You just need to make sure you get your child some medical insurance. Don't worry about what he's gotta pay, but i dont think he will have to. Good luck with your pregnancy!! -Christy
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This is really random but..
I always find a way to be attracted to the crazy characters in movies and I don't know why.. I find them attractive Lol
Why is this? Like, I like the fact that their not sane ;D (link)
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It more than likely has something to do with your childhood. Your attracted to that for a reason. But theres nothing wrong with that, everyone is different. Think back to your childhood and whats happened through out your life, then you will probably answer your own question. Just as long as you don't get involved with an "insane" person you will be good, haha. -Christy
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i'll try to make this short: i'm going to school to become a medical assistant next month. i have a choice to either do the 9 month diploma program or the 2 yr. associate's degree program. my friend recently got her diploma and has a good job with a medical clinic. which program should i complete? my goal in life is to just work a couple years and then become a stay-at-home mom. i feel like 2 yrs is a long time and i'm not getting any younger. would i be able to get a decent job if i just went for the diploma? thanks to everyone in advance. (link)
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I didn't go to college, but my answer is, do what will BEST affect you and your future. If that is working harder to get the 2yr associates then do it! Do everything you can, you have a great opratunity so take advantage of that, i would. Working hard WILL pay off in the long run. Don't EVER take the easy way out. I'm not saying that's what your trying to do, but that's what i did. I also know that sometimes circumstances in our lives change the path we are trying to go down. Just do what is best for you. Your friend has a great job at a medical clinic off doing the 9 month diploma? But that doesn't mean the same will happen for you, you know? I suggest that you take the time to really think this over before you jump into it. You don't want to make the wrong choice and it affect the rest of your career. Good luck with your future!!! -Christy
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what shall i do my problems has been increasing dy by day i loved a person and another person loves me and i couldn't tell him because he is very sensitive and now my brother law and my cousins are threatening me that ill tell everything and close the issue and i love my dad a lot, i went on tour for one day he has mat exam and we did nothing like that, i stayed completely in my sisters home itself we went by train sleeper coach and came by train where hundreds can see us. and i promise on my dad i have just started my carrier and i wanna become IAS if my issue comes to my dads notice everything gets spoiled my carrier and my life too what shall i did i cant tell my pain to anybody i'm dying daily thats why i wanna die completely. and there is no one to help me out. if you can help me .by your suggestions. (link)
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OKAY, First of all. You need to speak english and actually tell us WHAT you are asking! You ran EVERYTHING together so i don't even know what your asking!!!!
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Okay here's the deal. I've been good friends with someone for a long while. Let's call this friend "Mr Red". We're fairly close and have been through quite a bit together. our friendship is still strong and tight, and we've got a lot in common, and many mutual friends.
A few months ago, I met someone, let's call her "Miss Blue", whom I am not involved with in a serious relationship. The circumstances of meeting her will be a little odd, so bear with me.
I first heard of her when Red was ranting about something she did. Apparently, Mr Red seriously dislikes her and wants nothing to do with Miss Blue. This is not new, and in fact.. the rest of the clique dislikes her as well. I've always been the person who really doesn't like to follow along with crowd decisions of that type.. since I used to be ostracized in grade school often. I remember what it feels like, so I try to give everyone a chance
When I actually met Miss Blue, it developed into an attraction, and now we're involved. Obviously, this has caused some rifts
To be clear, Miss Blue has never asked me to choose between her or them. None of the group including Mr Red has ever pressured me about my relationship with her. They accept it, and respect it, but most do not approve of it.
The biggest problem is that I am unable to include my significant other in my activities with them in most cases, since Mr Red is often around. Mr Red usually just refuses to hang out with me if she's already there, and leaves quickly if she shows up later.
Miss Blue is both hurt and upset by this behavior, and rightfully feels ostracized and left out. She feels very guilty that I need to take time out for her and away from Mr Red and the group. If I'm not caught up in something important, like just hanging out with the group, I often go see her.. which she feels guilty about me having to do.
She wants to be included, but also feels bad that I have to separate my time with her and them.
