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Well I am in this situation where I have been dumped by someone I love, someone I wanted to marry, someone I planned with etc just because I am christian and she is a moslem woman.
Well the dumping started last december, after about 1year and four months of good r/ship. It started the day I introduced her to my mum over the phone. Well this is what I think.
The dumping was implemented in January when I got back to our country of residence we are both from different countries.
Well what has shocked me more is that she started another r/ship barely one month after she broke up with me and with a guy who I had been suspecting. She spent about 10 days in this guys house while I was away because at that time there was a revolution taking place in the country and she went there for "refuge".
He is moslem, she said she had to move on and try to avoid the pain. She asked me if I wanted her to continue being in pain. That she needed to move on with someone who at least may have the chance of marrying her and she couldnt move on with a christian. Meanwhile I had only given her space to think things through. But new guy I guess couldnt wait and was actually lying in wait for our break up.
I am really hurt - no doubt, I complained at first but later she arranged a dinner and I was like ok cool, I am disappointed but more importantly you are my friend and I appreciate you the way you are.
Well she still contacts me from time to time on gmail chat. I talk back to her but I am not contacting her even though she told me I should.
My question is how can I get my girl back from these religious bigots...she I understand is afraid of her parents. I do know that the scenario is that her fears were exploited by this guy and his friens while I was away. I am not the kind of guy to tell my guy not to go here or there but truth be told I didnt like the guy because he told me the first time he met me in front of my ex that I was a lucky man...that was back in November.
Well right now, I really wish that my ex will one day come to her senses. Do you think this can ever happen? Is there any thing I can do?
Thank you,
Calistus. (link)
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hey,
i think that it is time for you to move on. If your ex wants to be with this other man, then let her go. if you continue having a relationship, both of you will be unhappy.
it is very understandable that your girlfriend highly values her tradition and if she doesnt see a future of you together because of religion, there is no choice but to respect her opinion.
but even if you are not in the relationship, you can still be friends. but it is understandable if you need your space from her first
since you're in the postbreak-up stage, try to relax, clear your mind and begin to love yourself again before committing to another relationship.
i hope this helps :)
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well there is a couple of people at my school and were all feeling odd. like iv been paranoid and really jumpy with the sense that something big and devastating is going to happen and that something is wrong... now i have no idea what it is and what caused this theres no certain event that should have caused this. also another friend has been getting depressed lately bout a girl close to me that hes crushing over and he has a bad feeling about that but he cant explain it. yet another friend has the same somethings off feeling as me and all these people had it before i talked to them about it so its not mass hysteria. also other people invovled have been weirded out and i still didnt mention anything to them about my feelings so if you could help me find a good explanation or some more insight on this it would be great and i also believe in the power of the universe and other stuff and i will listen to any religious explanation too no matter what it is.and any good psychological websites and sources will also help but it is just getting creepy at this point (link)
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hey,
the thing you must do now is to relax and clear your mind. and when you do, find the reason of your increasing anxiety. everything will eventually clear up.
hope this helps:)
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The title says it all i guess, it's a little embarrassing but i want to know, i've heard it's normal though. I'm 100% NOT addicted to it or anything and i hardly ever watch it but i like to masterbate to it, is that bad? thank you for the answers (link)
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hey,
it is pretty normal for teenage people to watch porn. and since you said you're not addicted, you seem to be on the right track. dont worry too much.
hope this helps :)
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I am dealing with anarexia. Everyone says tell your school nurse....i go to a school with over 3,000 students in it. She doesnt like me either. I am new to the school and i am known for causeing drama so i am afraid that if i tell people about m problem they wont believe me. So now i am on the erge of begging...please sombody tell me how to tell an adult but not my mother or a teacher rather a principal just please tell me how too....thank you (link)
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hey,
honey, i'd give you one piece of advice. you must not deal with anorexia alone. the best advice, really, is to tell a family member because these people are the ones who live with you. and you guys will have to put up with each other no matter what. since we are in a modern genaration, you can also try going to websites with anorexia survivors and stuff like that so that you can have someone to talk to for a while. however, that choice is not 100 % accurate and somewhat not really advisable.
i hope this helps :)
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I have been suicidal since I was 13yrs and now i'm 30 and still suicidal. my mom got married and went to live with her husband and they had kids.i was left under the care of my gran and aunts who pretended to love me.i'm now working and have been diagnosed with endometriosis. i wanted to have a family but seemingly i cant find the right guy and my family doesnt give a damn about me and i cant even have children.i'm so tired of being hopeful and trying new relationships and its always the same results,those ppl eventually leave me. i've read all the selfhelp books one can think of and the bible, asked Gid for help but things always go wrong for me.i'm not happy at work,i cant study anymore. i feel like ending it all right now.i've hopeful and optimistic for a long time now, so i need a quick amd easy way to kill myself and make the death look so natural, so that my insurances can payout. (link)
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hello,
you mentioned earlier that you started being suicidal at age 13, and now you are at age 30. and that fact simply states that you endured 17 years of being depressed, you moved on 17 years searching for new hope.i think that you are one of the strongest people i have ever heard of. as a child, i also came from a family like yours. i grew up with my grandparents.but i know that my family loves me, and i know your family loves you too. everytime you feel down and you feel like you're about to crumble think about all the people that you have left an impact on. and always remember that you are loved. maybe you dont know it but you are. hope only disappears when you stop looking for it. you have a long , happy life ahead of you. dont end it now.
hope this helps :)
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I've realized that I sometimes am attracted to females. Like, I watch lesbian porn sometimes and I have a lot of gay friends. I know neither of those things "make you gay", but lately I've started having feelings for a friend of mine who is female. I'm not quite sure if I just want to hook up with her or if I truly have emotional feelings. What do I do? Is there even anything I should do? (Oh by the way, this friend is a pansexual.) (link)
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hey :)
i had this experience back in highschool that i had feelings with another girl. I was both physically and emotionally attracted to her. However, i realized that i didn't really see a future of us together and i realized that i could do the same physical things i do with her with guys. This might be the same results for you but maybe not. If you want to know if you are bi,evaluate yourself. are you more sexually attracted to males or females? for now, just get to know yourself better before doing anything and before commiting to anyone.
hope this helps :)
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