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being dumped without a phone call or explanation
How do I get over being dumped without even an explanation or a phone call?
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Hi there,
I am sorry this happened to you. :-(
The sad fact is that you have to let time pass, and occupy yourself with other things. Time is the only way I know to safely get through this.
Talking to someone about this is a great idea. A therapist may be in order, since your friends are going to get tired of hearing about it pretty quick.
In my situation, I had a 6 page note full of phony explanations. Of course I didn't know they were phony for about 6 months... but when I found out she made it all up, I don't know why, but it made it feel even worse.
Here is one thing that might not help right this minute, but as time goes on you will appreciate it... My understanding is that mine waited 10 years to run off to the other side of the country and live with someone she met playing world of warcraft.
Had it not been for a series of drunken phone calls from her mother, I might never have figured it out.
If your situation was less than a 10 year relationship, then I am glad for you. If it was more, then I am incredibly sorry.
Please give it some time, and if you want to talk about it, I am here.
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First off, your question kinda gets you half way there.
Your now ex is a a-hole. Very much worth getting over.
There are alot off better quality people out there worth looking for.
The second part is to be proactive, like the other answers suggest.
My best!
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First, you have to write it off to your partner's cowardice and move on. When I break up with someone, I never make contact with them again and I get rid of anything they may have given me. That makes it easier to get on to the next stage of my life.
The hardest part of the process is the idea of being alone again. But a more constructive way to look at it is getting your freedom back and all your time being available to you as you see fit. So often times there is opportunity in a negative event. You may find someone better than your ex. So look forward to it.
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:[ im sorry. i know how you feel. with my last ex, i never got a phone call OR explanation or closure or anything and its going to take some time, but you will get over it.
you just need to occupy yourself and look for other fish in the sea, because there are PLENTY.
go out with your friends, have a good time, eat chocolate and ice cream, watch hilarious movies, have FUN. you dont need a relationship or the person who broke up with you.. trust me.
listen to music.. pump up music, not that sappy sad stuff.. but empowering music because you need to be lifted up not knocked down.
talk to other people.. delete your ex's phone number, pretty much just delete him off of everything including your life. do your best not to think about him, and if you have to.. act like you dont care and that youre fine because in due time, you will be. keep your head held high and a smile on your face, because if you trick yourself into think youre fine, you eventually will be and you wont have to trick yourself anymore :]
write about it, like write out your feelings. maybe even write your ex a letter telling him/her how you feel but dont send it, because you know that he/she doesnt deserve an ounce of your time or words.
vent to your friends, that also helps.
just know that youll be okay :] good luck, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.
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