As for her and Red... she has tried multiple times to work things out with him, but he is simply stone faced about it. He's said in response every time that he doesn't believe her apologies and doesn't want to hear it. He wants her to leave him alone.
They have never been romantically involved.
My question is about how best to handle my place in this. Even with careful separation of my time between the two, she still feels terrible, and I feel like maybe I should be doing something more. (link)
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WOW, thats a crazy situation. First you need to ask yourself, is this girl your seeing (ms. blue) really important to you? Can you see you two really having a great relationship for a long time? If so, then you should talk to (Red) and let him know how important your girl is to you and if he is your friend he will try to get along with her and be "civil" when she is around and not make her feel uncomfortable. If this girl is that important to you then yes, you should be doing something about this. It also sounds like (Red) may be jealous that your girl is taking up time that he could be hanging out with you, but either way if red is your true friend and you let him know how important it is that you all hang out and feel comfortable around each other, then things should change. It all boils down to IF this girl is important enough for you to go through the trouble of trying to solve this issue. If she is, and RED knows this, then he will change his attitude if he's your real friend. Goodluck to you! -Christy
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14/f
Earlier in the month I started to have my period, but it stopped/slowed down sooner than normal. Soon after I discovered that I could only pee a little at a time, after the small amount it hurt slightly but I felt like I really had to go. I'm going to tell my parents of course, but does anyone know what it might be? Thank you (link)
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It sounds like a kidney or urinary tract infection. I'm 28 years old and i've had plenty of those so start drinking lots of water, cranberry juice helps too. But you will need to go to the doctor to be put on some antibiotics. As for your period, i'm not really sure if having an infection can affect that at all. My advice is just tell your parents to take you to the doctor. I hope you feel better. -Christy
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So there is this guy that I recently met, and we have been talking a lot. I mean everyday for hours. I am really interested in him, we get along great and have a lot of similarities which makes me like him more than I could have imagined. And it SEEMS as if he is into me too but he says that he isn't looking for anything. I honestly respect that, but I also wish something would happen between us. So my biggest thing is should I just let it be, or should I try to spend more time with him and see if things go anywhere? As of right now we have plans to hang out a few times with friends, but where should I go from there? (link)
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I learned from a guy that said the same exact thing to me. DO NOT get close to him in THAT way if he's not looking for anything. Because if you get close, something happens and you fall for him, then you only have yourself to blame because he said he wasn't looking for anything. If it's possible for you to just remain friends with him then by all means do so, but if it's not then walk away before you get hurt. Thats the best advice i know how to give. However if he ever does seem to change his mind about "looking for something" then thats the time to make your move! But DO NOT , I repeat DO NOT get close to him in that way. If your one of girls that can hang out with a guy with out getting close then hang out, but if your like me, you wear your heart on your sleeve then it's not a good idea. Good luck to you! -Christy
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I love my husband to death but we have not been getting along i know that i can be picky sometimes but what woman is not. So my husband made a promise to me that he would not smoke anymore so when he asked yesterday i immediatly said no and of course he got mad. So today he tells me he has been thinking alot and since we have gotten together i have tried to change everything about him and pretty much hes the one that tries to make me happy but i dont do it in return! so my question is what should i do about this?????? I told him from the beginning what i was looking for and now hes mad!I really just feel like this relationship is sinking and sinking fast.
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okay. I'm married too. You have to give some and take some. If he made a promise, then he should keep it! But IF he doesn't keep his promise to not smoke, it's not the end of the world. Just make sure you let him know that you understand how hard it is to stop smoking. Or heres another idea... compromise with him. Try to see if he will come to an agreement on how much he smokes and how often. Men do not like to be told what to do! And marriage is all about compromising anyway so try that. That way he is happy too because he doesn't feel like your trying to "change" him. If he said you dont try to make him happy then prove him wrong by telling him you want to compromise. If he doesn't want to compromise then he's just selfish! I've learned from my marriage that things are not always what you thought they were in the beginning unfortunately. But just try to let him be him, but also respect your wishes and keep his promises. I hope that works for you Christy
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Ok so,I'll be going to middle school soon and there's a boy there that dated in elementry school.I was in 4th grade and he was in 5th.At the end of the shool year last year I gave him my number but he never call.I was wondering how I should act when I see him?Should I ignore him,be angry at him,or just act like nothing's happened?Please tell me what I should do!!!
