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is it really just another crush?
Okay, so i've liked this guy for like legit 3 years. I'm a freshman in high school and he's a sophomore. He's mad popular and really good at sports. He's known that i've liked him ever since he's been in 8th grade and i've been in 7th grade. I like him a lot, and i want him more than anything. And i really wanna get to know this kid, but i'm afraid to say hey to him, or even smile at him. He looks at me constantly, and so do his friends. Sometimes he can't even look away from me, and he gives me mixed signals and looks. What do i do, do i say hi? or no? I'm friends with him on Facebook and whenever he's online i always stare at the screen waiting for him to chat or message me, but he never does. I don't wanna waste my time on him for the rest of my life, i think i may be falling in love with this kid, and i don't even know him. And i see him everywhere. I'm like obsessed, and i don't know why. God gives me tons of signals everyday, but i just am too scared. Is he waiting for me to say hey, or talk to him first? Why would he be waiting for me? he seems like the kind of guy that would never like me, but everyone knows that i like him, even his brother gives me looks. All the girls think he's like mad cute and hot, and he is, but then again other people say he's a tool and such. I just don't wanna believe them. Please help.
sincerely,
a girl who needs answers.
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Typical teenage thing. He definitely likes you but perhaps has put you on a pedestal and doesn't want to totally alienate you by saying something dorky. Just walk up to him one day and say, "so you like what you've been staring at all this time?" That should break the ice. And then tease him about not talking to you. If he doesn't get the hint then he is uber dense. Touch him a lot, playfully push him, smile a lot, etc.
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Well. That's quite a pickle you're caught in. Let me just say firstly that you shouldn't believe ANYTHING that anyone else tells you. If they say he's a tool, if they say he's not a tool; don't you think YOU should be the judge on that? Even if you really don't know him that well.. what if these people are lying? Secondly, I personally don't think it would be a bad idea to say "hi" to him. You might be surprised. If he ignores you, you shouldn't take it personally; he might just be preoccupied. In my opinion, I'd first smile at him in school or something. THEN I'd say hi to him on Facebook the day after. I know you really really like him and you want him to talk to you NOW NOW NOW, but you don't want to smile AND say hi in the same day, he might be a little weirded out. I'm not saying it's bad idea to do that, you can if you want to; I just wouldn't. If he looks at you a lot... trust me, it's not just because you're looking at him. If he's looking at you, he's looking for a REASON. I'm not sure as to quite what that reason may be, but it's a reason, and it's a good enough reason to get him staring at you. If he had no interest whatsoever, then why would he look at you? Why? Because you like him? No. Just no. That's stupid. No. Listen to me. I've learned from personal experience that if a guy (or girl) looks at you "longingly" then there's something on their mind that's about you. It may be good, it may be bad. But you'll never find out what he's thinking if you don't send two little letters to him on Facebook, now will you? You've liked him for "legit 3 years", correct? And what now? Are you going to like him for another "legit 3 years?" What good is that going to do? Haha. There are so many days I REGRET not talking to people I've liked in the past, and TRUST ME. I can't talk to people I like. But I surprisingly did.. a couple of months ago. At first, he didn't respond. I got scared that he didn't want to talk to me. Then I said it again, and he said sorry, but he was on his phone and he didn't get the first message. So even if he DOES ignore you on the first try, like I said, don't take it personally.. I'm glad I didn't. We've been talking for the past couple of months, and things are pretty good right now. Don't you want that to happen to you? Don't you wanna talk to your one and only love? Do it, you wont regret it.
I hope this helps :) And inbox me if you need help with anything else!! :)
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Okay I say just say hey to him or smile at him when he looks at you. And if your to scared to do that then you be the one to messege or chat him on fb. I,ve done it before with I guy I didn't really talk to in school and one day I chated with him and we got to know each other. So do either, just talk to him get to know him. Hope this helps! :)
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I had a similar crush in school and i did the SAME thing your doing. Always looking at him, i even wrote him a 4 page letter, put it in his locker, but didnt put my name on it. He never knew it was me, but to THIS DAY i regret not talking to him and putting myself out there, because i will never know what COULD'VE happened because of that. So, as scared as you are, just DO IT! Talk to him, message him on facebook. Whatever you want to do. Take a chance sweetie and do it. If you don't, you will regret it, like me. -Christy
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stop screwing around and talk to him. trust me, an answer either way is better than never knowing.
good luck
-Gunner
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