P.S. I'm a girl (link)
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act like nothing happened.... but dont go up to him and start talking. let him come talk to you. But if he comes to talk to you, dont be all mad. Just act like it never happened. It's a new school year so just start over :)
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My mom gets really angry really easily. I'm her only daughter and i'm 16 and she treats me like i'm disposable.
Like today she found out that I missed school because the power went out and screwed up my alarm clock last night.
I told her what happened and she refused to believe me and made up all sorts of crazy delusions in her head about what she thinks really happened. She started screaming and cussing me out and telling me that she's going to call social services and have them come take me away because she hates me so much and that she thinks i'm a complete failure.
Every time anything go's the least bit wrong she go's nuts. She makes up scenarios in her head that never actually happened and lets them build her anger up.
Every single day she explodes about something and always takes it out on me.
She thinks she's the perfect parent though and whenever shes around anybody else she acts positively angelic.
I'm always being accused of something and I never get a say in the matter. If I try to explain myself she slaps me and tells me to shut up.
Yet she'll go on an on about how I abuse her trust and how she's the perfect parent and that I don't deserve her.
I really think she hates me.
She always insults me and belittles everything I do. Nothing is ever good enough for her and every day I come home from school to a pissed off mother who stresses me out the point i've thought about calling DCF.
She's even gotten angry to the point she pushed me down the stairs and hit me with a pan.
I'm in all honors classes with A's and B's and i've never been to the discipline office for anything.
I don't know why she thinks i'm such a horrible monster but she does and it drives me crazy.
What can I do about her?
I can't live with my dad because he lives in a really tiny 1 bedroom apartment with 13 cats and a 12 hour job. He barely has enough money for himself and his pets so he wouldn't be able to take care of me.
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I answered your question before, but i wanted to add something. My Father was physically and emotionally abusive to me for years. I always thought it was my fault. My mother was the same way, except she didn't hit me. It wasn't my fault and it's not your fault either. That's not what i was trying to say in my first answer. I am now a Mother of four and i have NEVER hit or abused any of my children in ANY way! I do not even "spank" them as a form of discipline. Anyway, i now understand how hard it is to be a "mom" and i've been a "single mom" before too. It's very hard and it takes a tow on you emotionally and physically. It's something that a 16 year old just would not understand because i didnt when i was your age and going through the same thing. I suffer from depression and i'm bipolar, but i have never abused my children. I just want you to understand more than anything that your Mother loves you, she doesn't hate you! It feels like she hates you because of how she treats you, but let me tell you. She secretly feels like crap for treating you that way and she will regret it for the rest of her life. My Mother does. Its hard to have any control over anything when your a teenager, but i think talking to a close friend or close family member would indeed be a good idea. I'm not real sure about anyone at the school. I think you should even tell your Dad whats going on. Even if he can't take care of you right now. He might FIND a way if he knows what is going on! I just didn't want you to think i meant it was something you were doing wrong because i wasn't trying to say that. I re read what i wrote and it didnt really come out the way i planned for it to. If your religious try to pray, prayer is powerful. Pray for God to give your Mother the patience she needs. And pray that God will give you the strength to get through this. Although this is NOT something you should be going through. No one should go through anything like that. Your Mother is the person that's supposed to keep you safe, not harm you. I agree that you could end up in a place worse than where your at if you contact child services. Please try to stay strong and dont EVER let someone make you feel worthless or a monster! I know what your going through. I've been on both sides. I know what its like to be abused, and i also know all the stress that comes with raising kids, but i've never harmed my children. So, i guess it's all in making the right or wrong choice. And your Mom is making alot of wrong ones. I hope you can eventually find a way to get out of this situation your in. And when you do, please don't let this affect your self confidence. It did mine. Your a strong person. Show her how strong you are... emotionally. Good luck with everything. -Christy
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